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2023.05.31 19:48 BidObjective43 Was my best friend murdered?
On the morning of February 6th 2021 I received a call that my best friend(29) had been shot and killed (rumor is weapon is a high caliber assault rifle) at her home in Union City, GA. I had moved across the country and we had not talked since the end of November as we had gotten into a spat. Occasionally we would disagree and for awhile both would be too stubborn to reach out but we loved each other and would always make up. Id give anything to have been able to talk to her those last few months. Since I learned of the news I cannot find anything about her death. There was no funeral or viewing just a memorial as I was told her mother donated her body to science. There is no obituary, no reports of shootings, nothing. I’ve done my best to search for any information on what happened but I have been unsuccessful. After joining this sub I was amazed at how helpful everyone is and figured I would shoot my shot. I just want to know what happened to my friend.
Edit: None of our friends know anything other than the info that I have provided. I spoke to her baby daddy and all said was she was shot in the house but I have been unable to verify any of the information as it is all hearsay.
Edit again: I will not be contacting her family. I am more interested in police reports, death certificates etc. I’m very much a facts person and I’m hoping it would help with closure as it’s something I think about every moment of every day.
Thank you everyone for your kind words and suggestions. Please feel free to keep them coming! I just really appreciate all the feedback and am hoping this will bring me some closure.
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2023.05.28 20:40 eulalie_pop Logan made Succession a circle, not a line, and we're about to watch it end where it began
So I’ve been down the
rabbit hole, trying to chase every off-the-cuff reference, stray allegory, allusion, comparison, and tangent. I’m going to need you to bear (hug) with me for a bit because I think I’ve stumbled on some truly insane parallels between this show and the myriad of references it makes and it will take a lot of text to justify to you that I'm not crazy (or that I am, but at least I do my research).
This is a show that employs a ton of intertextuality and what the poet T.S. Eliot (someone quoted frequently throughout the series) calls “the mythic method”: essentially using historical, literary, and mythological allusions to draw parallels between characters on the show and characters throughout history (real and imagined).
This method helps the audience to build both conscious and unconscious associations with each of the characters and, ultimately, underscores the Roys’ (and humanity’s) damning commitment to making the same mistakes over and over again. The show seems to draw a lot from Greek mythology, Arthurian legend, biblical parables, Shakespearean tragedy, and modernist poetry (among many other things).
These networks of symbolism span from the earliest recorded history to modern celebrity culture and yet they reveal frighteningly unchanged elements in the stories they tell. The parallels of these references throughout the show serve to highlight the cyclical (the illusion of progress) and deterministic (the illusion of free will) nature of existence.
While I will be dipping in and out of the existing references, I want to call particular attention to the poetry of the aforementioned T.S. Eliot (who champions the mythic method) and John Berryman’s poem
Dream Song 29 because I believe much of their work has served as a foundation for characters.
In the show, Frank makes mention of his poem “The Long Song Of J Alfred Prufrock” more than once. Outside of the show, Matthew McFayden (the actor who plays Tom) references the same poem to describe his character. Jeremy Strong (the actor who plays Kendall) says Eliot’s work
The Four Quartets is a huge inspiration to his acting and character. A line from this particular work did strike me as being quite on the nose, which is why I continued to comb the poem for more (which it does deliver on):
"In my beginning is my end. In succession Houses rise and fall, crumble, are extended, Are removed, destroyed, restored, or in their place Is an open field, or a factory, or a by-pass. Old stone to new building, old timber to new fires, Old fires to ashes, and ashes to the earth Which is already flesh, fur and faeces, Bone of man and beast, cornstalk and leaf."
This will probably be a monster of a post, so I will attempt to break down the following sections between poetic parallels, visual and dialogic symbolism of eternal recurrence, and an exploration of the historical and mythological allusions. Ultimately, I believe all of these clues point to the overwhelming conclusion that we will end where we began, in some way or another.
