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2023.06.04 18:37 jenl_fsu21 Southwood Carriage Homes - anyone lived/rented there before?
Hello everyone.
I'm an third year undergraduate female at FSU and I'm looking for rental further away from campus. Quite frankly, my parents and I are tired of dealing with rental management companies and apartment buildings are probably not much better, we really don't have time for their cr*p.
I've seen a couple carriage homes for rent in southwood (basically they are studios above garages that owners rent out as extra income) and I'm considering them due to its quietness and safety.
However I just have a couple questions in mind for anyone who have rented there before:
- How loud is the garage door when they open?
- How do packages/mail get delivered? Was it an inconvenience to you having to park somewhere far away?
- How do you like it there and would you recommend it?
- If you don't mind, how long was your commute and was it difficult?
Your feedback (PM or comment) would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!!!
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2023.06.04 18:34 Fresh-Distribution76 Studio apartment still available
I have a studio apartment for rent. All units are newly remodeled and fully furnished. Utilities include heater, water, Gas stove, Fridge, Microwave, electricity, in-unit laundry, cable and trash. Apartment is at a walkable distance to Campus. And it’s available for professional workers as well. $1500 including all utilities
Dm me for more information.
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2023.06.04 18:22 CodeNameGurlNextDoor 18K of CC debt, feeling stressed by it all
25F here with 18K CC debt, 14K of student loans and 27K on car note. I have a great job and live in a fairly affordable city (Fort Worth, TX). My loan payments for Student Loan and Car amount to just under $900 a month, and may take home pay is about $4K. I do get a quarterly bonus of $2,500 before tax and this year plan to put all that money toward CC debt. About a year ago is when I had to get the car and since then my CC debt has gotten out of control even though my income went up significantly during that time. With loan payments and CC minimums getting taken out monthly, along with rent and utilities of about $1250 I just feel like I’m completely drowning. I feel like no matter what I do, that CC amount is just going to slowly creep higher and higher.
I’ve come to the realization that the reason I am in this hell hole of credit card debt is simple—I’m addicted to shopping. Little trips to stores like Home Goods, Target, Ulta/Sephora and local antique stores have left me in a position where I just feel completely hopeless. I hate that I’ve wasted all this money, time and energy on STUFF. Even when I push myself to do no buy for a week, I end up ordering something on Amazon or pick up something from Target and justify it as necessary to maintain our house (I rent a 2 story apt with my boyfriend, it takes SO MUCH to keep the place clean).
I grew up with divorced parents who were always one upping each other. I just saw my parents spend and spend on things, buying new instead of replacing, and I just assumed as an adult I could do the same. My parents definitely used buying as a way of showing affection. I never felt like I needed to budget because in the past I always had savings and was able to pay off my cards. Something switched this last year though and I am treading water.
My plan of action is to go completely no buy on clothes and beauty products through the end of this year (I have sooo much unused makeup) and try to attack the CC’s. I already have my $1,000 emergency fund but will keep adding $50 each week there. I want to have $5k in case of job loss or other emergencies. For my CC’s I am trying to pay $500 a month and throw all of my quarterly bonuses at it. I also do catering events on the side on weekends and can bring in an extra $600 a month at most to help.
It’s crazy to me that I’m in this situation so young, but I know I can get out of it. Realistically I think I can pay off the credit cards in 18 months while continuing to pay my loan amounts. I just need some encouragement as I work through the realization of my situation. Right now my net worth is -$9K, but if I can hit all my financial goals in 13. months I’d be looking at a net worth of about $20K. I look at my financial year from when promotions happen at my job (April 31st 2023-April 31st 2024). I expect my yearly salary to increase by $5-8K at that time next year and hope to only have $5K of the CC debt left at that time.
This group is amazing and we are in this together!
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2023.06.04 18:22 kodidog75 [Landlord US-CO] Tenant Claims ADA Laws Allow Second Dog without Permission or Extra Fees
Hi fellow landlords,
I am seeking advice regarding a situation with one of my tenants in Colorado. I own a single-family home that I rent out to vet students, allowing them to have a single dog. However, I recently received a notice from a tenant who claims to be training service dogs. She informed me that on Monday, she will be bringing in a second service dog to train, asserting that under ADA laws, she doesn't need to ask for permission or pay any additional fees.
When the tenant signed the lease, we had a clear discussion about my policy of allowing only one dog in the home, and they even signed a pet addendum. It's worth noting that this tenant does not have a disability; she is solely training the dog to pass it on to someone in need.
I would greatly appreciate any advice or insights you may have on how to handle this situation appropriately.
Thank you in advance!
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2023.06.04 18:21 dhruvmagdani I hope this government know what they’re doing! 😩
2023.06.04 18:20 SereinaMearcy Is my father legally required to financially help me during my studies?
Good evening everyone,
Before I ask my actual question, I need to provide some background information so that the answer is not simply a "yes" or "no," as the situation is somewhat complicated.
When I was young, my mother experienced domestic violence through my father. She divorced from him. At that time, my father was unemployed, and my mother had a poor lawyer who only focused on the divorce. The lawyer did not suggest legally securing that my father would have to pay child support once he had money in the future. It didn't occur to my mother either, as she was understandably emotionally distraught due to the situation and just wanted to put the whole thing behind her as quickly as possible.
As a result, my father hasn't really contributed much financially over the years. Of course, he would give me gifts, such as my electronic piano, electric guitar, or laptop. Meanwhile, my five-year-younger brother had his ice hockey hobby financed (around 100,000 CHF over the years, if not more).
Both parents received social welfare assistance over the years. My father simply lived off of it and never worked. My mother worked as a hospital cleaner during the day and as a waitress in the evening for a while. Now she is "only" working as a cleaner. Financially, she barely makes ends meet for us.
My paternal grandmother earned a good income during her life. She owned a beautiful apartment in the center of a Swiss city. However, she was very old and had Alzheimer's. Since she lived on the other side of Switzerland, it was not possible for us to take care of her. She was placed in a nursing home, where she lived for a few years. My father had to finance it because her money was essentially "frozen" due to her Alzheimer's, and he couldn't access it. Unable to continue financing the nursing home, he was forced to sell the centrally located apartment. He sold it for at least 800,000 CHF.
A few months later, my grandmother passed away. My brother and I inherited 20,000 CHF each. My father inherited much more, but he wouldn't tell us how much. I estimate it was over 100,000 CHF. That was 2 years ago. Today, he told me that he now has "only" 80,000 CHF left. He didn't say where all the money went. Although he bought a car, a caravan, and a motorcycle, the sum of the disappeared money doesn't add up. Additionally, he doesn't have to pay rent as he owns a two-story house with a large garden.
Now he plans to move to Colombia this year because the cost of living is cheaper there, he speaks the language, and he has a daughter there. The latter was completely new information to us. If he moves to Colombia, he also won't have to repay his debts to social welfare, for some reason. Before moving to Colombia, he will sell his house. He should get at least 1,000,000 CHF for it.
Now, here's the problem. I want to go to university next year. My mother is unable to financially support me. My father doesn't want to support me financially because he doesn't have to - he's not obligated to pay child support. My question is: Can I take legal action against him to make him contribute to my university expenses? I will need around 1,000 CHF per month. Of course, I could wait until his death, but I would still need to find a way to finance myself until then. I'm also afraid that I won't inherit much because he favors my brother, and he not only has a daughter in Colombia but also one in Canada. I don't know if my two unknown half-sisters also have a claim to the inheritance. There is also a risk that he will squander all the money before his death.
So, the two questions are:
- Can I take legal action against my father and ensure that he supports me financially during my studies? I live in Switzerland and parents are usually required to support their children until they are done with their studies.
- Do my two half-sisters have a claim to the inheritance? They had very rare contact with our father throughout their lives.
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2023.06.04 18:19 dobio How would you feel about this situation?
Friend has a rental property that had tenants living in it for 6 months(did not pay any rent for whole 6 months) and supposedly trashed the place. Tenants were evicted, but belongings still remain. Tenants have had a few weeks to move their belongings but haven’t done so yet. Friend is now asking for help to remove their belongings and put it outside on the street/disposal bin. They also want it now to be their main home to live in, so they’ll bulldoze this house and build a new house on this property
Obviously I think landlords are parasites, and I would never help them. I’ve gotten into a big argument with them, and they’re telling me to be more reasonable about not thinking they’re scum. How do you feel about this?
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2023.06.04 18:14 LooneyLockup_Punch11 Disabled Riders and the need for Bart to stay alive.
