So I’m loosing my mind a bit. My 4 month old won’t let me put her down, she literally won’t go to anyone else and wants to be held world facing. She isn’t big enough for proper carriers (ergobaby etc)
I find myself holding her on my hip, she’s got very good head control but is a small baby. I’ve started looking at ring slings but am overwhelmed by the different brands and materials and I don’t have somewhere I can try them near me (I live in the U.K. and lots of the brands on here are American).
I’ve heard of these brands: wildbird, Tula, Moby and Sukura. But then there’s all the different materials and double layer single etc. I checked out this website that seems to summarise a few brands a bit. I live in the U.K. so getting hot isn’t thaaaat much of an issue.
https://www.littlebabygear.com/best-ring-slings/
I also found a Tula ring sling second hand pretty cheap £35 / I think that’s 43 US dollars, and am tempted to get it. They’ve said it’s 100% cotton? But not sure if it’s right for me, all the posts on here seem to say that ring slings are super individual to the person.

• Do I take the plunge with the Tula?
• are Tula wraps good? Pros/ cons?

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It was the cool breeze that deceived me into believing it wasn't that hot outside. I spent the whole day doing garden work without my top on and ended up giving myself the worst sunburn I'd ever had, that was on the Monday. That evening I applied a lot of aloe after-sun moisturiser to help sooth the sore skin which worked for the time being, as well has laying a wet towel on it.
Saturday morning I woke up in a lot of pain, but mainly just sore skin. I kept applying aloe moisturiser every few hours and drinking lots of water just to help the skin. By the evening on Saturday my back began to itch, I did complain a bit and it was annoying, I remember telling myself that it would feel better in the morning if I could get a good sleep, and luckily enough I did pass out fairly quickly.
But when I woke up on Sunday morning I realised how foolish I was being the night before. It was non stop agony. It was as if someone was stabbing my back with a fiery blade and there was nothing I could do about it. I knew I couldn't itch it, that was obvious, so I got my partner to rub some more aloe moisturiser into the burn whilst I screamed into a pillow, it made no difference. I could tell that this pain wasn't going anywhere soon so I decided the best thing to do would be to take a few painkiller and then try to distract myself. For me the pain came in waves, 10 minutes absolute mind bending agony then about 20 minutes of slightly less unbearable agony. We went to my partners parents house for BBQ which managed to help pass the time quicker, I would run round in the garden and play with the dog to try and distract myself, but I was still dying. Every hour or so my partner would rub more aloe into my back just to protect my skin whilst her parents laughed at me and called me a baby... the aloe still have no effect. at some point some one suggested I take an antihistamine which I did and I cant say that it had a obvious effect but I carried on taking them when I was allowed as I would have done anything to stop/reduce the pain. I was joking but at one point I did asked my partner to get a razor blade out and just cut all the skin off my back, and to be honest I probably wasn't far away from being serious. We made it home in the evening and I was just pacing around my bedroom, still suffering, then my partner says, " I've just googled your symptoms and it looks like you might have Hells Itch". Brilliant, that sounds about right though.
I was on my bed in the yoga position called child's pose whilst squeezing a pillow and screaming into it. My partner didn't find any remedies online other than a few other medications, so by this point I was taking Piriteze (antihistamine), ibuprofen and paracetamol. It was making a mild difference but I was still in a lot of pain. I tried to sleep for a few hours but I could not.
It was 2am now, I was researching what to do to help me sleep, then I found this sub. I looked through the list of things to try and the easiest thing I had access too was talcum powder. I got my partner to smother me in it and then silence, the pain had instantly stopped, I nearly started crying. But to my dismay 30 seconds later it started again, the talc had worked but it wasn't effective enough, I couldn't apply it every 30 seconds. I had none of the other physical remedies so I decided to go for a shower, I started the temperature on almost cold, that is all my sunburnt back could handle, but once I was used to it I started turning up the heat, I got the temperature to as hot as I could handle then stayed under it for one minute making sure my whole back was getting covered. Through the heat I thought I could feel my back still itching so I wasn't hopeful that the hot shower was working, but as soon as i got out the shower my back had started to settle, the itch was gone. I threw my towel on the bed then laid down on top of it. Finally some peace. I managed to fall asleep. But the pain came back and woke me up 2 hours later, agony again. But I repeated the showering process and again I was free, laying in bed, wet but pain free. this happened a few times but at least I could sleep.
I got up about 6 am on Monday, I had got bored of laying in bed. I did a bit more research on this sub, but as I'm from the UK and lot of the things recommended aren't available, especially the branded stuff. I went to the shops and I couldn't find anything, even the peppermint oil, but there was a few things that caught my eye. This sub suggested that anything that effected the temperature of your skin and I saw 2 products that are sold in the UK. Deep Heat and Deep Freeze. I couldn't find anything else so I thought I'd give it a go.
When I got home I applied the deep heat gel on to half of my back then deep freeze gel to the other, knowing that if both failed I could just jump in the shower. the deep heat gel seemed to make the pain slightly worse but the deep freeze gel seemed to make it slightly better. I washed it all off then decided to go all in with the deep freeze gel. I applied a thick layer all over and 5 minutes later my back was covered in a cold burning sensation, similar to what I would imagine having peppermint all over your back might feel like. It felt like the itch was still there, but the freezing effect was so strong that it seemed to overpower it. Although this sensation wasn't particularly nice it was so much better than the itch and did well to cover it up.
From that point forward the itch had become bearable. Either I was past the worst of it, or the combination of a few different treatments and medications had done the job to sooth the itch. I managed survived the day with a fairly mild itch, and I played a round of golf without any flare ups.
Today is Tuesday, my back is still itchy but it is so much more bearable compared to before. My back is still red and sore from the burn. Thanks to this sub for helping me get through the worst of it. Highly recommend very hot shower (start warm then increase temperature) to relieve the pain for approximately 10-20 mins to be able to sleep.
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TLDR: From the UK.
Monday - sunburnt,
Saturday - mild itch sets in,
Sunday - extremely painful itch all day - didn't sleep Sunday much night,
Monday - tried treatment of Deep Freeze gel which seemed to help cover up the pain,
Tuesday - bearable itch.

