6 weeks beach body workout plan

Age - 26
Sex - F
Height - 5’10
Weight - 165
Race - White
Duration of complaint - 3 days
Location - dull pain in lower right stomach and back
Any existing relevant medical issues IBS & Migraines
Current medications Nurtec
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I have unprotected sex w my husband. Had a full period 15 days ago but experiencing dizziness and nausea and now this intermittent dull pain. I also had a tiny amount of yellow discharge. I do not drink or smoke or do drugs. I workout 5-6 days a week. Ovarian cysts are common in my family but I’ve never had one and my period is very regular. Not sure if this warrants a trip to ER but I’m getting more and more worried. Pain is not increasing.

Mostly just looking for reassurance/solidarity. I'm a nonbinary butch lesbian and I got top surgery about 6 weeks ago. My partner (also a nonbinary butch lesbian....lol) has been very supportive of me and they respect the decisions I make about my body. However I still get anxious sometimes and worry that they're less attracted to me or feel like less of a lesbian bc I don't have boobs now. Like I worry they're just reassuring me to be nice. I want to believe they're attracted to my new chest and not just okay with it.

Been low carb for about a week or two, and I've been enjoying it! I'm still kind of used to eating a lot of carbs for snacks since they were easy to grab/default to, so I'm looking for things are easy to make, preferably with minimum cooking and prep.
Some of my go-tos are cottage cheese with various things (usually sweet, like berries with a drizzle of honey), greek yogurt with seeds, a few mini chocolate chips, seeds, and a drizzle of honey, charcuterie without crackers (cheese, meat, and pickles), hotdogs baked in the oven and lightly glazed with honey, hot sauce, and a little bit of soy sauce, various salads. Currently eating tuna salad without the bread, just out of a bowl.
Wheat things are okay, and I'd love to hear suggestions regardless. I'm cutting it out for a while to keep lower carb and to see how I feel, and plan reintroduce it later and see if my body is fine with it.

So I started fasting about two weeks ago 18:6. Sometimes 20:4 if Im busy at work. I feel like my workouts are solid (5 days of exercise a week) but Im having trouble deciding how many calories I should be eating. Some say 1200 or less others say 1200 is too little calories. For context I usually drink black or green tea, salads, yogurts, riced cauliflower, lots of turkey and chicken. Beef when I get sick of poultry. Im not necessarily eating keto but I avoid carbs unless Im really really craving pasta. Im trying to lose like 20lbs before a trip in late May advice would be really useful 😁.