So today I just discovered that there was a rally yesterday for public transportation. Not only for San Francisco but for California. The one thing that stuck out to me was the effect that it would have on people with disabilities, like me. I was born with cerebral Palsy and because I that as I got older it was mild but for me growing up my doctor told me because my side is weaker than the other side and eye coordination is bad, driving a car would me bad for me. That's why I rely on transportation like Muni and Bart.
I know people talk about crime and safety on Bart and Muni, but what's happens when there's no more buses and trains, For people like me who are blind disabled, and or who cannot even walk it will become a struggle.
- We will have spend more money on that expensive Uber ride, which will break our income cause every week like me I have doctor's, physical therapy, and mental health therapy every week and if those places are far guess who's not going be able to live independently and pay rent, me and the thousands of people who are also disabled. It would be a disaster
- No more service or less services such as the regional center. it's already hard for us to pay bills and to get around. With no public transportation if can't afford to get to our appointments lots of us will be forced to stay home because were on a limited budget, we still got bills to pay. When people stop going to these places like regional centers not only it will create problems for public transportation but also for disability services as well because most money that comes in is people who are disabled.
My main concern is that is this the end of public transportation in California. Will I I have to force myself to leave the state that that I love because ridership is low and funds are running out.
It's just sad and terrifying for people who are in fact disabled.
Last thing, what if you where disabled and you had no way to get around and services where cut because no one can't afford to go get services that are needed for them.
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2023.06.04 18:14 Fuzzy_Boot800 Me(F) and Crazy/Creepy Male Roommate - Advice? (sorry very long but needed)
Hey guys so I(F25) just sublet a room for the summer until September. I saw this cheap room available with alot of perks (offstreet parking, 2 sets of free laundry, and close walking distance to the train station - a unicorn in the city!). My roomie Andrew (M/31) showed me the room and he was kinda weird looking around but I thought he had autism or just harmless weird. He showed me the room and explained the last person just packed up and left on the second day without a word because he thought the room would be furnished and it wasn't (red flag??). That kinda raised an alarm in my head but I needed to move from my slumlord situation I was in. I told my friends to see if I should pass on it but they said even though that is a red flag, the room and perks were nice that I should take it and will renew and ignore them if they're weird. A few hours later, he texted me that (Marvin/2nd roommate) wants my room and already started moving in his stuff and will also renew in that room (Andrew said the room has been open since March and I looked at the room maybe 6 days after the last person ran out but Marvin never cared for the room. (No one speaks to each other so no one knew if anyone was renewing - another red flag) so I have to look at the other room If I'm still interested (red flag).
I was pissed but my friends said its weird but just dont speak to Marvin at all so I came back the next day and the room seemed clean, it still had some of his furniture laid down in places but the room looked ok so I took it. I wasn't supposed to move in for a whole month but once I showed up on the first day to bring in my check and backpack, the now empty room had multiple large vomit and other(??) stains on the carpeted floor, the furniture he left behind was on purpose was to cover up the stains so I would move into that (red flag). I raised hell with the LL and he wasn't aware and called Marvin who took my room (because he created the stains and purposefully didn't tell the LL so they wouldn't clean it in advance). LL apologized for the room and sent cleaners the next day but I had to sleep over my friends house for 3 days until it dried. FYI I never met Marvin at all but he saw me walking in from outside to check the first room so he knows what I look like. He's gone atm but sent me a long crazy passive aggressive text (given by Andrew without my consent) saying welcome to our home and "hope I enjoy his room" and just nutty shit so I'm a bit uneasy on him and dont plan to renew just based on that whole ordeal.
On my first day staying here (slept at my friends, worked and came here straight from after work), I hauled all of my stuff that had to sit in the hallways, basement, and my car for the prior 3 days because the floor was soaking wet (took me like 5ish hrs). Andrew's room/door is set up in a way that he can see people coming in and out, his bed faces towards out the door and his door is always cracked open juuusst enough to see you but you cant see him. He was watching me haul everything up three flights of narrow stairs and it kinda irked me that he didn't help (I know he's NOT expected to and I shouldn't feel entitled to have help but I found out after he was snooping through my things (red flag) while I wasn't around so I'm like either be involved or completely back off from my things. He would also crank up the oven, which made the house a sauna and refuse to open the windows while I was moving stuff up 3 flight of stairs and sweating buckets from the heat he was causing (thought it was a coincidence and not overthink it) - I cracked open a window when he was done and went back in his room to eat to help the house cool down because I was still moving things [with no malice] (but this pissed him off and took great offense to it). He has a personal freezer chest and takes over the entire communal fridge and freezer with multiple almost empty boxes of the same frozen foods. I nicely asked him and another roommate (Greg - very helpful and chill, made me freezer space, doesnt use the fridge at all, doesnt leave his room unless its for the bathroom or leave the house) for freezefridge space because I dont want to be the new person touching peoples things off the bat. Greg understood but Andrew didn't move anything and placed his food on top of mine in the freezer after the fact as a passive aggressive thing. He stayed hidden in his room watching me while I was moving things but once I was done - he always comes out of his room when im out but I thought it was just a coincidence since ppl live and move around their home but it kept getting weird/creepy since he didnt do the same with Greg. I finally got to cook for the first time around 10pm and when I had my food cooking and go to do my laundry in the basement, he would run into the kitchen nonstop to see what I'm cooking once he heard me cooking from scratch and check my food timer to how long until its done expecting to eat my food.
With the weird shit adding up, Something in my spirit just told me before to even start cooking to make only one serving of food for the night and not leave anything in the communal fridge for leftovers and stick to my mini fridge. While I was doing my laundry, I came up real quick to check on something, I saw him opening all of the windows in the house (the side window was still open and it wasnt hot or smelled), he jumped and ran off like he got caught in the act (wtf?). I was totally creeped out and figured he was pissed from me opening the one window earlier and wanted to get back at me but he was hoping I wouldn't come back so quick so I wouldn't know who did it. Once my food was done, I immediately cleaned my pots and took it to my room with my food. Once I got to my room, he ran back to the kitchen hoping I would've left some leftovers there for him to eat. Once I finished eating and washing my dishes, he left his dishes in the sink expecting I would wash them but I just washed mine and left it on the table to pick it up on my way from grabbing my laundry. Once I got to the laundry room to pick up my dry clothes, I walked up the steps to find out he locked me out of the house because he was pissed there wasn't any food for him and saw my dishes were clean and waiting on the table. I had to knock on the door and he quickly ran down, staring at my feet and made no eye contact the entire time (wearing flipflops) saying "ohhh I didn't know you were down there" (he knew and I had a laundry bag propping the door open), I said was it you that locked out me out? he was like oh yea I had no idea you were even down there and just to be safe, I locked it. FYI the way the stairs loudly creaks, how the tiny house layout is you that know what is going on/who is where and he can see you leaving the bedroom area from his door.
Being so creeped out and haven't even been there a full day/not even unpacked, I immediately got up early next morning to finish washing my blankets and beddings and then went to home depot to change my doorknob to have a lock on the outside. While I had everything in the washer and went to HD quick, when I came back to put things in the dryer, his laundry bag is put out in front of the washer as in a "get a move on/ive been waiting all day" way. I moved my stuff to the dryer and left the washers open as a way to let him open its available and immediately went to my room to switch the knobs. Ever since that morning (9am) hes been propped up in the living room (no tv) loudly having conversations to himself and laughing to himself (not like casual oh roomie watching something but like full-blown conversations and full on belly/screaming laughter). He camped in the living room so long, I figured hes been waiting to watch me cook breakfast and to intimidate me into giving him my food so I had to make lunch in my room (unfortunately Ill have to cook everything in my room from now on and IF I need the stove/oven, Ill have to stay there and not leave my food unattended).
Once I came down at like 3p, to wash my dishes, he still kept his dishes from before there from last night but added more on top of the sink hole for me to have to acknowledge it and to wash it like you ""forgot this+do it"" while hes right next to me in the living room (kitchen and living room are close together). I pushed it to the side and washed my dishes and went back into my room. I stayed in my room for a few hrs until I had to leave for a friends party but as I was getting ready to leave, he loudly started clashing dishes around, slamming the soap bottle on the table and loudly scrubbing showing in a way that hes pissed that he had to wash them and "look at what your making me do" passive aggressive thing (Greg has been gone for a few hrs already). Andrew and Greg don't speak at all (no one here talks to each other but I know why now) and he keeps his door closed and solely operates by his minifridge and has a couch in his room so he doesn't have to interact with Andrew.
