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Geology... that's forbidden. Ever see a geological formation in something other than rocks and minerals that you can't point out for fear of being a nerd? This is the place for it. Forbidden Geology is for photos of things that aren't geological but look like they are or may be a result of geological processes.
2023.05.29 00:12 Environmental-Ad3213 Abusive Ex-boyfriend
Oh boy, Trigger warning for this post: mentions of self harm, suicide attempts, verbal and psychological abuse, toxic relationships, past sexual assault etc. Please be careful.
This takes place in Czech Republic
So back in 2021 I got into an online relationship with heavily abusive guy. The abuse included (but wasn't limited to): intentional sleep deprivation, name calling, monitoring my every move, forcing me to do sexual stuff, forcing me to cut off my friends, sharing my personal info with him against my will etc. It got to the point where I tried to commit suicide at the end of 2021. I broke up with him and he stalked me online for a while.
Just today I got a message from a girl he abused after me. I found out he shared my personal info with people (including my adress), he also lied about his age (he told me he was 20) and is apparently 14 (im 20 now, yikes). He also shares nudes around of people that send them to him. I have no idea if we are the only ones he did this to...
I have his mom's and his sister's Facebook thanks to the girl I met.
Is there anything I can do to stop him from doing this again? I know it's difficult because he is underage, but I hope something can be done from legal stand point, because I don't want anyone else experiencing what I have.
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2023.05.29 00:12 NightNo3988 [for hire] I’ll help you with mundane tasks for $5 an hour
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2023.05.29 00:12 xiaokii how am i supposed to act around relationships???
I'm in my last year of high school, and one of my best friends is a guy (I'm a girl). A year ago, he started dating someone, and ever since then, I've been avoiding him because I don't want to give off the wrong impression to his girlfriend. Me and her aren't close, barely even friends, and I know that I can come off as "flirty" because I'm a naturally affectionate person. I have a very hard time distinguishing where the line crosses from platonic into romantic, so people often assume that I have feelings for my male friends because I act with them just like I would with any of my female friends (heteronormative society and all that).
I really don't want to give her the impression that I'm after him, because I know how horrible that would make her feel -- but now, I don't know how to act around him. We were super close, and I don't know how to act like I'm just a casual friend with him when he knows basically everything about me. I really don't want to come off as the "girl best friend (derogatory)". I don't know what's acceptable to talk about and what's not, and when I interact with the two of them together, I often try to escape the conversation as fast as possible because there's just too much I don't understand. For example: when talking to the both of them, who do I look at? The person who's talking, or the person I know? If I'm talking about something that only concerns my friend, do I have to also pull her into the conversation? Is it rude if I don't talk to her as much, since I don't know her?
I've taken to simply trying my best to avoid them, and even when me and him talk by ourselves, I keep it very surface level. My inability to understand these social expectations surrounding dating is so bad that I can't even mask it, so I genuinely don't see any other option. I don't want to even try and mask, either -- one of the reasons he's such a precious person to me is because I can be myself around him, and if I were to take that away from myself, then what's the point? I'd just be giving him a fake version of me that amounts to nothing, and that's basically the same as avoiding him.
But man, I miss him so much. Like, sometimes I genuinely feel my heart ache with it, as stupid as it sounds. He was someone I treasured (and still treasure) so incredibly much, and I know it's my own fault that we're not as close as we were before, but I really don't know how to navigate this. He's obviously very happy in his relationship, and I would rather he be happy and content, even if it requires me to do all this. I don't want to cause him any issues. He honestly doesn't seem that troubled by the fact I'm distancing myself so much, so maybe this is a good decision on my part (it hurts a bit, I will admit, but I'm sucking it up). But damn, I hate doing this.
Do y'all experience this too?? How do you guys navigate the intricacies of romantic relationships?? I'm really curious to know, because this has been a lifelong issue. I experience this with female friends as well, btw: I don't know how to act around their boyfriends. It sucks and I really want to gain an understanding on what I'm supposed to do and not do in these situations.
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2023.05.29 00:12 UrbanFarmania What do I do Next?
I have this situation as you can see in the pictures on the west facing wall of my newly purchased townhome. It was built in 2005 and at some point, one of the owners decided to add a lot of vegetation and curate some vines/ivy that grew on this wall all the way up to the roof. I've removed the vines and now want to remove ALL vegetation adjacent to this wall to make way for gravel stones and pavers.
My question is:
Can I dig out the soil to remove the roots of these plants myself or is it worthwhile to get someone to come and do it? I'm happy to go at it myself I just don't want to damage anything along the foundation of the home.
I live in Durham, Ontario (Canada) and not sure how much the removal of the roots would/should cost me.
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2023.05.29 00:11 CaptainChristopher02 My Floridian Arxur Daughter (Part 15)
| Art by u/HaajaHenrik / Content Warning: Mentions of Pancakes between two consenting adults'. It's really nothing but I'll put it in case someone prefers a warning. Love you guys. / Memory Transcript Subject: Chalta Rodriguez, Adopted Arxur Youth Date [Standardized Human Time]: November 24, 2136 Finn is a good friend. We would walk around the park with our families, and he would tell me about all the fish in the ocean. “Okay so like- there’s this fish. It looks like it’s melted but it really isn’t because it lives in really deep water. And you know when like- you like- have someone hug you really tight you go squish!” fin said. “Yea! Mommy and daddy give the best hugs!” I thought of last night, when I showed all my weakness and was given a big warm hug from my family. “Well, what if you were always hugged so hard… that when everyone let go you’re body went mushy! Because those hugs were the thing that was- um, keeping your bones tight together! That’s what a blob fish is.” “If we went to water that deep, would we squish?” “Yup! It’s also really dark down there too! You wouldn’t be able to see your hand in front of your face!” I checked to see if I could already see my hand in front of my face. Yup, that would be dark. “Wow,” I said softly. “Hey Chalta, can I see your claws?” “Sure.” I gave Finn my hand and he started looking and playing with my claws. They weren’t very long, only about half the length of his fingers, but Fin didn’t mind. He gently rubbed them and pressed his finger against the pointy end. “They’re very shiny and pointy,” Finn said with an exited smile on his face. “Thank you! Mom helped me clean them this morning. They’re so pretty now. Hey Finn, can I see your claws now?” “They aren’t as nice as yours but sure.” I played with Finns claws. They were short like daddies. Cut really close to the end. I wonder why humans didn’t keep them long. How would a human hunt? I also noticed that his hands are also warm and very soft. Even softer than mommies! Arxur have much rougher skin to protect us. How did humans protect themselves? “Finn,” I asked. “How did humans hunt without claws?” “We threw rocks.” Throwing rocks, that was their weapon of choice? “Why rocks?” “We could throw hard and accurately so we could hunt from a safe distance, or if food was running too fast.” “How did you know that would work?” “Well… there’s a lot of rocks everywhere, and the deer over their looks like they could use one. I guess we threw one too hard one day and some cave man went ‘hey I got an idea’.” “What’s a deer?” “An animal we used to eat a