Hi guys,
I know this is an unifi forum so we all love the unifi stuff. But because earlier I bought te “wrong” stuff I Wanne be sure.
For my house I have two Eufy 2Pro camera’s and hooked them up whit the alarm system of eufy (keypad and motion/door sensors). Aldo the alarm is working great, I’m not happy with the camera’s and this is mostly because I cannot do 24/7 recordings.. so there will always be fotage I miss ( because the camera starts when it sees something and has a “cool down” time.
Now I already have a few stuf of unifi. One 24P POE switch, two accespoints, and a USG) and I’m doubting to buy the bullet 4 or 5. Are this good security camera’s? Does the motion detection works great in the evening (eufy sometimes don’t detect at night).
I know I can watch movies on YouTube and stuf, and also already did that, but I love to hear your opinion. Also because I find the price a bit high (around €400 for one camera) and I’m doubting If unifi will com with a kind of “security system”
Thanks in advance!

My F(25) boyfriend M(30) of a year cheated the first nine months with his FWB of seven years. He saw her more than he saw me and would sleep with her before our dates. She told my entire family and all his friends he was cheating and he admitted to it. I stayed and wanted to prove his innocence. He’s my first boyfriend and I feel like we were in love, his soul and mine are the same.
My brother catfished him on tinder and we broke up for two days and got back together. I didn’t tell anyone about this and kept posting him.
He tried to get back with his FWB and eventually they began sleeping together and dating again. He told her he wouldn’t make her public so she messaged ALL MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY. She sent them messages of them sexting and how good it felt when he “came inside her”. He wanted to continue being friends but she said she’s not a hidden secret.
All my friends told her she has no self respect and we are going to the police for pornography. We went to the police but they said what she did wasn’t wrong or crossing lines. She didn’t seem dangerous.
All my friends and family wanted me to break up with him and confront him. I messaged her “move on”. This made her flip out and she told me she has free will and don’t tell her what to do. If it’s not her it’s someone else. She told me she’ll have a three way with my boyfriend now.
I confronted him, he admitted to it and we broke up.
I still hope somehow him and I end up happy together and I want to go back to a time before it was too late. My brother said it’s not me it’s him and it was never too late he was cheating the whole time. I feel I can’t even hate him for breaking my heart.
I want to get back together. Everyone keeps saying I am in denial and I need serious therapy. That I’m not grasping the situation.
How do I get out of denial and correct my thinking?
TL;DR: boyfriend cheated the entire relationship with the same girl. He keeps going back to her and cheating. We will break up and get back together. My head then goes into denial and I’m more mad at her for telling everyone our business. She said she’s helping me. How do I stop going to denial?

CW MENTIONS OF ANIMAL ABUSE, ANIMAL ATTACKS

Pitbull haters are so goddamn stupid. I'm so sick and tired of hearing motherfuckers call these innocent animals "shitbulls", "evil", "garbage" blah blah blah. Like seriously, go fuck yourself. Almost everything these fuckers say to back up their hatred for this breed can be easily debunked with a simple google search or the slightest bit of education on the matter.
"Pitbulls were bred to be violent and mean!"
No, they were bred to hunt bears. So were a large majority of other breeds. A natural instinct to hunt does not equal them being "mean". As a matter of fact, pits have no natural interest in hunting or hurting humans.
"Pitbulls will turn on you out of nowhere!"
Nope. There is 0 evidence that backs up this claim. If a dog "turns" on you, it's usually due to the dog being stressed, unsocialized or provoked. This can happen with ANY breed. It's just that when it happens, pits are one of the most muscular and strong breeds out there, so it seems much more gnarly in comparison. They won't just wake up one morning and decide they wanna bite your face off for zero reason. If you take good care of your dog, they aren't gonna want to kill you. They understand that you are their lifeline. You feed them, take care of them etc. They aren't going to risk starving to death and losing their beloved owner just because they got a wild hair up their ass.
"Pitbulls are the most aggressive and dangerous breed!"
Yeah.... wrong again. Here is a list of dog breeds that rank higher on the danger scale than the pit.
Akitas, wolfdogs, chow chows, cane corsos, boxers, dachshund, chihuahuas, siberian huskies, rottweilers.
"A pitbull attacked me/my pet for no reason, you can't tell me they aren't aggressive!"
They CAN be aggressive, if unsocialized or trained to be that way. There are dogs out there that have attacked unprompted, but that's very uncommon-- and once again, can happen with ANY breed.
"71% of dog attack fatalities are from pitbulls!"
Yes, because pitbulls are one of the most common and muscular dog breeds in the world. They are also the #1 most abused breed in the world. Extremely common dog, most abused dog, and most muscular dog = highest number of fatalities. If other, more dangerous dogs were higher in population than pits, they'd be the 71%.
I could go on and on and on and on. I used to work in a hotel where my coworkers were temporarily staying in-house. So, they brought their dogs. Every dog just so happened to have been pits. They were all as sweet as can be. Loving, cuddly, goofy, playful and kind. As a matter of fact, they were big cry babies that would whine and pout if you didn't love on them. They were so stinkin' cute. One day some bitch ass Karen walked in and was booking a room. My coworkers were taking their dogs on a walk together in the parking lot, so they all passed by us with their pitbulls. The Karen looked at them, scoffed, rolled her eyes. I asked her what was wrong. She said "Nothing. I just despise pitbulls." I asked her why. She said "When I was a kid I had a pitbull named Candy. She was my best friend and she slept in my bed with me every night. One night I woke up and she was growling at my dad who was standing in the doorway trying to get in to wake me up for school. Candy bared her teeth and lunged at him, so she shot her. Candy loved my dad, she attacked out of nowhere. She was a demon." I asked her if there was any reason why Candy would be upset with your dad, Karen lady said no. I tried changing the subject and way later on in the conversation when we were talking about how times have changed, especially for kids. On the topic, she said dad would beat her as a kid if she back-talked. She stressed to me that she was glad her dad beat her and gave her "proper discipline" and that everyone should be beating their kids to keep them in line, and because no one is beating their kids anymore, that's the reason kids are "such spoiled brats these days". I got my answer. Very fucking clearly, Candy attacked her dad whilst trying to protect this Karen chick. Candy probably loved her dad before witnessing the beatings he'd inflict on Karen lady. So no, there was no "turning". It was a dog being protective. As a matter of fact, pits are nicknamed the "nanny dog" because of how well they protect and get along with children. By the end of the conversation, when my coworkers came back from their walk, Karen lady said (out loud, in front of my coworkers, dogs still present) "If it were up to me, I'd put a gun between every pitbull's eyes and pull the damn trigger." I immediately cancelled her reservation we just spent an hour creating and told her to get the fuck out and never step foot in this establishment ever again or I will get a tresspassing order. She was pissed as hell, but I didn't care. I don't know how anyone could be so fucking hateful toward an animal. Even an aggressive animal like a lion or honey badger. You wouldn't catch me DEAD saying shit like "If it were up to me I'd put a gun between every lion's head and pull the damn trigger."
If you don't like pits, are scared of pits, had a bad experience with a pit, or are uncomfortable with pits, that's fine. Totally fine. You don't have an obligation to love this breed. However, keep your senseless dog killing fantasies to your damn self. And if you plan to get a pit, TRAIN IT, SOCIALIZE IT, WALK IT, and NEVER lay your hands on it. Do your research before getting a pit, or any breed for that matter. Education about these things save lives.