Hello! I’m a total beginner, just done a couple of day courses. I absolutely love stained glass and glass art in general. I’m at a point in my life (I’m in my 30’s) where my youngest is about to start school, and I want to learn something new. I work part time. I’m a professional in my regular career which is utterly unrelated to art. I’ll have 3 school length (9:30-2:30) days a week, term time, to do something for myself. I’ve always wanted to do something creative but life’s practicalities got in the way.
There are no more advanced courses near me. I can’t really justify the cost to set up at home at this point as I don’t have the skills but I’m desperate to learn more. I’ve done textile art on a commission basis to pay my way through my undergraduate degree many years ago. So I can draw ok, and use photoshop etc. I’ve got a fair sense of general composition and colour. I’m generally handy, can follow instructions, and am patient with small and fiddly work.
There are a fair few stained glass studios around me, but none do courses or anything. Some are more modern, some focus on ecclesiastical work, some more on repairs. I’m in the UK if it matters. I’m wondering how it would be taken if I offered to work for free doing any odd jobs, running errands, cleaning, organising, taking calls, or whatever was needed in exchange for being taught the craft? Would this been seen as really cheeky? I’m not really sure if having someone around would be helpful or not so I’ve no idea if I’m offering something that would be a fair exchange.
Thanks for any advice!

Welcome to the guide on creating a "Schoolgirl" image for your social media presence, Reddit edition! If you're looking to stand out from the crowd and cultivate a captivating image that blends fashion and freshness, you've come to the right place. In this guide, we'll walk you through the critical elements of the style, offer tips on highlighting your youthfulness and playfulness through makeup and hairstyles, and share insights on creating content that resonates with the Reddit community. So, let's dive in! Keep reading to discover how to become an irresistible "Schoolgirl" in the realm of Reddit.
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Style Essentials
Define the key elements of your style. This could be a combination of fashionable skirts, pants, blouses, sweaters, and accessories. Aim to choose clothing that looks stylish and suits your figure without appearing provocative.
Example: Pair a floral-print midi skirt with a sweater and flat shoes.
Description: This outfit looks youthful and stylish, perfect for park walks or attending events.
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Opt for a gentle and natural makeup look that accentuates your youthfulness and freshness. Experiment with hairstyles that add a touch of playfulness, such as cute ponytails or braids.
Example: Apply BB cream, rosy blush, a subtle lip balm, and mascara.
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Use accessories to add personal charm to your look. These can include stylish backpacks, colorful bracelets, unique brooches, or necklaces. Pay attention to details that make your outfit memorable and special.
Example: Combine a geometric brooch with a cute pastel-toned backpack.
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Content Creation
Capture photos and videos in interesting and vibrant locations such as amusement parks, ice rinks, water parks, or near arcade machines. This will make your content attractive and diverse.
Example: Picture a young schoolgirl sitting on the grass, holding flowers, smiling, and looking at the camera.
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Engage with your audience through videos, photos, and messages. Ask questions, conduct polls, and interact with your subscribers in the comments. This helps strengthen the connection with your audience and increases their loyalty.
Example: "What are your plans for the weekend, friends? Would you like me to make a video about my picnic adventure?"
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Thematic Publications
Connect your content with current topics or events such as the start of the school year, holidays, or seasonal activities. This will make your content more interesting and relevant to your audience.
Example: A video showcasing back-to-school stationery supplies.
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Balancing Public and Personal
Share your interests, hobbies, and experiences with your audience, but keep some personal information private. This will create intrigue around your persona and increase interest in your content.
Example: "Books have always been my inspiration. What inspires you in life?"
Description: By sharing personal interests, the blogger reveals some private information, which helps create a closer connection with the audience.
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Regular Content Updates
Keep your blog or channel updated regularly to maintain audience attention and demonstrate your activity. You can stay on top of trends and be aware of new developments in your field.
Example: Weekly video reviews of the latest fashion trends or book recommendations.
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Collaborate with Other Bloggers
Establish partnerships and friendships with other bloggers who share similar interests. This will expand your network and attract new followers.
Example: Collaborative projects or mentioning other bloggers in your posts.
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Be Yourself
The most important aspect of creating a successful blog or channel is to be genuine and authentic. Your audience will want to follow you because they value your uniqueness and honesty.
Example: Publish a post acknowledging that not everything is perfect and that nobody should strive for perfection.
Description: Being sincere and original helps attract an audience that appreciates honesty and the uniqueness of an individual.
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Crafting a "Schoolgirl" persona for your social media presence on Reddit is an excellent opportunity to express your individuality and infuse your content with a unique allure. Remember, it's crucial to curate clothing and accessories that align with your style while avoiding anything overly provocative. Delicate and natural makeup, playful hairstyles, and choosing interesting locations for your photoshoots will help you create diverse content that captures the attention of the Reddit community. Embrace your authenticity and originality—being true to yourself always hits the mark. So, venture into the realm of social media and showcase your one-of-a-kind schoolgirl to the world!

For perspective: I work as a server on a tourist train run by private owners, to whom I’d become close and are friends with. I had previously worked for the company and had quit due to the chaotic workplace before, and upon hearing that they needed help I offered to come back for the summer months to help them out. My previous shift was a double train day.
When I was setting up the train for the afternoon trip I had to set nearly half of the cars by myself (other waitresses were MIA). Enter the “chef”, who’s usually prone to temper. I needed 6 glasses and I asked if they could pass me six more, to which I was greeted with “you should have already had that done“. and went on to say that I was wasting time and being incompetent with my job. I told him that I had just finished doing the other cars and that this one wasn’t finished, and this was the last thing I needed to finish up. He said I should’ve had time during the previous trip to get everything ready and I reminded him that I was busy doing the bread baskets (as he had instructed me to do). The chef became very irritated and said “you just have an excuse for everything don’t you?” And followed with “if you can’t get things done when I need them done, then I don’t need you then.” (Which they later claimed they didn’t remember saying, and that they probably meant they didn’t need me in the kitchen) Later he pulled me aside with co-chef (who wasn’t present at the time of the incident) and said he was going to “put the whole thing behind him” and just issue me a verbal. When I asked what he was issuing it for he said that I was argumentative and not being competent in doing things when they instructed me to do them. They claimed the verbal issue wasn’t meant in a malicious way and would just allow us to put the whole thing behind us. The chef tried to say that they DID need me and that I was one of the best people on waitstaff. I wasn’t confronted by any outside member of management about this to check on my side of events, and was really hurt by this. It all just felt wrong.
I ended up putting in my 2-weeks notice and stating that I could not work in an environment where I was disrespected and belittled. I know my boss needs help but I don’t think I can work for her in like this. AITA??

Hello there,
I'm moving to Toulouse to start to work for Airbus on 01st September.
I'm looking for an apartment near Toulouse and/or Airport. Could someone recommend me a website or something to find an apartment in France?