Circles & Cycles: Endless Recurrence & The Futility Of Progress The show toys a lot with the philosophical concept of eternal recurrence, which postulates that “time repeats itself in an infinite loop, and that exactly the same events will continue to occur in exactly the same way, over and over again, for eternity.”
These eternal loops are symbolized visually with mirrors, water, fractal reflections; in the “uh-huh” and “mhmms” of repeated, near-palindromic dialogue; and in the show events that echo and repeat: in-air death scares, asynchronous business deals, family betrayal, weddings, retreats, implosions, family reunions, trauma bonding, baptism, funerals, etc.
In this understanding of time, there is no linear progress — or even progress at all. Time is cyclical. People are cyclical. As are the events that transpire. This is particularly interesting in a show like Succession whose title alone implies the phrase “line of succession.” Viewers would expect to see what comes next — who comes next — but as Logan himself yells, “Nothing is a line. Everything is moving all the time.”
Logan consistently evokes the circle shape in his speech, “Put a circle around him” he tells Shiv. “We’ve been circling for an hour, tell them we’re out of gas,” he complains in a moment of grim foreshadowing on his plane. “Crawl in a circle and close your eyes,” he shouts during the game of Boar on the Floor.
And he is the bright, burning nebulous center of this circle. He’s described as “carr[ying] his gravity. He's not a man, he's a f*cking planet.” And the people around him are described like satellites and moons. Characters exist in his orbit. And every complete orbit (or “revolution”) leaves characters in exactly the same place. There are motions, there is the illusion of progress, but the result is the same. Eliot again:
“every attempt Is a wholly new start, and a different kind of failure”
With this understanding, the show may just end where it begins. Not only in “nothing” happening, but in repeating the same events
ad infinitum: A kid tries to take over the family business, they try to align with their siblings, they eventually backstab their siblings, they end out in the cold, and then they reunite, swear not to do it again, until it all repeats.
As most of us are aware, the show has made very direct mention of the John Berryman poem
Dream Song 29. The names of the past three season finales (as well as the name of the upcoming fourth) are all direct excerpts from the poem, which deals with grief and sadness and the guilt of killing someone when you can’t even confirm there’s been someone killed at all.
Berryman consistently wrote about the guilt and grief he experienced from his father’s suicide. Berryman himself would eventually end up taking his own life, which on its own is a brutal reminder of the cycles of trauma. It also doesn’t feel insignificant that Berryman jumped off a bridge.
What’s really interesting is how each subsequent finale is named for a line that comes earlier and earlier in the poem. It also toys with this concept that things come full circle and end where they begin. This echoes Eliot’s essential thesis of the poem:
“What we call the beginning is often the end And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from.”
But while the speaker of the poem comes to realize he has not murdered “nobody” by the poem’s last line; Kendall, moving through the poem backward, must reckon with the idea that he may have killed somebody even if they were a “nobody.” And while we may encounter this as a moment in which Kendall is genuinely despairing over his season 1 inadvertent murder, I believe we are far more likely to see Kendall embrace this moment.
We see "nobody" and "no one mentioned" a lot when it comes to Logan, who believes most people are "fungible as f*ck," and "pygmies" while he's "1,000 feet tall." When Kendall is involved in the accident, we see him echo "NRPI" or no real person involved.
The reason Kendall couldn’t live up to his father’s expectations is that he couldn’t be the killer his father needed him to be (even if his morality or basis of being a good person is off). This retroactive movement through the poem could be Kendall realizing he is, in fact, the killer his father always needed him to be, enabling him to take the necessary steps of seizing the crown on his own.
Allegories & Allusions: Mythic Comparisons & Determinism It’s Shakespearean, like Roman says, “I kill Kendall, get crowned king, like we’re in f*cking Hamlet or something.” But it’s not just
Hamlet, it’s
King Lear, King Richard III,
Coriolanus,
Macbeth. And it’s not just Shakespeare, it’s
Oedipus Rex,
The Odyssey,
The Waste Land,
Thus Spoke Zarathustra, Cronus devouring his children, Romulus killing Remus, Noah cursing his child for looking upon him naked.
