Galveston beach monthly rentals

Background: -My wife and I have two single family rentals in Fort Worth TX where we live. -After PITI and 10% for maintenance/capex the rentals combined cash flow $575/mo or $6900/year which is approx 2.6% return on equity. -If we sold both of the rentals as is, after we paid 6% in commission and 2% for misc/seller credits and then paid off the loans we would walk away with approx $260,000 before taxes. -My income increased in 2023 and we are now saving $4,000/mo or $48,000 a year in cash to invest in more properties with. -We currently have $35,000 saved. -We are both in our mid to late 30's. We make great income and are looking at building as much equity as we can for the next 25 years. We do not need immediate cash flow and are looking at the long game here. -Average home prices in our area in DFW are low to mid 300's.
Game Plan: We would like to sell both of the rentals and take that $260,000 and realize the gain on it (yes I know about 1031 exchanges but dont want to deal with that headache and handcuffs). After 25% taxes we will be left with $195,000 plus our already saved $35,000 would put us at $230,000. I would then like to take that $230,000 and buy a house cash, and BRRRR it. In a perfect world we would be getting back out all the money that we put into the deal, but realistically I know that is a home run. If we have to leave say $20,000 into a deal that is fine because we are saving $48,000/yr to invest with so we will still be increasing our chunk of money each year.
Long term we would like to do 1 BRRRR or more a year and at the end of 25 years have 25+ properties. By selling the two rentals and paying cash for a property we wouldn't have to pay interest during the rehab (low rate from a bank or high rate from a hard money lender) so that would save money. If your average hard money lender is say 13% plus 2 points and we borrowed $200,000 for 12 months that would be $30,000 lost. By paying cash it would be $30,000 saved. Lastly by paying cash we could move more quickly when the right deal comes along and close as soon as title clears.
So....whats your thoughts? Do we: A) Keep the two rentals, cash flow $6,900/year for a return on equity of approx 2.6% and then save our $48,000/yr and do the traditional 20% down payment to acquire a BRRRR every 18 or so months with our savings rate? Or B) Sell the two rentals, pay the taxes on the gains, use that money to buy BRRRR's cash thus saving on interest/finance charges, move more quickly on the right homes by having cash, and as soon as a bank will allow we can refinance and move on to the next property.
I vote option B, but what say you?
Thanks!

Hello everyone, I am Massimo from Italy. Recently, I have been exploring various business ideas to pursue here in Italy. Initially, I delved into the Vending Machine Business for a couple of months, but I discovered that the market is already saturated.
Afterward, I came across another opportunity in the short-term rental industry for tourists. However, I realized that the market in this sector is already quite mature.
Now, I have had an idea: both of these businesses I came across originated in America. So, I would like to know how I can successfully adapt and import an early-stage American business to Italy. I prefer a tangible business over a digital one, as it allows for a faster and less competitive entry for me.
Please let me know if you have any suggestions or advice on how I can proceed. Thank you!

Hello everyone, I am Massimo from Italy. Recently, I have been exploring various business ideas to pursue here in Italy. Initially, I delved into the Vending Machine Business for a couple of months, but I discovered that the market is already saturated.
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Afterward, I came across another opportunity in the short-term rental industry for tourists. However, I realized that the market in this sector is already quite mature.
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Now, I have an idea: both of these businesses I came across originated in America. So, I would like to know how I can successfully adapt and import an early-stage American business idea to Italy. I prefer a tangible business over a digital one, as it allows for a faster and less competitive entry for me.
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Please let me know if you have any suggestions or advice on how I can proceed. Thank you!