I write book reviews on Half Past Midnight, a blog dedicated to the surreal world of fantasy and science fiction. A few days ago, I posted reviews for the first two books in this series. While this review does not have spoilers about book 3, it does have spoilers for books 1 and 2.
Welcome to my humble appreciation post for the third book in the A Chorus of Dragons series. Or better yet - call it the rollercoaster which never ends.

Plot

The Name of All Things ended on a bitter note with the destruction of Atrine after Morios completely wrecked the city. Vol Karoth, previously imprisoned for thousands of years, is now finally awake. Relos Var won (once again). Things tend to go your way when you've planned each of your steps centuries ahead of your enemies.
Although not fully free of his bonds, Vol Karoth has now woken up from his deep slumber. That is pretty terrifying. Knowing that some part of Kihrin's soul is somehow connected to this dark, endless entity is also terrifying.

No one could truly see Vol Karoth. He formed a man-size hole cut from reality, a silhouette of absolute, perfect blackness. His appearance offered up the final, absolute proof of my worst nightmares: Vol Karoth was free.

The only thing that can possibly stop the utter annihilation of the world is the ancient Ritual of Night. Meant to be enacted by the leader of an immortal race, this ritual could give the Eight more time to figure out how to deal with the impending destruction of the world. As it turns out, it can only be performed once by each race, and at a terrible cost. Since its creation, The Ritual of Night has already been enacted by three of the four immortal races - the voras, voramer, and vordreth - leaving only the vané. They have just one shot to do it, and to do it right.
Kihrin, Janel, Teraeth, and Thurvishar start this book with a single objective - to convince the vané king, Kelanis, to perform The Ritual of Night. And as usual, nothing goes according to the plan. Why am I not surprised?
Traveling to Manol makes for quite a change from the usual locales we are accustomed to, and boy - is it fun. A lot of old characters finally come back - I was glad to see a lot of the first book's cast return. Therin, Khaeriel, and Terindel (Doc) show up amid a lot of family drama, which is one of the best parts of the book. It was great to see a lot more quieter moments this time, since we don't usually see the more intimate side of the characters while they are dealing with whatever nightmares haunt them. Nonetheless, those scenes, although intimate in scale, often add a lot of depth since they reveal what really drives the characters on a personal level.
What it results in is a story chock full of morally grey characters switching sides, refreshing worldbuilding, little side quests, and lots of vané politics. I loved all chapters equally. Although Xivan and Talea are a little boring to me as characters, having Senera and Suless around ensures there's never a dull moment.
I really enjoyed how Lyons handled the past lives of Janel, Kihrin, and Teraeth. Each of them has reincarnated over the centuries as notable people in history. While Teraeth remembers those lives in clear detail, the other two don't. Very aptly named, this book spent a lot of time exploring what happened in those previous lives, and I loved it. So many more things start to make sense about Elana, S'arric, and the dark connection between Kihrin and Vol Karoth.

The memories are too much, so overflowing I feel like a cup trying to hold the ocean. I can only gulp mouthfuls, knowing it would take me centuries to swallow the sea. I am drunk on memory, drowned in my identities. It hasn’t just been one or two. I’ve lived a dozen lives. But that first one lasted ten times longer than all the rest combined.

