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2023.05.29 01:34 dark_signals What's with the money stuff?
Still coming off the end of a roommate who I felt very deeply for. One of the things that hurt most for me and one of my other roommates caring for this person was the money stuff, because we both were working hard to earn what we had and our pwBPD would just take and take. They couldn't keep a job and put minimal effort into looking, citing how tired or disabled or sick or depressed they were, but they refused to go on disability and gave up trying for unemployment after a month or so (this was one of the things that made me decide to stop talking to them).
Meanwhile, their needs were constant. They needed cigarettes, alcohol, takeout and delivery every day, and then would insist on giant grocery sprees where we would go to multiple stores and spend hundreds of dollars for a couple meals. This was in addition to us splitting their rent because they could never pay, covering their utilities which they never paid either, insurance for their car they couldn't pay, and, at one point, $300 each to keep the bank from taking their car due to lack of payment.
Once, my roommate mentioned to me that they didn't think our pwBPD could see money as real, despite claiming over and over that they grew up poor and were very aware of money and what it meant; this was absolutely something you could never ever say to them or indicate in any way. I've never met anyone else who tried so little to get a job while being paid for by other people-- or even like, tried so little to get financial help at all? After one of their car crashes my roommate offered to help them knock down their fees significantly and they declined. Found an excuse to give up on unemployment. Wouldn't take disability. Called me bitchy for asking them to find a replacement to sublet their room when they said they were moving out, then found an excuse for why they couldn't and I had to do it instead, so we still are paying for the room to this day. And for what? Why?
Sometimes they acted like they felt actually bad about people buying stuff for them, but it didn't stop them from taking, and I just can't understand why you wouldn't want to put in the effort? I did all the cleaning in our house too, including cleaning up after their constant messes, and after a while it was almost like they avoided putting any effort in out of spite. And also, after all these things they just... still made up conspiracies about why I hated them. In reality, my whole life revolved around taking care of them.
When they got fired from their last job after talking back to the boss, I sent them jobs that were perfect for them, fitting their very specific needs for a job. They said they understood where I was coming from but they 'just needed some time to be sad' before looking for something new. They didn't get a job for the rest of the time they lived with us. We paid for everything.
One weekend they pressured another one of our friends into coming with them back to their home city for the week. She didn't want to do it at all and not for that long and actively refused but they can't take no for an answer and kept pushing until she broke. Once they got there, our pwBPD made her pay for a bar crawl, several hundred dollars. She could only leave when she stressed to them that she didn't have any money left to give them, because she was unemployed and was very stressed looking for a job and wanted to save. This was another incident that made me go NC with our pwBPD; it made me lose even more respect for them, even though they had been disappointing me every day for months, to be honest.
Just like... why? It still haunts me. Like what thought process leads them to think this is okay? Personally I think thinking about how much we were spending on them made them feel guilty or ashamed, and instead of doing something about it they just decided not to think about it anymore. They once told my roommate to never mention how much they'd spent on them over the years (which totaled to far more than what I spent on them when they lived here) because it made them feel bad. It's just so strange, this juxtaposition of like, constant victimhood and weird entitlement and refusal to help themselves.
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Meanwhile, their needs were constant. They needed cigarettes, alcohol, takeout and delivery every day, and then would insist on giant grocery sprees where we would go to multiple stores and spend hundreds of dollars for a couple meals. This was in addition to us splitting their rent because they could never pay, covering their utilities which they never paid either, insurance for their car they couldn't pay, and, at one point, $300 each to keep the bank from taking their car due to lack of payment.
Once, my roommate mentioned to me that they didn't think our pwBPD could see money as real, despite claiming over and over that they grew up poor and were very aware of money and what it meant; this was absolutely something you could never ever say to them or indicate in any way. I've never met anyone else who tried so little to get a job while being paid for by other people-- or even like, tried so little to get financial help at all? After one of their car crashes my roommate offered to help them knock down their fees significantly and they declined. Found an excuse to give up on unemployment. Wouldn't take disability. Called me bitchy for asking them to find a replacement to sublet their room when they said they were moving out, then found an excuse for why they couldn't and I had to do it instead, so we still are paying for the room to this day. And for what? Why?