Good morning St. Louis. I recently moved to STL just before the pandemic in December of 2019. I found an apartment that I loved. It was brand new remodeling just a year prior, in a great neighborhood, and utilities were included! I applied for it, got it, paid the deposit and signed a very detailed lease. The lease outlined all of the things that you would expect. Quiet hours, emergency line info, no smoking policy, yada, yada, yada.
In late 2022, the management company sold the building to a new management company. I received an email from the new company that said they have our deposit checks and are honoring our current lease agreements. Cool. I’m in for that.
About a month before my lease expired, the beginning of December, I emailed the company and asked when they will be offering the new lease. They replied a week later with a 10% price increase. I asked how long we have to mull this over and they put a three day time limit.
Considering the new management company did nothing new to the property and were only increasing the rent to increase the rent, we were a bit upset. All things considered we decided to keep the apartment. I informed them we would like to sign another lease.
The managers never sent me a new lease to sign.
Fast forward to April and we notice the management team is working on the two empty apartments in our four family flat. They also decide to rekey the whole apartment. Put up mailbox stickers on our doors with mismatched sized decals. They were doing everything they could to take the class out of the beautiful craftsmanship of the building.
Curiosity got the best of us and we started snooping online for the new listing. The new listing was for a sparsely furnished unit (most likely for a college student) with another 65% increase over our current lease amount.
For fear of the company just springing a huge increase on us, we decided to start looking for a new place. We find one we love. The price and location is right for us and decide to move. I inform the rental company, by replying to the email they said they would send a new lease on, that we have moved out and they can send my deposit check to my new address.
It takes them about a week to reply that they will inspect the unit and send my deposit to me. After two weeks I replied again and asked for a follow up on when to expect my deposit with no response. We are now a month from that email and I still haven’t seen the check.
I am not asking for legal advice per se. It seems like a lawyer would eat up my entire deposit if I try legal action. I am curious what I can do because I can’t just throw away that kind of money.
I’ve left out all pertinent address and management details because I don’t think smearing someone’s name/business is necessary.
TIA

Good morning St. Louis. I recently moved to STL just before the pandemic in December of 2019. I found an apartment that I loved. It was brand new remodeling just a year prior, in a great neighborhood, and utilities were included! I applied for it, got it, paid the deposit and signed a very detailed lease. The lease outlined all of the things that you would expect. Quiet hours, emergency line info, no smoking policy, yada, yada, yada.
In late 2022, the management company sold the building to a new management company. I received an email from the new company that said they have our deposit checks and are honoring our current lease agreements. Cool. I’m in for that.
About a month before my lease expired, the beginning of December, I emailed the company and asked when they will be offering the new lease. They replied a week later with a 10% price increase. I asked how long we have to mull this over and they put a three day time limit.
Considering the new management company did nothing new to the property and were only increasing the rent to increase the rent, we were a bit upset. All things considered we decided to keep the apartment. I informed them we would like to sign another lease.
The managers never sent me a new lease to sign.
Fast forward to April and we notice the management team is working on the two empty apartments in our four family flat. They also decide to rekey the whole apartment. Put up mailbox stickers on our doors with mismatched sized decals. They were doing everything they could to take the class out of the beautiful craftsmanship of the building.
Curiosity got the best of us and we started snooping online for the new listing. The new listing was for a sparsely furnished unit (most likely for a college student) with another 65% increase over our current lease amount.
For fear of the company just springing a huge increase on us, we decided to start looking for a new place. We find one we love. The price and location is right for us and decide to move. I inform the rental company, by replying to the email they said they would send a new lease on, that we have moved out and they can send my deposit check to my new address.
It takes them about a week to reply that they will inspect the unit and send my deposit to me. After two weeks I replied again and asked for a follow up on when to expect my deposit with no response. We are now a month from that email and I still haven’t seen the check.
I am not asking for legal advice per se. It seems like a lawyer would eat up my entire deposit if I try legal action. I am curious what I can do because I can’t just throw away that kind of money.
I’ve left out all pertinent address and management details because I don’t think smearing someone’s name/business is necessary.
TIA

Heya Folks,
My Wife and I will be vacationing at Litchfield Beach (Pawley's Island, SC area) later this month. Does anyone know of a grass range in that area that we can get to? I know about the range/fittings/academy at True Blue, but is there a more accessible range anyone can recommend?
Thanks.

So I have been wanting to move where I am because I am not happy. I have tried to look at longterm rv parks in Galveston tx, austin texas, corpus Christy, and Florida and all of them are out of my price range when it comes to living by the beach. I'm feeling hopeless because I'm not able to find anything just feel like I'll just be staying where I am for the rest of my life and not happy.

I am 19 and around a month ago realised that I'm transfem and somehow managed to come out to 7 of my friends with mostly positive outcome. The problem is that pretty much anything makes me feel like I'm faking it, to the extent where I see my headache as something caused by lying to myself and at this point it's too much for me.
The thing is that simply learning this about myself made me feel a lot better, take any care of myself first time in ages and a lot of things started to make a lot of sense (from feeling uncomfortable on the beach without a shirt on to crying myself to sleep while begging any god to switch my sex as an atheist), which makes me feel that me being trans has to be true.
What can I do to make this doubt go away or at least make it more bearable?