lot. I think we still do.” “Are they tasty?” “I dunno, maybe.” “If you threw a rock at a deer, could I eat it later?” “Sure, I don’t need a rock.” “…” I like talking with him, he makes me feel happy. We kept walking until Finn stopped in front of a sign that said, The Kraken. “Oh cool, a roller coaster! Mommy can I ride it with Chalta!” “R-r-roller c-coaster?” I asked, remembering the screaming humans. I looked up and saw the deathtrap he was talking about. Why would I ride this? Why would anyone ride this?! But what if he thinks you’re weak? We tell him he’s stupid! But I wanna show him we’re brave, also that’s mean! Fine! Be my guest, but when you’re falling to your death it will be your fault. “S-sure they can’t be that bad r-right?” I said, knowing it can be that bad. “Chalta sweety, I don’t even go one those, and I know you don’t want to either!” Mommy said, remembering how I reacted earlier today. Finn’s mother overheard and realized why I wanted to suddenly go. “Listen to your mother, don’t try impressing Finn if you don’t want to.” Carlos and Salisek looked at each other. “Carlos no!” “What?” “You were going to go on that death trap!” “Finn, wanna ride with me?” Big brother was so brave! I wish I was brave enough to- Wait, if he can do it maybe I can too! “Okay Carlos!” Finn said, “You and me! Bros!” “Count us in too!” Daddy said with his arm around a proud looking Tarvik. Mommy realized she had lost her husband to the coaster crossed her arms in frustration, “Okay than, Chalta you can wait with us girls.” “A-actually mommy… can I go?” Mommy gave a big sigh. “Yes bebé, but if you’re feeling uncomfortable come back. Even if it’s a little bit m, okay?” “Yes mommy.” I walked with the boys up the very, very long line. Every time I thought we were close there was just more line! I looked at a photo of the ride we passed to see how high we were going and… oh. Oh, that’s high. I turned to Finn, “Um… is this safe?” “Yea! They strap you in real tight!” “Why are all the humans screaming?” “They’re screams of fun!” Daddy snickered. “Kinda reminds me of my honeymoon.” I didn’t know what a honeymoon was, but it sounded like a pretty scary roller coaster. Big brother’s eye’s shot wide open. “There are two kids here!” Honeymoon must be an adult secret. “What? We went to Disney! We got fast passes and where riding Space Mountain and Tron all day!” “That’s not what is sounded like!” Big brother is so silly. He makes me smile. Finn was laughing too. After what felt like days, Daddy said it was only 30 minutes, we finally made it to the end. Four seats per row. Me and Finn sat next to each other with Big brother and Tarvik next to us. Dad sat with some strangers in the back, but I wish he was next to me. I was really scared. After checking the uniformed humans checked the restraints, the ride was ready to start, and I could feel my heart beating faster than it ever has. Finn grabbed my hand. His grip helped me feel safer. “It’s okay Chalta, I used to be scared of these but now I’m not! You’re safe with me, I’ll protect you!” Finn said proudly and I wrapped my tail around his leg and tightened my hands grip. “Y-you better not let go!” It’s starting! Oh no! I want mommy! 3… 2… 1… The ride started… slowly? This isn’t so bad. Wow, we’re going high now. Really high. Wait how are we getting down. Oh, oh no. We’re dropping at speeds I didn’t know I could survive! Are we going upside down? Again! How are we moving like this? This… feels… AWESOME! It feels like I’m flying! I LOVE ROLLER COASTERS! ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________ When we got off the ride I was filled with a sense of relief after finally returning to the ground. Tarvik also looked relived and proud of himself. “Did you see that! I conquered the beast didn’t I. Ha, only humans could come up with something so dangerously fun!” The boys giggled with each other while Finn and I raced back to our Mommies resting spot so we can tell them how brave we are. A ran as fast as I could and gave mommy a big hug. “Mommy, mommy! Did you see me? I was so brave wasn’t I! It wasn’t so bad; I’m not scared anymore!” Mommy held me close and smiled. “Yes sweety, you were very brave! I’m so proud of you! You and Tarvik.” “Hey what’s that supposed to mean,” Tarvik said sounding a little angry. Big brother gave him a back pat. “Tarvik, I don’t think you realize that you’re probably the first Venlil to ever ride a rollercoaster. And you did it of your own free will. That’s almost unbelievable, yet here I am, standing in front of the living legend!” We all giggled, but now I was feeling hungry. “Mommy, daddy. Can we go eat something?” “Sure,” mommy said. “These lady’s drank most of the water and ate almost all the sandwiches anyways. And I know the boys want their fill.” Big sister looked embarrassed. “H-hey! It’s hot out here. My fur and size and all the walking aren’t helping either.” Speaking of water, I was getting thirsty. “Water sweety?” Mommy said before I could ask her myself. “How did you know I was thirsty?” “My mother senses where tingling.” I took a sip of the water and noticed my legs were aching. We were close to a restaurant with all sorts of fish to eat. So… close… can’t walk… Finn noticed my struggle. “Chalta are you okay? Do you need a break? Wait… are you hibernating?! It’s winter so I understand.” “What’s hyper mating?” “No silly, hibernating!” Finn said with a giggle. “Some animals do it when it gets cold. They sleep for a really long time.” “Oh, okay. No, I’m not hibernating. My legs are tired. I didn’t know humans could walk so much!” Finns’ mommy spoke up. “Darling, if you want, I could rent some strollers. We could also take a break.” I suddenly felt like I was about to trip over my own weight when Finn caught me. “Chalta if you can’t walk, I can carry you.” “You can do that?” Mommy looked worried. “I… I don’t think that’s such a good-” Finn didn’t hesitate when he picked me up like a princess and carried me to the restaurant. The whole family looked surprised. I was too, how was he able to pick me up? Was I that light? I could tell he was struggling a little bit, but he kept going, determined to make sure I enjoyed a nice meal. “Wow you’re really strong!” I said to Finn. “Thanks, it’s from helping mom with all the groceries!” “And those weights dad has that I keep telling you not to play with!” Finn’s mom said. “If you don’t want me to pick up the weights than why do they have a handle?” “Because you can hurt yourself!” My mom spoke up, “Why don’t you just lock up the equipment?” “I do! But somehow this little gremlin keeps getting past everything. Locked doors? No. Locked windows? No. Hide them? Always finds it! Punish him? He considers it a challenge. The closest I got was putting a piece of broccoli on all the equipment because he hates it. Wanna guess the day he started liking broccoli? It was the day he decided to force the stuff down his throat so he could use the weights. At this point I might as well hire a personal trainer, so he gets proper gym lessons and maybe just gets bored.” “You still love me though, right mommy?” “Of course! You little muscle baby!” Big brother gave Finn a head pat while he carried me. “You know Marleen, I know a thing or two about fitness. I could teach him some things if you’re okay with it.” “That would be wonderful. At lease he would have someone watching him and maybe learn not to hurt himself.” Finn was still carrying me, and I could feel the warmth from his body. It was wonderful! It reminded me almost of how daddy carried me on the day we first met, but this was different. Dad’s felt like a comfort, but Finn’s felt like… a protector? “Come on Chalta let’s go on an adventure!” Finn’s pace picked up and finally put me down once we got in line. I felt much better with some water and rest. Once we ordered and got our food we finally got to eat. I took one bite of the food called sushi. It had raw fish, with tons of vegetables that mom said should be fine in small amounts and pick off if I wanted. *munch* “Mmm, so good!” I said aloud trying to contain my excitement. After the sushi I had fish sticks. They were amazing, almost as good as chicken tendies! The French fries where good too, even if they were vegetables. I was fine at first, but then my stomach started telling me to stop eating plants for the day, so I had more fish sticks. “Aw, I ran out,” I said, disappointed that I couldn’t enjoy any more fish sticks. I gave my fries to the table to share, but Finn still had some fish sticks. Maybe I can ask? No that would be rude. He should enjoy fish sticks too! “Hey Chalta! Have the rest of my fish sticks, I know you need them more than me,” Finn said as he placed the tasty fish on my basket. *gasp* “Yay! I love you, Finn!” I said hugging him close while Dad spat out his drink. “You’re my best friend!” Daddy calmed down. “Oh, thank god!” Silly daddy. I love him too. ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________ I felt bad about leaving but it was getting late. I said goodbye to Finn with a nice hug. Our moms told us that we could talk to each other again anytime we wanted and could even set up play dates! I was so happy! The ride back home was smooth, and everyone headed to their rooms. Mommy pulled me aside and asked me if I wanted to sleep with her and Daddy since everyone needs a bed. Big brother came and gave me uppies. “She can stay with me and Salisek, we talked about it. Go and enjoy some alone time with dad.” “Thank you sweety.” Mom went up to her room while Big brother and sister took me to theirs. After we got ready, they laid me between them for the night. I nuzzled up against brother’s soft and warm arms, and sister’s fluffy body. It was so cozy, but before I drifted off, I asked Big brother to sing me a lullaby. Big sister gave an excited smile and wrapped us all around her tail. “I’ve never heard you sing! Please sing to us.” Brother giggled and sang in a soft, surprisingly beautiful voice, "The song is called Send Me a Peach," “I never dreamed that there'd come a day When I'd find myself far from your arms Now that I am, I can hardly stand Not to be near your sweet southern charms Send me a peach from ol' Georgia Down where the Savannah flows If I could have one bite of Georgia I would feel right here at home I miss the shady old lanes there Walkin' with you by my side Just send me one peach from Georgia Just so I know you'll be mine I hope that you won't forget me Before my road leads back to you Though the winter may bring the whole world to its knees The spring shall return with its fruit The wind here is ready for winter It seems to turn everything blue So just send me (Send me) send me one little peach Just a sweet, sunny piece of you” Big sister whispered, “I love you.” As we all dozed into a peaceful sleep. ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Memory Transcript Subject: Elena, School Teacher, Loving Wife and Mother Date [Standardized Human Time]: November 24, 2136 For the first time in almost a couple weeks I was finally alone with my husband. He was reading in bed when I did my little ‘routine’. I jumped in and peppered him with kisses while he giggled profusely. I missed that wonderful laugh. “My love,” my darling dearest said. “I know you’ve missed me, but our house is full. Are you sur-” I put my finger over his lips and got into the ‘paint me like one of your French girls’ position. I know he loves that. “I have been without your presence for far too long, never mind your touch. Your wife has needs. Your wife wants to feel you all around, and for you to feel her all around. Are you gonna keep her waiting any more… mi amor?” My husband sighed and pulled me right next to him. He gave me a wonderful, passionate kiss. “Okay my love, let’s just be quiet. We have guests AND a new daughter, okay?” I nodded excitedly. “I love you so much.” We looked into each other’s eyes for the first time in a while. With him leaving and the new baby alone time was sparce. But moments like these… they were priceless. 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2023.05.29 00:11 Throwaway_210804 I gave up on playing Standard until one month before rotation
Seriously, what's the point anymore? If I want to play ANY deck, I need to have like 3 neutral staples, and 4 class legendary deck defining cards, aside from 4 neutral and 4 class epics. Not to mention that all guaranteed epics and legendaries, aswell as rerolls from GOLDEN legendaries I got were none other than the warrior ones. It is easier to get legendaries now than it was in Naxx/GvG era, but it's still too expensive to craft a deck. Last deck I played was big mage before rotation, because it was actually playable without Varden legendary hero. Oh, and I was unlucky last year too, because, aside from Mage and Priest, I got BOTH Rokaras as F2P. I believe the best pick to craft legendaries are neutral staples, but then, how will I afford other deck defining class legendaries I need for my deck?
TL;DR all the generosity about legendary cards are too random to build any competitive deck, and requirements for competitive decks in terms of dust cost are just enormous.
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2023.05.29 00:11 IWantToGoBackInTime So how to navigate this
Ok so this might be a little bit random for a sub like this but I've gotten into a situation that I find really difficult to navigate. And I figured maybe someone here could relate my current story.
I've been pretty depressed for about 20 or so years. You could call it an underlying condition. Had T for four years but it was pretty mild. Habituated to the point that it was barely noticable and wasn't causing me much additional distress.
Been involved with a woman that I really appreciate for the past 1.5 years or so. But kept it as a non-serious, open thing. Beginning of this year things started spiraling down for me. My best friend of 13 years broke contact with me and has turned down every attempt of me wanting to talk about it. That was a huge blow. Made me more unstable. Then my "pseudo-relationship" also got under a lot more pressure. I knew from the beginning she ultimately wanted a real, committed relationship and so it happened that shortly after I got dumped by my best friend, she indicated that there was interest from other men and she might want to pursue that, if I wasn't going to step up and show commitment. This ultimately led me to break down in a spectacular manner. The night she told me she couldn't be more than just friends with me anymore, I theathened and tried to take my own life. The experience was very rough on her and possibly traumatized her.
It was a truly desperate moment, yet the aftermath (her saying she definitely couldn't be with me after I did a thing like that) led me to even more despair, anxiety and depression. In order to get a grip on this massively increased anxiety I felt forced to try new antidepressants, which by sheer, stupendously terrible luck caused my T to double in intensity. I quit them immediately but it hasn't backed down (over a month ago now). My T went from mild to moderate and it's really bothering me all the time now. I feel in trying to make one step forward, I ended up several steps back.
I am trying to mend things now with this person. While simultaneously feeling that if things between us hadn't gone so sour, my T wouldn't have spiked the way it did. I know, rationally, that I can't hold her responsible for the increase in my tinnitus, yet emotionally it feels so very unnecessary and, in retrospect, avoidable.
I'm wondering if anyone here has ever gone through anything similar. Where a situation between you and another person caused you so much distress that it caused a permanent spike, and how you deal in regards to grudges (valid or not) and negative feelings towards that situation. I'm really trying to look at the bright side here but I fear that perhaps this will become something that will come to stand between us, in one of my weaker moments.
What a fucking shitshow this had become. Sorry. I'm venting and looking for help. I don't know what to do.
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2023.05.29 00:11 FatLad_98 Common Aurorae
So I noticed when playing HFW that aurorae are visible most nights as far south as Las Vegas or Los Angeles. For aurorae to be so visible so far south there would have to be an extreme solar flare or coronal mass ejection. But since they are so common it points to a weakened magnetic field. If so then humanity would be in danger from solar and cosmic radiation
-Some datapoints in HZD (its been a long time, my bad if I'm misremembering) refer to the large scale use of nuclear and EMP munitions to slow down the swarm and disable Horuses. Could this have weakened the magnetic field?
-Could the Derangement have had an effect of the magnetic field? Maybe one of the subfunctions was trying to strengthen it but inadvertently weakened it
-Could it have been weakened by the Odyssey's antimatter drive and the vast amounts of energy it expels.
-Could Nemesis have weakened it from deep space somehow? That would be the most chilling of all.
-Lastly, maybe the Cauldrons power themselves using the thermal energy from within the Earth. This cools the mantle and core down just enough to slow the core's spin and weaken the magnetic field.