Once I left for my friends bday party, Andrew car was gone - once I got back at night, as soon as I got up the stairs, I had my brother call me to talk to me on speakerphone to show a male presence - I heard Andrew run as hard as he could into his room (he was waiting for me because I left without him knowing and thought I had an actual guy with me so he got scared). Once I got to my room and hung up, as soon as I leave my room, he noticed it was just a call and he left "casually whistling" and staring at me and went downstairs. This has been my second day here (first full day) and hes extremely passive aggressive/crazy hoping I would be his maid, live-in gf and cook and lashing out. I told my family and friends but I don't think they truly get it since theyre not physically here experiencing it. Im not planning on renewing and hope to move out in august (just first and last) and renew somewhere else that's all girls because this is traumatizing. (Andrew is 100% leaving in August for work but this will be a rough summer and I haven't even met Marvin yet but I know hes off his rocker too).
Any advice???
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2023.06.04 18:09 Cishuman Judge Dagoth
PELINAL: You are about to enter the court-room of Judge Dagoth Voryn! The people are dead. The cases are argued in an aetherial tesseract outside of linear time. The rulings are final! This is Judge Dagoth!
...
DAGOTH: Please state your name for the record.
NOCTURNAL: I am UR DROTH, the part of the part that at first was all, part of the darkness that gave birth to light, that supercilious light which now disputes with Mother Night her ancient rank and space, and yet cannot succeed.
DAGOTH: Your legal name, please; not your Tumblr bio.
NOCTURNAL: I AM NOCTURNAL, MY TOUCH IS MINK.
DAGOTH: Of course. And what is your grievance with the defendant?
NOCTURNAL: This songbird sought shade beneath my bough. The terms were loathsomely clear: “My Shadow’s protection against all hues and snares. But in turn you shall attend to my Evergloam forever, Nightingale, singing for your supper.”
That he should rook me so, lending his music to the Doom Drum, draws my umbrage.
DAGOTH: Duly noted. Next plaintiff: state your name for the record, please.
HIRCINE: I am the flame that burns in every heart of man, and in the core of every star. I am Life, and the giver of Life, yet therefore is the knowledge of me the knowledge of death.
DAGOTH: Just asking for a name, please.
HIRCINE: I AM HIRCINE - HALF THE CONSCIENCE OF MEN!
DAGOTH: And your grievance with the defendant, Mr. Hircine?
HIRCINE: I swaddled that whelp in my livery! He is my footman, no matter the number of feet that he wears. I expect him at my flank, bearing my torc and implements when I take the heath. So take my heed, runt - if even you should elude me in this parlay, your soven home is no guard - my teeth shall not cease to flash.
Not until I wrench them on your neck.
DAGOTH: Noted. Next, plaintiff: state your name for the record. And I must stress, just your name.
HERMAEUS MORA:I'm just an old cowboy with twigs in my hairI'm 2/3rds Alligator and 3/4rtrs bearAnd 1/2th a liar but let it be knownI've nevertold 1 lie that was not my own.
DAGOTH: [grievously frustrated sigh] Why did I give Nerevar the first blow?...You have standing to seek redress with the defendant?
HERMAEUS MORA:Those grains you fed them, contained hormones,The fruit was full of sugar.You should have knownYour child could get brain tumorsFrom that mobile telephone.
DAGOTH: Great. Just great. Alright, last plaintiff - your name, for the record.
MOLAG BAL: I’m Molag Bal! Who the fuck are you?
DAGOTH: I am Dagoth Voryn, Sharmat of the Sixth House, Love and Consolation of the Velothi Race.
MOLAG BAL: Never heard of you, Diego. Anyway, I let this dong-sheath crash at my pad in Bravil for like 6 months. Never paid me rent. Ate all of my goddamn poptarts. And his goddamn goat broke my butler table!
DAGOTH: You have a house in Bravil?
MOLAG BAL: It's an apartment. A studio.
DAGOTH: Alright. Well, anyway, would the defendant please state their name for the record.
DRAGONBORN: Bendu Olo. It means “hope” in Ancient Colovian.
DAGOTH: Your real name, please.
DRAGONBORN: I’d rather not shout, not just yet.
DAGOTH: I’m sure. And how do you answer the torts lain before you, Mr. Olo?
DRAGONBORN: Dead to rights. I owe them a soul.
NOCTURNAL: Hmm!
HIRCINE: Hrrm!
HERMAEUS MORA: [Abyssal Mollusc-Like Exclamation].
MOLAG BAL: I mean, I’m really just looking to get the butler-table referbed.
DAGOTH: Very well. However, we face a not inconsiderable problem in that extradition - spiritual or otherwise - doesn’t really allow for even splits.
NOCTURNAL: We are prepared to accept an uneven judgement, so long as it means the upstart is punished.
DRAGONBORN: But of course. And surely as the eldest, the Ur Droth, remember, you are the greatest of your siblings and most deserving of the contested prize.
HIRCINE: Fie! My sister is the most senile and inert of powers, content to sulk in corners and cellars. She is most deserving of cobwebs and mold, that is her kingdom.
NOCTURNAL: What a savage “hunt” you are, Hircine. I simply fear that you are too gorged on your venations already, field-mice and chickadees, and that you should have no palette for this little wyrm.
HIRCINE: Languorous Harlot!
NOCTURNAL: Dog Botherer!
MOLAG BAL: Meeeeooww…
HERMAEUS MORA: Sometimes in our lives, there is pain, there are headaches. But what a difference homemade onion soup makes. Boil a chicken to make a bouillon With salt and tarragon Add several chopped onions Simmer over a low flame. Add carrots and celery, And (why not?) a cup of Champagne, And more onions. If you're depressed with phlegm in your chest, Lonesome in winter in the Midwest, Toss in sliced chicken breast, Add croutons or wonton, Call up Leon, Diane, Don Juan, Yvonne Dionne, William Shawn, Louis Khan, Pope John, That whole group, And serve them soup.
DAGOTH: Indeed, civility is essential to the proceedings. I’ll thank everyone for abiding by the decorum that this venerable tesseract demands.
DRAGONBORN: Truly…but there can be no civility without honesty. And honestly, one does have to admit, Hircine is the more…shall we say, volatile or reactive power? What is the greater boon? To be made the raptor? Or to be made to seek refuge from his rapture?
DAGOTH: Your point, Mr. Olo?
DRAGONBORN: Only that Hircine's gift constitutes the greater loss and therefore deserves greater remuneration. Allow me to demonstrate: Lord Bal, what grieves you more? The slinking, shadowy theft of your poptarts; Or the rambunctious goat that headbutted your butler-table?
MOLAG BAL: You said the leaf just fell off!
NOCTURNAL: This is asinine! I am the shadow! I am everywhere, even in idiom do I lurk - Hircine dwells in only speechless beasts and idiots!
HIRCINE: Asinine! ASININE?! Every “ass” is your demesne! None would tolerate your touch otherwise!
NOCTURNAL: Nimrod!
HIRCINE: That’s not actually an insult!
MOLAG BAL: Divayth Fyr gave me that table!
[Dagoth Ur slams his gavel several times]
DAGOTH: Order! Order! Everyone shut up!
[Everyone hushes]
DAGOTH: Goddammit, I thought Azura was annoying! Now if everyone is done with the childish remarks-
HIRCINE: She started it!
[Dagoth Ur slams the gavel another around]
DAGOTH: Don't shit on my head and tell me it's rain! You're all fucking culpable in this mess but somehow it's my eternal torment to sort it out, so I'd appreciate a just a cunt-hair of mature discourse out of you ageless, primordial entities. Unless you'd like to spend time in the hallway with Officer Whitestrake.
[Pelinal steps into view. He cracks his knuckles.]
PELINAL: Howdy Pardners.
[Everyone remains silent]
DAGOTH: Didn't think so.
DRAGONBORN: Your honor, if I may, I believe that I have a solution to the current tetralemma.
DAGOTH: Is that so?
DRAGONBORN: Quite. I happen to have contrived an ingenious method by which every member of the plaintiff suite may be provided with my soul, as befits their illustrious station.
[Dagoth slams his gavel again]
DAGOTH: Excellent. Done. Do it. I’m so fucking done with this case.
DRAGONBORN: As you will, your honor. Well, first come, first serve. So, Lady Knock-up, for the gracious gift of your shadowy cant (for nightingale song is most lovely!) here ya go,
MIR MUL NIR
[A luminous dragon-soul erupts from the Dragonborn. Its light is so great that every stray hint of Nocturnal is washed out of the room.]