K♥️: Sanctuary [Part 2]
This game is the last entry of a series of games, where I have written games for all 52 cards for a borderlands in the UK. Each one includes a story of how I imagine the game playing out. You can find all entries here.
Venue: Church
Rules: Live in the church until the pastor presses the button
Fourth Day of Exhibitions
The day began almost the same as the other three. They woke up, they ate breakfast they got to work. They had gotten to work, but still, Alfie refused to work.
Roger had worked in the garden, and was happy with the work he had done filling up all the allotted land, before he walked in to tell Noah. As he went to look for him, he caught sight of Alfie, and walked over to him.
“Why do you continue to refuse to work?” Roger asked Alfie.
“I’ve told you, he’s manipulating you! Can’t you see it? All he needs to do is lull you into a false sense of security, then he can slowly pick you off one by one. Once he has your trust he can keep going, and going, and then you’re all dead. He wins.” Alfie said.
“You’re crazy.” Roger said, turning away.
“I’m Crazy!? After all we’ve been through, you walk in here and only a day later you’re worshiping the guy. He is literally the King of Hearts!” Alfie shouted at him.
“Is everything alright here gentlemen?” Noah said, walking up to them.
“No Noah, it’s fine” Roger said walking away.
Noah watched Roger walk away, after telling him that the garden had been finished.
“Alfie. This is your last warning. Please join the colony, or I will have to punish you. Now, get to work.” Noah said, before walking away. Alfie stood where he was.
Noah waited to see if Alfie would join them in the Kitchen, but after a few hours, when it was time for lunch, Alfie still hadn’t turned up.
Noah gathered all the workers, handing out food.
“Today, I have to make a notice. One of our colonists is refusing to work. Yet, he sleeps in our beds, eats our food, and benefits from your labour. But does he help? No. He refuses. That man, is Alfie.” Noah pointed at him. “I would advise you to stay away from him, he is a dangerous influence to our colony. I will try and get him to work, but he will likely refuse once more, like the selfish person he is. That is all.” He said, before sitting down for food.
Alfie walked out in anger.
They finished their meal, and Noah walked to the gate, to see if any new colonists would arrive. He took a bite from his apple, and saw an old woman approaching.
“Hello, my child. Are you’re to join our sanctuary?” He asked, and the woman looked back at him confused, before she walked into the churchyard.
“Are you just going to ignore me?” Noah said.
“Tell me the rules then.” The old woman said.
“The rules are simple. No violence, don’t leave the churchyard. To clear the game, I need to press the button on the church altar freely.” The King said.
“What?” The Old woman said. “That’s not a game!?”
“This place is our sanctuary. Here we can live until our eventual end without having to see the horrible suffering the games cause, or by having to participate in them.” Noah explained.
“Why on earth should I even trust you?” The Woman said.
“It’s because it’s the truth. This place is a true place of safety that frees you from the games.” Roger said, walking up, followed by another gardener.
“Wait, how long have you been here?” The old woman asked them.
“He was here since the start, I arrived yesterday. Trust me, Noah is telling the truth. This place is a little slice of safety in an uncaring world.” Roger said, as the man nodded.
“Thank you for your help Roger. I presume you have finished the garden?” Noah said.
“Yes Noah. We still have a few seeds left over, however, so we may want to increase the size of the garden.” Roger responded.
“Ok. I’ll discuss it with the planners later. For now, I will give our guest here, a tour of our sanctuary.” Noah said, leading the old woman into the church. “What is your name?”
“Margret.” The old woman responded.
“Margret, it is nice to have you here. In this main hall is our dormitory, and at the end we have set up a kitchen. Outside is the garden and where we keep the animals. We also have extra rooms for enter-“ Noah said, being cut off by a voice from the other end of the church.
“Got a new sheep, have you Noah? Trying to get a on record on your brainwashing?” Alfie said, scowling at him while lent against a wall.
“Ignore him, he is a selfish freeloader who seeks to tear the place apart.” Noah said, quickly ushering Margret down into the lower floors.
“If you join Tracy in the planning room, I’ll assure you that she’ll find a good role for you. I have to deal with our trouble maker for a second.” Noah said, heading back up the stairs.
He met with Alfie.
“I’m begging you Alfie, please stop trying to destroy what we have here. We can live at peace with each other, defy the evil of this world. Just join us and all will be forgiven.” Noah said, pleading with him.
“I won’t believe your lies Noah.” Alfie said.
“Very well. I give you until sunrise tomorrow to reconsider.” Noah said walking away.
“Or what? Your own rules state no violence!” Alfie said.
“Violence is subjective. A push is not, under my definition, violence.” Noah said.
“Was that a threat!?” Alfie said, running towards Noah, jumping on to him. “Is this violence!?” He shouted at Noah.
Noah lay on the ground, awaiting Alfie to punch him.
“Come on. Do it. Punch me Alfie. You know how much you want to do it. Break your friends out from under my spell. Do it. It’s really easy. Just one sw-“
He felt a sharp pain across his face, and heard Alfie collapse to the floor.
Roger raced in, and saw the two of them on the floor.
“Noah!” He shouted. “Alfie!”
Noah stood up. “I’m fine, but your friend just came up and started att-“
Noah exhaled. “I’m sorry about him.”
“It’s ok. He wasn’t contributing.” Roger said.
“We will hold a service as soon as possible. Get started on the grave.”
Roger nodded, and gathered the gardeners to prepare a place to bury Alfie.
Noah looked at the roof, seeing the light stream in from where the laser had shot down. He would need to get it fixed. He went down to the planning room, and informed them of the news, before he added the fixing of the roof and the expansion of the garden to the to do list.
“Tracy, I’m very sorry for your loss.” Noah said.
“It’s hard to believe that he did it in the end…” She said, trailing off.
Noah announced the news to everyone at dinner, saying that he was sorry to have lost a member of the colony, even if he was unwilling and uncooperative.
By this point Margret had joined the planners and the cooks, and had become a valuable assistant.
They settled into their beds, Noah not telling them any tales today.
Fifth Day of Exhibitions
Noah awoke early that morning, and went onto the roof. There were half gone now. He was surprised to see that Jack had made it this far. The Queen of hearts still hung in the sky too, and he looked at the card. He was not a betting man, but was sure that the Queen and him would outlast the others.
He woke up the cooks and they got to work preparing breakfast. They ate at their bunks, talking amongst themselves. Today’s breakfast was scrambled eggs, a delicacy many had not enjoyed for weeks. They were glad for such a delicious meal, and many thanked Noah for providing it.
The day passed smoothly for the first few hours, and everyone did their tasks. Now with Alfie out of the way, things seemed to have calmed down. He wasn’t sure if Alfie’s ideas had spread to anyone else, but he was sure he had managed to stamp out any possible support he had by portraying Alfie badly. Not even his friends supported him.
He walked up to the gates, eating from an apple. He watched weary until just before lunch, when a woman, her hands bandaged, began to walk up to the gates. She was dragging herself slowly, and he alerted those with any form of medical training to gather to their medical room as soon as she crossed the threshold.
The woman stepped in, seemingly not herself, and Noah quickly rushed the rules out to her before the medics carried her to try and treat her.
Clearly the Jack of spades had not been successful in his endeavours, and had now fallen.
He was informed the woman would be fine, and that she simply had been suffering from the cuts on her hands and a lack of water. They theorised that she may even have walked into the venue by accident.
Noah supervised various activities, before returning to greet the woman properly. She told him about her experience with the Jack of Spades, and he comforted her, telling her that she had entered the sanctuary and she was now safe from al of the other games.
He got her some of the soup they had made for lunch, and she ate it, gratefully. He asked her what she would like to do as a job once she recovered, recommending hard physical labor jobs due to her Jack of spades victory, and she agreed.
The afternoon passed smoothly, now the influence of Alfie had left, and they could live together in harmony.
In the evening, Noah got the woman, Kim, to recall her Jack of Spades experience, before he explained, that without this place, without the medical team, she may have died, yet now, here she was, free from all of that. He used her story to strengthen the trust they placed in him, as, after all, he had to keep them in his support if he wanted the sanctuary to continue.
He then began to talk about who the Jack of Spades was, and how he disapproved of his game. He told them about how the Jack of Spades was by no means a bad person to begin with. He had been kind, supportive, and a good friend to him, but once they arrived, he lost sight of his old self. He started to distrust Noah, and became the evil villain that had tortured Kim in his game. But Noah was different. He resisted that. He wanted the best for them.
A lone clap came from the back of the hall to interrupt Noah’s story.
“Very good, very good. You’ve used another person and their story to increase the trust others have for you, and quite frankly, it’s a wonderful idea. This game, the sanctuary, is great. You’ve found a perfect way to keep everyone alive while still preserving yourself. You spit in the face of the creator of this place. Amazing. The only problem is, I’m here to win.” A man in a hoodie said, walking forward. “Sorry, I forgot to introduce myself. I’m Lucas, and I just beat the queen of hearts. I’ve come to finish the trio off.”
Noah looked at him. “Well, I think you are going to find that rather difficult….” Noah said. “I have no lan of pressing that button, and no one in this hall but you wants me to do so…”
“We’ll see, won’t we. Now, which bed do I get. I’ve had a long last hour.” Lucas responded. Noah pointed to a bunk, and Lucas lay down.
Noah continued his story, before they all went to bed.
Sixth Day of Exhibitions
It was just him and Jack left now. The fact Jack had made it this far surprised him considerably, considering the nature of his game. Who knows, maybe God was looking out for him.
His routine was slightly different that morning. Instead of waking the cooks and preparing breakfast, he awoke Lucas.
“Perhaps we got off on the wrong foot yesterday. I am willing to give you a tour of the church, and then maybe you can tell me where you want to work. Let me assure you, this place is where you want to be. You don’t want to play any of the other games. You don’t want to clear all the games.” Noah said
“Yeah, whatever.” Lucas responded, getting up. “Although, in future, could you not wake me up so early in the morning?”