Looking for reassurance/advice.
Hi all. I am new here, and I don't use reddit much, but I am using it as a last resort, and I'm really sorry for the long story, and appreciate any reassuring or helpful replies.
Up until last Sunday, 21st of May, everything was fine. I know I already have slight anxiety from previous things in life, for example not wanting to go out much, and being scared walking around in public. I used a vape for most of my day to day life have used one on and off for many years, but stopped cold turkey and IMMEDIATELY after having this "anxiety attack". I am an overweight individual, and have been for a long while, because of my mental health, so I have been recently worried about my physical health, whilst not doing anything about it, and being super lazy basically. I've been having the odd heart palpitation for years, and recently had noticed when laying down at my computer chair, my heart would flutter, this started happening a little bit before I started working out (because it was sort of a wake up call to me). I started working out for only 15-20 minutes a day, it's not much but it's something. I did indoors cycling. Until on 21st of May, Sunday, I was laying in my chair and I decided to call the non-emergency medical service (111 in the UK), for health advice to do with these heart palpitations, for more information and to put my mind at ease. What followed was horrific, I finished up on the phone and went to lay down to see if I would feel better, because the palpitations then continued after the phone call. (I think at this point I had already started panicking.) After laying down for no longer than 30 seconds, a pulse went through my body, almost like the strongest heart beat I've ever felt, and I felt lightheaded almost immediately. I shot up, and vocally said "Woah", at that point I rushed for my phone, and called emergency services, because I thought I was having a heart attack, I remember my heart pounding out of my chest, and feeling light headed - My heart was beating... fast but not abnormally fast. I had asked for an ambulance, and in the mean time, somebody called me from a nursing team, and they started feeding me the idea that I was having an anxiety attack. I spoke to him until I calmed down enough, I eventually ended up falling asleep sitting up in my computer chair, 1 hour~ later, the paramedic arrived. They checked my heart with an ECG machine, and checked my bloody pressure - Both were apparently perfectly okay, according to the paramedic, but she advised that I go to hospital since I'd been having the heart thump for over an hour.
I arrive at the hospital, and I feel the same symptoms start up once again, but this time I tried to breathe through it, and it wasn't nearly as bad, but still scary. I was in hospital and I was having problems with my heart, it was very stressful. In the hospital, I had another ECG check, my blood pressure and I had blood tests taken as well. After 4-5 hours of anxious waiting for results, apparently my blood tests were also completely perfect and clear. They said it was most likely anxiety.
As somebody who's been overweight their entire life, this was a huge shock to me, and I really am grateful for it. But part of me is doubting that there IS something wrong with me now, because today, 8 days later, I am experiencing most likely worse symptoms than I was before.
My symptoms in order from when they happened (Sunday 21st May):
on the Monday - My heart continued to pound, non stop for days, and still is to this day. I started worrying that I was still dying and the doctors didn't check me properly. I didn't eat much, and I definitely had trouble sleeping. I started non-stop checking my heart rate and then got extremely anxious because it was hovering around 50-65 BPM. I kept checking my pulse to make sure I was still alive and my heart wasn't going 100 miles per hour, but I would only do that when I stop feeling my heart beat, which I assume is what it's normally meant to feel like, but because I'm so anxious about things, if I don't feel my heart beat I start to panic.
Tuesday-Friday - I had this weird pressure build up in my chest, that seems to spread from the top of my stomach all the way over to underneath both of my armpits and it feels like it's above my heart, not my heart itself, though I have felt slight pressure in my heart too. The feeling is almost cold like under my skin - I mostly only get this feeling laying down but I still have it very slightly sitting up; I found a very temporary fix for that, is to lay on my side, and not my back, though that makes my heart feel like it's beating harder. In the same category as this, if I do lay on my side, I can feel that part of my chest vibrating in a way, like it's a muscle spasm. If I do lay on my back, and move slightly to the left or right it alleviates some of the pressure for a short time as well. I started having some chest pains, and arm pains. The chest pains felt like stitches, and they were very sharp, neither lasted for longer than maybe 15-30 minutes at a time. I have had sharp pains in my arms too, but those are very quick sharp pains that don't seem to repeat themselves. I started taking an over the counter medication here called "Kalms" anxiety , I believe it's a Valerian root extract or something like that I'm not even sure that it's working, I think I'm too anxious to let it work. I also started having bad bowel movements (almost complete liquid) and nausea, which apparently is a possible side effect of the Kalms medication.
Friday-Monday (29th/30th May Current time is midnight.) - Throughout the week I've been trying to take the advice of many of my family members, it's just anxiety. I'm trying to tell myself that on repeat, over and over again, but I cannot stop worrying at all. I went to go and stay else where for a night, hoping that exposure to an anxiety inducing situation would help me, but I ended up not being able to sleep, and only sleeping throughout the day. I started having unstable bowel movements,
As of right now, I'm having tightness in my jaw (Like tenseness), tightness in my upper stomach almost like I've been tensing my stomach muscles or worked them out and now it feels weird to push my stomach out, not sure if it's relief or not to relax those muscles, but if you've held in your stomach for a while and then let it bloat back out, that's the feeling I get, still having the tightness in my chest, thumping heart beat still (and has been thumping since last week), I have lost my appetite completely and I am not eating nearly enough, I'm trying to eat super healthy (For example today I had half an apple for breakfast and then a small amount of tuna, broccoli and cauliflower, and rice, of course, I'm worried about that. I'm having extreme troubles getting to sleep because I cannot get my mind away from all of this. Throughout the week I have had random outbursts of literally weeping and crying. I am experiencing feelings of weakness in my likes, they feel like jelly when I stand up. Still experiencing lightheadedness, for example I went to visit my dad to again try and put myself into an anxiety inducing situation to "combat" it, I guess, I hadn't had much sleep at all, but for most of the time I was there I was slightly light headed, and just wanted to sleep the entire time I was there - he gave me food, and I ate it all as to not be rude. I felt nauseous after, but didn't puke, but immediately after eating I had diarrhoea. I don't think it was the food, and I'm chalking that down to the Valarian Root Extract meds I've been taking, but that made me anxious for sure. I only have small bursts of diarrhoea, for like 1-2 hours, then I just don't go to the bathroom. I tried listening to a 40 minute guided meditation for sleep on YouTube this morning, and after replaying it 3 times, I managed to get to sleep, only to be suddenly woken from a nightmare, wasn't able to sleep after that until later in the day.
The pressure is really getting to me now, I'm scared my life won't ever go back to normal and I'm certainly feeling extremely pessimistic about things, and thinking bad things. For the record I have been offered anti-depressants a long long time ago, but chose to never take them because I was scared of the side effects... But now feeling all of this I want to take them more than ever (thoughts on this?).
I really hope somebody can calm me down, as I've tried to sleep already tonight (from 8-10pm, but had a nap from 2-4pm) and I'm exhausted.. Just want an unbroken sleep. I've been told from multiple people that it's just anxiety, but I just can't seem to believe them for longer than 5 minutes.
Sorry for the essay, but I thought I'd go into as much detail as possible. Thanks in advance.