Anyone else have any theories on this? Am I looking too deeply into the world?
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2023.05.29 00:11 Plus_Adagio_5588 My Story
Hello guys ! I wish to share my story with you. I believe now it’s the right time to do it and I hope it will help you stay positive no matter what is thrown at you, keep moving forward. First of all, things are looking good now and I am on remission. It all started in September, 2021. That was when I discovered that one of my testicles was harder than another. Ultrasound was done immediately and sadly the news were worse than I would imagine. Not one, but both testicles would need to be removed. That was hard to take but somehow since it all started, I managed to stay positive and calm (this forum and your stories guys really are godsent). So, I was thinking to myself, “alright I am happily married, we have one beautiful boy, getting ride of my testes it’s not an end of the world. If this is what it takes to win this fight, let’s go! “First surgery was easy to take and there is nothing really to add to it. I was back home the same day. However, after my first surgery, me and my wife decided to try for another baby (I used sperm bank option, but to be honest we would never really used that anyway). Our hopes that she will get pregnant were really small. She was 40 at that time, me, with one cojones and very low sperm count, with few weeks until I will be ball-less..We really needed a miracle.
I recovered from my first surgery very swiftly, then after few weeks they removed my second testicle. Again, surgery was super easy. I was on my feet and out of the hospital the same day. I remember very well; my wife came to pick me up. And that was when she told me, that she was pregnant. I started crying. I just couldn’t believe.. So now there is no way I am not coming out of this! I am beating shit out of this cancer.
My biopsy results were, non-seminoma on the left, and seminoma on the right. I never really want to get too much into medical details of what kind of tumor I have. I was focused on getting through the day, on my family... I always wanted to keepy myself busy, so that stupid thoughts wont come to my head (of course there were days that I was really down..like really down) but I never really allowed, this negative to take over for too long, I was thinking “I have testicular cancer, one of the most treatable cancers, everything will be fine”. And that’s true. That’s a fact. Keep that fact in your head.
After both surgeries they told me that my tumor markers are still elevated so they decided the best treatment would be chemotherapy, BEP x3 (pretty standard procedure). First 2 rounds were pretty easy, the real shit started with round number 3. I mean, it was hard. I was vomiting in one room because of chemo drugs and my wife in another room with her hyperemesis. Anyway, chemo was working, markers were going down, however after the last round the markers were still not normalized so they added one more round. Taking 3 was hard, so 4..I wont lie if I say it was the hardest thing I ever done in my life. Chemotherapy did the job, my markers were normalized. Sadly, CT scan showed some enlarged lymph nodes on the back of my tummy. Decision – RPLND. Surgery was hard, but nothing compares to chemo. Recover took me a while, I think about 5-6 till I was back to my normal activities. Another CT scan and it turned out that the picture they took last time didn’t cover the area in my neck where I had one more enlarge lymph node. So, another surgery. At that point going into surgical table felt pretty normal. There was no fear or anxiety. I knew at some point this will come to an end and in my head, it was always happy end. So here I am guys, after my last oncology appointment I am officially clear and on remission. Next follow up appointment in 4 months. Please don’t stop to share your stories, because even though I don’t know any of you I felt really connected every time I read your comments. They helped me to stay strong and believe things will get better. And they are! Btw, our second child is a boy. We named him Matteo, which means “gift of God”. He will be one in month 😊
Please pm me if you have any questions I will be more then happy to answer.
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2023.05.29 00:11 anumoni ECFMG payment
When do I make the $925 payment to ECFMG ? I have requested my medical council for letter of good standing. Do I now make the payment to ECFMG or wait for ... something? Really lost at this point, fellow IMG looking for help. Thank you.
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2023.05.29 00:11 WithoutATrace_Blog Finding a new normal after years of diets, anorexia, and binge eating.
Little background 25f 5”6, size L or pants size 12.
Goal weight:195 Current weight 241
Since the end of 2018 I have been trying to lose weight as an anorexic and a binge eater. It’s not been easy.
Long story short, for a long time I did keto for pain and inflammation reduction and this helped a lot but wasn’t sustainable long term especially through the pandemic. And eventually my health improves enough where I no longer needed to do that diet and I stopped.
In September 2022 I was 9 pounds from my goal weight of 195lbs. In 2020 before the pandemic I was 10 pounds from my goal weight.
So in the past I could reach a lower weight but it was never sustainable or long term.
I even went through treatment to help my physical health issues on the past two years along with brain surgery to get me the healthiest possible. In October 22 I decided my gut health and immune health had gotten to the point where I felt safer to stop the strict diet I’d been on and trade it for a more sustainable lifestyle. And I did feel like I slipped a few times especially over the holidays and after the new year. (This is always the worst time for me for binge eating and depression.) I’ve finally recognized that and I’m seeing a dietitian soon to try to work through that. I’m hoping she can help me get to my goal and stay there for many years.
Fast Forward to last month. In April I saw a new Chiropractor and he weighed me. I did explain that I don’t usually like to know how much I weigh in that I usually only weigh myself a few times a year. And he understood and respect that, but after I got off the scale, he forgot to readjust it.. and I had mentioned the weight was a significant increase than what it had been in September. it was pretty frustrating just because I had been so close to my goal before and because my doctors have been telling me they hadn’t thought I was eating enough during this time and I thought I was eating too little because I was up having sleep issues. It went against my better nature to eat as much as they were suggesting, but I was desperate for better sleep. I have since realized I was actually eating too late in the day and it was affecting my sleep and it has been better since, and I also learned to trust my body a lot more.
Since then I’ve been trying to get back on track. Making sure I’m eating enough protein, and not relying too much on fat and carbs which I typically gravitate towards when binging. Getting in veggies and water as much as possible etc. and, trying to workout at least 10-15 minutes a few times a week.
Because of my gut issues I already avoid excess sugar and carbs to some extent.
After a month I felt good and tried not too but caved and weighed myself. And unfortunately it looked like I only lost a pound, maybe one and a half pounds. that was hard to accept. But I’m trying to view it as a success rather than a failure.
In the past I’d loose too much then gain that plus some back. so steady loss is positive despite it being a small amount. In the last two weeks I started doing some really fun mood boosting HIIT workouts at home and have enjoyed them. I’m hoping it can also help me make it to my goal and stay there.
I’m not very confident at this size though. and I find it difficult to go out or do normal activities without anxiety because of it. So I hope I can start to lose a little more weight soon. My goal is about a half pound to a pound a week. If I could lose 3-5 pounds a month that would be more comfortable for me I think.
But, I still think a one pound weight loss is still worth celebrating. I also recently started working with a dietitian and she’s helping me combat my gut issues.
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2023.05.29 00:11 adocdt Home Equity Loan For Unsecured Debt....
I've asked this before in personalfinance, but I've never gotten any actual advice. Just downvotes and a couple posts saying, "never use collateral on your house for unsecured debt"...."get a second job"...."get a better job"....etc.
Long story short, I have about 24k in credit card. 98% of it from about two years ago.
I've always had spending issues in the past, never this severe.
Basically after this happened I realized I had an issue, and at 34 was diagnosed with adhd and bipolar disorder. Almost all of that debt came through a couple of the worst manic periods I had ever had.
For the last TWO YEARS, I have been on medication and receiving therapy. I have not had an episode, and I have not gone on spending sprees, I have kept everything under control for TWO YEARS now.