The concept of the monomyth was popularized in "The Hero With 1000 Faces" and discusses throughout history, throughout different times and places, different cultures, different religions, different people have developed stories with relatively similar fundamental elements. The show is rife with allusions of stories that follow that same thread. Logan is Cronus who is King Lear who is Romulus who is who is. This is another form of endless recurrence: the inability to break the cycle. Or, in a very Hamlet reference, "maybe the poison drips through."
The themes of patricide, fratricide, and incest in particular are rampant. Rhea (like Rhea Jarell) in Greek mythology is both sister and consort to Cronus. Both are part of the first generation of aptly named Titan gods. Cronus overthrew his father Uranus and learns his children are fated to overthrow him. So he eats them as soon as they are born. Logan does refer to people as food a surprising amount throughout the show, varying from red meat to vegetables. He outright calls for blood sacrifice, which evokes the language of the gods.
Logan is referenced specifically as one of the last real American titans in his obituaries and eulogies. The language around him is frequently god-like. He's known as "the big man" or even "the big man upstairs." Tom tells Greg to "be his representative here on earth"; Roman asks the audience, "who is going to climb Mt. Olympus and be the next Dr. Zeus?" And that's where the myth gets interesting.
The only child not to be eaten is Zeus, who does end up killing his father and was surprisingly interested in marrying his mother. We're familiar with this plot formula through a different archetype: the Oedipus Complex, which we see referenced in the show with “Oedipus Roy,” “Oedipussy,” and “stabbing my eyes out.” The same story is repeated again in Hamlet with brother killing and brother and son yelling at his mother about her milky breasts (something Roman does to Shiv more than once). In the show when Logan says to Roman, “You may want to f*ck your mother but I don’t.” We know none of these stories end well. As Connor muses, “It’s not right to kill one’s father; history teaches us that.”
In the story of Romulus and Remus (whose mother’s name is also Rhea), the two brothers were initially chased out of their city as potential threats to the King (yet again). They were left by the river to die and were saved by the river god (important). After successfully overthrowing the kingdom that left them for dead, they agree to found a new city. They ultimately disagreed on which hill to found it and decided to have a bird-watching competition to see who could see the most omens indicating they had divine approval for the hill. Remus says he saw 6 auspicious birds but Romulus claims to see 12. Romulus kills Remus over this.
It should remind you of Logan visiting his childhood home with Ewan: “I saw a mistle thrush at the bandstand,” and the log book he kept as a child of birds he “saw” that Ewan would cross out if he didn’t believe him. It may also echo a part of
The Four Quartets, “Other echoes/ Inhabit the garden. Shall we follow?/ Quick, said the bird, find them, find them,/ Round the corner. Through the first gate,/ Into our first world, shall we follow/ The deception of the thrush?"
There is much to be said about the themes of warring brothers. Also the themes of fathers worried their children would one day overthrow them who take action to thwart or murder their children, which inadvertently sets into motion the very outcome they fear. It happens over and over again in stories old and new. As Panhandle Pete says, “I push him, he pushes me, and around and around we go.” Or as Eliot puts it, “that the wheel may turn and still / Be forever still.”
Much of these works touch on a sort of determinism, or the slow crushing reality that every action you take — even if that action is an attempt to thwart your fate — will ultimately lead to the same inevitable ending. This is the illusion of free will on top of the illusion of progress. And Logan, in fearing his children would usurp him (and also disparaging his children for not being able to), set into motion his own death and his own messy succession.