Me and my girlfriend have been together for nearly a year and living together for about 8 months now and in the entire time she's only been working for 2 months of that, doing short contracts for a few weeks and now hasn't worked in nearly 3 months. She applies for jobs fairly regularly (nearly every other day) but doesn't seem to get anywhere with them. She even has family members telling her about jobs where they work but she's doesn't want to work with them so refuses to follow them up. Its not like we have money problems, all the bills and living expenses are paid for, but I'm having to occasionally pay for her phone bill or her petrol money and it's getting to the point where I have no patience left.
I really don't want to end things because I really enjoy spending time with her, we always enjoy each others company, have similar interests but the job thing is really starting to affect me. I'm getting stressed and it's starting to affect my own job like making it hard to concentrate as it's always on my mind. Plus I think it's slowly affecting my relationship with my parents as they aren't very happy about her employment situation.
It's left me thinking that I really don't know what to do. Do I give her an ultimatum, just leave it and see how it plays out or just leave her. My dad said something that just really got to me, "what if in 6 months she still doesn't have a job?", and I honestly didn't know what to say.
Any advice would be appreciated

Overall she is very misunderstood on trans people, their beliefs, and that of allies. This misunderstanding as you will see has anti-trans consequences and is therefore transphobic hate speech.
Due to the 40,000 world limit of reddit which i surpassed, i will divide this into few parts (other parts in comments)

Part 1:

I’ve read all the arguments about femaleness not residing in the sexed body, and the assertions that biological women don’t have common experiences, and I find them, too, deeply misogynistic and regressive. It’s also clear that one of the objectives of denying the importance of sex is to erode what some seem to see as the cruelly segregationist idea of women having their own biological realities or – just as threatening – unifying realities that make them a cohesive political class. The hundreds of emails I’ve received in the last few days prove this erosion concerns many others just as much. It isn’t enough for women to be trans allies. Women must accept and admit that there is no material difference between trans women and themselves.

In my experience, as someone who is active in trans activism. Nobody says or invalidates that cis female experiences did not happen or shouldnt be talked about.

But, as many women have said before me, ‘woman’ is not a costume. ‘Woman’ is not an idea in a man’s head. ‘Woman’ is not a pink brain, a liking for Jimmy Choos or any of the other sexist ideas now somehow touted as progressive. Moreover, the ‘inclusive’ language that calls female people ‘menstruators’ and ‘people with vulvas’ strikes many women as dehumanising and demeaning. I understand why trans activists consider this language to be appropriate and kind, but for those of us who’ve had degrading slurs spat at us by violent men, it’s not neutral, it’s hostile and alienating.

JKR is specifically angry about "people who mensturate." (https://twitter.com/jk_rowling/status/1269382518362509313) I'd understand the dehumanizing nature of "mensturators" but the addition of "people" just cuts out the dehumanising aspect of trans inclusive language.
And ofcourse, her experience of sexual abuse making this unacceptable is worth acknowledgement. A step towards language understanding of past sexual abuse, and using trans inclusion is not made.

However, as Magdalen was a great believer in the importance of biological sex, and didn’t believe lesbians should be called bigots for not dating trans women with penises, dots were joined in the heads of twitter trans activists, and the level of social media abuse increased.

Its completely okay to not want to date someone, its completely not okay for that to be because she is trans.
Trans people are not dangerous. You do not have to perform any sexual act that you dont want to. A completely acceptable reality in safe cis-cis relationships. But somehow impossible in cis-trans relationships.

I must have been on my fourth or fifth cancellation by then. I expected the threats of violence, to be told I was literally killing trans people with my hate, to be called cunt and bitch and, of course, for my books to be burned, although one particularly abusive man told me he’d composted them.

By believing and sharing in art (tweets, that is language; and books) that trans (women) are dangerous. She promotes the belief that trans people are dangerous, leading to stigmatization, and violence. (https://www.un.org/en/hate-speech/understanding-hate-speech/hate-speech-and-real-harm) And that doesnt account for the harm using unaffirming actions can have (https://www.aap.org/en/news-room/aap-voices/sharing-pronouns-matters-and-it-can-help-save-lives/)
This one is 5 quotes from sections of the essay.

They’re worried about the dangers to young people, gay people and about the erosion of women’s and girl’s rights. Above all, they’re worried about a climate of fear that serves nobody – least of all trans youth – well.
The UK has experienced a 4400% increase in girls being referred for transitioning treatment. Autistic girls are hugely overrepresented in their numbers.
American physician and researcher Lisa Littman set out to explore it. In an interview, she said: ‘Parents online were describing a very unusual pattern of transgender-identification where multiple friends and even entire friend groups became transgender-identified at the same time. I would have been remiss had I not considered social contagion and peer influences as potential factors.’
Her [Lisa Littman] paper caused a furore. She was accused of bias and of spreading misinformation about transgender people, subjected to a tsunami of abuse and a concerted campaign to discredit both her and her work. The journal took the paper offline and re-reviewed it before republishing it. However, her career took a similar hit to that suffered by Maya Forstater. Lisa Littman had dared challenge one of the central tenets of trans activism, which is that a person’s gender identity is innate, like sexual orientation. Nobody, the activists insisted, could ever be persuaded into being trans.
The writings of young trans men reveal a group of notably sensitive and clever people. The more of their accounts of gender dysphoria I’ve read, with their insightful descriptions of anxiety, dissociation, eating disorders, self-harm and self-hatred, the more I’ve wondered whether, if I’d been born 30 years later, I too might have tried to transition. The allure of escaping womanhood would have been huge. I struggled with severe OCD as a teenager. If I’d found community and sympathy online that I couldn’t find in my immediate environment, I believe I could have been persuaded to turn myself into the son my father had openly said he’d have preferred.

In terms of gay people transitioning to escape homophobia (possible in countries such as India where homophobia is higher than transphobia, due to the deity status of trans people,) i find that's something to be addressed indeed, and i think all trans colleagues and allies would say the same. I dont think this was unaddressed when activism moved forward with self ID and easing access to HRT, Surgeries.
This response also applies to autistic girls, "social contagion," and he/him JKR.
The furore caused by her paper should be understood to be triggered "social contagion," being connected to "trans people should not be near you," not as evilness of trans activists.
In terms of "erosion of women's and girl's rights" i think i've addressed that this means for her already.