Sometimes they acted like they felt actually bad about people buying stuff for them, but it didn't stop them from taking, and I just can't understand why you wouldn't want to put in the effort? I did all the cleaning in our house too, including cleaning up after their constant messes, and after a while it was almost like they avoided putting any effort in out of spite. And also, after all these things they just... still made up conspiracies about why I hated them. In reality, my whole life revolved around taking care of them.
When they got fired from their last job after talking back to the boss, I sent them jobs that were perfect for them, fitting their very specific needs for a job. They said they understood where I was coming from but they 'just needed some time to be sad' before looking for something new. They didn't get a job for the rest of the time they lived with us. We paid for everything.
One weekend they pressured another one of our friends into coming with them back to their home city for the week. She didn't want to do it at all and not for that long and actively refused but they can't take no for an answer and kept pushing until she broke. Once they got there, our pwBPD made her pay for a bar crawl, several hundred dollars. She could only leave when she stressed to them that she didn't have any money left to give them, because she was unemployed and was very stressed looking for a job and wanted to save. This was another incident that made me go NC with our pwBPD; it made me lose even more respect for them, even though they had been disappointing me every day for months, to be honest.
Just like... why? It still haunts me. Like what thought process leads them to think this is okay? Personally I think thinking about how much we were spending on them made them feel guilty or ashamed, and instead of doing something about it they just decided not to think about it anymore. They once told my roommate to never mention how much they'd spent on them over the years (which totaled to far more than what I spent on them when they lived here) because it made them feel bad. It's just so strange, this juxtaposition of like, constant victimhood and weird entitlement and refusal to help themselves.
2023.05.29 01:34 Tranquilizing1 Input needed: Should I go for this 2019 Hyundai Elantra w/ 129k miles. for $12,394? (It was previously a company car)
Dealership has 2019 Hyundai Elantra for sale. sticker price is $12,394, 129k miles. It was previously a company car that looks to be consistently well maintained, according to the history report that the dealership provided. Clean title, no accidents/damage. They crunched the numbers for me and determined that my payments would be $250/mo for 60 mo (8.99% apr, most likely cause I'm a first time bar buyer, credit otherwise is decent). Affordability is a non issue; the payments fit well within my monthly budget. I'm also putting 3k down. Dealership said they just got the car in today and still need to inspect it and take car of any issues before they actually sell it. The main thing that concerns me is the mileage. Does this actually sound like a good deal or should I walk away since the milage is already pretty high? Are Hyundais able to last a long time, possibly to 200k miles?
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2023.05.29 01:34 riknor Grew up in Finland surrounded by amazing saunas and now want one in my backyard in California. Help me plan this.
Pictured is my happy place - our family’s outdoor sauna at their cabin in the middle of nowhere in the deep forests of Finland. I grew up in Finland, had a sauna at home and at our cabin and used them regularly until moving to California about a decade ago. I was fine for a while without having a sauna but it’s time. I need my own and I have the space for it. Just not sure which direction to go so I don’t end up disappointed.
Here’s where I’m at.
Cheers, I’m jealous of everyone’s saunas here and looking forward to my own backyard löylys.
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Here’s where I’m at.
- small is fine
- outdoor
- wood burning kiuas pretty much non-negotiable
- trying to keep the cost under $8-10k
- it’s possible we’ll move to a bigger house in the future, wondering if there’s an option that could be relocated
Cheers, I’m jealous of everyone’s saunas here and looking forward to my own backyard löylys.
2023.05.29 01:34 girlyknz I have a lot of social anxiety in public but today I called out a guy on the metro taking a video of a young girl
Im someone who’s extremely socially anxious and it’s really hard for me to speak up in public and it makes me super uncomfortable to make myself stand out in any way. But today I was on the metro, and I noticed this guy taking a video of a young girl. I watched for a bit longer to make sure, and although I felt soo uncomfortable and uneasy walking up to him and confronting him, I felt even more uncomfortable for the girl that was being videotaped by an old creep. My voice and hands shook the whole time I was so nervous. I made him delete the video and then go in his recently deleted and delete it there too. I then told him to get off so he did since he was really taken aback and everyone was staring at us. Once I got home my heart was still beating hard but now I’m so proud of myself for being so brave and seeing how far I’ve come with my social anxiety. I can be shy at work, with family, dating or whatever but I’m glad i proved to myself that when I see something wrong Im atleast brave enough to speak up. Even if my voice and hands shook the whole time
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2023.05.29 01:34 Otherwise-Field2023 I relaxed my hair 1 year ago. After doing research I’m terrified.