At last, The Memory of Souls gave me something I'd been waiting for. Just Kihrin, Janel, Teraeth, and Thurvishar hanging out together, fighting demons and bantering. Part of the reason why this book works so well is that the narration is nowhere near as convoluted as before, and all our favorite characters finally are TOGETHER. Give me a great cast, and I'll go anywhere with them.
The ending of this book had some events that felt a lot more permanent than the previous ones. The course of our characters is now set in stone. There was a tipping point, and now there is no turning back on the consequences.

Characters

I found it weird that almost none of the side characters from The Name of All Things made it to this book, and I’m a little annoyed at that. Why make a whole book about them?
Nonetheless, there are a lot of complex, interpersonal relationships uncovered between the characters - both old and new. I love that no matter how big the threat facing them is, everyone still has their personal problems with family members, both close and estranged. The Memory of Souls exposed the darker side of a lot of different people. How far would you go to achieve your goals and who are you willing to sacrifice for it?

Kihrin

As always, Kihrin brings with him a chaotic, confused energy that so helpfully lends itself to this glorious mess of a book. Despite everything he's seen and everything he's undergone - Kihrin still marches on, determined to save the people he cares for. Although marked by prophecy, he still takes the agency to make his own choices, no matter how painful a path they might lead him to. Between his feelings for Teraeth and Janel and Vol Karoth's hold on him, the poor guy goes through a lot.

“You’re terrible,” Janel murmured. “I’m honest,” I whispered into her ear. “And you are music and songs and the light of a thousand stars. You are storm clouds and velvet skies and brilliant columns of fire. How can I not be drawn to you?”

Teraeth

Teraeth finally gets a POV and some excellent character development. Although we only saw him as Kihrin's best friend in The Ruin of Kings, this book explores the deeper scars left on him by his past lives and the messed up dynamics between him, his mother, Khaemezra (Thaena), and his father, Terindel the Black. Thaena has her claws in him deep. This time around, we see a lot more flaws in her real nature as a manipulator who moves people around to do her dirty work, as well the effect it has on the said people - including her own son.

Janel

Janel, surprisingly, is almost relegated to a side character. There are chapters where she does nothing more than serve as a point of conflict between Kihrin and Teraeth. I found this really upsetting since The Name of All Things focused sorely on her as a character and made me love her as much as Kihrin. But this time, Lyons sees her more as a plot device to unlock Elana's memory and not as a person, as Janel Therannon, in her own right. Although she still has her conflicts with Suless and Xaltorath, I wish she felt more involved in the plot.

Relos Var and Senera

Relos Var is an accurate reflection of what happens when you believe in your cause so strongly that you cannot see anything past it. Senera, blinded by her faith in him, still can't quite realize that she is nothing more than a tool in his hands. Although I found her a little annoying last book, she seems to have matured this time, bringing a sort of quiet tiredness to the table with her valuable magic skills. I don't know if I could call them both villains, though. This book makes it clear that there is no black and white, no good and bad - everyone's morality is in those varying shades of grey.

Worldbuilding

History-wise, this novel sheds more light on the origins of the Eight, the dragons, and the Ritual of Night, as well as Vol Karoth's creation. I'd been looking forward to these bits for a while, and you finally get more answers. I love how the series always goes a step back into the history of the world with every book. It's a bit like peeling the layers of an onion - every part pulls back the curtain on yet another aspect of history.

Writing Style

This book still follows the jumpy narrative style of its predecessors but with a lot more POVs. Mercifully, the time gaps are not too huge and the chapters are chronological (for the most part). The different points of view and timelines are aligned in a way that the reveals make the most sense - the timelines in the past always coincide with a relevant chapter in the present. This would have taken a sheer amount of effort to get right, but it shines.
The story takes us from the dry, void reaches of the Korathean Blight to the exotic, lush jungle of the vané. Overall, the writing just seemed leveled up this time. I'm not sure why, but the prose and the choice of words seemed a whole lot better. The great dialogue and witty banter are always a plus.

In Conclusion

The Memory of Souls is a gift that keeps on giving. This might be my favorite book of the series and the year. This was the book that made trudging through The Name of All Things absolutely worth it. Despite some minor misgivings, this is the strongest installment yet in a series that rewards its readers with great characters, rich world-building, and twists that subvert expectations. Onward and upward to the next one!

so i’m a trans dude and i recently spent the night with my gf. we ended up fingering each other, but there was no penetration. i’m just wondering if this counts as sex? and if not what does? i’m very inexperienced and i can’t really find any good resources for information. i can answer any questions if clarification is needed

ive always had a pretty 'good' period. 5-6 days max, cramps on day 2, finishes on time with nothing to worry about. now its just.. WEIRD.
it'll just continue for 7-15 days. its much lighter, i barely bleed. but day 4 onwards is just .. dry red/brown flakes of blood. it's just irritating because i feel so unclean and gross (even before when my period was normal, i hated it and felt disgusted and couldnt wait for it to end), but now it just DOESNT end and maybe im being extremely dramatic but it just causes me alot of mental anguish.
ive always had a weird mentality around my period where i dont dress up/go out/ do things when I'm on it because I feel like it limits me and i feel gross but now that just continues for 2 weeks at a time every month.
i feel like losing even further to stop it completely but i cant do that because my family is aware of my condition and im being threatened with inpatient so. lose lose situation i guess.