Can i complain about my line manager? Will I actually get an outcome?
Hi everyone.
I think my line manageteam leader is bullying me and I have had enough. But I don’t know if I’m overreacting so I need some more opinions.
I work in the healthcare sector in the U.K. - funny because I thought that’s where mental health and physical health would matter the most but clearly not to the people I work with.
I’ve been working at my current workplace for nearly 2 months now. But I feel like I am being so nitpicked by my current line manager. I must also point out although maybe not relevant that I am an ethnic minority in my workplace. I was late once due to traffic (I catch the bus - a bus that only comes once every 2 hours from my town) so it takes me an hour to get to the town where my workplace is. I was 7 mins late to my work place that once. Btw for my job I don’t need to swipe in or swipe out, you work according to your schedule - and in my diary I had nothing on till 9 so me coming at 8:07 was not effecting my performance in any way. I just feel like this line manager of mine just wants to nitpick and find any excuse to tell me off as he’s very new to having this sort of power of authority. That’s the first example that’s happened. The second example, i asked him if it’s possible for me to have more days in the week to work from home ( I currently only have Friday as work from home) OR be moved to the closer office that is very close to my house if they really need me to come in (bc I’m a newbie) instead of travelling 2hours for 4 days a week - and this is because I am also still a newish mum. I explained to him that my child is still an infant (my baby is 9months old) and I just feel like it would help me so much to have that request accepted. He said he will look into it but never agreed to it. What annoys me is that it’s easily a request that could be done - as many in my position are given working options that suit them. Example 3 - Im doing my job very well and I have gotten so many positive feedback from other colleagues - but not one single positive feedback from my line manager. Which is fine but it just makes me think he really has it against me for some reason? One of my colleagues even told me to be careful as she thinks he really does not like me and it seems that he is nitpicking on everything I do and waiting for me to slip up. This was her observation. Now Idk what to think , this has sealed what I’ve been feeling. As I initially thought it might be in my head.
Now latest example, I’ve been diagnosed recently with IBD unfortunately, so more trips to the loo. and last Thursday I was late to our teams catch up meeting that was at 9. I messaged him saying I was going to be a few mins late - as I had something personal going on (I was too embarassed to mention my diagnosis at this point because I just am not comfortable with this man at all). He proceeded to berate me and say I’m always late. I said to him I’ve only been late twice since I’ve started working? And that I had a good excuse for both occasions. He replies back saying I am “arguing back instead of taking his feeedback on board” I was like ????? I said to him I am defending myself because I don’t think the way you’ve been treating me is fair. He then says he’s going to put the request I told him about on hold bc he thinks I’m underperforming? At that point I just stayed quiet and thought to myself I’m never going to win here. I then told him I was recently diagnosed with IBD and it’s affecting me a lot mentally and physically. He was like “what’s that” and then Googled it and said it out loud in such a monotone voice. “Irritable bowel disease” and he literally showed me no empathy or nothing? Is this normal? What should’ve been my dream job is now a place I dread going to. I dread going to work and I feel so on edge everytime I am there. All weekend I’ve been crying and not knowing what to do. I even had thoughts of just quitting and staying at home caring for my baby instead of going aomewhere where they are not willing to understand or make any sort of adjustment because my line manager has it in for me for some reason. Please advice on what can I do? Is quitting my only option? I have spoken to the cultural and diversity lead in our workplace for advice but she said to me that perhaps I’m just feeling really emotional recently and just taking things the wrong way. But I’ve been employed before in the same sector and I’ve never been made to feel like this? She also said it’s unfortunately just the way the U.K. hierarchy employment scene works - “UK work politics where you have to play the game and just try to get on his good books until he likes you” just like the other newbies that have started they have to suck up to the manager. But I don’t understand why we need to do that? Surely that’s not a normal thing? Is there nothing I can do? I feel like after speaking to her that no one will listen to me. Even the higher up managers are buddies with my line manager so I feel like it’s a case of his word against mine. It’s just never going to end up with the result I want. The result that I want is to have a different manager - I cannot deal with this man anymore. I’ve had enough. Please if you were in my shoes what would you do. Thank you

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With my FoodStamps (EBT,Snap) they are low currently and I am unable to get food from the WinCo that is near me and I just need some food to keep me held over until my food-stamps reload I don’t need that much to keep me held over I only need maybe at most like 2 boxes of cereal
Thank you for reading this
—Elias Ainsworth

I'm struggling big time. I started at my job nearly a year ago as a casual educator because I am studying psychology at uni. I still love ECE but I was burnt out working full time and I want to pursue further education, casual seemed perfect for me. But, the centre is struggling with staff like every centre out there, so at the beginning of the year I got put on a part-time contract but the contract was set to end this month in time for my exams so I could take time off and focus on uni.
I have been sick all year. Constantly. I used up my sick leave pretty quickly and I've just been powering through, I went into the negatives at one point so now when I get sick I just accept that I have to keep going but it's been wearing on me and getting worse and worse. The stress of uni is making my immune system worse and I am feeling worse every day. I decided to ask my director to go back to being a casual, she was really understanding, and I felt good about having more flexibility again.
Well, it turns out my director was burnt out too. She left abruptly and understandably given her circumstances. We currently have no director and our centre is struggling even more than it was. The lady who has taken some of her roles didn't get the communication that I was back to being a casual and that I was taking time off and I have completely disappointed her. I was supposed to have today off but I had 3 missed calls asking where I was. Then, on top of that, I had to say that I need tomorrow off because I have now fallen quite ill (which was separate from why I had asked for the day off) but I am sick, physically, with stress. The next two weeks I have exams, so I am a no show
Everyone at my centre is sick with stress. I know it's not just me, the hygiene process is sooo lacking and we don't have any support, everyone is struggling. I feel so guilty. I am letting the staff down, and the children down, but I can't do it, I can't work right now, I'm completely burnt out and so is everyone. I'm surprised the centre isn't shutting down. I don't know what to do. I've worked when I have been sick too often but I need to rest now. Why is it so overwhelming for me? Why do some people just seem to cope so much better than I do?