I'll throw a little context.
We've been dating for five and a half years now. We had our highs and lows, like every other couple.
We took a break after three years because "my anxiety was affecting him" and "we needed to be alone". The break lasted three months and I lost a lot of trust for him after he told me he wanted to experiment and have s*x with people. He never did so, but it really affected me and my anxiety got worse. It was never the same. I had to rebuild all the trust but I still feel paranoid to this day and sometimes I feel the need to tell him how hurt I was.
The next year we took another break but this time was different. He was in the middle of transition so obviously he didn't have interest in other people. This time we did it right.
And that brings me to the last year. We decided to experiment together with another couple (M/21 - F/20). They were our friends so we thought it was a great opportunity to expand our limits and experiences. And we kinda did, except my boyfriend did nothing, but I ended getting some nice feelings with the other girl. We never did anything except kissing tho, but we did it going out alone for many months. Although she wanted to make a move, I never got attracted to her to the point of wanting to do de dirty.
So, two days ago I was staying at my boyfriend's house. I was studying while he went to the beach with this girl and I spent seven hours without knowing anything about them. They went dinner to a restaurant that I consider it's "personal" between me and my boyfriend. I was really annoyed with him because he arrived really late and they went dinner. I'm not usually a jealous person but it made me so mad. I didn't say anything tho, he entered the door and I decided to ignore him until I relaxed, I didn't want to make a big deal. Also I'm not a good speaker when it comes to feelings so it was better to stay quiet.
And then, just after going to sleep, I saw a tweet.
"What a hottie." And she liked it.
It felt so bad. My self-esteem was literally crushed when I saw it and I'm feeling so bad with myself, like I literally hate me. And when I finally confronted him he was just trying to justify why he was so late and why they were dining. He didn't apologize until I basically asked him to.
I know they did nothing I should worry about, but going so early to the beach, leaving that late, eating dinner together and seeing that tweet. Those words dedicated to other person, wether we had experiences with her or not. It just destroyed me.
Should I ask him for a break? love him with my whole soul but I'm in so much pain with myself.

Hey all, was hoping for some insight / experience from the community. My girl is ~4 year old border collie that LOVES to swim. In the summer months she spends a lot of time in the pool. She chases and bites the splashes and ends up drinking a lot of pool water.
I'm looking at taking her to the beach for the first time and concerned about her ingesting ocean water. Is it likely that she'll end up drinking a ton of ocean water like she does in the pool or do dogs have some instinctual disinterest (tastes bad, too salty, whatever) in the water that will keep her ingesting it like she does in the pool?

I changed my search from a crazy expensive so cal beach city to one more inland and a lot cheaper.
For this beach city stuff around august has mellowed out to about 1.4M still high af. Now stuff is around 1.4-1.8M because summer haha.
The funny thing is this house in cheaper city (really nice) is 1.4M anyway. I have like $300k saved up. I think it’s probably listed pretty high so I’m going to offer about $1.25M and put down $250k I’d have 25k emergency fund and 25k to cover any extra money I don’t have to pay for mortgage which is hilarious I pay $3000 for rent right now in a nice house and I still feel like $3000 is too high sometimes... if I cancel all of my employee stock purchase and 401k contributions I think I make about 12k a month (~$350k income a year) which is hilarious… I think we just spend money like dick heads rn but also 🇺🇸(we also have 3 kids but still seems like we spend a lot) haven’t really ever been disciplined to a budget
I’m just freaking out because I think we have enough money but I think we could be in a scary situation where we aren’t able to budget and blow through money. Also emotional right now believing realtor saying all of their classic “never a bad time to buy” bs but I still am practicing some restraint. And I know this house could be worth $800-1M some day in a few years if stuff really crashes. For some reason I think that my fellow American families got their mortgage pre approved to the max and just said fuck it. I’m counting on the Reddit elitists to make me feel dumb and justify how people completely maxed their mortgage and are doing ok
Funny to be pro bubble this whole time and potentially buy at the absolute Fcking peak halp… or help push me over the edge. May the best hoomeboobler side win

Hey all, was hoping for some insight / experience from the community. My girl is ~4 years and LOVES to swim. In the summer months she spends a lot of time in the pool. She chases and bites the splashes and ends up drinking a lot of pool water.
I'm looking at taking her to the beach for the first time and concerned about her ingesting ocean water. Is it likely that she'll end up drinking a ton of ocean water like she does in the pool or do dogs have some instinctual disinterest (tastes bad, too salty, whatever) in the water that will keep her ingesting it like she does in the pool?