NOCTURNAL: BLAAAH!
And for Lord Hurts-Just-Fine, who dearly needs a master to bait his game, may I safely present the most dangerous quarry,
NA HAG LIIV
[Another dragon-soul emerges from the Dragonborn. Hircine flees, but its flight swiftly overtakes him.]
HIRCINE: GLAAAH!
DRAGONBORN: Careful, he bites.
But who could forget Mr. Herman Moore? I know I almost always do, my memories of you are just a dumped abyss. Anyway, figure out this mystery,
VIIN TUR UTH
[Yet another Dragon soul erupts from the Dragonborn. It holds Hermaeus Mora’s paper in the toilet.]
HERMAEUS MORA: I should be writing my memoir, In March it's due. Instead, I'm in Miami, [Gurgling from being severely swirlied]
DRAGONBORN: Hint: It rhymes with Tragon.
Well now as I live and breath! Lord Moldy Balls!
MOLAG BAL: Hey now, I just want the table referbed. I don't even want your soul, man. I've already got closets full of 'em! Vivec's making me haul 'em to Goodwill! I'll even settle for the poptarts back!
DRAGONBORN: Don’t worry, lots of deities experience shrinkage in coldharbours like such. Not to worry though, I’ve got just the thing to warm ya up:
VUL JOT NAAK
[One last ropey dragon-soul shoots out of the Dragonborn. It violates Molag Bal thoroughly]
MOLAG BAL: The poptarts!
[Dagoth bangs his gavel]
DAGOTH: Case…uh, Case closed.
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2023.06.04 18:08 todumbtofight Moving back to vegas spouse has bad credit any advice?
Looking for minimum 2 bedrooms under $1600 near strip, safe for family. Stay at home spouse has bad credit with charge offs, but working spouse has good credit and income above 3x. Any advice on renting if stay at home spouse doesnt meet requirements?
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2023.06.04 18:07 Mammoth_Energy8567 Intrusive patterns around homosexuality
I identify as and enjoy straight sex my whole life though I’ve had a nagging feeling I am perceived as gay by others from early childhood. I’m masculine but high Eq and am more easily friends w women have rarely had good guy friends even as an adult (I’m 32). Raised by two parents no abuse that I’m aware of. Mom was more in control but dad was present too. When I was young when masterbating I was curious about my anus and would put objects pens etc inside as curiosity this didn’t last. When I was 12-13 a friend showed me how we jerks off and I was ashamed and pre pubescent, he was older. We jerk off just one time but made me uncomfortable and we didn’t remain friends. I became rebellious in hs and got expelled twice for attention seeking, threats and behaviors.
While home alone I masterbate constantly. One day my brother (younger of three) saw me and we did it mutually even touching each other and humping. Only happened twice. I’d cum in food items like PB and mayo and our family ate it (gross). Graduated and was arrested for drug and alcohol three times. Worked with a guy where I stayed over for early morning jobs, he asked us to watch porn together I knew he was watching me jerk. Stayed friends but didn’t do that again.
Around same time met a business mentor who did same watched porn talked about girls I was shy but he was helpful in career so I remained friends tho stopped jerking together after a few times. Got cheap rent from another gay guy for a short time but nothing happened.
Have played hockey and notice myself wondering about guys dicks or my eyes looking at their crotch it’s like I’m curious but the idea of interacting with turns me off. Dated a great girl good sex to start but turned lackluster and I cheated for years before leaving. Have healthy dating life now with great sex.
Have done psychedelics and they often show me gay imagery or scenarios which are repulsive, but I try and allow it to show me insights. I feel it’s from the past intrusive things that I was exposed to but maybe it’s more.
I dont judge homosexuality but also doesn’t appeal to me, I just have this baggage that fucks with my self image. Curious if others relate and maybe the numerous gay incidents mean I am gay and my psyche won’t allow it and I need to embrace it. I’m not attracted to men but dicks are impressive 🤷♂️ how do I shake this?
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2023.06.04 17:57 wutabeast1218 Best New Card During/After Moving to the NE
Good morning all,
I hope you are enjoying spring and ready for the summer months. I am moving to Boston within the next couple of weeks and will be spending a lot on this move as well as rent moving forward (~$1850/month) and was hoping to ask for a recommendation for a new card to take advantage of this move and for my new life in the northeast. I will be working traveling to work via the subway system, working from home at times, and traveling both domestically and internationally. Below are my specs:
- Current cards: (list cards, limits, opening date)
- Wells Fargo Platinum, $6000 limit, opened Aug 2017
- Discover It, $1100 limit, opened Apr 2020
- Apple Mastercard, $1500, opened Sep 2021
- FICO Score: e.g. 786
- Oldest account age: Aug 2017
- Chase 5/24 status: 0/24
- Income: $55,000
- I will be doing a postdoctoral fellowship hence why my income will be on the lower end.
- This income will grow by about $10,000 the second year of my fellowship and then ideally I get a fulltime position after this two-year fellowship (~3x my current income).
- Average monthly spend and categories:
- Unsure at the moment since I will be moving and adjusting to the lifestyle in Boston
- Open to Business Cards
- What's the purpose of your next card?
- I would like to continue building credit while getting cash back and flight points.
- Do you have any cards you've been looking at?
- I've been looking very closely at the Chase Freedom Unlimited, Chase Sapphire Preferred, Amex Gold, Bilt Mastercard, and Amazon Prime Credit Card
- I am less sold on the Amex Gold since this has the highest annual fee and I have yet to have a card with an annual fee. I think I would like to start off on the lower end of an annual fee if I choose to go that direction, hence the CSP.
- The two I am considering the most are the Bilt Mastercard and the Amazon Prime Credit Card since I will be paying a lot in rent every month and I will be buying, and currently do buy, a lot of stuff on Amazon.
- Are you OK with category spending or do you want a general spending card?
- I think my Discover It does a good job of giving me extra rewards on the rotating categories though I do shop on Amazon a lot
Should I jump on the Chase Ultimate Reward points, Bilt points, Amex points? Should I prioritize the points I will get from rent with the Bilt Card? Should I take advantage of the benefits with the Amazon card?
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2023.06.04 17:53 PotentialWonderful55 Just venting
Vent post because I’m hurting terribly
(Just to give an example as to why this story hurts me enough to need to let it out somewhere this girl was my first bestfriend since the one that dropped me after high school).
I just went to a different state with my “bestfriend” because she preached it’s a girls trip no kids no nothing and that her and me needed to get out for once since I haven’t really been out since having my youngest child, while there we get there late, roughly 11 pm, so of course we are going to bed after checking in, after she wakes up she spends 7am-12:30pm getting ready because apparently she’s going on a “small date” with a guy she’s been talking to, now I’m not a girly girl, I don’t really do makeup, It doesn’t interest me in any way, I’d rather play video games then watch someone put makeup on and ask me help for colors, so me not really paying attention to her doing her makeup for a date I didn’t know she was going on made her upset with me, found out he was in the same actual hotel, same floor, check out happened at 12:30 and she drops me off at the other hotel room she paid for that we were going to be spending the night at, just so she can go on her date and well when she was leaving she told me to text her and that she’d text me too because I knew it was her first time meeting this man in person and we wanted to be safe, well turns out she was mad at me for being upset still and ended up ignoring most of the messages I sent her even when asking about her safety, she told me in a message about 3 hours in to me being in the hotel that I “hurt her feelings” and that was it, she finally came by at around 5pm and noticed I was crying and tried to give me some story about I need to let people in and that I was being childish, then proceeded to say that (exact words, I remember because of how much it stung) ”I’m going back to his hotel room, now this can be a learning experience and I can come back at night and we can have a girls night or you can stay mad and I’ll sleep in my truck” I was crying the whole time she was in the hotel… not once did I express anger, she left me in the hotel room from 12:40 pm until 8pm with no money or car, (I’m a stay at home of 2 under 2 with no current income and she begged me for days to go knowing I didn’t have a cent to my name) I finally ask her around 8pm if she plans on coming back to the hotel and then all the sudden she’s telling me she’s refunded the hotel and that I need to bring all the stuff downstairs because we are leaving, thought it was because she was mad at me for being pissed off by the way she was treating me but it turns out it was because he said he didn’t want to date her, so she says the trip happened this way because of me and that “I ruined it” and that it “could’ve been a fun day” but because I upset her she decided to spend the whole day out with little to no communication with me while trapped as I was… when we were in the truck going back she let it slip that she was going to spend the night in his hotel room, which means if he wouldn’t of cut her off she would’ve left me there alone til morning, now we are back in our town and she’s telling me I need to give her the 500 dollars I owe her from helping me with rent last month while I struggle to find a job still, so she’s telling me I need to pay her back what I don’t have after gaslighting the whole trip back saying it’s my fault, I’m so mentally Ill I fear I need to admit into the ward to avoid harming myself again like I would in the past, i have major depressive disorder and severe anxiety, diagnosed and I need strong pills for them. Im sorry for the rant, it just hurt me so much more then I thought it would and I prey that my children never deal with this type of heartbreak. thank you for reading if you did, I’m sorry it’s all over the place!