But I'm fucking suffering. I make decent money for where I live. I've been at my job for a decade. I've owned my home for six years.
The personalfinance sub just seems completely out of touch with the reality of people in my income level and position, so maybe I can get some real advice here.
I gross just over $60k per year. With OT I can make between $65-70k.
I don't think I'll lose my job anytime soon. You just have to trust me on this. I don't see it being outsources or automated before I retire. My grandfather worked here, my father worked here, I work here. They are a well known brand and one of their biggest selling points besides quality is being American made.
After taxes, 401k, and insurance, I net $3200 a month if I work NO OT.
My mortgage is $675 a month, plus a $385 escrow payment.
Gas, electric, water, internet, and phone come to $520 a month.
Car insurance is $85 a month. No car payments.
The problem is my credit car payments come to $887 a month.
So I am only left with $648 a month for food, gas, cat food/supplies, clothes, any "extras"....which means I am barely skimping by and have no savings anymore (minus what I put in my 401k which is WAY less than it should be right now).
I only owe $147k on my mortgage. My home is valued at $355k (that's on the low end).
My mortgage is with my local credit union, and even with my debt and low credit score, I think I'd have no problem getting a $25k fixed equity loan with them based on my LTV.
Their fixed equity loans are at 6%.
So I could pay off my debt and shrink my monthly payments from $887 to $278.
That's a huge help. That's an extra $609 a month freed up.
Right now, it's impossible for me to get out of debt. I'm basically only paying the interest on these cards with only a few bucks going to the principle.
At this rate, I'm still going to owe a majority of the balance on them 10 years from now.
I know one of the biggest issues with doing something like this is racking up new debt on the cards.
But it's been two years now with the issues I've had being taken care of/fixed.
At the end of the day, the home equity loan seems like the best solution to me.
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2023.05.29 00:11 handlit33 [Post Series Thread] The Rockies (24-30) take two of three from the Mets (27-27) at home.
5/26/2023
Final Score: Mets 5, Rockies 2
| 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | R | H | E | LOB |
NYM | 2 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 2 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 1 | 5 | 7 | 0 | 9 |
COL | 0 | 1 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 1 | 0 | 2 | 8 | 2 | 7 |
Box Score
COL | IP | H | R | ER | BB | SO | P-S | ERA |
Seabold | 4.2 | 4 | 4 | 3 | 2 | 2 | 90-52 | 5.94 |
Carasiti | 2.1 | 2 | 0 | 0 | 1 | 2 | 32-21 | 12.46 |
Bird | 1.0 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 7-6 | 2.41 |
Hand | 1.0 | 1 | 1 | 1 | 0 | 0 | 21-13 | 3.38 |
Scoring Plays
Highlights
Description | Length | Video |
Bullpen availability for Colorado, May 26 vs Mets | 0:07 | Video |
Bullpen availability for New York, May 26 vs Rockies | 0:07 | Video |
Fielding alignment for Colorado, May 26 vs Mets | 0:11 | Video |
Fielding alignment for New York, May 26 vs Rockies | 0:11 | Video |
Starting lineups for Mets at Rockies - May 26, 2023 | 0:09 | Video |
Measuring the stats on Francisco Lindor's home run | 0:10 | Video |
Francisco Lindor's home run through bat tracking data | 0:09 | Video |
The distance behind Ryan McMahon's home run | 0:09 | Video |
A deep dive into Ryan McMahon's home run | 0:09 | Video |
Breaking down Connor Seabold's pitches | 0:08 | Video |
Analyzing Charlie Blackmon's home run through bat tracking | 0:09 | Video |
Max Scherzer's outing against the Rockies | 0:25 | Video |
Breaking down Max Scherzer's pitches | 0:08 | Video |
Measuring the stats on Charlie Blackmon's home run | 0:09 | Video |
Francisco Lindor belts a two-run home run to center | 0:25 | Video |
Ryan McMahon crushes a solo home run to center field | 0:22 | Video |
Pete Alonso makes a diving stop at first | 0:24 | Video |
Elías Díaz nabs Starling Marte at first | 0:28 | Video |
Francisco Lindor knocks an RBI single to center field | 0:13 | Video |
Brett Baty laces an RBI single to left field | 0:17 | Video |
Connor Seabold strikes out Pete Alonso in the 3rd | 0:07 | Video |
Matt Carasiti strikes out Tommy Pham in the 6th | 0:07 | Video |
Blackmon crushes a solo home run to right-center | 0:25 | Video |
Francisco Lindor lifts a sacrifice fly to left field | 0:25 | Video |
Profar hangs on to the ball, makes an awesome catch | 0:15 | Video |
Mike Moustakas strikes out swinging. | 0:08 | Video |
Decisions
Winning Pitcher | Losing Pitcher | Save |
Scherzer (4-2, 3.54 ERA) | Seabold (1-2, 5.94 ERA) | Ottavino (5 SV, 4.58 ERA) |
5/27/2023
Final Score: Mets 7, Rockies 10
| 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | R | H | E | LOB |
NYM | 0 | 0 | 0 | 1 | 0 | 5 | 1 | 0 | 0 | 7 | 12 | 0 | 7 |
COL | 0 | 5 | 1 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 2 | 2 | | 10 | 14 | 1 | 6 |
Box Score
COL | IP | H | R | ER | BB | SO | P-S | ERA |
Anderson | 5.0 | 4 | 1 | 1 | 1 | 4 | 86-52 | 1.31 |
Suter | 0.2 | 4 | 4 | 4 | 0 | 0 | 22-13 | 1.99 |
Bird | 1.0 | 3 | 2 | 2 | 1 | 2 | 29-17 | 2.86 |
Lawrence | 1.1 | 1 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 2 | 14-12 | 2.22 |
Johnson | 1.0 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 6-5 | 6.23 |
NYM | IP | H | R | ER | BB | SO | P-S | ERA |
Verlander | 5.0 | 9 | 6 | 6 | 1 | 2 | 79-52 | 4.80 |
Leone | 1.0 | 1 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 19-12 | 5.40 |
Brigham | 1.0 | 2 | 2 | 2 | 0 | 2 | 29-18 | 3.63 |
Smith, Dr | 1.0 | 2 | 2 | 2 | 1 | 0 | 28-16 | 3.93 |
Scoring Plays
Highlights
Description | Length | Video |
Bullpen availability for Colorado, May 27 vs Mets | 0:07 | Video |
Bullpen availability for New York, May 27 vs Rockies | 0:07 | Video |
Fielding alignment for Colorado, May 27 vs Mets | 0:11 | Video |
Fielding alignment for New York, May 27 vs Rockies | 0:11 | Video |
Starting lineups for Mets at Rockies - May 27, 2023 | 0:09 | Video |
Measuring the stats on Pete Alonso's home run | 0:14 | Video |
A deep dive into Pete Alonso's home run | 0:09 | Video |
Breaking down Chase Anderson's pitches | 0:08 | Video |
Chase Anderson's outing against the Mets | 0:22 | Video |
Francisco Alvarez's home run through bat tracking data | 0:09 | Video |
The distance behind Francisco Alvarez's home run | 0:11 | Video |
Breaking down Justin Verlander's pitches | 0:08 | Video |
Justin Verlander's outing against the Rockies | 0:22 | Video |
Measuring the stats on Ryan McMahon's home run | 0:10 | Video |
A deep dive into Ryan McMahon's home run | 0:09 | Video |
Nolan Jones puts the Rockies ahead early | 0:17 | Video |