I used to be able to do them. I managed to get a decent combo string with rain relatively often, but nowadays, I feel like I can't do anything in this game. At this point in time, I'm learning Kabal, but when I try to do a string I learned from the Daryus P video on him, he keeps doing buzzsaw instead of nomad dash. I'm literally tapping 1 three times before the back forward, followed by 3, but the game acts as if I did back forward 1 instead. It's practically RNG at this point whether or not a character actually does the move I'm entering inputs for, and because I'm so worried that the correct move isn't going to go through to begin with, I mess up the rest of the string when it actually does because I'm still in disbelief that it actually worked and now I don't have the reaction time to finish the string. Is there any way to fix this issue? It's starting to really frustrate me.
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EDIT: Figured I should add that this issue I'm having isn't exclusive to MK11. I play MKX on PC and I also have a very hard time with strings there too, though I still don't drop combos nearly as often on there as I do here.

Last month, I ended a 4-year long distance relationship with my bf from another country. I did because:

1. We had different views on marriage. Although he was willing to change his stance for me, I didn't want this to be a reason he resented me later on.
2. Moving to his country would mean giving up my family, friends and burgeoning career to go to a country where I don't speak the language and couldn't guarantee a well-paying job, at least for several months.
3. He was earning just enough to get by, which meant with me in the picture, we would struggle, especially if I couldn't find a job. He is satisfied with his income and has no intention of growing it. For him, it's great if he earns more down the line, but he's happy where he is now.
4. He had a pessimistic view on life where he is convinced the world is going to end, either by natural causes or a totalitarian takeover. He has every right to have these opinions, but he became convinced there was no point in trying in life because everything would be taken from him (Hence the lack of desire to achieve anything more than survive). I asked him what his plans for retirement were, and he said he doesn't expect to live beyond 60.
5. He had a complicated family dynamic, which could one day result in him having to support several of his family members. This isn't an unlikely scenario, I would consider him extremely lucky if his family doesn't depend on him at some point later in life. And he doesn't earn anywhere near enough to support his family and start a new one with me.

It was the worst decision I ever had to make in my life and I question it every day. He was gentle, considerate and I was his whole world. And I crushed that like it was nothing. Everyday, his pleas for me to give him a second chance rings in my head. How could I have hurt him like that?
That's why I secretly don't think I deserve to be in another relationship. I've been on a few dates since, but all I think about is him and miss the good times we had. If those issues were fixed, I'd go back to him in a heartbeat, but it's too late now. I was with a decent, kind man and I threw that away for nothing. Why shouldn't I be miserable and alone for the rest of my life?

I'll be going to Odd Cafe today at 7pm and will be working there until 9.
If you're near and wants to work, hangout, or just wanna say hi, message me!
We can grab dinner or drinks after :)
Happy Tuesday!