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2023.06.04 17:51 AutoModerator Watch '‘Ant-Man And The Wasp: Quantumania’ Free Online HD-STREAMING At Home
Here we are, ready to embrace yet another ambitious adventure from the Marvel Cinematic Universe. For the 31st time, a Marvel Studios movie will make its presence felt on the silver screen, and it will likely become the biggest movie of the year thus far. That movie is none other than
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So where can you watch Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania? When will it be on Disney+? Will it be on any other streamers?
With a new MCU release there are always questions, but at this point, they usually involve how to watch, when, and where you can watch Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania:
When Is Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania's Release Date?
Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania premiered in Los Angeles on February 6, 2023, and will be released in the United States on February 17, 2023, as the first film in Phase Five of the MCU. The film received mixed reviews from critics.
The film is set to be released in many theaters with early showtimes this afternoon and a wider U.S. release date of February 17.
Where To Watch Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania:
As of now, the only way to watch Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania is to head out to the movie theater when it releases on Friday, Feb. 17. You can find a local showing on Fandango.
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Otherwise, you’ll just have to wait for it to become available to rent or purchase on digital platforms like Amazon, Apple, YouTube or Vudu, or available to stream on Disney+. Read on for more information.
How to watch Ant-Man 3 for free
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At this time, Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania is available to stream with a Disney Plus subscription.
When Will Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania Be on Disney+?
While a streaming release date for Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania has not yet been announced, Disney typically sends their movies to Disney+ around 45 days after the theatrical release — and more specifically, on the Friday after that mark. With this strategy, we could be watching Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania from the comfort of our homes by early April 2023.
Will Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania Be On Netflix?
No, Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania will likely not be on Netflix any time soon, seeing as it will go directly to Disney+ after its theatrical run.
Will Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania Be On HBO MAX?
No, Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania will not be on HBO Max since it’s not a Warner Bros. movie. The company announced last year that they would no longer send their theatrical films directly to the streamer. Instead, they’ve implemented a 45-day window between theatrical premieres and HBO Max releases.
Is Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania Available On Hulu?
Viewers are saying that they want to view the new MCU movie Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania on Hulu. Unfortunately, this is not possible since Hulu currently does not offer any of the free episodes of this series streaming at this time. It will be exclusive to the MTV channel, which you get by subscribing to cable or satellite TV services. You will not be able to watch it on Hulu or any other free streaming service.
Is Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania available on Disney Plus?
Unfortunately, Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania is not available to stream on Disney Plus yet. The good news is that it will become the movie’s streaming home after its theatrical run, but that won’t be for some time as Ant-Man 3 is a theatrical-only release right now… meaning that the only place you can view it is on the big screen.
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2023.06.04 17:44 AutoModerator Watch '‘Ant-Man And The Wasp: Quantumania’ Free Online HD-STREAMING At Home
Here we are, ready to embrace yet another ambitious adventure from the Marvel Cinematic Universe. For the 31st time, a Marvel Studios movie will make its presence felt on the silver screen, and it will likely become the biggest movie of the year thus far. That movie is none other than
Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania. 🧿⭕👉 Watch Now :Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania Online Free 🧿⭕👉 Watch Now :Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania Online Free
Paul Rudd is back in Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania — the third installment in this hit MCU franchise. In an effort to save the planet from evil, Ant-Man (Rudd) and Hope van Dyne a.k.a. the Wasp (Evangeline Lily) are transported into the Quantum Realm, where they ultimately face Kang the Conquerer (Jonathan Majors).
So where can you watch Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania? When will it be on Disney+? Will it be on any other streamers?
With a new MCU release there are always questions, but at this point, they usually involve how to watch, when, and where you can watch Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania:
When Is Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania's Release Date?
Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania premiered in Los Angeles on February 6, 2023, and will be released in the United States on February 17, 2023, as the first film in Phase Five of the MCU. The film received mixed reviews from critics.
The film is set to be released in many theaters with early showtimes this afternoon and a wider U.S. release date of February 17.
Where To Watch Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania:
As of now, the only way to watch Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania is to head out to the movie theater when it releases on Friday, Feb. 17. You can find a local showing on Fandango.
Watch Now: Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania Online Free
Otherwise, you’ll just have to wait for it to become available to rent or purchase on digital platforms like Amazon, Apple, YouTube or Vudu, or available to stream on Disney+. Read on for more information.
How to watch Ant-Man 3 for free
A silver lining to Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania being delayed a bit longer, more chance for new moviegoers to experience the original Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania for themselves — or for fans of the movie to watch it for the eighth hundred time, no judgement.
At this time, Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania is available to stream with a Disney Plus subscription.
When Will Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania Be on Disney+?
While a streaming release date for Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania has not yet been announced, Disney typically sends their movies to Disney+ around 45 days after the theatrical release — and more specifically, on the Friday after that mark. With this strategy, we could be watching Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania from the comfort of our homes by early April 2023.
Will Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania Be On Netflix?
No, Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania will likely not be on Netflix any time soon, seeing as it will go directly to Disney+ after its theatrical run.
Will Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania Be On HBO MAX?
No, Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania will not be on HBO Max since it’s not a Warner Bros. movie. The company announced last year that they would no longer send their theatrical films directly to the streamer. Instead, they’ve implemented a 45-day window between theatrical premieres and HBO Max releases.
Is Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania Available On Hulu?
Viewers are saying that they want to view the new MCU movie Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania on Hulu. Unfortunately, this is not possible since Hulu currently does not offer any of the free episodes of this series streaming at this time. It will be exclusive to the MTV channel, which you get by subscribing to cable or satellite TV services. You will not be able to watch it on Hulu or any other free streaming service.
Is Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania available on Disney Plus?
Unfortunately, Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania is not available to stream on Disney Plus yet. The good news is that it will become the movie’s streaming home after its theatrical run, but that won’t be for some time as Ant-Man 3 is a theatrical-only release right now… meaning that the only place you can view it is on the big screen.
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2023.06.04 17:44 Any_Soup_1637 STBXH moved out but didn't take his clothes just a backpack.
Going through a divorce. STBXH moved to a new apartment recently but left all his belongings in his closet. Like literally all belongings. Just took a small bag of clothes and comes and refills it. We have 2 toddlers he comes in visits. I think he's trying to excert control. He's been off for about a week and hasn't moved his stuff . Everytime I ask him when he will move his stuff he gets defensive and upset and calls me desperate for divorce. I'm trying to move on with my life.
We live in one of my father's home. We don't pay rent nor have a lease. House is not under my name. Just my father's LLC. What is my right to moving his belongings. I beileve I can box things up ans put them in the garage. That's not illegal. I have asked respectfully and all he does is tear me down. Why would a man move and not take his clothes, shoes, socks, everything with him? He bought new furniture he's been sleeping there... I don't know what to do with this man.
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2023.06.04 17:41 Zestyclose_Sort8374 Looking for advice on my confusing housing situation
Just wondering what other people's opinions are on my financial situation since it's very complicated and I'm getting conflicting advice from people I trust. This is super confusing so I apologize in advance and thank anyone who can get through it without losing their mind.
Here's the summary... my husband and I live in a house that he bought for $200k before we got married. He paid $100k and his dad paid $100k. We (husband and I) live in half (the basement part lol) and rent the main house out for $2,400/month. The tenants also paid the whole utility bill which is around $500/month (electric heat). Our taxes are low and the only other expense we have is a water and wifi bill. So we are essentially living here for free.
I don't like that we haven't paid my FIL back his $100k yet, mostly because he collects half of the rent from our tenants ($1,200/month). I also listen to Dave Ramsey who preaches not owing family $ and paying off your house before buying another one. I wanted to buy him out of the house so we could collect all of the rent, since we already do 100% of the maintenance and landlord duties (he lives hours away). However, the value of the house is now $450k so we would have to pay him $225k.