It’s also a reminder that the greatest men in life are all the same when laid to rest:
"O dark dark dark. They all go into the dark, The vacant interstellar spaces, the vacant into the vacant, The captains, merchant bankers, eminent men of letters, The generous patrons of art, the statesmen and the rulers, Distinguished civil servants, chairmen of many committees, Industrial lords and petty contractors, all go into the dark…"
Structure & Symbolism: Water As Rebirth & Destruction The show has very much been structured around Kendall, and we watch him move through bodies of water with what feels like different symbolism each time. Is he drowning, is he reborn? We witness Kendall at his lowest point face down in a pool and at one of his highest, splashing into the Pacific ocean. We watch a man drown. We watch Logan beg Kendall for water as they walk through Adrien Brody’s maze. We watch Roman clamor for water at the funeral when he needs to calm down. Poetry has long played with this life and death dynamic in water, like the sailors dying of thirst in Samuel Taylor Coleridge’s
The Rime of the Ancient Mariner who cry:
“Water, water, every where,. And all the boards did shrink;. Water, water, every where,. Nor any drop to drink. The very deep did rot: O Christ!”
This sub has noted Kendall’s connection to water, which has been represented over and over visually. But once you realize every metaphor, analogy, and simile he uses is water-based, you can’t unhear it. He calls his father “a tsunami of corruption” and describes things “as more precious than water”; he calls deals “choppy” and “dead in the water,” and asks to “help steady the ship”; he offers to “row back” on business deals, says timing is “high tide,” and that he has “bigger fish to fry.”
Logan is apt to use similar water symbolism, even telling Shiv that she’s marrying a man “fathoms” beneath her. As Rhea tells him, fearful of his own monstrosity, “I can’t see the bottom of the pool. I don’t know if you care about anything. It scares me.” ATN’s major scandal was “death cruises.” Even his operating nemesis is called “Sandy.”
In fact, there is mention of all elements and seasons — in particular, fire from Shiv, air from Roman, and earth from Connor. T.S. Eliot’s
The Four Quartets confront these same themes and share some surprising similarities with show scene locations, dialogue, and plot points.
That’s because
Succession is an allegory for the micro and the macro: the rise and fall of families, civilizations, monarchies, dynasties, and empires. Ashes to ashes and dust to dust, the cycles rinse and repeat. Eliot modeled the four quartets on the 4 elements and the 4 seasons. And you can see even in Succession a similar manifestation of 4 elements. And, well, 4 seasons of the show. (And what occurs after 4 seasons? A full revolution around the sun, bringing you to where you began.)
Water seems to be at the root of it all. Even Ewan’s eulogy meditates on his and Logan’s journey on a boat. Even their abusive uncle is named Noah. In the show, we watch our nobody die by water, we watch our main character nearly die by water, and then we watch him revive in the ocean. As Kendall and his father wind their way through Adrien Brody’s circuitous Long Island home, Kendall remarks, “I think this leads to the ocean.” Because every path leads to the sea in some way or another.
The overarching narration from T.S. Eliot’s
The Waste Land is the Arthurian Legend of The Fisher King. This story is told a million different ways with a million different outcomes, but always boils down to an injured or maimed monarch ruling over a dying land. Or as Ewan refers to his "empire of shit": “He’s built a wasteland and called it an empire.”
He’s looking for someone, anyone, to heal him, rescue the kingdom, and ensure the dynasty survives. This is the myth of the holy grail, which, in this show, can be seen as the throne: The original stories of the holy grail were not Christian/religious but they do employ a lot of the same mythmaking from earlier religions and mythologies to tell their stories and thus construct their new realties. As Eliot says in
The Four Quartets:
"The whole earth is our hospital Endowed by the ruined millionaire, Wherein, if we do well, we shall Die of the absolute paternal care That will not leave us, but prevents us everywhere."
I believe Kendall (and the other children) represent the grail knights who try to save the king. (On the same level they stand in for the gods, the elements, or anything at all). When Christianity became more popular, these myths adapted to Christian overtones, but they still had the Celtic and pagan myths at their core: the grail becomes the chalice from the last supper.
That’s why Kendall’s easy comparisons of himself to Jesus feel less blasphemous than revelatory. Jesus is another hero archetype in the show’s mythology. He is willing to sacrifice himself, which Kendall must do in order to become the successor his father wanted. As he says, "this is a culmination of my life's journey to be crucified for you morons."