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Five thousand warships of the Vrrl Starfang Empire exited the Gate to Brilend Prime. The majority of the fleet was made up of battlecruisers and carriers, each built to resemble a stylized Vrrl in mid-leap. The fanged maws of the Vrrl warships were open, ready to unleash the devastating Ion Roarcannons the Empire was known for. Above each maw were three glowing green eyes, and four arms tipped with razor sharp claws stretched forth from the bodies of the beasts. Yvian knew from personal experience that the arms weren't just for show. They were fully articulate, and used to grab enemy ships in preparation for boarding actions. The back half of the ships were large rectangular blocks, bristling with weapons.
Yvian could only imagine the Military's panic at the sight of so many enemy ships. Vrrl ships were an order of magnitude more powerful than Confederation vessels. Even a small fleet of Vrrl battlecruisers could wipe out a sector, and they were famous for their love of sapient flesh. The Vrrl were nightmares in the Confed, second only to the humans. Even a Xill fleet could not have inspired more dread.
Yvian herself was sitting next to a control node on the Skygem. Mims, Kilroy, and Scarrend were with her. The crystal ship was parked inside the Priderender, Warmaster Scathach's ship. One of the handful of destroyers accompanying the fleet, the Priderender was a six kilometers long diamond. One half of the diamond was much longer than the other, giving the ship a dagger like appearance. It's hull was the color of blood, and it boasted two Roarcannons and hundreds of other weapons.
It hadn't been that long since Yvian had been in the sector, but the Confed had been busy. Between the Militia and the Military, their were over twenty million ships in the system. Civilian craft were still fleeing, streams of ships heading for all three of Brilend Prime's Jumpgates. Those heading for the Gate the Vrrl fleet had jumped through were all scattering and reversing course.
Heavy weapons platforms had been set up throughout the sector. Missile towers were being towed into place, five kilometers around and stuffed to the brim with heavy ordinance. The Military were taking the Vore seriously. Not that it would do them any good.
Nearly a full frantic minute passed before anyone hailed the Priderender. The few thousand Militia ships that were stationed near the Gate were all fleeing. Four million of the closest Military ships had turned, moving to form up with each other so they could engage the Vrrl as a group. Yvian listened in as Warmaster Scathach answered the hail.
"Attention Vrrl ships. This is High Admiral Bruck of the Confederation Military. You are in violation of Confederation space. Leave now or be destroyed."
"This is Warmaster Skrell Scathach," the Warmaster answered. "Sheathe your claws, softpaw. We are not here for you." As he spoke, the Vrrl fleet plotted a course for deep space, in the direction of the incoming Sphere. "It is the Vore we have come to hunt."
"Leave now or be destroyed," the High Admiral repeated. It was a threat the Admiral could back up. The Vrrl fleet was a match for Confed force six times its size, but the Military had them outnumbered four thousand to one.
"We are leaving," the Warmaster told him. "We will exit your solar system in fourteen hours to meet the Vore in deep space."
"Your assistance is unnecessary." High Admiral Bruck spoke slowly, a menacing anger infusing his otherwise professional tone. "Leave our space now, or face the consequences."
"Consequences?" The Warmaster scoffed. "It is you who should consider the consequences, High Admiral Bruck. You do not have the forces or technology to destroy us."
"I've got twenty million ships that say different," Bruck argued.
"And how many of those can match our speed?" asked the Warmaster. "Your fastest capitol ships move at a third the speed of my slowest. Our weapons outrange yours." Skrell Scathach released a rumbling growl. "I'm only bothering to speak to you to keep you from wasting our time. We will hunt the Vore. If we succeed, your planet will be saved. If we fail, we will die." He softened his voice to a more reasonable tone. "I won't ask you to show your belly, softpaw, but I will give you a choice. Leave us to our hunt, and take the time to prepare for the greater enemy. We will avoid your ships and stations, and do all in our power to destroy the Vore." His voice was matter of fact, and scarier for it. "Or you can fight. We will still face the Vore, but we will do so leaving your shattered hulls and broken bodies in our wake."
"Is he bluffing?" Yvian wondered.
"He is the Warmaster." Scarrend said with obvious pride. "He doesn't need to bluff."
"Most of their forces are preparing-" Mims cut himself off as High Admiral Bruck gave his reply.
"Do you really think you can destroy that thing with just five thousand ships?"
"Our weapon has worked once before, High Admiral Bruck," the Warmaster told him. "But I can give no guarantees."
The High Admiral mulled that over. After a few seconds, he said. "Very well. We won't stop you. But if you come near my ships or my stations I will personally blow you out of the sky."
"Well spoken, High Admiral Bruck," Skell Scathach approved. "Perhaps your paws are not so soft after all."
The next twenty hours passed slowly. The Warmaster kept his word. The Vrrl fleet kept its distance from the Confed as it moved into deep space. Yvian slept as best she could. The Skygem's living quarters had been furnished, but the ship's habit of filling itself with methane meant she couldn't remove her helmet and get comfortable.
When she stumbled back out onto the bridge, Mims stood. "My turn. Wake me if anything happens."
"There's no need for such distrust," Scarrend chided. "The Vrrl Starfang Empire honors its agreements."
"I have no way of confirming that," said the human.
"Trust is unnecessary," said Kilroy. "This unit is sufficient to prevent betrayal."
"Normally I'd agree with you." The Captain yawned. "But the Vrrl are just as resourceful as humans, and they know about you. It's possible they could come up with countermeasures."
"I wouldn't let them," said Scarrend. "I've sworn my life to yours."
"I told you I don't want it." Mims stood up and stretched. "To tell the truth, I'm pretty sure no one's going to try anything, but we're sitting in the only weapon we've got that can stop the Vore, along with two of the only three people capable of wielding it. Not to mention that Yvian and I are basically heads of state. A little paranoia seems like a good idea."
"Perhaps." Scarrend gave a thoughtful rumble. "I still think the fission bomb is excessive."
Yvian looked over at the bomb in question. It was a nuclear torpedo. Mims had rigged it to detonate by remote control. Yvian, Kilroy, and the human each carried a detonator. The human and the Peacekeeper seemed casual about it, but Yvian was still nervous about hers. What if it went off by mistake?
"Probably," the Captain admitted. "The bomb will destroy us, the Skygem, and any pieces of it big enough to offer scientific value. It'll take out the Priderender, too, but death threats are sort of wasted on your species."
"My species," huffed Scarrend, "has not broken a treaty once in our entire history."
"Your entire history is less than two hundred years," countered the human.
"Wait, what?" Yvian looked at the Vrrl. "Is that true?"
"You didn't know?" Scarrend cocked his head.
"That can't be right." Yvian tried to scratch the back of her head, but had to settle for scratching the back of her helmet. "How could a species achieve space flight in only two hundred years?"
"We didn't," said the Vrrl. "We took our technology from the gods themselves."
"The gods?"
"The Varma," Captain Mims clarified. He flopped back down in his chair. "The Vrrl are genetically programmed to treat them with respect and reverence."
"Genetically programmed?"
"The Vrrl didn't evolve naturally," said the Captain. "They were bioengineered." He looked over at Scarrend. "You mind if I tell her the story?"
"I suppose." Scarrend leaned back in his chair, folding his upper arms behind his head. "I'm curious to hear it from a human perspective."
"Alright." Mims yawned again. "The Varma were a minor power. They controlled six sectors, and they shared a border with three other species they hated. They sort of bordered the Federation, too, but it was two months travel from their space to ours, so we didn't really interact much."
"The other three nations hated each other just as much as they hated the Varma, so no one was willing to form an alliance, and no one was willing to commit to a total war knowing the other species would jump in and genocide their asses at the first opportunity. It was a stalemate that had lasted for centuries."
"The Grinjaw, the Yauwen, and the Holii," Scarrend provided. "Villains and weaklings, barely worthy of being called prey."
"If you say so." Mims moved on. "Anyway, the Varma weren't particularly advanced with ships and weaponry, but they were masters of bioengineering. Mostly because they never outlawed it like most sane species do."
"Isn't genetic manipulation a basic part of medical science?" Scarrend asked.
"Sure," said the Captain. "But experimenting to make new life forms is a whole other thing. Us humans made that mistake a couple of times, and almost got ourselves genocided. Now any attempt to make new creatures or 'enhanced humans' is met with immediate and overwhelming force."
"Huh," Yvian grunted. "I was taught that humans modified themselves a long time ago. That that's how you became such monsters."
"Propaganda," he told her shortly. "Anyway, the Varma decided to make themselves an army. They picked out the nastiest, scariest predators they could find, and modified the hell out of them. It took half a century, and a lot of horrific experimentation, but they eventually engineered their perfect soldiers. Hyper intelligent, hyper aggressive monsters with a pack mentality and a taste for sapient flesh."
"They designed you to eat intelligent life?" Yvian's eyebrows went up, even though no one would be able to see.
"They designed us to crave it," said Scarrend. He shrugged. "We can survive on animal flesh, but it is far less fulfilling. Similar to how you can subsist on water, but constantly yearn for beer."
"The Vrrl turned out to be a huge success," Mims continued. "Not only were they effective in combat, but they could breed rapidly, and their heightened intelligence led to a serious upgrade in weapons tech. In less than a decade, the Vrrl formed the backbone of the Varma Military. They spent the next twenty years or so hunting the other three species into extinction."
"We consumed the unworthy in the name of the gods," Scarrend agreed.
"Yeah." Mims ran a hand over the back of his neck. "Anyway, the Varma had just started consolidating their gains and taking possession of their three shiny new planets when everything went wrong. Some bigshot decided they didn't need a hundred million Vrrl army anymore. Tried to cull them down to a more manageable number."
"We still don't understand why the gods turned against us," Scarrend admitted. "We'd done everything they'd asked."
"Fear, maybe," guessed the human. "Or maybe they just didn't see you as people. You were a genetically engineered slave army, after all."
Scarrend growled.
"As you can imagine, the Vrrl didn't take kindly to being killed off, gods or no gods." The Captain moved on. "They fought back. The Varma had the upper hand, at first. They'd ordered the Vrrl off their ships before the killing started. The real problems didn't start until some of the Vrrl managed to commandeer a Military ship. They got blown out of the sky, but not before they could get a message out. The half of the Vrrl that weren't supposed to be killed were still out in the void, armed to the teeth and piloting the most advanced ships the Varma could muster. The message told them three things."
"The gods are killing us," Scarrend intoned. "The gods can die..."
"And the gods are fucking delicious," Mims finished for him. "We think it was a side effect of the genetic programming. Any Vrrl who tasted Varma flesh became instantly addicted. The war that followed was barely a war at all. It was more like a feeding frenzy."
"Our people's greatest mistake," Scarrend said mournfully. "My ancestors ate every single god with no thought of the future. Now they are gone, and no Vrrl will ever taste such succulence again."
"And that's why most species don't do bioengineering," the human finished. "Slave armies aren't a good idea in general. Designing them to be stronger and smarter than you is worse. But programming them to eat you?" Mims shook his head. "Ever since we got the story, humans use the phrase 'Varma award' to describe anyone too stupid to live."
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Author's Note: I'm gonna take a week off. I've got a thing I gotta do out of state, and I'm not bringing my computer. I'll make it up to you when I come back.