So, I’m 17 years old and my mom allowed me to go to the salon and get my hair relaxed. My hair was very long, kinky and difficult for me to manage when natural. Since then, I got my hair relaxed every 2 months at the salon. At home, I took very good care of it and moisturized it. My hair and scalp seem to be healthy. But after doing research, I found out that hair relaxers lead to cancer. I’m scared now and I don’t know what to do. My mom is denying this since she relaxed her hair since she was 17 and keeps saying that I’m being paranoid. Should I contact the hair salon to see what type of relaxer they use? Should I relax my hair every 4 months instead of 2? Should I try to go back natural?
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2023.05.29 01:34 AmmianusMarcellinus 10 European countries call on Israel to halt demolition of Palestinian homes
https://www.middleeastmonitor.com/20230528-10-european-countries-call-on-israel-to-halt-demolition-of-palestinian-homes/
Ten European countries have called on Israel to halt its policy of home demolitions and confiscation of Palestinian properties in the occupied West Bank, reports Anadolu Agency.
The call came in a joint statement issued by the consulates general of Belgium, France, Italy, Spain, Sweden, the UK, Denmark, Finland, Germany, Ireland and the Office of the European Union Representative to the West Bank and Gaza.
The statement called on "Israel, as the occupying power, to halt all confiscations and demolitions and to give unimpeded access to humanitarian organizations in the occupied West Bank including East Jerusalem."
It also urged Tel Aviv to "return or compensate for all humanitarian items funded by the consortium of donors," in reference to Israel's demolition of buildings funded by the European Union since 2015 estimated at 1,291,000 euros ($1,385,300).
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Ten European countries have called on Israel to halt its policy of home demolitions and confiscation of Palestinian properties in the occupied West Bank, reports Anadolu Agency.
The call came in a joint statement issued by the consulates general of Belgium, France, Italy, Spain, Sweden, the UK, Denmark, Finland, Germany, Ireland and the Office of the European Union Representative to the West Bank and Gaza.
The statement called on "Israel, as the occupying power, to halt all confiscations and demolitions and to give unimpeded access to humanitarian organizations in the occupied West Bank including East Jerusalem."
It also urged Tel Aviv to "return or compensate for all humanitarian items funded by the consortium of donors," in reference to Israel's demolition of buildings funded by the European Union since 2015 estimated at 1,291,000 euros ($1,385,300).
2023.05.29 01:34 andeverand Heartbreaking and maddening
Went on dating apps after about three years of singledom. Hit it off with this great funny guy, we became music nerds, sharing tunes with each other, talking or texting first thing in the morning and last thing at night. A few dates in between, I even had him over for coffee (I just bought my first home so it’s a big deal to let anyone in). We made plans (bought tix) to go to the aquarium because I’d never been and we both love aquatic shit lol. This went on for about two months so nothing was serious yet but we’d both said enough to acknowledge it was heading there.
Then nothing, nada, silence. Just left on “read.” I felt absolutely crazy. After day three I texted one last time just asking him why he was doing this, saying I’d never been ghosted before so this was pretty devastating.
His response: “I am so sorry, I was planning on explaining, I woke up the other day and it was just gone, I had no desire to be in a relationship and I can't just try and fake it. I was planning on explaining I swear, it's just bad timing. It's nothing you did or said, I just can't commit and I have to go with my gut.”
Can’t say his answer helped much TBH.
I feel incredibly stupid and gullible. And dumb for even thinking I should bother to date again. I just want to forget it happened, to forget he exists. My feelings are so hurt. Why can’t I just accept being alone and not try?
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Then nothing, nada, silence. Just left on “read.” I felt absolutely crazy. After day three I texted one last time just asking him why he was doing this, saying I’d never been ghosted before so this was pretty devastating.
His response: “I am so sorry, I was planning on explaining, I woke up the other day and it was just gone, I had no desire to be in a relationship and I can't just try and fake it. I was planning on explaining I swear, it's just bad timing. It's nothing you did or said, I just can't commit and I have to go with my gut.”
Can’t say his answer helped much TBH.
I feel incredibly stupid and gullible. And dumb for even thinking I should bother to date again. I just want to forget it happened, to forget he exists. My feelings are so hurt. Why can’t I just accept being alone and not try?