Hi everyone, thanks for checking this post out.
My wife and I are looking to get into real estate investing within the next couple of years. Whether it be BRRRR, multi families, vacation rentals etc. Our current net worth is around 130k (35k liquid). My current dilemma is whether my wife and I should pay off her student loans first (would take about a year) or if we should save for our first rental property and continue making the monthly student loan payment. I’m an electrician with no student debt and my wife is in the medical field and her student loans are roughly $500 per month.
We currently net $10-12k monthly. Within the next 6 months that will be increasing to $13k minimum net. All of our monthly expenses are right around $6k (we live just south of Boston) and will be dropping to about $5.5k by the end of the year. Currently we are saving 4k per month minimum and by the end of the year our projected monthly savings will be $6k+.
She has $38,000 of student loans left. The plan is to pay those off by April 2024 and leave us with around $5k in monthly expenses. By that time we will be at $13k net monthly . Conservatively that would leave us saving around $7-8k per month with no debt aside from our mortgage payment and $200 monthly solar loan. (2 years ago we bought a single family home) The reason we didn’t do FHA for a multi family for our first house was because our child has special needs and it may be disruptive to tenants.
My main question here is is it worth paying off the $500 monthly student loans and within a year having nearly no debt to report? Would the student loans be a large factor with this situation when I go apply for mortgages with rental properties etc? Is student loans something that will hold weight in decision making with the lenders? Or should we just start saving for our first real estate investment property now and have enough liquid cash to do that within a year and a half or so, versus 2-3 years if we pay off the loans first.
Summarized version - By end of 2023-13k monthly take home, $5500 monthly expenses with student loans, saving $7500 monthly l towards RE investment Or By mid 2024- 13k monthly take home, $5000 monthly expenses with no student loans, saving $8000 monthly towards RE investment What are your thoughts?

My daughter's father was in a bad spot 18 months ago and we allowed him to move in with us to get him back on his feet. I was acquaintances with him growing up and only agreed because I remembered as typically a happy and joking person to be around, and it was the holiday season, but he has become increasingly controlling and using typical narcissist and gaslighting behavior. We are in the process of selling our house to move across country with my wife's parents because we're at a point of needing help restarting ourselves.
My wife has verbally told him several times that he needs to find another place, but again, controlling and narcissist he plays that it isn't a serious request. He is usually conniving enough to "toe the line" and not act out on my cameras, or even when I'm home. I worked a 12 hour shift yesterday and he got into a physical altercation with my wife's friends, including throwing our dinner pizza onto the sidewalk before it was touched, both of which were caught on camera, though no audio.
I did have him sign a month to month tenancy agreement a few months ago when I needed to document what income I had coming in. I've obviously have hoped for a reasonable ending, but that doesn't appear to be the case.
Do I need to go through an eviction process to get him removed from renting a room as a boarder, in a shared space? Is my wife able to file for a PFA to have him removed despite us having a room rental agreement? We don't have funds available for anything. We have an agreement to sell the house next month and will be using earnings from that to move, and staying with my wife's family until we get situated again.

My boyfriend & I are moving to a beach city and we're living gonna be living right next to the ocean. Part of me wants to be so excited to go swimming all the time, particularly as summer is approaching, but as of now a way bigger part of me is saying no way as I hate my body too much.
The irony is that I actually lost 25lb a couple years ago so since then I've been slimmer than since I was like 16 (I'm 24 now).
I've even lost a few extra lbs recently over the past few months. But my goal was to be like 125-130lb by the summer and I'm hovering around 135-140lb right now. I was about 135lb a month ago but with the stress of moving I've been eating more recently so think I've probably gone back up a bit and notice I am bloating.
I feel like that's part of why I'm particularly insecure as I was so determined I was gonna lose a bunch of weight and feel a lot better. But instead it feels like I have barely lost anything at all (I started at 142lb).
In this moment it feels like going swimming is completely out of the picture. I don't want anyone to see my body at all. But then I also don't want to waste my life and potential good times from being insecure.
But I've had body issues since I was like 12/13 and have even struggled with eating disorders in the past. So it's been a solid 11-12 years of pretty much always hating my body.
I just want to be free of feeling like this. I just want to enjoy summer for once in my life and not just constantly care about my body. But in my mind I think I'm way too fat to be seen by other people and idk what to do.