We are looking to move ASAP because we have a baby and another on the way, and the space we live in is essentially a 1 bedroom apartment and we need more space. I'm following Dave Ramsey's advice to spend no more than 25% of our take home pay on a mortgage, so our budget is $550k for a new house. My husband's take-home pay is around 100k and I'm a stay at home mom. BUT, we figured out we can buy a $800k house if it has an accessory apartment that we can rent for $2,400/month (we found a house like this and are viewing it tomorrow).
So our options are to 1- buy out my FIL for $225k and stay in our current house for a few more years while we make up that money and are again in a spot to buy a house, or 2- don't buy out my FIL, stay in this arrangement, and go ahead and buy a bigger house now.
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2023.06.04 17:37 PigletKlutzy9711 Broke Right Hand in February and Just recently broke left arm.
I have had to have surgery on both. At this time I'm not allowed to go anywhere with my dog alone. ( according to husband and surgeon.)I'm so depressed. The hand situation did not heal properly because there is no way that I could leave my dog inside for the length of my recovery. Well I've learned a lesson and feel like God came down and bitch slapped me with a broken arm. I am super active and independent. It's a real wake up when I can't put on clothes,let alone bra would be impossible. Ugh This is the thing, I'm really unsure what to do? My dog is amazing. I have people that ask me at least once a month if I would consider selling him. He is a Catahoula, he is great with dogs,people,babies, you name it. Catahoula's are working dogs, I knew this when he was 8weeks and picked him up. He was planned. He is almost 5 years old. What the problem is both accidents happened at my house right in the front. The first one when I broke my pinky, shattered my knuckle on the finger next to it and spranged my wrist happened because the neighbor who lives next door has a horrible little dog that she used to let roam freely. It would come straight to my front window and terrorize my dog. We tried to get them friendly and her dog bit me, a trainer and my dog. My dog is 90 lbs muscle. Her dog is maybe 15 20lbs. Then her dog continued to get out and one day when my dog and I were leaving her dog bit me then my dog and I guess my dog had enough and he nearly killed her dog. Actually no blood but choked him out. She finally has stopped him from going outside off leash. We also found out that before this she has had at least two dogs put down for fighting her dog. So I know that I need to keep my dog safe. My dog is only reactive at my house. Perfect when he goes to his camp when out of town. They use my dog to vet potential new dogs to make sure they are safe. Great off leash. When I get home with him everyday its like going to hell. Her dog barks all day. He is renting space in my dogs head. Her dog is my alarm clock. It goes outside and starts barking and at that point my dog goes from sound asleep to on all 4's and starts howling until I let him outside in our backyard and then if her dog in out in the part of her yard that meets my yard the two dogs run up and down the fence. No grass grows in this area . It's a mud pile. All day it's non stop war. We have not had a run in with them in two years. My dog has NEVER ONCE,no accidents, nothing,ever been in our front yard with out his leash. If it would ever be his fault he would be put down by her. Or it would be a big fight. Actually he wouldn't because I'd hit the road. Or end up in jail. ( I've never been to jail and I'm a 50 yr old woman). So the first hand I was reading my mail sitting in my truck in my driveway like an idiot. My dog is always wrapped around my hand a million times. She opened her front door and let her dog out and who knows if she did it on purpose (because she does these type of things to make the situation worse and that is another long story,she is not mentally fit) however she had to get a front fence so her dog would not escape. Of course the fence is only 3ft tall so it has stopped her dog from coming over but if my dog gets loose, he could clear that fence in a heartbeat. So I'm vigilant and for the last 3.5 years he can't get away from me. Back to me being an idiot reading my mail, my dog lunged out of my truck, I caught major air and broke the shit out of my hand. Two weeks later had surgery on the knuckle because it was demolished. I do not have the type of dog that I can sit around with. If he does not get out 3 hours a day and do training,running,playing with other dogs then I will have an aggressive dog. If I skip a day my dog makes me pay for it. So I did not take as good of care as I should have after surgery and my knuckle is thrashed. The arm surgeon has said that he wouldn't touch it. I'm screwed for life. Not only is it still broken, I'm in a lot of pain. Then because that was my right arm , I was wrapping his leash when we leave around my left hand and we had left to go on a walk, she ( the neighbor )has cameras all over our yards and I don't really mind because it's to make sure that the dogs do not meet. Anyways I forgot my phone, my dog and I ran back in, and he is still wrapped around my left hand. She saw us leave, I don't think she saw us come back,she let her dog out and when I opened my front door,her dog barked, my dog took off like a bat out of hell and my left arm went through the door with my dog and I got caught inside and it snapped my arm. I thought I was going to die. It hurt really bad. I feel so sorry for myself. It literally crushed the bone. I have a metal plate from my palm to the middle of my arm. If I did not have surgery it was a cast for 6 weeks and possibly pain for life. With surgery it's this metal plate then in 2 weeks start physical therapy. Then surgery on the knuckle with the spring type device that I stretched the spring and now my finger is just broken and healing in the wrong direction. This does not allow pictures but when anybody looks at my hand they just make a sound that is like agony and pain. On top of all of this , I'm definitely a Tom boy but I've always taken care of myself. I do care about my appearance. I've always acted like I'm a lot younger than my age and I feel disgusted with myself. I can't shower. Taking a bath is challenging. My hair is a rats nest. I'm not good at asking for help. I'm proud. I'm not comfortable with people seeing me naked. I hate pain killers. Normally right now in our world doctors are hesitant to prescribe pain meds and I hate them but my doctors are begging me to take them and sit still. It's really hard. If you are still with me, thank you and I know this is long. I did not know how to ask a question with out a back story. This is my question.. Tomorrow night I have a trainer and a behaviorist coming over to help with my dog and see the situation. I've talked with them and told them what I've told you. I do not see what could have been trained into my dog that could have helped this. It was my fault. I should have been more vigilant in my truck reading the mail or should have been inside. I have control over my dog when I'm paying attention. It's hard but I've got him. My dog is always going to react to a squirrel, cat and the dog next door. The trainers even said it would be impossible to train it out of this type of breed. I'm not sure how familiar anyone reading this is with catahoula's but anyone who has one, a 100% catahoula knows that they are a different breed of dogs. He is the best dog I've ever had but he is a challenge and he was not a mistake. I wanted the challenge. It's been great up to this point. Does anyone have any ideas for me. From what to do during the day inside for mental stimulation? Also what should I concentrate on with the trainer? The neighbor will not do anything to help. She probably loves this. Sadly we have had letters in our mailbox about her dog and him being a nuisance. I can't get on board with mob mentality and I don't want her dog put down. I think she does love him.i don't get the 3ft fence and if tables were turned she would have been the person who started the letter about my dog. She would kill my dog herself if she could. Anyways she is going to be no help. Any ideas? Constructive criticism, anything that might help me I'd really appreciate. I'm at an all time low right now. I feel gross,look gross, pain,guilt,anger,soooooo mad at myself I could die. I was supposed to go home to help my parents,they are out of state and dad has lung cancer and mom is close to 80. They had to help me. I feel so awful. They don't need to be worrying about 50 year old daughter that acts like I'm a 12 year old boy. Ugh. Thanks again
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2023.06.04 17:34 hnqn1611 How To Save Money Fast - 18 Money Saving Tips
| https://preview.redd.it/hhya8xmys04b1.jpg?width=1280&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=38efb87bf4b79c62b4e5f572c1fc0acde160e7e4 How To Save Money Fast – 18 Money Saving Tips Learning to save money, especially finding ways to do it quickly, is something that can benefit anyone. There are many good reasons to start saving money. Maybe you suddenly got slammed with an unexpected bill, or maybe your friends just invited you on that trip of a lifetime. Or perhaps, you want to buy a house and you have to save for the down payment. You could even just be trying to grow your emergency fund so that you are better prepared for any unexpected expenses. Whatever your reason may be, there are a lot of ways to save money! Number 1 - Track Your Spending And Create A Budget Tracking your spending is the very best way to identify areas where you can save money. All you need to do is track your spending for one month, and this will give you a good idea of where your money is going. Once you’ve identified where you’re spending your money, and you see areas where you can reduce spending, you can set a reasonable budget and then stick to it. This is a simple thing to do, and it’s a very effective way of controlling your spending. Number 2 - Pay Off Your Debt If you’re carrying a credit card debt, you’re wasting money. As difficult as it may be, your top priority should be to pay off your debt and free yourself from those high interest rates. Hopefully, some of the other tips on this list will help you retain more of your cash that you can then use toward conquering your debts. Number 3 - Automate Savings Transfers Each Payday If you can’t seem to create a habit of saving, scheduling automatic transfers to your savings account can be a huge help. When you have a certain amount of your paycheck automatically transferred to your savings account each payday, there's less temptation to spend it - and you can easily watch your account balance grow over time. Review your budget and choose an amount that you can commit to regularly, then