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 | Hubby was out mowing the lawn, but I heard the mower had stopped for sometime, so I went out to check on him. Notice him chatting with the neighbors’ in-laws…husband just about sprints through fresh cut/damp grass to introduce himself to me. Super nice, family man, etc., we have a kid the same age, etc. After about 90 seconds discussing our families, he asks if I’ve heard of stem cells. (Yes.) Then shows me a patch on the back of his neck, and then he kinda/sorta/not really launches into a sales pitch (reading from the card - see first pic). Then he shows me a slew of Instas with people proclaiming how great these things work for pain, fatigue, aging, etc within minutes. I interrupted and said I must return inside to my 4-year-old who was alone in the house and bolted. Poor hubs was still taking to the wife. Regardless if it’s “medicine,” is it an MLM? My bullshit radar was going off at so many levels, but I ultimately trust my Reddit peeps for legitimacy. ✌🏻 So what’s up? submitted by winozzle to antiMLM [link] [comments] |
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2023.05.29 01:33 FinalFantasy_Nerd Battling depression because of my toxic mother
Not seeking advice here. Just need to get it off my chest. Also, English is not my first language and I don't live in the US.
My mother is a toxic person and might even be an entitled Karen. I don't know. What I do know is that my mother has some serious psychological issues. Especially with infants and small baby's. She calls herself "crazy for babys" and proved time and time again, that she only cares for a human as long as it's tiny and cuddly. She has a massive reborn collection, which are baby dolls that look like newborns. They are very expensive but she has to have them around. I am pregnant right now (37 weeks) and constantly on edge, terrified because she will take my baby away. I can't sleep and can't concentrate on anything. It causes me stress to know they will do anything in their power to come visit. The story is long and difficult to explain. In order to make this logical, I need to go back in time.
The past: I am one of 6 children and a twin. I have two older brothers, my twin sister and two (much) younger sisters. My parents were never the emotional type of people. We never heard any words of endearment, a simple "I am proud of you" or even an "I love you". Physically we were not abused but I'd say we were starved of any emotional connection we needed. We never heard a bed time story, never talked about our day at dinner table and even had to be quiet at dinner because my parents wanted to watch TV. To this day, the TV runs all day long. Both of them stopped working in the mid 90s and are living off of benefits from the government. So there wasn't a lot of money growing up. We didn't have fun outings or something like that. Little to no attention was paid to us and if we were annoying while spending time in the living room, they would send us to our rooms. My younger sisters were born when I was 13 and 14 and I remember that as they were babies, they would get all the cuddles, hugs and words of love especially from my mother. I love my little sister's to death but I can't deny that I was a little jealous. I never acted on it tho. In one particular incident I was cleaning the living room since my sister spread her baby toys around the whole area (we did a lot of chores back then). Meanwhile, my mother was cuddling my sister on the couch, telling her how much she loves her. I went to my room crying because I never heard her saying it to me. This stopped after a few years tho, as it is always the case with my parents. Once children reach a certain age, they will receive little to no attention, no love, no hugs etc. She admitted to me today that she is the most interested in babys - as they are her favorite stage of kids - while others may prefer school kids, teens or even adults. I'd like to imagine parents always having the same amount of interest in their children no matter the age. But let's move on... Other examples that started to spark my anxiety were when she told my twin sister and me point black, that if we end up pregnant in university, they will gladly take in our babys so we could continue studying and we could "visit" our babys on the weekends. Mind you, we attended university in a different state, a few hours by public transport. She added that we could have them back once they would need to go to school. Also, since our major contained a year abroad as an exchange student, she told us she would be so sad if we end up falling in love with someone over there, at the end of the world and end up having their grandchildren on the other side of the globe. Because they would never be able to meet them (reminder: to this day they have no job). And even tho my brothers could provide them with grandchildren, my mother was not satisfied as it was not the same with daughters. In her explanation, her own daughters would keep the baby's in case the parents would split up so she could still see her grandkids. Whereas if my brothers would split up with their partners, the daughter in law keeps the grand babies. A rather selfish thought if you ask me. All these instances made me wary of having children of my own.
Present: I moved to a different country 3 years ago since my husband lives here. We are married for one year, together for 5. My parents only attended the wedding because we paid for all of it: travel costed accommodation etc. They never shown any interest in my husband tho and I apologized for their cold behavior toward him multiple times. When we visit them, not a single soul asks how we are or what's new in our lives. They don't even congratulate my husband on his birthday, not even sending a simple text. No interest at all. Her reasons behind that is that they "are not social people and just can't come and ask Somebody how he's doing in life". My own husband. Their son in law. After 5 while years.