(It’s worth noting: In some legends, the knight saves the king; in others, he inadvertently destroys him. We know Logan dies, but it does feel less likely that Waystar Royco survives.) Drowning is a constant feature of Eliot's poems, but so is baptism and renewed life. It is difficult to determine the meaning of water in either instance, except that it doesn't discriminate as a life or death bringer, which is both beautiful and terrifying.
Parallels & Predictions: Piecing The Plot & Poetry Together To repeat again, as this show is wont to do: “Crawl in a circle and close your eyes!” Logan Roy shouts during a game of Boar On A Floor. It’s an allegory, like many games on the series, and proudly says the quiet part out loud: Logan always wins. Here’s a little boar on the floor reference in
The Four Quartets: "We move above the moving tree In light upon the figured leaf And hear upon the sodden floor Below, the boarhound and the boar Pursue their pattern as before But reconciled among the stars."
We’ve seen the L.O.G.A.N. system at work many times and with many people. He dangles a carrot, a morsel of love, as each character attempts to play the game over and over while expecting different results. They are doomed to crawl in that circle, to play that blind game, as Logan angrily shouts, “It’s fun!” And this game doesn't end in death. The children still ask. "What would dad do?"
Games on Succession (which are a consistent refrain), it turns out, are rarely fun and are often designed to humiliate or inflict pain. The same goes when characters say “I’m just kidding” after an eviscerating remark. Logan thinks life is a game, and as he says, games should be taken seriously. And because Logan explicitly makes the rules, there is no winning, just trudging around the board, passing Go, and collecting $200. The games are essentially Sisyphean tasks that the kids wouldn’t be able to win even if they were actually competent enough to run the company. And yet they keep rolling the boulder. It’s endless. The repetition. It ends where it begins.
"Every phrase and every sentence is an end and a beginning, Every poem an epitaph. And any action Is a step to the block, to the fire, down the sea's throat Or to an illegible stone: and that is where we start. We die with the dying: See, they depart, and we go with them. We are born with the dead: See, they return, and bring us with them. The moment of the rose and the moment of the yew-tree Are of equal duration. A people without history Is not redeemed from time, for history is a pattern Of timeless moments."
Please also note the use of “the rose” and “the yew tree,” which are the names of Logan’s siblings Rose and Ewan, which derives from yew-tree. Other important name comparisons include Kendall’s association to spring/river valley; Siobhan’s nickname either a knife (Shiv) or Pinky (a variation of the name Rose); Roman’s connection to Romulus/Corialanus; Tom’s name meaning “twin” because there was already someone named Judas in the bible HELLO; Logan’s name meaning little hollow, which recalls another Eliot poem,
The Hollow Men.
We know this show is a game, one that isn't fun at all, and one whose rules Logan made up. Even when there's a winner, there's no winner. So it's almost futile to play at all. That said, it’s impossible to make sense of any of it all without the ending — to confirm this ball has been rolling toward an inevitable conclusion, but given the show’s ending has probably occurred already, here are my thoughts:
This may feel a bit on the nose given we’ve already seen this almost happen to “the Kurt Cobain of floaties,” but it would certainly be poetic. This could be sad (launched from a bridge); empowering (a la
The Awakening); or metaphorical (a drug overdose). At some point Kendall says, "If dad didn’t need me right now I wouldn’t know what I would be for." The kids exist with Logan as their sun; they are moons, satellites, in orbit. And when their sun dies out, they repeat the motions in the cold, slowly losing their patterns and motions. The term is science is a rogue planet and the following lines from the poem remind me of Kendall and his broken, hollow stare.
“It would be the same at the end of the journey, If you came at night like a broken king, If you came by day not knowing what you came for, It would be the same, when you leave the rough road And turn behind the pig-sty to the dull facade And the tombstone. And what you thought you came for Is only a shell, a husk of meaning From which the purpose breaks only when it is fulfilled If at all. Either you had no purpose Or the purpose is beyond the end you figured And is altered in fulfilment.”