A little vent for me as I contemplate “going home”. We are a little family (SO of 20+ yrs and “our” kids x 2 17,12 with SD 33 with now 3x grandies). Context: I arrived on the scene with SD 15. Bad time to arrive. SO has always worked FIFO and then multiple expat opportunities which “our” kids came along on but for which SD was 18+, not really interested. Returned home, SD wedding and couple GK and then another expat posting and a GK born after we left. We are coming home to see new GK and also catch up as will be leaving again for another 2 years. We’re not rich - these expat postings are about paying off our house heading into retirement. For me, I have pretty much exited the scene for the last 10 years - SO life and relationship with SD was just better when I wasn’t around and I was happy to avoid drama. This trip home, I have pretty much arranged to avoid the whole situation bar 2 nights. But those two nights feel like going into the lions den. I don’t know what I will be faced with. For example, every Christmas for the last 5 years or so since married, they tell us, don’t get them a present as they will never buy us one. So last year, after repeatedly never even getting a card or some semblance of acknowledgment, we didn’t buy them (SD & her hubby) but got stuff for the kids. My kids did as they are still young. She said she wasn’t coming around for Christmas at the GP and then did to see her kids open presents and our kids open presents which (I was trying to tell my kids to not be so excited as I could see it unfolding in front of my eyes and knew where it would go but was also like why I am telling my kids to shh with their excitement but that’s what we do around her) turned into a total drama. Before we left, we took out 12 Yr old for a final play with his friends which also caused issues because we should have spent it with her (IDK - a little kid moving counties and leaving all his friends seems like a big deal). There’s lots of other stuff which is just too long to explain and I am just venting. I told hubby I don’t want to go but will but it seriously gives me anxiety. I just know she will use it as an opportunity to be able to bitch to her friends & my hubby about weight I have put on, colour of my hair, clothes that I wear. It’s not that she will be horrible at the time, it’s all the crap that follows which is why I disengaged in the first place. Anyhoo. As I said, just having a vent

My fucked up brain has somehow convinced me that suicide is my only way out of my mostly easy life that I hate so much, with a family that I love so much. But I could never hurt them like that, leave them with the same traumas/self loathing/angedepression that I have struggled so hard with my whole life. So that useless lump of fuck in my skull (which HAS to be completely smooth) proposed an idea that I should just take us all out.
My spouse loves us all so much but is dealing with their childhood demons too and resorts to spanking/yelling/demeaning words very quickly. I don’t want the kids to deal with that. Or foster care. We don’t have support or family to help or take them. I can’t even go the hospital again to get inpatient care because my spouses work won’t allow more time off. Not that it worked the first or second time. I’ve been in trauma therapy for about a year. I’ve been working really hard. Making changes, I’m medicated properly, using tools I’ve learned in therapy everyday. Even my shrink sees the improvement and has commented on it. I even feel better. Finally found a good combo of meds and am relatively happy in life.
But somehow my brain still thinks that offing all of us (in a completely painless and easy way) is the course of action that should be taken. I know it’s completely fucked up and not right. But it’s been two years of feeling this and I don’t know what other kind of help I need or can get. I haven’t even told my therapist this. He thinks I’m doing great. And I am. In everything except this crazy bullshit. What do I do?

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Icewind Dale: Enhanced Edition
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Circuit Breakers
Grand Ages: Rome
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Freaking Meatbags
Kill the Bad Guy
Infectonator: Survivors
Replica
Pivot Pilot
Reverse Crawl
Skulls of the Shogun
Dead Effect
Mad Games Tycoon
GemCraft - Chasing Shadows
Double Kick Heroes
Eternal Edge +
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The Life and Suffering of Sir Brante
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I am planning to spend a few days in Ashland with my family in late July. What are some good green and/or blue trails to ride? My younger son is 8 and has a full suspension bike - he likes riding blue trails and smaller features at bike parks. Also do people ride e-bikes up there? I saw that e-bikes “aren’t allowed” in the Ashland watershed but I’ve heard that before when in actuality people ride them everywhere.