put your savings on autopilot. Number 4 - Negotiate Your Bills While some of your bills, such as your rent or mortgage payment, may be non-negotiable, you may have some wiggle room with others. For example, you may be able to find a better deal on your car insurance or your cell phone service. Doing some research to find better rates, can take a little bit a time - but it can be time well spent, if it helps you save money. Number 5 - Set Up Automatic Payments For Bills With our busy lives and busy schedules, it’s not uncommon to forget to pay some bills on time. An easy way to save money, is to simply pay your bills when they’re due. Companies typically charge a late fee for any balances that are overdue. And while it may just be a few bucks here there, these fees quickly add up - especially if you pay multiple bills late. So, set up automatic payments for bills to ensure that they’re paid on time, and to avoid any late fees. It’s also important to keep an eye on your bank account balance to avoid overdrafts and accumulating additional fees. Number 6 - Go Cash Only Put your credit cards away, and then take out a limited amount of money from your checking account -enough to last you for a few weeks. Basically, you withdraw a limited amount and then watch it shrink. Since we're more motivated by loss than by gain, each dollar you physically spend will force you to spend consciously. Number 7 - Consider Relocating Perhaps you live in the downtown core, and your mortgage or rent costs you 2-3 times more than it would if you moved just 15-20 minutes outside of the area. Relocating to an area with a lower cost of living or downsizing your home, could potentially put hundreds to thousands of dollars in your pocket each month. Obviously there can be some roadblocks that may prevent you from moving, but if relocating is an option, it may be well worth considering. Number 8 - Stop Paying For Convenience It’s the American way to pay for convenience. People are willing to pay $5 for a taco they can make at home for less than $1. They pay $6 for a cup of coffee at a local cafe rather than brew an entire pot of coffee at home for a few pennies. Taking a little extra time out of your day to make your own food, brew your own coffee or clean and repair things around the house can grow your bank account rather quickly. Number 9 - Make A Grocery List Making a grocery list before you head out, will quickly save you tons of money. This will ensure that you end up buying only what you need, and that you don't fall victim to any impulse purchases. Write down everything you need for the week. The less times you go shopping, the less likely you'll be to pick up something you really don't need. Plan to shop for an hour or less, and try to race the clock when you shop. This way you won’t spend time wandering around picking up things that look appealing. Also, plan to go shopping shortly after you've eaten. Everything will look less appealing if you're shopping on a full stomach. Number 10 - Downgrade Your Cable, Phone And Internet For most families, these three services equal big bucks every month. Monitor your use over a month or two, and decide what you actually need and what you could cut. Do you really watch any premium channels? Is your landline phone doing anything other than collecting dust? How fast do you need the internet to be if you’re only checking Facebook and email? It truly pays to shop around and find a cheaper service. Number 11 - Cancel Paid Subscriptions, Memberships And Services Are you subscribed to a magazine that you never read? Are you paying for a product delivery service that you hardly ever use? If you have a gym membership, when was the last time you actually made an appearance? Paid services, subscriptions and memberships can really add up. Make a list of all the ones you have, and ask yourself if you really need them. If the answer is NO, it’s probably time to cancel. Number 12 - Quit Your Bad Habits For most people, it’s not easy to quit smoking, drinking, using drugs, or overeating - but these habits are costing you more than just the price of your vice. Quitting destructive habits will improve your health, lower your insurance premiums, and save you a surprising amount of money. Number 13 - Buy Something New When You Replace Something Old If you tend to buy things only because they’re on sale, or just because - perhaps it’s time to stop because you’re wasting money. By establishing a rule that you can only buy to replace something you already have, you're creating an 'active barrier.' Before buying anything, think about how many of those you need, and how many you already have! Then think again, if you really need a new one. The psychology of having to open up your closet, decide what to give away, and get it to the nearest charity (or garbage can) is enough to stop many of us from buying something new. Number 14 - Practice The 30 Day Rule The 30-day rule is a simple method to control impulse spending. Here's how it works: Whenever you feel the urge to splurge - whether it's for new shoes, a new phone, or a new car - force yourself to stop. If you're already holding the item, put it back. Leave the store. When you get home, take a piece of paper and write down the item, the store where you found it, and the price. Also write down the date. Now post this note somewhere obvious: a calendar, the fridge, or a bulletin board. For the next thirty days, think whether you really want and need the item. If, after the 30 days, the urge is still there, then consider purchasing it. That's all there is to it, but it's surprisingly effective. The 30-day rule works especially well, because you aren't actually denying yourself - you're simply delaying gratification. This rule has another advantage: it gives you time to research the item. Number 15 - Take The Time To Comparison Shop This tip goes hand in hand with the previous point. The retail industry thrives on impulse, luring you with so-called sales that urge you to make an immediate purchase. Although there are some door buster deals that may actually be worth it, more often than not, you’re better off taking your time and comparing prices with other retailers. Among the many things you should consider, are not only the base price of an item, but also any shipping costs, coupon codes, and other offers. As an added bonus, during the course of your comparison shopping, you may even realize that you don’t actually need the item you’re looking to buy! Number 16 - Watch Out For Fear Of Missing Out Your favorite social media site may be super addictive and offer plenty of useful advice. But they can also lead to fear of missing out. You’ve probably seen dozens of articles - that whether intentional or not, make you feel guilty about what you’re not doing. Such as: • Things you should do in your 20s or 30s • At what age you should buy a house or car • What luxury items you need to own … and so on Ask yourself, are they really things YOU want to do or buy? Or are you checking off items on someone else’s “bucket list”? Create your own list of goals, focus on them, and let go of the rest. Number 17 - Turn Trash Into Cash Another way to bring in more money is by selling things you no longer need. Look for designer items you don't wear, electronics you aren't using, old books, or anything else you can put up for sale on eBay or Craigslist. Figure out what your stuff is worth - so you get a fair price - and stay safe by following best practices, like meeting buyers in a public place. Number 18 - Earn More Money Using A Skill You Already Have Most people only think about cutting costs. This often leads to reading silly articles online that seem to only suggest ridiculous tips on how to be frugal. We forget about the possibilities of earning more money - which is the most powerful of all. Try negotiating your salary at work, starting a second job, or freelancing in something you're really good at. With this extra income, you’ll be surprised how fast your savings account will grow. Saving money is not as hard as you think. You can save a significant amount of cash just by making small changes. And the best part is, not only will you learn to value money, but in the process of saving, you’ll also learn which strategies work best for you - so you can use them again when needed. Or maybe you’ll keep saving - that way you’ll always have some cash handy to cover whatever expenses come your way. At the end of the day, having a little extra in your savings account can give you the confidence and security to enjoy life. What do you think? What are some other good ways to save money? Let us know in the comments below! submitted by hnqn1611 to TopPersonality [link] [comments] |
2023.06.04 17:28 Lanky-Butterfly7725 Sharing my experience with my ex three years on. And some questions...
Hi,
First time posting here (34M) but I thought maybe some of you might be able to help me understand my experience. Part of me feels bad, what I went throught was nowhere near as difficult or long lasting as many others here, but the fact is it's still having a big impact on me nearly three years on.
Things that happened earlier on in my life meant that I wasn't really in a position for a relationship until my mid-late 20s, and didn't start actively looking and (online) dating until then. I met some great people, many of whom are still friends, and a couple of them became a thing for a little while. But for some reason I mostly couldn't feel it. Waiting to see whether feelings would develop felt uncomfortably like leading on, so I tended not to. But as time went on I increasingly doubted my judgement. Was I too picky, or did I have commitment issues? Is a connection something you build rather than find? Would what felt “right” to me even make me happy? So when a mutual friend told me a woman who'd joined in my hiking group was into me, I was open to seeing where things could go. We weren't super close but she seemed nice, my friends thought she was great, and we got on well and had a lot of interests in common.
It started ok. It was nice to spend time outside together and share the active things we both loved, as well as more low key stuff like just cooking and hanging out together. I tried to resist the instinct to put the brakes on as I'd done previously, and though I still did somewhat, things went much quicker than I was used to and it took some adjustment. She was very keen to tell everyone about us straight away, whereas I wanted to keep things quiet while we were seeing where things were going. I won't pretend I didn't have some doubts. She told me she loved me about two weeks in which I was a little taken aback by, and I did see a different side to her when I met her family that I wasn't sure I liked (she seemed inconsiderate and entitled). But I hadn't seen that before, excused it as family dynamics, and tried to silence the doubts that I'd reasoned had held me back in the past.