Special Priority Program:
"Under provincial housing legislation (the Housing Services Act) there is a special program called the Special Priority Program (SPP) for households with current or recent experience of domestic abuse or human trafficking that gives them priority access to Rent-Geared-to-Income Housing or Portable Housing Benefits. Access to Housing is responsible for determining eligibility for this program and helping individuals experiencing abuse apply for housing benefits and register for rental housing geared to their income."
Do or have they asked y'all to provide proof of the abuse or spoke to your abuser to try and fix the situation?
For background context, if anyone would like to read:
I've little to no proof of my years long abuse, though I've been writing about it. Not that it seems to matter by the looks of the program's description saying "current or recent abuse..." The worst of the worst things took place months to years ago. Though things are still happening, I'm not sure if I can trust such a program to actually provided me anything sustainable long term, because I practically have nothing otherwise and I doubt I can get anything to get me on my feet due to disabilities. Along with the high expenses that come with it, even with the little help I'm given I could end up continuing to live a life of barely keeping my head above water and constantly food, housing, or medically insecure. So there would go trying to save for a home out the planet. I'm also concerned a lot about ending up somewhere infested with rodents and such. Which would essentially be going from one hell to another.
Another thing that concerns me is the fact that they wrote "current or recent abuse" in the program description. I've been abused recently, though the worst of the worst like I said happened months to years ago and I'm afraid they will downplay my latest abuse because it was a month or so ago. Or not take into account the overall picture. Because of that and everything else, my mental health is going down the drain. It has resulted in me basically staying in my room 24/7 and avoiding any interactions with said person. I don't want to use this program if I can help it. I'm trying to study so I can try to work and see if I can save. Though it's to the point that I can't even cook in the kitchen without being discouraged and controlled. My finances, I'm on ODSP, used to be controlled by this person too up until recently. Long and complex story, in short this person used me big time for years. Though now I'm afraid to even buy fresh food, because we share the fridge and that'll just turn into more abuse: controlling, guilt tripping, gaslighting, etc. So I've basically just been living off of processed stuff and the little bit that they (my abuser and the sidekick) shop for. It was a little better food wise when the person controlled my money, though it also meant I saw so little to nothing of it. I am utterly exhausted of trying to hold my head above water and I'm not so sure if I can make it out of this in a manner that's sustainable long term.
Because I'm trying to study and find work so I do it myself, if I can somehow managed to make it through this hell. It means I might come to know such goals are unattainable at a time the abuse went in "remission" for a lack of a better word or that I'm put in the reconciliation/calm phase. So the thought that they might consider that to have been "not abused recently enough" and I've to wait for another wave of abuse is heartbreaking.

My boyfriend is always leaving for a trip it seems like. The trips usually range from 1-2 weeks. Most of the trips are leisure / for fun, and rarely work related.
He may do some work related socializing / networking while he’s there depending on where he’s going. But for the most part it’s pretty leisurely.
Like this year alone he went to:

• 2 different conferences (where you pay for a ticket and sit and listen to people popular in this space talk etc)
  