I am 37 weeks pregnant with my husband's and my first child. A baby girl. It is not the first grandkid as I have a nephew (5) and a niece (4) already. Children by my oldest brother. I told my parents that we were pregnant on a messager app but the conversation went cold soon. During the whole pregnancy, there were only one sided conversations with me sending ultrasound pictures or news about the baby and only an emoji as a response. As time went on, I send less and less info's as it is really exhausting begging for attention. Today she told me that she is often too busy to answer straight away. And apparently also too busy to write to me - anytime, anything. As mentioned above, they never asked us children how we were and so I never even got a "How are you" during my pregnancy. Never. I admit that I was hoping for a bit of attention in the beginning of pregnancy but as I am used to the coldness, it didn't bother me really. I had some really relaxing first few months of pregnancy. It did however bother me that from the beginning she had demands - not questions! - but demands regarding my baby. Some of them were: - since they cannot afford coming over anytime, they want to schedule a visit at our city on their terms: their time schedule (we are expecting end of June, they want to visit mid July), they want to come over during the week, not on weekends as it is more expensive, so they say (it's holidays anyway in July/August so it's expensive whenever they come). Both my parents said they don't wanna come later than a few weeks after birth, like August or October because then the baby would already be "too old". She said today that "babys grow up so fast and if we don't come right away we will never be able to see her that small again" - my mother wants to put lipstick on her lips, kiss my baby all over her face and make cute pictures. She never wears make up, ever. She would buy any cheap lipstick as she has no money or knowledge of makeup. - she is all into photography which is not bad per se but she already bought special photo books for all her grandkids, that she wants to fill. Last time we talked (my dad's birthday so I called) she demanded "And I want lots of pictures" when the baby is here. As if she is entitled to them. She bought six books in total, one for each grandkid (she already has two and mine coming soon) and proudly told me I could make three more kids as she is already set and prepared book wise. This was the first direct message at me after months of not asking how my pregnancy is doing. The first information she seemed to find necessary enough to share was that I could give her three more baby's. - my mother also asked me if I wanted some foot-and handprints of my baby since she is doing some when she comes over (as if I couldn't make them myself). You know, she still got some colour's left from my niece and nephew and would bring them with her. "nice as she is" I could then also have some prints. Of my own babys hands and feet! Again, not asking but rather demanding as if she is entitled to just do it. And again explaining that the hands and feet only stay tiny for a bit since babys grow so fast. - she told me time and time again that she only wants to visit for 2-3 days if she can come and hold/cuddle my baby. Since that is what she comes for in the first place. If she can't hold the baby, she won't come. She will not spend the time and money just to watch the baby sleeping in her crib. She told me today that she is baby crazy but of course she also comes to see my husband and me but said "I already know you two. Now I want to get to know the baby".
There are other examples but that sums it up quite nicely. All of my siblings know that the attention they now put on my baby will soon fade away. They might send a birthday card till she goes to school but then it will slowly fade away.
So why don't I just forbid her from coming you might ask? Well, she is a master manipulator and really toxic. My dad stands behind her every word. Whenever she won't get it her way, she starts crying and we are to blame. It was always that way and we were always forced to apologize even if it wasn't our fault. I feel guilty. Constantly. She says that if they can't come visit, I will always hold it against them that they didn't pay attention to my baby. When I reality I would gladly just love my life without them but I can't tell her that since it makes me the AH. It breaks me and I know I have to work on myself. My husband and twin sister are my biggest supporter. It all escalated today when I told her exactly what my problems are and she send a 50mins (!) voice recording via messenger arguing with me. It was full of excuses, denial, lies and most of all accusations. She constantly puts the blame on us, saying things like "Well, if you don't want us there" making me the villain. I talked to my in laws about this (who are amazing people Btw) and they suggested we talk it out. But one cannot talk it out with her. Once she feels like she is in the wrong, she will cry, shut down and run away - literally. She is constantly in denial about the emotion abuse she put us through while we were children. And as adults. She is in denial about the lack of interest she puts in contacting me and asking her own children how they are. She constantly puts herself in the role of the victim, crying how many issues she has - issues like my younger sister (18) now moving out and the extreme burden they have helping her finding an apartment and stuff. As if she is not their child and as if it's not their responsibility to help their children!