TLDR: AI is replacing my special interest as an artist and I believe AI programs are going to plunge us further into a dystopia. I am feeling defeated.
I want to preface this all by making it clear that I will NEVER end my own life. Yes, I may feel like doing it, but I ultimately never will as there are far to many people in my life who would be destroyed if I did.
I’ve divided this up into sections in order to make it easier to read.
Introduction
Who am I? I’m a 20 year old lady with mild autism. I am an artist and have known since I was little. I have been working to improve my skills for so many years and am currently in university studying animation. Art and animation are the only things I am really good at. My autism makes life mostly unenjoyable. My art has been the one thing keeping me going all these years.
The Problem
You have all definitely heard of AI art generators by now. I was shocked when Dall-E 2 was unveiled in April last year. We all thought AI could never be creative or make art. Yet all these creative AI’s pretty much came out of nowhere in quick succession last year. Mid journey, chatgpt, stable diffusion, text to video programs, you name it. It just happened all at once.
My concerns should be obvious. These AI systems can make art and even write stories. They can do it at lightning speed and at the cost of electricity. This puts anyone who writes or draws for a living in a terrible position. Companies and individuals will surely go for the quicker, cheaper option. Even if it is slightly worse in quality.
My autism would make getting any other job an actual nightmare so I have been incredibly disheartened by these developments. Not to mention that many creatives are like me and are on the spectrum too. They are often socially awkward and find regular life difficult. Many of them will have their entire future’s ruined by these systems.
I still find it hard to believe that art of all things is getting automated. Art, writing and more. All the creative tasks are getting taken from us. Sure, they can still be hobbies. But that just leaves us with more soul crushing work. And not to mention that future generations will have it even worse. Why would anyone want to bring kids into such a depressing world where all the things we enjoy are monopolized and automated? I was debating whether I wanted to be a mother. I knew my autism would make it very difficult, but these latest developments have pushed me right into antinatalism.
A Dystopian Future
Not to mention the other, possibly worse side effects of this new technology. AI voices, videos and images are getting better every week. Imagine how easy it will be to generate a fake video of someone doing or saying something horrible that they didn’t do. And the technology will likely be so good in just a few years that we will have no way of knowing if it’s fake or not. Sounds like the worst kind of dystopia. Some people may doubt that the tech will ever get that good. Well we never thought that AI would be able to creat art, yet here we are. Just look at how much AI images have improved since April of last year. Or heck, 3 months ago!
But back to job/purpose loss. This worries me just as much as the paragraph above. Art is the only thing I have really ever excelled at. And I am now realizing that I probably won’t be able to make it my career. Yes, I do animation so that probably has a while longer. But at the rate the tech is progressing I wouldn’t be surprised if AI takes over animation and VFX in under 10 years.
Where I’m At
I am not exaggerating when I say I am crushed. Truly this time though. I have been through many things that destroyed my spirit, it’s pretty much guaranteed for people on the spectrum. I was bullied my entire childhood, denied being able to be in a relationship due to my sensory issues, isolated from society and more. Yet the one thing that kept me hopeful was being able to show the world my art and make a living off it.
And now it’s gone.
Now anyone can have top tier skill. Anyone can generate anything in any style. Even if I make a new style, someone can just feed my drawings into a machine and infinitely clone them. My skill doesn’t matter anymore. The one thing I truly had going for me is basically worthless. And if not now, in a few years. I have no purpose anymore. I feel worthless. Even though I have more friends and family that love me then most people, I feel worthless now. Even if there is still room for human artists, we simply can’t keep up with the speed AI produces stuff. We will be drowned out by AI works.
I knew I would likely never make big bucks by pursuing art and animation. Unless you run a massive studio you don’t get mega rich. But I knew I could earn enough to comfortably live off my work. With things like YouTube and Patreon it seemed feasible as long as I worked to become good enough. I wanted to start doing commissions online. I wasn’t expecting to get rich, but I was so excited and happy to get started. Then this all happened. I already see many artists online talking about how they’ve lost their jobs or how nobody commissions them anymore.
People often ask the question "Where would you be and what would you be doing if money didn't exist?". Well, the life I had planned out WAS what I would be doing if money had no value.
To be honest, I don't like where the world in general is going. We're spied on every moment of our lives, people are being increasingly fake and we can't provide for our families. Then there's cancel culture, political correctness, wokeness, decaying attention spans and instant gratification. All of which didn't really exist just a few years ago.
Questions You May Have
I want to dedicate a section to answering some questions I can see people having for me as to clear up any confusion.
“You’re Being Dramatic”
I can see why someone might think that. But imagine if you’re entire purpose and passion suddenly became pretty much worthless and you had to face the rest of your life without it. Seriously, imagine it. You’d be devastated. Also, all the things I’ve mentioned here either already have happened or are likely to happen.
“AI will never be as good as human artists”
Maybe it will never be as good as the top 1% but it’s already better then most artists out there. And if it’s this good now then imagine where it’ll be in 5-10 years. Not to mention that even if it is slightly worse, most people will chose it over a human artist simply due to the speed and cost.
”You Must Adapt And Use The AI’s In Your Workflow”
I will. I will do anything to keep my dream alive. I’ve played around with various AI tools to enhance my workflow. But in doing so, the enjoyment is gone and my original visions destroyed. Not to mention that AI will dramatically devalue all creative works, so I may not be able to earn enough to keep doing art as a career.
“These Are Just New Tools”
Maybe now, but they’re already replacing tons of artists, voice actors and more. Also, the end game for these ‘tools’ is to completely remove the need for any skill or talent. An AI image generator makes all the decisions for you, while you type in a text prompt. These systems are replacements, not tools. If you were a brick layer you wouldn’t see a brick laying machine as a tool. You would see it as a replacement.
"You Only Care About Making Money"
Read the part where I went over this. Yes, I am afraid of not being able to make a career off art. But I'm also scared of not being able to get noticed and having my work devalued. If everyone's an amazing artist, nobody is. Also, my parents are wealthy enough to be able to comfortably support me and my two siblings for the rest of our lives. But I don't want this. I WANT to work hard and feel accomplished for doing so. And These AI systems take that away.
“We Can Fight The Companies Developing These AI’s”
Sure, but what will that achieve? The technology is out there and it won’t go away. Even if every government in the world banned these AI’s overnight then they would still be developed in secret. I know some people are suing AI art generators over copyright infringement for using their art to train the AI’s. I personally do not see the court systems ruling in favor of the artists. It will most likely be seen as fair use.
“There Will Always Be A Place For Human Made Art”
I do agree on this. One tiny positive is that physical art such as paintings and sculptures may have a resurgence due to digital art being devalued. But this will likely be a tiny niche.
“This Is Just Like NFT’s”
No it’s not. Everyone knew from the beginning how stupid NFT’s were. We knew they were a pyramid scheme destined to collapse. And they did. AI art and their similar tools are not something that’s going to go away. They are rapidly developing and getting better. They’re going to be more and more widely used in the future.
”You Only Care When Your Own Job Is Being Replaced”
Not true. I have felt very sorry for those who’s jobs have or are being automated. When I first heard of self driving cars I immediately felt dread for truck drivers and anyone in a similar position. I actually will go out of my way to not use the self service checkout in order to help keep the store employees employed.
”Do You Hate AI Bro’s?”
No. I don’t hate anyone who uses or is excited about this new tech. I can totally see their perspectives and we shouldn’t dogpile them. My issues lie with the developers of this technology and the people online saying “LOL GET REKT ARTISTS! YOU’RE WORTHLESS NOW!”. You’re allowed to love this tech, but actively routing for someone’s downfall is very horrible and childish. I wouldn’t think anything bad of any group of people who were about to have their professions made obsolete.
Conclusion
I am truly broken this time.
No really, that’s my conclusion. I don’t see this getting better. We are entering into an even bigger dystopia then before. I have never felt more hopeless then I do now. I’m only 20 and I’m tired. My spirit has officially been crushed. And yet I’m meant to stay in this game for another 70+ years.
I have been depressed before in life, but this has made me completely suicidal. Never before have I actually felt like ending my life. Yet this has pushed me over the edge. Though I will ultimately never do it.
All of us now just happened to be unlucky enough to be born into the most boring dystopia. I have no idea how to find happiness or purpose in any of this. But I will continue living because what else can I do?
If anyone has any questions or wants to discuss things then I will answer them.