“Of course.” Noah said, leading him away.
He showed him the garden, the livestock, the underground rooms, and finally the Kitchen, where Lucas decided he wanted to work. He told Noah that he had always enjoyed cooking, and was quite good at it. Noah agreed to let him do so, and Lucas began to get to work on breakfast, as Noah woke the others up.
Lucas seized his chance, slowly walking out of the building with two sacks of potatoes, throwing them behind the wall, putting them outside of the area. He could slowly do this with all of the food, and then wreck the garden, Noah would quickly fall out of favour with the others. :Lucas did also realise, that in doing so would also damage his reputation, but he hoped most of the blame would fall on Noah.
He spent most of his day secretly throwing food out of the venue, before someone pointed out that someone had spilled a sack of potatoes just outside the churchyard.
Noah came to inspect it, and said that whoever it was should come forward, and Noah wouldn’t be angry.
Lucas stepped forward. “I’m sorry Noah, but I was carrying the potatoes, when I accidentally dropped them, and they all spilled out. I tried to throw the rest out to hide the evidence, but that was clearly a mistake.”
Lucas made his face look guilty, and Noah put his hand on Lucas shoulder.
“It is forgiven.” He said, before leaning in to Lucas “I know what you are doing. Stop, Now.” He whispered in Lucas’ ear.
Lucas looked at him, and nodded. Lucas walked back to the Kitchen, and began to properly work. He found that there were no other opportunities to get rid of food, so while everyone ate their food, he sat in silence contemplating when he could strike again.
He returned to work, and over a couple of hours, deliberated a conundrum.
The no violence rule should shield him from being stopped, so he could simply do it in broad daylight.
Just to be sure, Lucas waited until no-one was properly looking at him, or at the food.
Lucas saw a chance. He knew it was risky, but the no violence rule theoreticallymeant no one could stop him.
He picked up two bags in full view of everyone, and ran outside, throwing them through the gates.
“What the hell is he doing!?” Roger shouted.
“He’s decreasing the food supply to try and destroy our sanctuary! We must cats him out while we have the chance!” One of the gardeners shouted, and he rushed towards Lucas, about to push him.
“Wait! Don’t! No violence, remember?” Roger shouted.
“A push isn’t violence!” The Man shouted.
He prepared himself to push Lucas out of the churchyard, when an announcement rang out.
“There is only one game remaining. The Game is the King of Hearts. To join, please make your way to the venue.”
They stopped dead.
“Wait, if that’s true, then all that needs to happen for us to win is for Noah to press the button!” Roger said.
“Yes, but if we win we just have to become citizens ourselves. That isn’t what I want. I don’t want to have to create a game. I would rather stay here, with Noah. Don’t you? Or would you rather he died? Are you a traitor?” Someone said, and others agreed.
Roger was terrified. “That’s not what I meant..” He said, nervously.
“My children, calm down.” Noah said, walking out. “There is no need for our sanctuary to end because the other games have. We can still continue. Who is with me, and wishes to remain?”
The crowd gave a mixed reaction.
“After all I have done for you, after everything, you do not wish to remain?” Noah said, puzzled.
“Well Noah, one thing you underestimated was the human want for something they don’t have. Many here want to be able to leave the churchyard, which they can do if you press the button. In fact, your game is now more of a hindrance than an advantage. If you do press the button, they can at least go wherever they want. While you still live, They are confined to this churchyard.” Lucas said.
Noah was about to respond, when there was a large creaking from the church doors.
Four people walked in, the one at the front asking if he was interrupting.
“You…” Lucas said, looking at the schoolboy that had spoken, and then to the woman. “I’m surprised she made it this far. She cared way to much about people. Wheras you,” He said, looking at Ben. “I’m not one bit surprised. After you betrayed your friend, I knew you had it in you to survive this world.”
He turned back to the group. “See, now all the other games have gone, you will get more and more of these maniacs coming to make a stain on your perfect colony. Consider it-“
The door creaked open again, and three men and a woman walked in.
“As I was saying, more and more arrivals will come, and you will have to try harder and harder to keep them here. Anyway, I await you decision Noah. I am going to sleep now.” Lucas said, walking over to his bunk, listening as the crowd erupted into chaos.
Seventh Day of Exhibitions
Lucas was awoken by the now familiar voice.
“The Button has been pressed. For all remains players, it is game clear.”
He shot up, seeing the others all looking around similarly. Lucas looked at the altar, where Noah’s dead body lay. It seems he crumpled under the pressure, and had decided to end his sanctuary.
The room was lit up with bright light from outside, and they all got up to make their way out.
Fireworks littered the sky, and as they filed out of the churchyard, they saw the King of Hearts Blimp explode behind them, and crash into the sanctuary.
“And I told him not to wake me early..” Lucas muttered.
“All Games have been cleared.” The Voice announced, and Lucas and the others continued to watch the fireworks displays.
“Now, the remaining players are offered a choice to continue the Death matches of the borderlands with Lifelong citizenship All player must individually provide a response now please.”
Lucas was the first to speak.
“I accept citizenship.”
Around him a chorus of declinations began, as he watched various players toying with what to choose.
John stood next to Grace, Sam, and Chris. They agreed together that they would decline citizenship.
They said it together.
Ben and James looked at each other. They knew they couldn’t continue in this world, and so rejected.
Alex and Mia did the Same. So did Kim, Roger, Tracy, Flo, and Margret.
They looked at the fireworks in the sky, which eventually coalesced to one glowing beacon in the sky, which slowly expanded, engulfing them.
Lucas shielded his eyes, and when he opened them, he found himself in an underground office, with various computers and chairs around. He looked at the table, seeing on it laid a King of Hearts card.
He stared at it, confused.
1st Day of Restitution
“Yesterday, at around 10:00, there was a disastrous collapse at the Theatre, which has left large lists of casualties in its wake. A burst gas pipe caused the building to collapse as a result of its old age, burying many under layers of rubble. This follows yesterdays news of a bus crash in much the same place, which left 19 people in critical condition, all of whom have now passed. We are sure the city, as well as the greater region, will feel the affects of these two disasters for many years to come, and may never recover from the loss. Our heartfelt condolences to all the families.”
John clicked off the news broadcast. He was recovering in hospital from the events the previous day. He had been unlucky enough to be next to the theatre when it collapsed, burying him and the patient in the bed next to him under rubble. He looked over to the man in the hoodie laid out next to him, as well as the younger blond man on his right. He was glad to see some people had made it out safe, and he felt like he knew them well, assuming it was something to do with shared trauma.
In another part of the hospital, grace awoke next to her colleagues, Tracy, Flo, and Roger. It had been hard on her, the entire production crew, the actors, almost everyone involved in the production had been lost. She didn’t know any of them that well, but as she listened to the news broadcast run through the hundreds of dead, she couldn’t help but wonder why she was left alive. But she knew now she had to continue to live for those who had died, she couldn’t let herself get too wrapped up in the past. She wondered why her Dad hadn’t visited her yet, and asked one of the nurses to see if he had asked for her. The nurse informed her he had, but that he couldn’t see her as he was still being tended to. Grace was surprised by the fact her Dad had been there during the accident, but told the nurse she wanted to see him as soon as possible.
In another wing of the hospital, James turned to talk to ben, one of the only remaining members of his form. Mia lay next to him, drifting in and out of sleep. He had never really spoken to them, but felt he knew them really well.
Ben had been crying, thinking about everyone that had been lost, and James had shed a few tears too. While he had never really liked certain members of form, like Ellis, he didn’t think any of them had deserved this. Ben and James started to talk about their lives, and how grateful they were to be alive. Ben thought about how he had lost almost all his friends with one cruel sweep. The day before he had still been clinging on to the hope Jack would recover, but now their whole form was gone. Sophie, Tom, everyone.
Alex lay in bed, in hospital, watching the news play, informing everyone of the incident at the theatre. She found it hard to believe she had been there, and made it out. As the long list of casualties scrolled past, she felt so lucky to be alive. She caught sight of the name Kathrine Foreman on the screen, and couldn’t shake the feeling she had heard it somewhere before, it was like it was a person she couldn’t remember, a name she couldn’t put a face to. She lay back down, her arms and legs in pain.
Lucas
He awoke, breathing heavily. He saw that he was where he should be, in the city, with everything in place.
Ever since accepting residency his dreams had been plagued with visions of doctors and nurses, talking about how he was comatose. He brushed the thoughts out of his mind, walking over to a sink and throwing water into his face.
He was alone here. No one else had chosen to stay. Yet, he still new almost as much as he did before. Why he was here, where here was, all lay unanswered. He shrugged.
He walked over to the table, preparing himself some food.
This was not what he had expected from citizenship, he must admit, but he welcomed the freedom of this world, even if no one could share it with him. The fax machine on the desk whirred, and he walked over to it, having only seen it in action once before. A list of names shot out of a fax machine near him, and he looked at them.
It was a table, with two columns. ‘Arrival date’ and ‘Player Name’. He had also been provided with a difficulty. Seven of Spades.
He looked at the paper, and smiled. This was more what he had been expecting.
From u/Other-Borderlands:
Thank you so, so, so, much for reading. I’ve struggled with keeping up with this series for a bit, but I’ve managed to push through. I want to thank specifically u/Lost_in_Borderlands, u/NatetheMechaBoss, u/StuddedDiamond, and u/Tricky-Ad-2456 for all of your continued support and kind comments. I am so relieved to have finally finished this series and hope you had as much if not more fun along the way. I hope to write more in future, but at the moment I need to take a well earned break. See you then!