Alan Trejo drives in a run with a double | 0:20 | Video |
Charlie Blackmon drives in a pair with a double | 0:21 | Video |
Jurickson Profar makes it a five-run inning for Rox | 0:20 | Video |
Rockies get Alvarez at third base on replay | 0:29 | Video |
Nolan Jones picks up his second RBI of the night | 0:21 | Video |
Pete Alonso gets the Mets on the board with HR No. 20 | 0:21 | Video |
The Rockies put up a big 2nd inning on offense | 1:31 | Video |
Harold Castro takes extra bases from Lindor | 0:12 | Video |
Brett Baty brings home a run with a gapper | 0:24 | Video |
Starling Marte trades an out for a run | 0:16 | Video |
Francisco Alvarez lifts a mammoth game-tying home run | 0:29 | Video |
Justin Verlander strikes out Ryan McMahon | 0:20 | Video |
Starling Marte rips an RBI single through the infield | 0:18 | Video |
Francisco Alvarez's game-tying home run | 0:29 | Video |
Ryan McMahon jolts a mammoth go-ahead two-run homer | 0:27 | Video |
Pete Alonso rocks a solo home run | 0:29 | Video |
Jurickson Profar adds an insurance run in the 8th | 0:27 | Video |
Elias Diaz gives the Rockies a three-run lead | 0:17 | Video |
Brett Baty flies out to left fielder Jurickson Profar. | 0:11 | Video |
Decisions
Winning Pitcher | Losing Pitcher | Save |
Lawrence (2-2, 2.22 ERA) | Brigham (0-1, 3.63 ERA) | Johnson (11 SV, 6.23 ERA) |
5/28/2023
Final Score: Mets 10, Rockies 11
| 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | R | H | E | LOB |
NYM | 0 | 0 | 0 | 6 | 0 | 0 | 1 | 0 | 3 | 10 | 14 | 1 | 8 |
COL | 0 | 0 | 2 | 4 | 5 | 0 | 0 | 0 | | 11 | 15 | 0 | 7 |
Box Score
COL | IP | H | R | ER | BB | SO | P-S | ERA |
Gomber | 4.0 | 8 | 6 | 6 | 3 | 3 | 69-41 | 7.00 |
Lambert | 2.2 | 3 | 1 | 1 | 2 | 1 | 43-23 | 5.74 |
Bard, D | 1.1 | 1 | 0 | 0 | 1 | 1 | 19-13 | 0.63 |
Lawrence | 1.0 | 2 | 3 | 3 | 1 | 0 | 19-11 | 3.07 |
NYM | IP | H | R | ER | BB | SO | P-S | ERA |
Megill | 4.0 | 10 | 6 | 4 | 2 | 3 | 81-50 | 4.67 |
Nogosek | 1.0 | 4 | 5 | 5 | 1 | 0 | 29-14 | 6.33 |
Leone | 1.0 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 3 | 13-9 | 4.91 |
Brigham | 1.0 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 1 | 16-9 | 3.44 |
Hunter | 0.2 | 1 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 1 | 16-10 | 6.00 |
Raley, B | 0.1 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 0 | 1 | 6-3 | 3.18 |
Scoring Plays
Highlights
Description | Length | Video |
Bullpen availability for Colorado, May 28 vs Mets | 0:07 | Video |
Bullpen availability for New York, May 28 vs Rockies | 0:07 | Video |
Fielding alignment for New York, May 28 vs Rockies | 0:11 | Video |
Starting lineups for Mets at Rockies - May 28, 2023 | 0:09 | Video |
Breaking down Francisco Alvarez's home run | 0:09 | Video |
Francisco Alvarez's home run through bat tracking data | 0:09 | Video |
Breaking down Tylor Megill's pitches | 0:08 | Video |
Charlie Blackmon: Home Run Statcast Analysis | 0:18 | Video |
Analyzing Charlie Blackmon's home run through bat tracking | 0:09 | Video |
Analyzing Ryan McMahon's home run through bat tracking | 0:09 | Video |
The distance behind Ryan McMahon's home run | 0:14 | Video |
Breaking down Austin Gomber's pitches | 0:08 | Video |
Breaking down Francisco Lindor's home run | 0:09 | Video |
Visualizing Francisco Lindor's swing using bat tracking technology | 0:09 | Video |
Randal Grichuk hits an RBI single in the 3rd | 0:16 | Video |
Harold Castro hits an RBI single in the 3rd inning | 0:13 | Video |
Tommy Pham laces a two-run double in the 4th | 0:27 | Video |
Eduardo Escobar hits an RBI single, gives Mets lead | 0:14 | Video |
Francisco Alvarez cracks a three-run home run in 4th | 0:30 | Video |
Ryan McMahon hits a bases-clearing double in the 4th | 0:23 | Video |
Randal Grichuk hits an RBI double, ties game at 6 | 0:15 | Video |
Ryan McMahon nabs Pete Alonso at the plate in the 5th | 0:30 | Video |
Austin Wynns' RBI double | 0:25 | Video |
Charlie Blackmon rips a two-run home run in the 5th | 0:28 | Video |
Ryan McMahon hits a two-run homer in the 5th inning | 0:26 | Video |
Francisco Lindor smacks a solo homer in the 7th | 0:28 | Video |
Tommy Pham triples (1) on a sharp line drive to center fielder Brenton Doyle. Jeff McNeil scores. Starling Marte scores. | 0:30 | Video |
Decisions
Winning Pitcher | Losing Pitcher | Save |
Lambert (1-1, 5.74 ERA) | Nogosek (0-1, 6.33 ERA) | |
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2023.05.29 00:11 TheEnabledDisabled Lets talk about the Ozzie exposition dump 'drama'
I dont understand the drama about this, and I am gonna explain why
it wasent overbearing, it was instead long enough and obviously done intentionally in a way for the audience to pause and read the text without difficult, this not only gives fans the choice to read on their thoughts (mainly Stolas) of the event, but also dosent strain the pacing or the episode.
I dont like the opinion that people 'miss it', you would have definently not, not only because the phone is given center of the attention, you would have read or looked at the text at some point if you are interested in the relationship between Stolas and Blitz, unless you werent paying attention at all to the episode, which is much more blame to the viewer, especially since the exposition was in the front and center of the viewers attention, and not something in the background or the corner in a split sec, like many people percieved it as, also the fact that the part is the most replayed part of the episode.
This also gives us the audience a new way to look into Blitz and Stolas thought process and personality.
I liked it, it was done with so much though and care, and dont get the complaints at alll
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2023.05.29 00:11 msmoonpie This Sub and Breeds
First, I really want this post to be about discussion and no arguments or the like. This is a very well moderated sub and overall a very welcoming and great resource for our field.
However, I have noticed that there has been a steady increase in locks and deletion of comments discussing breeds. On one hand I understand, I am well aware that there are certain subs that come looking here for fodder to fuel their hatred of certain breeds, and I also understand that people are passionate about this topic and it can lead to passionate threads and arguments.
However, I am noticing it is getting to the point where simply mentioning certain breeds leads to posts being locked, and whether or not we like it, these breeds are part of our job. Different breeds have different diseases, different risks, different behaviors (both good and bad) and being limited from discussing them because of the possibility of some turmoil seems a bit close minded. There are hundreds of dog breeds and yet every time someone tries to talk about favorite breeds, or interesting breeds they've seen, the thread ends up locked.