The last message I send her today was a confirmation that she can come visit but only under following rules (condensed): Rule #1: no holding the baby unless you ask us or we give her to you. Rule #2: no pictures taken or distributed unless you ask us. Rule #3: no hand- or footprints, no lipstick kisses on babys skin. Rule #4: if you want information about the baby you have to come to us, not the other way around (I was sick of always hearing that I am the one who has to inform her of every step since that's "how it was in my youth when I was pregnant with y'all").
So far she hasn't answered but I expect one of the two outcomes: either she agrees to the terms and I feel a bit lighter or she says she can't agree to the terms and thus, can not come, which also takes the pressure off of me. I won't beg for them to come. If they can't follow our rules and rather stay home, so be it. I try hard to focus on my baby right now and I don't want the stress they are causing me.
It is really hard to sever the bond that ties children to their parents and as hard as I try, I am still not able to cut them off completely. Not untill my little sisters moved out. I don't want to let them down and first want to help them escape the toxic hell. But I want to put my foot down and will not let her have it her way. It's time someone shows my mother she can't demand anything she wants.
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My mother is a toxic person and might even be an entitled Karen. I don't know. What I do know is that my mother has some serious psychological issues. Especially with infants and small baby's. She calls herself "crazy for babys" and proved time and time again, that she only cares for a human as long as it's tiny and cuddly. She has a massive reborn collection, which are baby dolls that look like newborns. They are very expensive but she has to have them around. I am pregnant right now (37 weeks) and constantly on edge, terrified because she will take my baby away. I can't sleep and can't concentrate on anything. It causes me stress to know they will do anything in their power to come visit. The story is long and difficult to explain. In order to make this logical, I need to go back in time.
The past: I am one of 6 children and a twin. I have two older brothers, my twin sister and two (much) younger sisters. My parents were never the emotional type of people. We never heard any words of endearment, a simple "I am proud of you" or even an "I love you". Physically we were not abused but I'd say we were starved of any emotional connection we needed. We never heard a bed time story, never talked about our day at dinner table and even had to be quiet at dinner because my parents wanted to watch TV. To this day, the TV runs all day long. Both of them stopped working in the mid 90s and are living off of benefits from the government. So there wasn't a lot of money growing up. We didn't have fun outings or something like that. Little to no attention was paid to us and if we were annoying while spending time in the living room, they would send us to our rooms. My younger sisters were born when I was 13 and 14 and I remember that as they were babies, they would get all the cuddles, hugs and words of love especially from my mother. I love my little sister's to death but I can't deny that I was a little jealous. I never acted on it tho. In one particular incident I was cleaning the living room since my sister spread her baby toys around the whole area (we did a lot of chores back then). Meanwhile, my mother was cuddling my sister on the couch, telling her how much she loves her. I went to my room crying because I never heard her saying it to me. This stopped after a few years tho, as it is always the case with my parents. Once children reach a certain age, they will receive little to no attention, no love, no hugs etc. She admitted to me today that she is the most interested in babys - as they are her favorite stage of kids - while others may prefer school kids, teens or even adults. I'd like to imagine parents always having the same amount of interest in their children no matter the age. But let's move on... Other examples that started to spark my anxiety were when she told my twin sister and me point black, that if we end up pregnant in university, they will gladly take in our babys so we could continue studying and we could "visit" our babys on the weekends. Mind you, we attended university in a different state, a few hours by public transport. She added that we could have them back once they would need to go to school. Also, since our major contained a year abroad as an exchange student, she told us she would be so sad if we end up falling in love with someone over there, at the end of the world and end up having their grandchildren on the other side of the globe. Because they would never be able to meet them (reminder: to this day they have no job). And even tho my brothers could provide them with grandchildren, my mother was not satisfied as it was not the same with daughters. In her explanation, her own daughters would keep the baby's in case the parents would split up so she could still see her grandkids. Whereas if my brothers would split up with their partners, the daughter in law keeps the grand babies. A rather selfish thought if you ask me. All these instances made me wary of having children of my own.
Present: I moved to a different country 3 years ago since my husband lives here. We are married for one year, together for 5. My parents only attended the wedding because we paid for all of it: travel costed accommodation etc. They never shown any interest in my husband tho and I apologized for their cold behavior toward him multiple times. When we visit them, not a single soul asks how we are or what's new in our lives. They don't even congratulate my husband on his birthday, not even sending a simple text. No interest at all. Her reasons behind that is that they "are not social people and just can't come and ask Somebody how he's doing in life". My own husband. Their son in law. After 5 while years.