I'm in chapter 6 and I've been looking for a moose with antlers for the whole game, it's the only camp upgrade I'm missing.
So far I've only encountered 2 but they were females or 2 stars so no antlers.
I've also watched every tutorial to force spawn them in various locations from 4 years to 11 months ago with no results for me.
I hunted the legendary moose up north hoping that after killing the thing some regular ones would spawn in that area as indicated in the map but nothing.
I've been to the out of bounds part of Ambarino, Owanjila, the forest near that veteran's cabin (the guy who gets killed by a giant boar in chapter 6) and basically all the spots and tips that all these guides and tutorials show, like reloading the game, setting up camp and rest until morning, using herbivore bait in specific areas, etc.
I've spent real days with this and I want to progress and finish the game with all the camp upgrades, what do I do?

For about a year now I've been looking for the leather biker jacket that's right for me. Initially, I found AllSaints. I really enjoyed the look of most of their leather jackets, but none of them fit me well. The sleeves were always much too long.
Since then, I've found this Abercrombie jacket that's rather similar. I have other garments from Abercrombie so I'm confident this would fit. The thing is, I have no idea what kind of quality to expect here. I knew I could trust AllSaints' jackets since they have a pretty good reputation when it comes to leather jackets. Abercrombie on the other hand, not so much. Do you guys have any pointers here to make sure I'm getting a nice jacket? Any questions I could ask customer service? I understand the quality of this jacket would be no where near something like Schott, but I also just graduated college last week and don't quite have $1000 dollars to spend on a jacket quite yet. This is definitely an option within my price range that I like the look of.
Any help is appreciated!

Hello all. I'm afraid this will be a bit of a boring read because it is such a common situation, but for the very same reason, I'm sure many of you out there will have experienced something similar and come out the other end with some experience and hindsight that I am unfortunately lacking.
I'm nearing the end of my first year at university. I've been friends with this girl since the start of the year, but over the past two weeks I have very rapidly developed feelings for her. I've always had a small crush, I suppose, but she began dating someone in the year above very early into the year (before we knew each other as well), so since she was 'off limits' I always viewed our relationship as strictly platonic.
She is naturally quite a flirty person, and I suppose what made me realise/develop these feelings was this flirting increasing in intensity. I'm not sure if it's specifically towards me or not, but it does seem to be, at least a little bit: the girl keeps sitting on my bedroom floor until 2am playing Hozier songs and staring at me and jokingly moving closer to me at dinner tables and the like. Still, she seems perfectly happy in her relationship, she sees her girlfriend often and always has nice things to say about her.
After exams, I'm meant to go stay in her house for a few nights before flying home (I live overseas). She has informed me cheerfully that we will be sleeping in the same bed. For obvious reasons, I am not looking forward to this. Obviously I do not like having unrequited feelings for someone, especially if I somehow also feel like the 'other woman'. I have told one of our other close, mutual friends about this, and she does seem to think it is all unwitting on the part of the girl in question, which is good on the one hand (I don't think her intentions are malicious) but also sad on the other (obviously there is a small part of me that wants her to leave her girlfriend and be with me, haha). I can't really trust my own judgement on the situation, so I feel hers (the mutual friend's) is the best I have to go on.
This is all quite distressing for the obvious reasons but also because we are 2 weeks away from finals and I simply do not have time to be stressing about this. My question is essentially whether I should distance myself from the friendship and stop 'enabling' the flirty behaviour for the next couple of weeks, given my own feelings (both for my sake and the girlfriend's). I would probably still go and stay with her after exams out of necessity, but perhaps by then the tension would have eased up a bit and I would be able to enjoy her company as a friend again. Or should I just keep going on the way I'm going, and hope the passion just dies naturally? Do sudden-onset feelings tend to dissipate as quickly as they come, or am I essentially just screwed?
I definitely do not want to tell her about these feelings in case they do go away, and also because how awkward it would make everything, staying alone with her at her house. I also don't have many close friends, and am afraid this would irreparably shift the dynamics we currently have. Are these good enough reasons to not be honest?
I'm feeling so mixed up and stuck about this that any and all advice would be very much appreciated.

I see a lot of posts saying how this is wrong or that doesn't work, so I wanted to share my views and experience.
I'm a mid range GenX - 1971. ( yes, I'm oldish and childish) My first gaming experience was Pong, then onto Space Invaders and Asteroids. Later my mate had an Atari which blew my mind, I could game with a friend at home. When 11, I saved for a whole year to buy a 16K ZXSpectrum, yes 16k. The next year I got an upgrade to 48k via a socket on the back. Loved Manic Miner... In later years I saw the Mega Drive, Sonic was revolutionary.
If someone had told me back then that I would be able to play a game looking like real life with people around the world in real time. That I could shoot them accurately and be able to talk to my squad, I would have nearly shat myself with excitement and disbelief. I play on PC (mid range and 5 years old now) and I still find it staggering that its even possible let alone works as well as it does. I've played it since Early access and watched it grow and develop. I paid £28 for it and have extracted over 2500 hrs of solid fun.
So to me and I would like to assume other GenX players, we are in an amazing world and are extremely privileged to be able to play Hell Let Loose.
The point is, it's a game, nothing more. I enjoy it for what it not what I think it should be. I accept the problems and idiosyncrasies that surely come from developing such a hugely expansive game as part of that development.
Add to that my reasonably popular TikTok channel (@djpseudonym) which has allowed me to find even more friends to game with as well as share my enjoyment (I have what turns out to be a trade mark dirty laugh) then I have to say to all...
Just enjoy the game for what it is, its not perfect but life isn't.
Thank you to the developers for bringing such an incredible game to life.
See you on the Battlefield.. Ill be the one with the Satchel or AT gun looking for you and laughing..
DJ