I was comfortable with where things were for a while and content taking it a day at a time. But when lockdown loomed she asked whether she could stay with me. We were about four months in at this point and I said it was too much too soon for me. I was also worried about my vulnerable flatmate, and was in fact looking to temporarily move out myself at the time. She was disappointed, but understood. But when lockdown was announced she turned up at my doorstep in tears, and said her parents had kicked her out 😕 Of course I was upset and sympathetic, and said she could stay.
It was very strange, and I found it difficult. But it was a strange and difficult time anyway, and it was only going to be for a few weeks. Neither of us chose this, so I figured we'd just make the best of it. But the lockdowns kept rolling, and eventually I got used to the unease.
There were things I enjoyed. It was nice going for walks, growing vegetables, inspiring each other to cook interesting things, having little holidays when we could. And to just share the practical day to day things and take up each other's slack. But it was very intense. It's not a big flat and we were both working from home most of the time. I really struggled not being able to have more than a few minutes to myself a day, or my own space to retreat to. She's a very "type A" person and always needed to be doing something, and was restless and irritable if she wasn't or had to spend time in her own company. I found myself on edge most of the time.
It began to bother me that the connection still only felt superficial despite spending so much time together. It was the closest to a "normal" relationship I've had and we did all the couply things, but it felt like going through the motions. Conversation never went beyond small talk. I didn't feel understood or safe opening up to her, and felt lonely and cut off. I didn't like the sense of entitlement with which she treated my housemate or my friends, and how she talked about her family and colleagues. Close friends were concerned and said they sensed a change in me, but I couldn't see it. I've read the messages back since and it's painful how right they were and how in denial I was. But at the time it just added pressure and I blocked it out and dug my heels in. I didn't like how we became one entity, all my things became "our" things, including my possessions, opinions, values, friends and memories.
But despite all that I still doubted and second guessed myself, and made excuses for her. I think I always knew that living with a partner would take some getting used to and perhaps some compromises, so attributed a lot of it to that. It was hard to maintain perspective when I hardly ever saw anyone else. And I still saw the lockdown as a finite thing. Weirdly after a while I did suddenly feel a lot more at ease with it all, almost overnight. I now recognise that as the start of a sort of shutdown. My memory is a bit hazy for the few months after that, but it was taking a toll on me physically. I wasn't sleeping and ended up folding the sofa bed out many nights to have my own space. I tried to carry on working but mostly just went back to my bed to doze during the day. I lost so much weight. I had a bit of a wake up call after I managed a few days away on my own - it was the first time apart in six months of living together and cleared my head a little. So when I got back to find that she'd put her own bedsheets on, put her pictures up, and just made the place feel different, I was able to recognise how absurd it all was.
It took me a couple more weeks to put things in place and pluck up the courage before telling her I wanted to talk about living together, because it wasn't working for me. I was worried about how she might react, and it went spectacularly badly. She left and told me not to contact her until I'd made up my mind, then pressured me to make a decision. I wasn't really able to think and headspace is all I was asking for at the time, but her reaction made it simple. It ended after just under a year together.
It was an immediate relief, but I was still a wreck for months afterwards. It took me a very long time to feel relaxed at home and in my own bed again, it's still not quite the same. I think the depression came as I began to get on top of my physical health had the capacity to take stock of things about six months later. And when accidentally stumbling across a picture of her nearly a year later triggered another breakdown I realised it was maybe a bigger deal than I'd thought. We hadn't really had any contact, but that prompted me to go full block/ delete.
In hindsight it never really felt like a relationship, we never had the fundamentals of trust and communication down. I'm very much to blame, I downplayed how I was feeling because I was doubting myself and worried how she'd react, and making things easy when there seemed to be no other option made sense at the time. I did set boundaries but didn't do a good enough job of defending them, I've never had to before and it caught me off guard. And in the moment it was a textbook "boiling frog" scenario. I was surprised she didn't sense anything amiss, but I don't think she was ever actually that interested in me. I just think she liked having a boyfriend because it fit her life plan (she talked about buying a house together from early on), and seemed annoyed at me for disrupting that more than anything. She found someone else pretty soon after.
On reflection, I don't believe she was kicked out. I remember her mum asking me to "take good care of her" a few days before she moved in, and was a bit perplexed by that, but didn't think any more of it at the time. She told mutual friends that I'd invited her to move in. In hindsight, she was often able to turn the tears on and off very abruptly. I'd believed that moving back in with her parents wasn't an option for her, but things didn't add up.
It bothers me how much it's all still on my mind 😕 And that even the mention of her can elicit such a strong reaction years on. I can't believe it's been that long, it doesn't seem like it, but it feels like I'm still strangely trapped by it. I know other people go through much worse for much longer. I have wondered whether moving out would help, but rent is so expensive elsewhere. I've spent a couple of thousand on therapy over the last year and in some ways the therapy has helped, in others it's made it harder because it's validated things and I can see it with more clarity.
I sure it would've been easier to move on if she wasn't so wrapped up with my friends and social life. The hiking group really meant a lot to me, it was the most accepted I've felt, gave me a lot of things I hadn't had before and allowed me to draw a line under what had happened in the past. It felt like life had finally got going for me. Now it feels less like turning a corner and more like a bittersweet memory of a fun few years. I haven't ruled out going back, I'm just trying to work out what's best for me. Losing it has been painful and maybe having it back in my life would help with closure. I've put a lot of effort ito finding new ways to meet people in the years since, but nothing's really worked. I suspect I won't know until I try, but it feels like a big risk.
Thanks so much if you read all that, I'm sorry it was so long and self-pitying 😕 I try to be stoic about it, think of what I learned, and know that there were good times. I don't want to just frame myself as a victim either, I'm responsible too and hurt her (and myself) by not being more open about my reservations and struggles. But I can see why did, and I was honestly trying to make a go of it for a while. As I say this is still on my mind much more than I'd like, and I'd be super grateful if anyone has any thoughts. In particular I'm wondering.
- Since the relationship I've become aware of narcissism and have been able to identify a lot of traits (with the help of friends and my therapist). A couple of people have also told me it sounds abusive. To be honest I'm not sure, she was selfish and inconsiderate but I don't think she was malicious. But how I'm feeling might suggest otherwise. Any thoughts?
- Would it be madness to go back to the group and (very likely) see her again? I would have to make it clear beforehand that I want minimal contact but I still worry about how I'd react seeing her in person. Stumbling across a photo propted a breakdown in the past, and until recently I'd flinch everytime I saw a car that looked like hers.
- I think I've only recently realised that I'll have to accept not having some form of closure. Which is progress, but is leaving me feeling a little lost. Have you found a way to cope with the sense of injustice?
Thanks so much again for reading! It's nice just to share. Good luck to everyone.
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2023.06.04 17:28 melon1996 Unreasonable managing agent charges
Hi there - first time posting.
I own a 1 bed basement flat in south east London. There is one other property in the building, which occupies the ground and first floor. We do not pay ground rent. Upstairs tenant pays £125 per annum.
We are both leaseholders, however, deal with a managing agent rather than directly with the freeholder (other than when we pay our annual buildings insurance).
We have lived here for 2 years and the lady upstairs has lived there for 20+ years. In this time there has never been any service charge incurred. We pay costs as and when required.
The managing agent (HML) have recently contacted us to ask us to pay circa £1400 annually going forward for a number of things, some of which (if not all!) appear unreasonable.
Our lease states that we may have to pay costs from time to time that are reasonable, which may be required by the lessor. There is NO mention of costs from a managing agent.
They are threatening debt collectors if we do not pay within 7 days, which feels like a scare tactic but equally I would rather not take the risk.
Some of the costs include: Managing fee - £400 Accountancy fee - £400 General repairs (note that they have never once attended the property) - £200 Health and safety risk assessment - £120.
We have looked into the costs of collective enfranchisement but this seems too expensive.
Ultimately, we don’t want to look like people dodging costs but on the flip side, we feel like we are being taken for a ride.
The managing agents are HML. If you have a google/trust pilot look up, you’ll see that others are having similar issues.
Where do we stand legally? I feel that the costs are not faireasonable and it’s becoming a real drain on my energy and enjoyment of my home.
Thanks all in advance.
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