I preface by saying that I was 155kg (350lb give or take) two years ago and I recently joined the sub now that I'm at 120kg (240 lb) which for my height (6'0) is right on the threshold between Obesity 3 and 2. (yet my my fat % is 27% so technically not obese anymore thank God)
I've seen alot of post about "not losing weight on deficit", "I count calories but I gained weight", "I walked 5 miles for a week, why I gained weight", or really stupid advice like "You are gonna faint if you eat less than 1k calories"
What do you guys think we have so much fat? We are not gonna lose weight until we go way below our maintenance caloric level. If you are 150kg for example going on 1k calories for 6 months wont make you unhealthy. FFS, your fat is gonna provide the energy, that's what biologically your gut is for, to energize and nourish your body during times of scarcity, at most you'll feel "hungry" for 40 minutes for the first 3 days and that's it, you'll get used to eating less and overtime you'll feel what true hunger feels like.
Any westerner here doesn't fucking know what to really is to be hungry- No, not eating for a day is not hunger... Having to only drink water for 60 days because there's no cattle and a plague fell over the crops is real hunger.
Stop lying to yourselves about "counting calories" or "excercising". I'm fat I know the cope we go through and autosabotage we create. I have never been at a medical healthy weight. The first time I saw a nutriniost was when I was 4...
Stop lying to yourselves and take responsability, put in the work. It didn't take 6 months to weight 200kg right? It wont take 2 months to weight 100... it will take you years to become the person you were meant to be.
Downvote me as much as you want, but as a fellow landwhale either you stop lying to yourselves and actually work on healing your body or you end up connected to half a dozen devices on an hospital by the time you are 50.