I am *not* a moderator, and I do not claim to understand the extent of which this topic has been discussed. I have however, been part of this community for many years now, and I am concerned that stifling any discussion of breeds might not be the best. At the very least I understand it is frustrating to have your post locked because it involves a certain breed, even if that's not the point of the post.
I would love to hear other's thoughts on this because it may be I am the only one feeling this way!
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2023.05.29 00:11 tagsgaba which NBA player made you want to be black?
2023.05.29 00:10 RainbowLettie123 Need to set a boundary with an old supervisor. I know they won’t like it
Hi everyone.
I really need to set a boundary with my old supervisor. This is in an academic context by the way, not an old boss!
I have always been a pushover, but for the last six years I have been doing free work for my old supervisor. I have a full time job as well, so this work has to take place in my free time, either evenings after work, mornings before work or weekends, commonly it will be both in evenings and at weekends.
In the beginning it wasn’t so bad. I’d help out as a second person and my job wasn’t as demanding (I also worked an hour less a week at that point), but it’s been one of those things where the more I’ve said I’ll help out, the more my supervisor has asked for. I now am leading the extra work she wants me to do, which takes more time and is more mentally demanding. It’s also got trickier for me because I recently got promoted at my actual job, so I now work slightly longer hours and my work is much more challenging. I am drained by the end of the day, and the thought of picking up extra is just too much currently. I have lost entire weekends to this extra work and even worked on it when I’ve been on leave from my job.
I feel now is the time that I really need to set a boundary in this situation. It’s affecting my mental health, it affects my work capabilities because my brain isn’t getting sufficient rest time, and it also affects my relationships because to be honest, I do moan a lot about it. I’m full of resentment because I just don’t want to do this. I was only doing it to please my old supervisor, not because I wanted to. I value her as a person and I was scared that if I said no, she would walk away, but at this point I need to prioritise other things in my life. That being said I’m happy to help out with less demanding things IF I feel I can, but would have to see how I was doing at the time of the request, and at the moment I can’t commit to anything else. It doesn’t help that I don’t really feel appreciated for it. She is unhappy when I’m “slow” and does criticise my work quite a bit, when I’ve been doing the best I can! I find this quite hurtful.
We’ve come to a break in the work now, the stuff we were working on is now with someone else for review for potential publishing. There is a (fairly big) chance it will be rejected, but there is going to be a long wait until we find out. I need to communicate to her that this is it basically, that I can’t lead anymore projects for her in my spare time, and that I need to take some time for myself. I haven’t yet communicated that we have a long wait until we find out about the status of the current work, as I’ve been trying to work out what I want to do and how to set this boundary!
Any tips? Any good phrases I could use? Or any tips for dealing with guilt from setting the boundary? I know she is not going to be happy about this, it’s just that my happiness is important too, and this is making me miserable.
This is a big one for me so I did need to get this off my chest also, but any advice would be appreciated :)
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2023.05.29 00:10 writerhongpao [RF] Episode 9: Over the Hill
It's Saturday morning, the day of the picnic. Ha-neul listened to her grandmother and decided to be more patient with Hye-jin this time around. Maybe it won't be so bad, she thinks to herself. She quickly regrets thinking that.
Ji-eun holds a picnic basket and talks with Binna as they lead the way up into the hills. Ha-neul walks in the back with Hye-jin. Just then, Hye-jin whines. "My feet are tired!"
"It's only been ten minutes," Ha-neul replies, rolling her eyes. She stares at her little sister who has her arms folded. This kid will die because of her stubbornness one day, Ha-neul thinks to herself. "Well, I guess I'm leaving you here then. See you later!" she says as she sprints to catch up to her friends walking up ahead. They look concerned.
"You can't just leave your sister like that," Ji-eun says. "I mean, what if she gets hungry?"
"Or lost," Binna adds. "Remember last time?"
Ha-neul raises her upper lip in frustration. "She's a smart kid. She'll live."
Just then Binna grabs Ha-neul's shoulders and spins her around.
Ha-neul walks back to Hye-jin, her pride slightly damaged. "Are you going to walk or what?" Ha-neul asks, annoyed.
"I said I'm tired!" Hye-jin whines. She has such a strong will for a five-year-old, going on six.
Ha-neul finally breaks the deadlock. She turns around and kneels down, grabbing Hye-jin onto her back before standing back up and hurriedly walking up to her friends.
"It's still pretty far," Ji-eun says. "Maybe here is fine?"
Binna nods in agreement.
"But there's no view here," Ha-neul replies. "That was the point of the picnic, no?"
Ji-eun and Binna purse their lips and nod in silent acquiescence: it was indeed.
The girls walk on for another fifteen minutes, the gradient increasing every so often. By now, Ha-neul labors under the weight of her sister as she starts to fall behind. "Hey," she asks Hye-jin, breathing heavily. "Can you walk now?" She listens for a response, but hears nothing. "Hey, you alright back there?" Just then Ha-neul realizes Hye-jin's head rests embedded on her back, motionless. "Hye-jina!" Ha-neul exclaims in a panic. Ji-eun and Binna stop and quickly run back to see what happened.
Ha-neul gently lays Hye-jin down on the ground. She isn't moving.
"Is she breathing?" Binna asks, concerned.
Ha-neul brings her ear close to Hye-jin's nose. "She's snoring," Ha-neul grumbles. Suddenly, she punches into the air, silently but with the utmost frustration. Ji-eun and Binna smile.
The girls slow their pace so Ha-neul doesn't get too tired carrying Hye-jin on her back. They finally reach the top of a big, grassy hill. The sun is partially covered by immaculately white clouds so there's plenty of shade. Ji-eun takes out a blanket from her basket and lays it on the grass. Ha-neul lays down a sleeping Hye-jin onto the blanket, leaving her sister's arms and legs outstretched as if she were already dead. Suddenly, the five-year-old corpse rises up, reanimated.
"I'm hungry!" Hye-jin exclaims.
An exhausted Ha-neul collapses onto the blanket, taking the role of the corpse this time. After several minutes, Ji-eun and Binna are done with their snacks. They each gave Hye-jin something to eat, and she sits quietly munching on her own. Ha-neul finds the energy to sit up and gaze into the valley below they call their hometown. There is a patchwork of farms and rice fields alternating every so often in all directions. At a higher elevation on the right edge of the valley they can see their music school. Ha-neul spots her house not far from it. "Wow," is all she can say, the vibrant green valley contrasting with the powder blue sky.
Ji-eun and Binna remain silent. A warm summer day like this need not be enjoyed with words. All the stress of school, cramming for tests, practicing for violin recitals, finishing homework, all of those cares seem so small in comparison to the magnitude of nature's painting being drawn in front of their eyes in the form of swaying trees and drifting clouds. Even Hye-jin munches her rice cake speechless.
Ha-neul finishes her snack for lunch. Soon after, Ji-eun starts to talk about school. Binna joins in, and the three high schoolers laugh off the remainder of their stress. After a couple hours, the clouds disappear from the sky, exposing the harsh sun. The girls decide it's time to start heading home.
"Ready, Hye-jina?" Ha-neul asks. Hye-jin, still dumbstruck at the breathtaking scene, simply nods and starts to follow her sister, her stubborn temper suddenly replaced with meek contemplation.
"Ooo ... did you think it was pretty, Hye-jina?" Ji-eun asks.