- Kendall is king of the ashes
Any victory feels like it will be a Pyrrhic victory regardless when you've had to systematically take down everyone you love to achieve it. The same lines above can echo here "the purpose is beyond the end you figured/And is altered in fulfilment." A hollow victory. The Fisher King question Logan poses is, "Who can replace me?" Logan wanted each of his children to display the killer instinct. Kendall’s backwards journey through
Dreamsong 29 may very well see him realize he is, in fact, the killer his dad always wanted — with open eyes. This will probably involve taking down his siblings. In this version, winning is a lot like losing, which feels very
Succession.
These Shakespearean histories and tragedies rarely end well for existing houses. With
Richard III (the-multiple-lineage-ending war of the roses) and
Hamlet (the-whole-house-dies-but-a-norwegian-king-swoops-in-to-take-it-all dynastic struggle) references abound. We may just see a new house rise up and rinse and repeat. This would probably also occur if the kids take each other down and leave it open for another party. We saw last season that Roman thought he had an in with Mattson until it didn’t serve Mattson anymore. I see the same thing happening between Roman and Mencken. This puts Mencken and Mattson in a position to take over, which may make Mattson win it or…
When Mattson is introduced, he is referenced as a trickster. Generally, in mythology, this character is quite intelligent or in possession of secret knowledge, and he uses it for trickery and commandeering situations. (Is that blood thing real???).
Hamlet concludes with every major character killing the other with their own tragic flaws until a third party Scandinavian comes in to take the crown with no necessary action or bloodshed at all. We already know he's unscrupulous; what is his end game? It reminds me of one of his early lines to Roman, which would be an eerie foreshadowing:
“Success doesn’t really interest me anymore, it’s too easy. Analysis + capital + execution. Fucking, anyone can do that. But failure, that’s a secret. Just as much failure as possible as fast as possible, burn that shit out, that’s interesting.”
We’ve seen it happen before (which is why it should happen again). We’ve also seen Tom remove the thin veneer of his ambitions to the point where he almost feels like Richard III. He has played the fool, which is Shakespearean estimation, is often equivalent to the trickster. This would be a fun and distorted parallel to Shiv offering this job to him for Logan to offer it to her. This would probably happen in conjunction with Mattson winning. As I mentioned earlier, the name Tom means “twin” and the apostle Tom was only called as such because there were already one too many “Judas” in the mix. He's also from Minnesota (the twin cities!), so this is becoming very real, you know???
While we know Tom has betrayed Shiv before, we also know Greg betrayed Shiv and Tom when he spoke to Geri in the first season about Tom having a press conference on cruises. He leads Tom to believe Shiv has betrayed him, getting one over on both of them. There may also be something with the Rule of 3 and being betrayed 3 times that feels biblical. The show also makes TONS of references to holding on to blackmail for opportune moments. Will we see something like this?
I’m not a big believer that Greg will fail so far upwards that he will win (this would feel like a betrayal in its own right), but do I believe there’s a world where Greg gets himself on a piece of paper with a question mark. Maybe???
This is my personal hope because I want the Tom and Jerry allusion to be real more than any other I put together (we love a good cat and mouse game). If Mattson wins, he needs a US CEO. Geri has collected a massive amount of dirt on everyone. And to call back to season 1’s interim CEO discussions, Shiv says, “I don’t like Geri. But I don’t hate Geri either.” It would feel particularly good given how much time and effort Logan spent clarifying Geri would be terrible at the position. Especially as Logan disparaging someone generally means he’s afraid of what they can do.
I’ll end at the ending. Or conclude where Eliot did on
The Four Quartets: "We shall not cease from exploration And the end of all our exploring Will be to arrive where we started And know the place for the first time. Through the unknown, unremembered gate When the last of earth left to discover Is that which was the beginning; At the source of the longest river The voice of the hidden waterfall And the children in the apple-tree Not known, because not looked for But heard, half-heard, in the stillness Between two waves of the sea. Quick now, here, now, always— A condition of complete simplicity (Costing not less than everything) And all shall be well and All manner of thing shall be well When the tongues of flames are in-folded Into the crowned knot of fire And the fire and the rose are one."