6ft7 230lbs 22yrs 21% bf
1-6 weeks 500mg test e
6-12 weeks 500mg test e / 30 mg anavar daily
13-14 weeks waiting to start pct
15-16 weeks 20 mg nolvadex
Should I take arimidex during my cycle if so what weeks should I implement it in.
Pls tweak my plan or let me know that it’s good
Also any information would help me including pct, dosages and length of cycle

I love coconut and vanilla, but the terrible reviews on Fragrantica always stopped me from seeking this one out. However, I’ve recently come to the realization that there are a lot of perfume snobs and generally negative people on there, who have steered me in the wrong direction on numerous occasions. I seem to get more versatile opinions elsewhere, as I feel like nearly everyone on there jumps on the love/hate bandwagon nowadays. I don’t plan on blind buying it, but before I even bother sampling it, I want to know if it truly smells like Coppertone or At the Beach from Bath & Body Works, like a lot of the reviews on Fragrantica state? For reference, I don’t mind sunscreen vibes, but I do mind At the Beach. I just don’t get any coconut from it, however if they were to add vanilla to it, I might change my mind. I’d appreciate your opinions. Thank you so much!

My brother left and decided to not talk. My father died 10 months ago. My grandma died 6 months ago. My mother died 2 days ago. I am left alone in my birth family. I am married to a lovely man. We have a very grieving 5 year old and it breaks my heart. I gave birth a week ago to a lovely boy. This was supposed to be a lovely time, pain of death behind us and a new baby. We live with my mum and we had a plan of her helping, she was overjoyed, now I am planning her funeral while still too exhausted and physically damaged to function. The house we live in is too big for us to keep without my parents. I was born here and it is like another family member. But - if I keep it I will be slave to it. My husband’s parents are still alive but live in the other side of the world. They would love us there and it makes sense. But that means all my social network will be gone. All my support from my friends gone.
Just like that, celebration 3 days ago turned to the most painful and stressful time of my life full of anxiety and grief. It was never supposed to be like this.
Mum I love you. I will miss the two hour daily chats even though you drove me mad sometimes. I do not know how me and my daughter will go on without you. A huge gaping hole is left. It is Mother’s Day here today and I have no one and no place to take flowers to. I still have the ones you gave me when I came home from the hospital and this is beyond heartbreaking as they will wilt. Instead I will get autopsy report. You were supposed to be here for another 20 years. But will be in my heart until I die.
Universe give me the energy to get trough this! I will do it for my husband and my children! Things will get better, maybe not now but they will!