Hey there how's it going? I thought why not make a post to potentially get to know someone out there, I'm a simple guy I've been described as a kind, caring and very dumb but don't worry I swear I'm smart in alot of aspects lol I'll talk about anything whether it be extremely nerdy stuff or whatever else especially video games, anime and comic stuff
I'm not gonna list every single attribute about myself here because how would you get to know me if you already know so much about me yk?
Anyways if this interests you even in the slightest you can dm add a little intro if you want and we'll go from there oh and
Have a good day or night!!

Age 36. Male. It’s rather complicated situation and will be too long to go very deep into it but I need help and advice please. I am in a toxic narcissistic family, my brother is the most toxic. I’ve stayed in contact but tried also distanced from him. I’ve tried to keep the peace for family reasons so still seen him occasionally. This was a huge mistake as you’ll see. To give a bit of background on him, he is a pathological liar, very malicious, fake, two faced, poisonous person. To say the least.
He was hating it that I distanced from him, but would not say to my face, instead kept manipulating other family against me and doing other shady crap. Anyways he offered to give me some weed, I stupidly said yeah, I was low on weed and had no dealer at the time. I smoked some of it and my body was going shaky/twitchy, chest went numb, at the same time I had increase in my anti depressants so I thought it was down to that and brushed it off. I continued to have these effects on multiple nights smoking it. I also noticed my urine smelled bad, my sweat smelled weird, my breathe had weird smell. I know this sounds silly but I was going through such severe depression I just didn’t think much into it all I was so preoccupied with my deep depression. I started to feel unwell slowly, like ill, dizzy, weak, very agitated. The last night I smoked it my whole body was shaking violently I couldn’t stop it, it done it for about 20 minutes and when it stopped my heart was having very strong palpitations & I felt really ill. I went to sleep I felt so weak and sleepy. In morning I was looking up things I thought was possible serotonin syndrome as I was on two medications that can cause this and just had one medication upped & had quite a few symptoms of it. I went to doctors next day was talking to GP about it, she done a reflex test on legs, I had hyper flexia, was very shaky & agitated, she was writing me a letter to go hospital & it got worse I went very unwell, I felt dizzy, faint, had thrushes going through me, GP got me to lay down on bed and my body went into some kind of shock/seizure, I had paralysis,couldn’t move at all, I couldn’t even move my eyes doctor called ambulance they had to lift me onto a bed into ambulance, my heart was squeezing felt it struggling then done a boom heart rate shot upto 162, I was shaking all over non stop. I felt like I was dying. In hospital I felt a burning toxic kind of feeling go through kidneys into bladder. This next thing I explain I’m beating myself up so much about it, it hurt to urinate after, it smelled bad & was dark. I was so messed up I didn’t ask for urine to be tested :( I feel my body tried to push out the poison and if I asked for this to be tested I’d of found out and got help. Instead they done bloods checked for serotonin syndrome, done eeg to check for seizure activity, all was ok and they put it down to depression, psychological :( I don’t agree at all Since being dicharged I’ve been very unwell, I feel ill, weak, occasional blurred vision, double vision, feeling faint, chest pain, lot of palpitations, heart feels damaged, also my stomach is swelled and digesting slow. I’ve reached out with doctors but they are fobbing me off with anxiety/depression due to what hospital said. They also seem annoyed/defensive as if I was trying to get them in trouble with serotonin syndrome, I wasn’t I just didn’t know what was happening to me :( It took me some time to figure out but I looked back all this started from when my malicious vindictive brother gave me that weed. I can see it all now clearly. It was nothing to do with serotonin syndrome it was my fucking asshole toxic brother. If only I asked for urine sample in hospital it would of been picked up, it literally felt like poison going through my kidneys and my bladder was sore, the urine smelled bad, strong smell, dark like brownish. I’m severely down I feel I got nowhere to turn, I feel very ill, I feel it’s damaged my organs, my heart isn’t the same, my stomach, my vision still acting up, I feel very ill and drained everyday. I still got a bit of that toxic smell in my breath, in my sweat, not as strong but I think poison might still be in me. Would poison/toxicity of showed up in normal blood test? They said my blood was inflamed but did no further investigation… I am thinking to go doctors to ask for a toxicology blood test but maybe it’s mostly gone now? It’s been 3 months since. 3 long months of suffering everyday… I still am daily. I also don’t think they’ll agree, I think they’ll find my story delusional, they don’t seem to like me much since that serotonin syndrome thing. They’ve took me the wrong way. I feel screwed and what really burns is my sick twisted brother has got away with this. I can’t even bring it up with family as due to my anxiety/depression they’ll say I need mental help that I’m crazy. Also my family is dysfunctional and toxic, my brother puts on this nice guy facade but he is very very nasty behind it. I’ve tried looking at how I could get a private toxicology blood test but I can’t find one online. I also have had an ECG which shows partial right branch blockage which I didn’t have before this incident, I had two ECGs before it happened in lead up to that seizure or whatever it was and they were normal, since then I have RBBB which shows this done something to my heart. It’s altered my ECG. They wont give me an echocardiogram. I’m thinking to pay for one. My heart is playing up everyday. I feel very unwell and weak. Problem is I feel I also need test/ultrasound on stomach, i can’t afford all this and gps won’t take me seriously. I was skinny and still am but since this happened to me my belly is swelled/bloated, all the time, but even more when I eat it goes very big, like I’m 5 months pregnant, but rest of me is skinny, my appetite is low, before that happened to me my belly was flat. When I eat my belly does loads of sounds afterwards for hours, like gurgling, etc when I stand from sitting I can feel and hear food/liquid swishing around. It’s messed up my whole system, its very big for a long time then by morning it’s less big but still swelled/bloated, that poison has damaged me bad. I feel the illness feeling throughout my whole body, everyday!. I feel like I’m slowly dying. I feel like I’m going to collapse one day I feel faint when i do physical activity, i tried jogging my chest went very tight, I felt disorientated, faint, dizzy. It’s happened when walking multiple times too. Nobody will listen to me or help me. My brother is manipulating my family against me saying im just mentally unwell. I know what he did but can’t even bring it up as I’ll lose my family they’ll call me crazy. My life is absolute hell. My brother has destroyed me. Any advice please I’m desperate and feel so isolated with this. I feel abandoned by nhs. It’s making me consider checking out totally. Please help.