Hye-jin looks back innocently and smiles.
"Ooo ... I'm glad you liked it!" Ji-eun adds cheerfully.
They walk back down from the hillside into the valley. As they come across a familiar hill that's rockier with a bit of a dangerous reputation, Binna exclaims, "It's a shortcut! Let's climb it!"
Ji-eun and Binna dart up the jagged rocks. Ha-neul starts to follow, but remembers Hye-jin and turns back to see her standing still, intimidated.
Ha-neul walks over to her and kneels down. "Don't worry," she says gently, "I'll be right behind you."
They smile at each other for a brief moment. Hye-jin then timidly proceeds to climb some of the rocks, with Ha-neul holding her hand to keep her steady.
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2023.05.29 00:10 Bound2earth86 The Importance of Being Erinis. $45 Gruul Landfall and Control Deck
https://www.moxfield.com/decks/UEkJOHtFckq_v2ZLFEvAdg ## Hey Vern, It's Ernest!
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Ernest)
Well hey there Vern, glad you could join us. Today we need to pack for camp, luckily I know a swell lady who can help.
[[Erinis, Gloom Stalker]]
She has Deathtouch, she Ramps, and she even allows us to control the board with [[Street Urchin]]! WOW what a woman!
## Ernest Goes to Camp
To get the perfect camping experience, first we need to pack the right supplies.
* [[Ash Barrens]] with Basic Landcycling not only gives us a basic land but also puts a land in the graveyard for Erinis to return.
* [[Springbloom Druid]] sacrifices a land and gives us two in return.
* [[Orcish Lumberjack]] chops down a Forest for 3 Mana in any combination of colors.
* [[Rolling Regrowth]] and [[Harrow]] are an instant speed Springbloom Druid.
* [[Magmatic Insight]] sacs a land and draws you cards.
* [[Blighted Woodland]], [[Evolving Wilds]], [[Terramorphic Expanse]], and [[Myriad Landscape]] all allow us to sacrifice a land and go and get basics.
* Special shoutout to [[Cabaretti Courtyard]], [[Brokers Hideout]], [[Riveteers Outlook]], and [[Maestros Theater]] allowing us to hit 4 Landfall triggers in a turn.
Now that we have some lands in the graveyard, we can fully use Erinis ability to replay them. But what do we do with all these Landfall triggers?
* [[Toggo, Goblin Weaponsmith]] makes Rocks for us to throw at whoever is bothering us.
* [[Sporemound]] makes sacrificial Saprolings
* [[Geode Rager]] opens up attack lanes by Goading each creature target opponent controls
* [[Rampaging Baloths]] gives you a 4/4 body for attacking or for sacrificing to Street Urchin
* [[Sarinth Greatwurm]] ramps you with Powerstones that can be used to activate abilities
* [[Tireless Provisioner]] and [[Tireless Tracker]] both make you artifacts with every landfall trigger
* [[Scute Swarm]] is always a winner by making an endless supply of bodies
* [[Zendikar's Roil]] makes elementals which are elemental to our gameplan (see what I did there?)
## Ernest Goes to Jail
Well darn Vern, instead of ending up at Kamp Kikakee we nearly drowned our opponents with all of our triggers. Guess we will have to be a bit creative with how else with get more creatures and/or artifacts for Erinis to use.
* [[Impulsive Pilferer]] gives you an early body but also gives you a treasure when you ~~murder~~ accidently eliminate him.
* [[Undercellar Myconid]] brings a friend both when it enters and leaves the battlefield, and taps to add a mana of any color
* [[Mitotic Slime]] is like the friend you invited but you weren't expecting them to bring along 6 of their friends. Luckily for us we can sac them all!
* [[Loyal Apprentice]] makes a hasty flying 1/1 at the beginning of our combat step. We can sac it to clear the way for Erinis or grow an army for when the need arrives.
* [[Dragonlair Spider]] can easily flood the board depending on your opponents
* [[Awakening Zone]] gives you another adorable critter to Old Yeller when the time is right.
* [[Crack Open]], [[Seize the Spoils]], and [[Artifact Mutation]] all provide answers and give us something to sac along the way.
* [[Implement of Ferocity]] and [[Implement of Combustion]] only cost us 1 mana and when they are sacrificed they draw us a card.
* [[Nimblewright Schematic]], [[Mycosynth Wellspring]], [[Servo Schematic]], [[Ichor Wellspring]], and [[Prized Statue]] give us several artifacts for doing what we were already going to do with them anyway.
* [[Gingerbread Cabin]] is a fun land to recur with Erinis because it brings along Food!
## Ernest Scared Stupid
At this point we have so many things to sac that we have drawn the ire of our opponents. Unlike your parents 9 months before your birth, we need **Protection**
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* [[Ranger's Guile]] and [[Snakeskin Veil]] give you instant speed Hexproof when you become the target of removal.
* [[Mirror Shield]], [[Mask of Avacyn]] and[[Swiftfoot Boots]] give you some bling to keep the party rolling.
* [[Snake Umbra]] protects you with Totem Armor and is a better [[Keen Sense]]
* [[Alpha Authority]] gives you protection and evasion, and it doesn't get much better than that Knowwhatimean?
* [[Beamtown Beatstick]] and[[Sticky Fingers]] both give you Menace and whenever you connect it makes you a Treasure Token just to add insult to injury.
## Ernest Goes to School
At this point you would guess we have all the answers, well good thing you still have some schooling to attend because here are a few tricks you may not have seen on first glance
* [[Sylvan Scrying]], [[Crop Rotation]], and [[Expedition Map]] all give us the ability to search for any land. but which lands should we go and find?
* [[Cryptic Caves]], [[Roadside Reliquary]], [[The Autonomous Furnace]], and [[The Hunter Maze]] can be sacrificed for card draw.
* [[Slagwoods Bridge]], [[Darksteel Citadel]], [[Tree of Tales]], and [[Great Furnace]] finds us a repeatable artifact land that we can sac and then recur with Erinis.
* [[Rogue's Passage]] makes Erinis unblockable
* [[Detection Tower]] gives us a way to ping those annoying hexproof creatures our opponents control.
## Ernest Rides Again
As fancy as this $45 deck is, like my Middle School teacher told me, there is always room for improvement. Gruul Landfall has some more expensive token producers that would put in some serious work in this style of deck. Also the inclusion of Fetch Lands would make it very possible to hit all our Landfall triggers each and every turn. Hope y'all enjoyed this little journey, come back real soon.
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2023.05.29 00:10 very_sick_person God is so good !
Today, I was doubting the existence of God or I was thinking that God doesn't want me in heaven and that God always knew I would go to hell and started thinking negatively, and the suicidal thoughts came back. I was thinking that if God doesn't give me a sign that he's real, I'm going to kill myself because there is no point in living if there is no God. So I opened social media, and all the posts were just people talking about how I'm going through a tough time right now and that I might be doubting if God is real, but I have to be patient and God will give me sign that I haven't even expected. Then I came across some video about the rapture, so I watched a movie about the rapture, and now I believe in God again. I thought nothing would make me believe again, but God gave me signs. God really takes care of his children. I almost got lost in the lies of the Devil. Thank you Lord !
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2023.05.29 00:10 cleanallmt SHTF Scenario (just for fun)
You have an unlimited supply of what you have in your kitchen right now. Would you survive 10 years? bonus points if you tell us what you have
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