“Take time to do what makes your soul happy”
On this thread, please share any new ideas of self-care or share what you are going to do for yourself this weekend!
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Happy Self Care Saturday! This is a NEW weekly post that is here to remind us about the importance of taking care of ourselves. It is here to share ideas and motivate each other to take some time out of our busy schedule to RECHARGE. We are living in a time period that is filled with so many distractions that take us out of the present moment, and I want this post to remind you to do something for yourself this weekend. Recharge your battery because after all we cannot pour from an empty cup. Many of us work long hours at work, have families to take care of, and have a million other obligations. This makes it way too easy to forget to dedicate time in your day for YOURSELF. When reading this, I hope you are filled with motivation to dedicate 10 minutes or even a whole day doing activities you enjoy or activities that are healthy for you. Here are several examples of self-care ideas!
1. Nature for the win! - Take a walk somewhere new with your phone on airplane mode. If you find yourself drifting off into thought that is focusing on a past negative situation or worrying about an event that is coming up, try counting all the new items in your surroundings that you have never noticed before. Do whatever you can to keep yourself in the walk instead of letting the mind trap you into a daydream that is causing stress.
2. Exercise! - One of the healthiest things we can do to help our body and mind is taking out time in your day to be active. I personally love to run. It is difficult getting started, but once I get ten minutes into my run, I get in the zone. Afterwards, I feel like a new person! If you are someone that really struggles with finding the motivation to exercise, start small! Even if you only watch a five - minute workout video on YouTube, at least it is a start! You can DO this!
3. Sleep is Key! - Set your-self up for success and plan out a peaceful nighttime ritual that will help you fall asleep earlier while dedicating 7-8 hours of your night to sleep. Try not to let a screen rule your night with a scroll that keeps you up till 3am. Remember, you are in control! Without a good night’s sleep, chances are your anxiety, depression, or any other mental health items you struggle with will be much worse the next day.
4. Start a new hobby! - Try something you have never done before such as journaling, hiking, biking, reading a new book series, taking time to meditate, etc.
5. Get excited! - Watch a motivational video that makes you want to achieve your dreams.
6. Have a date night…With YOURSELF! - Go out to eat by yourself even if it feels weird and plan a drive or walk to somewhere new after.
7. Can’t have a post without a gratitude reminder! - Think about all the things you are grateful for. Then go the extra mile by calling up someone you care about and telling them you appreciate their presence in your life.
There are so many more ideas for ways on how to practice self-care! Please share any you may have for the rest of OFam to see!
You. Are. Enough.
Jay

Found out a couple weeks ago that I was pregnant (currently W7D6). Found out 3 days before our cross country move from US to Netherlands. This was a planned move because my high_paced consulting job in the US had me burnout and I wanted a more relaxed vibe and a safer place to raise a future family. I had planned on getting pregnant once we were settled in our new home so everything is happening really fast right now with this unplanned pregnancy.
Please no judgement - I used to consume weed daily for the last 3-4 years and now stopped cold turkey obviously as soon as I found out I was preggers. I would smoke it recreationally but also to keep my anxiety and trauma at bay. I lost my mom to ALS 4 years ago and her progression with the disease for 10 years was traumatic for the whole family. Not only dealing with the loss of a parent but my mom and I had a loving but difficult relationship starting from my teenage years. Dealing with her as a patient and as an immigrant parent (we were first gen immigrants to Canada) she was very tough on me and I would have recurring nightmares from early teen years until very recently where I was always begging with her to understand my POV and be validated. It’s a lot to summarize for a Reddit post but in short - I had childhood/teenage emotional issues and anxiety, I started going to therapy from 2018 to deal with that plus depression of my mom dying and weed also helped keep the anxiety and nightmares at bay and generally helped me deal with all my emotional issues better.
Now here I am, in a new country, about to start a new job in a week, and I’m pregnant and therefore off the weed. My nightmares and anxiety have resurfaced. My body aches every night and my husbands snoring doesn’t help. I get irritated with him but none of this is his fault. I’m super happy about being pregnant but days like today where I wake up sobbing and in pain are really hard and I’m hoping I can get some solace or advice from this forum on how to deal. Please be kind as I’m feeling very vulnerable right now.

I feel hopeless, depressed and borderline suicidal. I can't fucking break the habit. I can't progress on my fitness journey. I can't break the habit no matter what plan I make no matter how much times I tell myself to stay focused. Like wtf! Its been 5-6 years of me wanting to stop watching porn and beating my meat. Ever since I was a teen I wanted to break the habit. Now that im 20, in college, and have a lot of expectation and pressure on me by the world and my parents, I NEED to break this habit. I just lost again a while ago. It's as if I have no control when I get the urge. Do I have OCD?? Im pretty sure I do because its an uncontrollable compulsion. Man I lost all my energy for the day. There goes working out, running and playing games. Fucking sleep yourself to death you addicted motherfucker. Time is catching up and lust is breaking my body down. Worst thing is that I can't even tell my parents the real reason why I look so tired all the time. I am hopeless man... :(

In the fitness wiki, it was recommended to consume either 0.8g/kg, or 160g/day- whichever one is greater. I weigh 58kg so the amount of protein I should consume would be either the 160g, or 48g.
48 feels too low, and 160 feels quite a lot. More, I checked my KDEE and the recommendation for protein intake for bulking is 213g??
I'm 177cm, 58kg, around 9.8body fat, and hits the gym about 4-5 times a week (I workout each upper body muscle group 2x a week and go for leg day once a week)
edit: I'm just not used to the big numbers of protein, I mean, if 160g is actually a normal intake amount, then I'll go for it (as much as i can since it seems costly)