At Cristoph last night I was surprised to see how many gay guys on the dance floor were shirtless having a good time.
As a gay guy, I’m very used to this at gay clubs and circuit parties. We are a…rambunctious group and tons of fun.
Curious what it’s like for straight people when a section of the club is taken over by a group of fit gay guys treating it like a gay club.
And I say taken over because it seems straight ppl don’t mix in with the gay crowd. They dance and vibe around them but don’t integrate. There’s an invisible barrier between the straights and gays. (I’m generalizing my own observations)
Are you guys put off by it. Do you enjoy the energy. I’m very curious how ppl honestly feel when this happens.

After cutting down to two drinking days per week for the past few months (granted, that's 100 oz. of cheap beer per day...), I decided to buckle down and tackle the elusive week's worth of sobriety. Not only did I finally achieve seven days, but I feel so good that I'm going to keep pushing! My goal now is two weeks, though something tells me that I might make it to a month and beyond. My energy levels are through the roof (other than a little mid-day nap craving) and I think my restlessness at night is finally evening out.
Most of my friends have grown tired of hearing me attempt any amount of sobriety over the years because I always fail by Day #4; that's when the moodiness and fatigue are the worst, and I always jump ship. Due to this, I'm hesitant to tell them about this small, but impactful, accomplishment. Maybe after two weeks? Even then, I feel like that's not quite long enough to count "in the real world," with "normal drinkers."
For now, I'll just keep my milestones hushed and sequestered here, where I've been lurking for so long, inspired by the stories of everyone else who once found themselves in my position.
IWNDWYT :)

My boyfriend of a year cheated the first nine months with his FWB of seven years. He saw her more than he saw me and would sleep with her before our dates. She told my entire family and all his friends he was cheating and he admitted to it. I stayed and wanted to prove his innocence. He’s my first boyfriend and I feel like we were in love, his soul and mine are the same.
My brother catfished him on tinder and we broke up for two days and got back together. I didn’t tell anyone about this and kept posting him.
He tried to get back with his FWB and eventually they began sleeping together and dating again. He told her he wouldn’t make her public so she messaged ALL MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY. She sent them messages of them sexting and how good it felt when he “came inside her”. He wanted to continue being friends but she said she’s not a hidden secret.
All my friends told her she has no self respect and we are going to the police for pornography. We went to the police but they said what she did wasn’t wrong or crossing lines. She didn’t seem dangerous.
All my friends and family wanted me to break up with him and confront him. I messaged her “move on”. This made her flip out and she told me she has free will and don’t tell her what to do. If it’s not her it’s someone else. She told me she’ll have a three way with my boyfriend now.
I confronted him, he admitted to it and we broke up.
I still hope somehow him and I end up happy together and I want to go back to a time before it was too late. My brother said it’s not me it’s him and it was never too late he was cheating the whole time. I feel I can’t even hate him for breaking my heart.
I want to get back together. Everyone keeps saying I am in denial and I need serious therapy. That I’m not grasping the situation.
How do I get out of denial and correct my thinking?