• 2 beach trips
  
• Vegas at least once, probably twice for tournaments / gambling
  

I’m not even counting the day trip he took the whole day to go see his dad since that’s not really a trip and I understand the circumstances.
But I just feel really alone. he does invite me and prioritize me coming first, but here’s where the issue is we got a dog together about 2 years ago and this dog has really been a handful. He currently has really painful lesions on his skin and for the past month I’ve been dealing with it alone. I’ve already scheduled an appointment with a specialist canine dermatologist but it’s not until after summer was the soonest appointment. In the meantime I’m working with my regular vet but it’s just not enough, it’s barely holding over.
I’m constantly stressed taking care of this dog. And he’s in so much pain he’s also aggressive when I touch or handle his raw areas which just makes me super depressed and sad - on top of how I’ve already been feeling lately.
I’m just overwhelmed and lonely. I feel so disconnected from him. And I am NOT blaming him because he made these plans before our dog got sick, but it’s like even if he wasn’t sick - he knows I can’t go because I don’t trust anyone to watch our dog because he does get sick easily and has a moody temperament and I don’t trust anyone atm to watch him, especially when he’s constantly having issue XYZ and when that clears up, it’s like another issue pops up after that. I’ve said all this to him.
I feel selfish and unreasonable and I know I am.
I don’t want my boyfriend to STOP traveling or stop doing what he wants to do just because I can’t. I completely and totally understand and as someone who has always battled depression, it makes me happy to see him living his best life and I don’t want him to be like me and I don’t want him to stop doing things that bring him joy just because oh ‘I’m sad’.
But at the same time, it just sucks being alone and dealing with this by myself. It also sucks because I don’t know what solution there is. I just feel stuck here until my dog’s health issues are under control because he’s absolutely miserable and my priority is making sure he’s healthy and taken care of above all. Does anyone know what a good compromise could be? Is the solution for me to just suck it up and deal with it (like I have been)? It also just sucks even more because I’ve been in a depressive state for a while (probably because of my dog’s condition and feeling trapped) and I’ve been attending therapy again / still, and I think my boyfriend constantly leaving to go live his best life while I’m at home feeling depressed and hopeless and devastated seeing the condition my dog is in every single day and not knowing when or if he’ll get better and knowing I can’t do anything but wait - is also kind of like a jab to my situation even though it’s not his fault.
TLDR: my bf goes on trips often and I stay home to take care of our sick dog. I feel lonely but don’t want to discourage my bf from living his best life.

I lurk in this subreddit and enjoy the crazy stories. Figured I would add my greedy dasher story to the mix.
During the pandemic we had a flood of restaurants in my area hop on the bandwagon. I really enjoyed my delivery options expanding from 4 to 50. I was a frequent doordash patron. I rarely had a bad experience with drivers. I always tip well having worked in the food service industry in the past. I would rely on those tips.
I haven't ordered much in the last 6 months. Maybe 2-3 times. I hadn't ordered at all in a month.
I figured I would treat the kids and get some donuts for breakfast and some other stuff for the wife and I. Yeah I could have hopped my lazy ass in the truck and go get it.
So I ordered $51 worth of stuff. I live in a beach resort area so I know hitting up a breakfast spot at 7:30 am on a Sunday would be a little bit of a headache for the dasher. So I tipped $20 it's about 6 miles all highway except my neighborhood. The dasher picked up my order and had it on my doorstep in 30 mins. Awesome. I did no contact. After the dasher dropped off the order and was sitting in my driveway. They called me and complained about gas prices, the cost of maintenance on their car... Blah blah. They actually had the nerve to tell me I should also add a cash tip and they would wait for me to come out before "completing my order." I told them that $20 was more then enough and to have a great day. They got out of the car and started walking to my front door as I opened it and picked up the order. I didn't say anything I just closed the door. They got back in the car and chirped their tires as they left. Were they going to take my order back? Lol
I have to say. This is enough to make me just not deal with the drivers I keep hearing are what's left of the door dash delivery pool.
I did rate 1 star and report them.

Hello!
I moved out of a 7 year rental in June 2022, my landlord went seeking damages that were truly maintenance or not mine (as in trying to charge me for a satellite dish that was installed before I was a tenant, the grass needing to be mowed a month after move out, an unfrosted bathroom window, and a bunch of other charges that I repeatedly reported to maintenance and was ignored over, which is why I moved out) that totaled $1700 OVER my $900 security deposit. Eventually in fall of 2022 after stating that these are not my charges to pay they sent it to collections, who is now harassing my family. I don’t understand how to dispute this charge, when I’m looking up how to proceed online I just find things about landlords seeking rent which is not the case here, or damages that the tenant simply doesn’t want to pay , but these truly are not mine to pay. The collection agency sent me a letter but it just included my move in document and the inspection report I did upon move in, stating what currently damages the property already had and that I would not be taking responsibility for.
I really feel over my head here. Any advice would be very welcome, I really just want them to stop calling my family. I’m on credit karma and want to dispute it there but I’m really not sure what to list as the reasoning, or if I’m supposed to just list every single reason I have.