My CEM took around 6 days off to mourn the “loss” of their sibling… 3 weeks later and he comes walking through the door. (Oh and in a few weeks they have “court” that they’re taking time off for to settle the matter of this.) This is not the first child death they have lied about (3 others, although they didn’t take time off to grieve ‘close family friends’). They apparently applied for bereavement benefits and couldn’t provide any viable documentation. Our cameras are a complete joke, so we don’t have the footage of their “dead” family member, but several of my fellow employees saw the “ghost”. What should I do? I’ve been contemplating going to HR but in reality I know how pathetic and underwhelming HR truly is. HR won’t do a single thing to help me, I highly doubt they even do anything at this point- they never have.
For context: the CEM lives with me in my house and is one of me “closest confidants” (until I learned about the horrific lies). And yes, my SM knows, they just have no physical proof, and are too spineless to take any action. I plan to report this to HR or just flat out expose them online to my large platform. I’m considering giving Michaels a chance, but knowing their history, they’ll be completely incompetent at every turn.

i have hero sunscreen (the green bottle) for my everyday skin care, but i live near the beach and planning on staying for a week at a beach house. i have fair very sensitive combo skin leaning more greasy. i always used sunscreen but always burned when i was younger. i haven’t burned in years but i haven’t spent long in the sun in awhile. i want to prevent aging and skin cancer risks as much as i can since i’ve been cursed with the redhead gene. i love spending all day outside when i’m at the beach, not necessarily laying out but just in the pool and hanging out. any suggestions for protective spf for my beach trips? i know to reapply every two hours.

This is my (still ongoing) positive experience with my medication induced abortion.
I’m in Canada, so my doctor sent me for an ultrasound last week to date the embryo and also see if it was imbedded in the right location. Everything looked good, and I was about 6-7 weeks. I had my follow up appointment where they offered me counselling on my decision, what I should expect, warning signs for infection or hemorrhaging and discussions about medications to take alongside the doses. I was prescribed anti nausea and pain medication, as I have moderate nausea on a good, non-pregnant day, and because my normal periods are quite painful already.
I took the first dose, mifepristone yesterday around 6:30 CST. I had no physical side effects, just some emotions to work through. I wouldn’t consider it guilt and definitely not regret, more so sadness and compassion for myself and the embryo.
I took the second dose, misoprostol around 8 pm tonight. I had been having really bad nausea all day today, I think a combination of morning sickness and anxiety for the second dose, which is why I didn’t take it immediately at the 24 hr mark. I made sure I had some soda crackers and loaded up on anti nausea. The four pills didn’t taste like anything, they were just dry and chalky. I began cramping about 20 minutes after taking the pills, while they were still in my cheeks, and started bleeding and cramping heavier about an hour in. I’d say the pain was relative to my normal period, about a 6-7/10.
It took about two hours to reach the “peak”. My cramps ramped up to an 8.5/10. The nice part about it, they mimicked contractions so I had moments where the pain was lighter and I could catch my breath and relax my muscles. When I knew my cramps were getting bad, I had gone and sat on the toilet for about 15 minutes before transferring to the floor on my hands and knees in fetal position. I was in that position for about another 10-20 minutes, I’m not sure how long because I actually didn’t realize I was over the worst of it until I had fallen asleep on the floor.
I got up and went back to the couch for another half an hour before another wave of 6/10 cramps hit. I had assumed I needed to use the bathroom, and when I was walking I felt a clot leave my body. I passed another clot on the toilet and knew that the embryo was in one of the two clots. I had no pain or cramps at all passing the clots, which makes me think it happened while I was on the floor and I just needed to walk around a bit more for my body to pass it. They were about the size of a golf ball and a match box.
Since then, I’ve just been dealing with the aftermath and side effects of the process. Heavy bleeding and diarrhea (don’t trust a fart…just don’t). I would recommend waiting until your bleeding slows down before having a shower or bath. It was tricky putting underwear on after my shower as I was pretty much streaming blood the entire time. I also recommend requesting anti nausea medication and pain medication. Both helped tremendously. Heating pads are a must, same with heavy flow pads. I went with overnight and they seem to be working well so far. I’m personally using puppy pee pads as a just in case, but an old towel would work fine too.
Listen to your body and doctor and you’ll be fine. I never got the sense that I was in danger or trouble, I always could tell that in the back of my mind things would turn out okay. Your body knows what to do.
Any questions feel free to PM me or comment below, I’ll try to help out as best I can, but I’m not a doctor.