I am 37 weeks pregnant with my husband's and my first child. A baby girl. It is not the first grandkid as I have a nephew (5) and a niece (4) already. Children by my oldest brother. I told my parents that we were pregnant on a messager app but the conversation went cold soon. During the whole pregnancy, there were only one sided conversations with me sending ultrasound pictures or news about the baby and only an emoji as a response. As time went on, I send less and less info's as it is really exhausting begging for attention. Today she told me that she is often too busy to answer straight away. And apparently also too busy to write to me - anytime, anything. As mentioned above, they never asked us children how we were and so I never even got a "How are you" during my pregnancy. Never. I admit that I was hoping for a bit of attention in the beginning of pregnancy but as I am used to the coldness, it didn't bother me really. I had some really relaxing first few months of pregnancy. It did however bother me that from the beginning she had demands - not questions! - but demands regarding my baby. Some of them were: - since they cannot afford coming over anytime, they want to schedule a visit at our city on their terms: their time schedule (we are expecting end of June, they want to visit mid July), they want to come over during the week, not on weekends as it is more expensive, so they say (it's holidays anyway in July/August so it's expensive whenever they come). Both my parents said they don't wanna come later than a few weeks after birth, like August or October because then the baby would already be "too old". She said today that "babys grow up so fast and if we don't come right away we will never be able to see her that small again" - my mother wants to put lipstick on her lips, kiss my baby all over her face and make cute pictures. She never wears make up, ever. She would buy any cheap lipstick as she has no money or knowledge of makeup. - she is all into photography which is not bad per se but she already bought special photo books for all her grandkids, that she wants to fill. Last time we talked (my dad's birthday so I called) she demanded "And I want lots of pictures" when the baby is here. As if she is entitled to them. She bought six books in total, one for each grandkid (she already has two and mine coming soon) and proudly told me I could make three more kids as she is already set and prepared book wise. This was the first direct message at me after months of not asking how my pregnancy is doing. The first information she seemed to find necessary enough to share was that I could give her three more baby's. - my mother also asked me if I wanted some foot-and handprints of my baby since she is doing some when she comes over (as if I couldn't make them myself). You know, she still got some colour's left from my niece and nephew and would bring them with her. "nice as she is" I could then also have some prints. Of my own babys hands and feet! Again, not asking but rather demanding as if she is entitled to just do it. And again explaining that the hands and feet only stay tiny for a bit since babys grow so fast. - she told me time and time again that she only wants to visit for 2-3 days if she can come and hold/cuddle my baby. Since that is what she comes for in the first place. If she can't hold the baby, she won't come. She will not spend the time and money just to watch the baby sleeping in her crib. She told me today that she is baby crazy but of course she also comes to see my husband and me but said "I already know you two. Now I want to get to know the baby".
There are other examples but that sums it up quite nicely. All of my siblings know that the attention they now put on my baby will soon fade away. They might send a birthday card till she goes to school but then it will slowly fade away.
So why don't I just forbid her from coming you might ask? Well, she is a master manipulator and really toxic. My dad stands behind her every word. Whenever she won't get it her way, she starts crying and we are to blame. It was always that way and we were always forced to apologize even if it wasn't our fault. I feel guilty. Constantly. She says that if they can't come visit, I will always hold it against them that they didn't pay attention to my baby. When I reality I would gladly just love my life without them but I can't tell her that since it makes me the AH. It breaks me and I know I have to work on myself. My husband and twin sister are my biggest supporter. It all escalated today when I told her exactly what my problems are and she send a 50mins (!) voice recording via messenger arguing with me. It was full of excuses, denial, lies and most of all accusations. She constantly puts the blame on us, saying things like "Well, if you don't want us there" making me the villain. I talked to my in laws about this (who are amazing people Btw) and they suggested we talk it out. But one cannot talk it out with her. Once she feels like she is in the wrong, she will cry, shut down and run away - literally. She is constantly in denial about the emotion abuse she put us through while we were children. And as adults. She is in denial about the lack of interest she puts in contacting me and asking her own children how they are. She constantly puts herself in the role of the victim, crying how many issues she has - issues like my younger sister (18) now moving out and the extreme burden they have helping her finding an apartment and stuff. As if she is not their child and as if it's not their responsibility to help their children!