My boyfriend & I are moving to a beach city and we're gonna be living right next to the ocean. Part of me wants to be so excited to go swimming all the time, particularly as summer is approaching, but as of now a way bigger part of me is saying no way as I hate my body too much.
The irony is that I actually lost 25lb a couple years ago so since then I've been slimmer than since I was like 16 (I'm 24 now).
I've even lost a few extra lbs recently over the past few months. But my goal was to be like 125-130lb by the summer and I'm hovering around 135-140lb right now. I was about 135lb a month ago but with the stress of moving I've been eating more recently so think I've probably gone back up a bit and notice I am bloating.
I feel like that's part of why I'm particularly insecure as I was so determined I was gonna lose a bunch of weight and feel a lot better. But instead it feels like I have barely lost anything at all (I started at 142lb).
In this moment it feels like going swimming is completely out of the picture. I don't want anyone to see my body at all. But then I also don't want to waste my life and potential good times from being insecure.
But I've had body issues since I was like 12/13 and have even struggled with eating disorders in the past. So it's been a solid 11-12 years of pretty much always hating my body.
I just want to be free of feeling like this. I just want to enjoy summer for once in my life and not just constantly care about my body. But in my mind I think I'm way too fat to be seen by other people and idk what to do.

For context: I am a single female, living alone in a rental building. I met a neighbour - “Paul” in the elevator a few months ago. He lives on my floor and seems friendly enough. He knows which unit is mine (and I his) because we were generally talking about corner units and airflow on a hot day - advantages, etc.
Last week I saw him on the way down to the recycling room. He was polite, and suggested we go hang out on the rooftop sometime for a drink. I was very non-committal and said “maybe, I’m never home…” (then got out).
I thought that was it.
This morning, 8:45am - there was a loud, confident knock at my door. I froze, waited, and he knocked again. I went to look - and it was Paul. I didn’t answer it.
This morning, 10:15 - another loud knock. I have someone here with me so I figured I would see what he wanted and shut it down.
When I opened - it was Paul - and he immediately shoved his hand out and said that he “just wanted to say hi”. I physically moved back because it was so unexpected. I had this look of confusion and annoyance on my face and he assumed I forgot who he was. So he re-introduced himself…
I told him “yeah, I know, I’m in a meeting…?” He finally picked up on my annoyance, apologized and walked away. I shut the door and loudly put on the deadbolt.
I’m typing this out partially to diarize it, but also to ask if it’s normal for a neighbour to do this? Am I wrong to be creeped out?
I don’t know if it’s at the point of mentioning it to the super, or if I’m making this into something it isn’t.

Good morning ottawa. Happy Monday! All weekly updates can be seen here. You can also track all new housing starts across the country here. Lastly, you can also find the Ottawa Real Estate April Market report here. I'll be sharing the report for May in the coming days once it is released.
I will continue to post this weeks information every Monday, but if you would like to see further back, please refer to the link above for the archived stats.
Below are the stats for both freehold, condominium and rental properties over the past several days in Ottawa. The average/median list price is for the sold/rented properties and all of these numbers reflect stats within Ottawa proper and do not cover areas such as Perth, Arnprior, Smith Falls, Brockville etc.
What defines an active listing: Properties that have been uploaded to MLS within the last several days or were conditionally sold and are now back on market.
What defines a conditional sale? Properties that have accepted a conditional offer within the last several days. At this stage, the property will either move to sold or back to active. The conditionally accepted sold price is not yet known.
What defines a sold property? Properties that either accepted an unconditional offer or a conditional sale completed their due diligence period in the last several days. The sold price is now a matter of public record.
Freehold

• Number of active listings: 294
• Number of conditional sales: 134
• Number of sold properties: 202
• Average list price: $847,002
• Average sold price: $846,944 (99.99% of list price)
• Average days on market: 15
• Average cumulative days on market: 23
• Median list price: $737,450
• Median sold price: $739,000 (100.21% of list price)
• Median days on market: 9
• Median cumulative days on market: 12

Condos

• Number of active listings: 125
• Number of conditional sales: 57
• Number of sold properties: 105
• Average list price: $457,251
• Average sold price: $453,291 (99.13% of list price)
• Average days on market: 26
• Average cumulative days on market: 33
• Median list price: $419,900
• Median sold price: $417,750 (99.50% of list price)
• Median days on market: 15
• Median cumulative days on market: 17

Rental

• Number of active listings: 140
• Number of rented properties: 107
• Average list price: $2,564/month
• Average rented price: $2,569/month (100.20% of list price)
• Average days on market: 24
• Average cumulative days on market: 27
• Median list price: $2,500/month
• Median rented price: $2,500/month (100% of list price)
• Median days on market: 14
• Median cumulative days on market: 14

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Nick