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Over the past few weeks I have seen a lot of theories around Vadic’s master’s identity with the vast majority of these being that the main antagonist of season 3 will be the Borg. This feels wrong to me and I want to talk about why and present an alternate theory that seems to fit very neatly to me.
Why it’s not the Borg
This entire scheme to steal Picard’s body through proxies seems very…not Borg to me. Throughout Star Trek we have seen the Borg act nearly exclusively through brute force and numbers and rarely if ever through subterfuge. The only time the Borg worked with another species as far as I can remember is with Voyager during the 8472 crisis and even this took a lot of pushing. Throughout this entire event, the borg behaved very aggressively toward voyager’s crew and constantly insisted on assimilating them or adding them to the collective to work more efficiently. I highly doubt that this view has changed in the time that voyager has left the delta quadrant. I do not see it in their nature to recruit and work through a “lesser organism” to achieve their goals. If this were the borg it is my opinion that it would be more likely that they would instead simply assimilate the breakaway changelings and do things the way they always have done and simply try to drown the Federation in drones. Maybe this could be an adaptation to constantly failing to assimilate the Federation I guess as well though.
The Iconians
While this entire scheme seems very much against the Borg's typical style, it does however align a lot with the modus operandi of another faction, the Iconians. For the first half of the story in STO the primary background antagonists are the Iconians and their subservient races. The Iconians frequently acted through lesser races in elaborate schemes to destabilize the quadrant towards the goal of the reclamation of their empire and vengeance against a certain faction in the game. Destabilizing the Federation through using a race uniquely suited to infiltrate the galactic powers to stir up unrest is very very Iconian from their actions in Beta canon and is even something they actually did in the game albeit indirectly. Iconians are also masters of genetic engineering, creating an entire race of incredibly powerful servants known as the Heralds, and genetically modifying the race that will come to be known as the Elachi. It is entirely possible that the changeling's new found adapations to avoid detection are a result of Iconian meddling. Vaidic's master in the new traile ralso speaks very much like an Iconian herald with a heavy emphasis on Vaidic's inferiority to him and destablizing her matrix would definitely be something a Herald would be capable of. The escort vessels that attack Crusher's ship in the first episode of the show also bear a striking resemblance to Elachi vessels, something that certainly could be supplied to the changelings. With the show seemingly leaning on STO for a lot of ship designs, it would make sense for them to also draw from the story and alter it to fit their plans while maintaing the core idea. We have even potentially seen the start of these STO related plot lines in the first season where the Tal Shiar were incredibly interested in salvaging Borg tech to attempt to restore the empire and their power, something the Iconians had a heavy hand in assisting them with. Finally, it has been said numerous times that this season would be a gateway to a new era of Trek, an era that I believe that will be similar but different to STO and make use of the Iconians as a reoccuring background villain until they pull them out in a movie or season for another DS9 style war.
I certainly believe that the Borg have a part to play in all of these, I am just unsure of what the Iconians would want with Picard's body and Jack so far though. It could have to do with the syndrome and/or Borg tech still in Picard. Hopefully we will see in the next episode.
TLDR: The Borg are not the primary antagonists behind everything in season 3, it is the Iconians acting through the changelings to destablize the Federation while dangling revenge and conquest in front of them.

I read some things that mentioned that this all varies down to diet, activity and my own body. While I’m seeing and reading these things I’m not really sure where to start. I read articles and videos talking about calorie deficit and now I’m stressing about the amount of calories I eat and that I have to eat less calories. I don’t know why I feel like I’m going down a bad path to maintaining a good health.
So here comes my question, how do I achieve a flat stomach/toned stomach. Any specific videos or workout sets I need to do? Specific things I need to eat?
For any context I’m Asian, 5’6 and weigh 114 and is skinny but got a bit of a pooch on my stomach. I just want to feel more confident in my body and being more active while I’m at it!
Thank you for any advice :)

I broke my foot on January 17 but was told it was just a sprain go home.
So I did just that I walked on a broken foot for 4 weeks. I was concerned my foot wasn’t going down in size so I went to the doctors the doctor told me to get an X-ray , after that I got an ultrasound and CT scan on my foot.
Lisfranc fracture. I broke 3 bones.
I had surgery I’m 4 weeks post op. I just got my stitches out the other day and a new cast surgeon told me another 8 weeks non weight bearing and no walking.
I feel horrible, bored and anxious all day. I have nothing to do. Everyone says use a knee scooter or IWalk but I’m terrified I have awful balance. I heard about someone falling off his knee scooter and injured himself again.
How I get around currently? I use crutches and wheelchair. I don’t work but I was going to but I was volunteering I had to stop that. It broke my heart I was volunteering at an animal shelter.
So why am I suicidal. I’m inside all day I was a very active person I walked 5 miles a day, I hiked and loved the beach. I have two dogs who I love very much and I feel like I have failed them. At the moment my dogs are being walked by others but I want to spend time with them I want them to be with me.
I’m extremely worried about the long term will I hike again? Will I run? Will I walk miles in a day? Can I work with dogs ever again? Some dogs are strong at the shelter you need to be physically stable. What if I can’t , what if this is it for me?
I lose my dogs (not literally it’s how I feel). I lose my dream career working with animals I lose my mobility. What’s the point.
I’ve seen some people recover in 6 months yes 6 months I’m following someone on TikTok who has. Others complain about their pain years later. It feels like my life has come to an end.
I’ve spoken to people about my injury who have had it themselves they’re like yeah it suck’s but I wasn’t suicidal.
No one understands walking was my coping mechanism when you take someone’s coping mechanism away what happens? Its all I had. My dogs too. Not everyone loves their dogs as much as I do I see them as my friends, my reason to live my reason to keep fighting not everyone sees their dogs like that.
I can’t sleep at night because I have so much pent up anger and energy. I get frustrated and break things sometimes I wish I could stop but I feel like I can’t control myself anymore. I feel like I’m losing myself. No one can help.
No one can help. Those words sink in everyday. No one on earth right now can fix a broken bone in an instant no one. 8 billion people and not one single person can help.
I’m really struggling. I’ve been considering setting up a go fund me so I can get a power electric wheelchair that’s all terrain so I can still do things not everything but some things I did before. I have been considering it but don’t think it would be successful.
Anyway I’m just venting out everything because I’m lost , I’m confused and definitely bored.