I'm 27M and I have been eating disordered for as long as I can remember. It has taken many forms, varying in severity and intensity -- starting as a kid, when I would hoard food in my bed at night, to jumping down the bulimia rabbit hole at 16, to compulsively over-exercising and fastidiously watching what I consumed, and now, to fasting bulimia.
I am diagnosed major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, hypochondria, and borderline personality disorder. I'm deeply human, and mostly a wreck.
While I've been able to function in the past, I lost my job in January, mostly due to my steadily decreasing ability to function... and have ceased to function since. I have applied for work, interviewed multiple times, but I haven't been hired. Jobless, aimless, and stuck in an endlessly repeating loop. I live alone with my dog, I have very few friends and spend most days in isolation.
I have been in therapy for 3 years, DBT therapy for a little over a year, and have come to understand and address some of the roots at the heart of this continued struggle. I am sober, from alcohol for 2.5 years, from cannabis for 3 months. I have a daily mindfulness practice, I enjoy movement in a healthy, non-compulsive way, and I get outside for a few hours a day with my dog. I am starting Ketamine therapy in a few weeks, and will be starting EMDR and IFS soon afterwards to untangle and rewire things.
So, things are looking up. I think I can pull out of this, and I'm working on it every day. But I don't know how to change how I eat, which is why I come to you all for any advice you're willing to give.
I genuinely don't know how to eat anymore. I feel physically sick every time I eat now, whether it's nutritious or junk -- and when I get on a good streak of eating (consistent, no binging, no fasting, decent food choices), I feel even worse. I understand that food addiction is a real thing, just as real and debilitating as any drug addiction. But I can't kick it cold turkey like I did with weed and booze -- and no matter how hard I try, how much I meditate or breathe or distract, I come running back to the warm blanket of a binge.
So, for those that are in recovery, what the hell do I do? What have you learned from your experiences that you can share to help me, and others like me?

Hey there! I thought why not make a post to potentially get to know someone out there, I'm a simple guy I've been described as a kind, caring and very dumb but don't worry I swear I'm smart in alot of aspects lol I'll talk about anything whether it be extremely nerdy stuff or whatever else especially video games, anime and comic stuff we can talk about that stuff if you would like
Oh but right well what I'm looking for is just someone I can chill with and get to know and just talk about whatever comes to our mind, I think it's cool to have someone you don't have to worry about saying anything stupid because it just adds more to your convo maybe that's just me also we should probably be friends first or something because that's a little easier to ease into
What I'm looking for in a potential relationship or friendship:
Someone who's kind, loving and just all around understanding I'm not particularly picky on looks at all but also, I'm fine with also just being friends yk we don't have to talk just for a relationship being friends is cool too.
I'm not gonna list every single attribute about myself here because how would you get to know me if you already know so much about me yk?
Anyways if this interests you even in the slightest you can dm add a little intro if you want and we'll go from there oh and
Have a good day or night!!

I’m 32f and graduated HS nearly 15 years ago. Most of the time my dreams are wild and either about friends, family, exs, or some sci-fi situation.
Last night I had a dream about a male classmate I graduated with. We met up and we’re having drinks and exploring the city together. Definitely a romantic situation. We’re flirting, definitely falling in love. I was enjoying his company. We were the best of friends. I then woke up and was like…huh??? This guy isn’t on my waking radar. Never was. For starters, I don’t think this classmate and I ever spoke K-12. I have no memories with him nor did I ever feel any kind of crush for him. I had tons of crushes, no interest there. We went through school in different circles and never interacted. It’s not like I’ve sat around and wondered “hmmm what’s Bill up to these days?” He was literally a stranger in school to me.
So of course I Google and Facebook him. And then it hits me…we’ve been here before. I’ve woken up before, after a romantic dream about him, and searched through his Facebook just out of curiosity around who this person even is.
What is the significance of dreaming about a classmate you graduated with but never had any friendship or interest in?

It seems the Targaryen downfall could be traced back to his reign. His first act as King was to marry his sister even though the realm just had a civil war on the issue. His poor relationship with children and sister fractured his family and he set a bad precedent with the succession of the Iron Throne by skipping over his first borns child. It seems that his wife did a lot of the grunt work by suggesting available clean water and sewers be provided to the smallfolk and forming relations with the other houses. I'm not saying that he didn't do a lot of good things but I don't believe he deserves the reputation of being the greatest Targaryen King.

Looking for used car, and seem to have narrowed it down to these models based on must haves and preferences. I am looking for comparisons between and years to avoid. Reliability is important and I’m most looking for best budget friendly of the bunch as I am a student. Willing to go up to ~ $18k for the right vehicle. Looking at mostly 2015(ish) and slightly newer (but not firm on year) as they have some of the safety and perks like backup cameras and convenient infotainment.
Forester seems to be my favorite as of now, it seems to be a good combination of affordable and reliable. Possibly middle of the pack but not bottom tier in anything. One of the things that bothers me is I find certain years to be just ugly. I also like Crosstrek but seems to be harder to find and even more expensive, which I found surprising.
Rogue seems like the most budget friendly of all but not sure on reliability and for some reason just feels a bit bland. Definitely the one I know the least about. I see a lot more older models than newer available at first glance.
CR-V seems like a great fit and my family has had great luck with honda , however they seem to be consistently higher priced. Also seems like the best infotainment of the bunch. One of these would likely stretch my budget further than the others, not sure if it’s worth it.
RAV4s with comparable price are much older, but I know they’re possibly most reliable. Certainly not ruling out but seems above my budget.
Kia sportage is another I’m seeing with very reasonable prices. Of these models are there any that’s stand out from the bunch, or that I should cross off. Any years to look for or avoid?