The last message I send her today was a confirmation that she can come visit but only under following rules (condensed): Rule #1: no holding the baby unless you ask us or we give her to you. Rule #2: no pictures taken or distributed unless you ask us. Rule #3: no hand- or footprints, no lipstick kisses on babys skin. Rule #4: if you want information about the baby you have to come to us, not the other way around (I was sick of always hearing that I am the one who has to inform her of every step since that's "how it was in my youth when I was pregnant with y'all").
So far she hasn't answered but I expect one of the two outcomes: either she agrees to the terms and I feel a bit lighter or she says she can't agree to the terms and thus, can not come, which also takes the pressure off of me. I won't beg for them to come. If they can't follow our rules and rather stay home, so be it. I try hard to focus on my baby right now and I don't want the stress they are causing me.
It is really hard to sever the bond that ties children to their parents and as hard as I try, I am still not able to cut them off completely. Not untill my little sisters moved out. I don't want to let them down and first want to help them escape the toxic hell. But I want to put my foot down and will not let her have it her way. It's time someone shows my mother she can't demand anything she wants.
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2023.05.29 01:32 sassanix [MEGA THREAD] Emergency Fire Situation in NS - Providing Shelter and Assistance
[MEGA THREAD] Emergency Fire Situation in NS - Providing Shelter and Assistance
Urgent Call for Help!
UPDATE: The emergency fire situation in NS is rapidly escalating, and many individuals and families are in desperate need of immediate assistance. We're launching this mega thread to bring the community together and coordinate efforts to help those affected by the fires. If you're in a safe area and able to offer shelter or any form of assistance, please step forward and lend a helping hand!
🏠 Offering Shelter: If you have spare room(s) in your home, a vacant property, or a safe space that can be utilized for temporary shelter, please comment below with the following details:
🤝 Offering Assistance: If you are unable to provide shelter but still want to help, there are various ways you can contribute. Here are some ideas:
Important Note: Be cautious of personal information shared publicly and exercise due diligence when contacting or accepting help from individuals. Trust your instincts, and if something seems suspicious, please report it to the authorities immediately.
Please upvote and share this post to increase visibility. The more people we reach, the greater our collective impact can be. Stay safe, stay vigilant, and let's help NS overcome this emergency fire situation!
Disclaimer: This thread is a community-led effort. Please refer to official emergency services and local authorities for the most up-to-date information and guidance.
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Urgent Call for Help!
UPDATE: The emergency fire situation in NS is rapidly escalating, and many individuals and families are in desperate need of immediate assistance. We're launching this mega thread to bring the community together and coordinate efforts to help those affected by the fires. If you're in a safe area and able to offer shelter or any form of assistance, please step forward and lend a helping hand!
🏠 Offering Shelter: If you have spare room(s) in your home, a vacant property, or a safe space that can be utilized for temporary shelter, please comment below with the following details:
- Location (city/town and neighborhood if possible)
- Available space (number of rooms, beds, or any relevant information)
- Contact information (email, phone number, or any preferred method)
🤝 Offering Assistance: If you are unable to provide shelter but still want to help, there are various ways you can contribute. Here are some ideas:
- Transportation: If you have a vehicle and can assist in transporting individuals or families to safer areas, please let us know.
- Supplies and Essentials: Donation centers are being set up to collect essential supplies such as water, food, clothing, blankets, toiletries, and other necessities. If you can donate or help with the distribution of these items, share the details here.
- Volunteer Work: Organizations on the ground may require extra hands for relief efforts. If you’re available to volunteer, mention your skills and availability, and we’ll connect you with the appropriate channels.
- Location (city/town and neighborhood if possible)
- Number of people (including any special needs or requirements)
- Contact information (email, phone number, or any preferred method)
Important Note: Be cautious of personal information shared publicly and exercise due diligence when contacting or accepting help from individuals. Trust your instincts, and if something seems suspicious, please report it to the authorities immediately.
Please upvote and share this post to increase visibility. The more people we reach, the greater our collective impact can be. Stay safe, stay vigilant, and let's help NS overcome this emergency fire situation!
Disclaimer: This thread is a community-led effort. Please refer to official emergency services and local authorities for the most up-to-date information and guidance.
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