PS. Given ‘Pinky’ is another name for ‘Rose’ does this mean Shiv wins??? JK let’s just watch the show tonight and laugh at our predictions in the morning.
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2023.05.25 18:40 My_Munchausen_Mom My mother took the life of her husband
After I (35) confronted my mother (55) about her abuse of me, I went no contact with her. Shortly after, her husband died under suspicious circumstances.
Her husband was a little over 20 years older than her and had dementia and alzheimer's. I had talked her into getting a home health nurse several times to help provide care because it was very obvious that she was not. She inevitability came up with reasons to fire each one and she made a big deal out of it every time. Without the care he needed, her husband continued to deteriorate and I wound up reporting for elder abuse, but nothing ever came of it. I really, really regret not pushing harder.
I had a sit-down with her a couple of years ago to talk about all the medical abuse she put me through as a child and an adult and confronted her about munchausen and munchausen by proxy. It went about as well as one would expect and she became super dodgy and passive aggressive with me after that, but maintained communication. However, it got to a point where I no longer found the relationship worth maintaining and went no-contact. After that, things escalated extremely quickly and very severely with her committing several state and federal crimes in attempt to get back at me for cutting contact with her. I have since moved (no one knows my address), do not own a phone, and have no contact with any members of either side of my family.
During the time she was escalating her lashing out and while I was moving, her husband died, and I know that she killed him. He had one of the most storied lives that I'd ever heard and his obituary is two sentence long. This is it, in it's entirety, with identifiers changed: "John Doe, age, passed away on Day, Month Date, Year. He was born on Month Date, Year, to Jack and Jill Smith in City, STATE. John is survived by his wife My Mom." He was cremated, which was against his wishes, and there was no funeral service or memorial. There are also things like how he had money set aside for donations that didn't get donated but that's not the point.
The last time I saw my mom's husband, I was at her house. He was wearing clothes that were extremely dirty and way too big on him due to weight loss. His hair and beard were unkempt where he used to always shave and get haircuts. It was also very clear that he hadn't been bathed in a very long time like on the scale of months. My mom and her roommate were constantly getting on to him for his pants falling down (talking about how they didn't want to see his body and how gross it was) or dropping cigarette ash/food crumbs on himself and making too much noise. It's like they were watching him just to catch him doing something they didn't like so they could scold him about it. I noticed that he didn't speak at all while I was there beyond a mumbled greeting when I came in. At one point I went to the bathroom and there was poop all over the toilet and sink and around that whole general area. I went to grab cleaning supplies hoping my mom wouldn't notice but she did. She all but physically rubbed his face in it like a shitty dog owner trying to housebreak a puppy. She was angrily chiding and shaming him like he did it on purpose to make her life even harder taking care of him. I left and went to the nearest health and senior services center and again reported what happened and what I saw and made several follow up calls, but I don't know if they ever even did anything.
On the outside, she presented herself as loving her husband and that she was a warrior sticking by the side of and taking on the care of someone with dementia and alzheimer's. Her whole thing was that she wasn't going to be like other people that put their loved ones in care facilities when things get tough. She's better than that.
I don't know if she did some of the same things to him as she did to me like the poisoning and inducing illness, but it's beyond clear that she neglected and berated him and got pleasure from seeing him deteriorate. I'm not entirely sure what happened with the exact circumstances of his death, but he was so frail from the abuse at that point that I assume either her or her and her roommate went too far with some sort of torture while they were all keyed up from doing shit to me that she/they wound up killing him either accidentally or intentionally. I didn't witness the act, but I know that she killed him.
One of the details that's always stuck out to me as strange is that, months after his death, my partner got a text from my mom telling them to pass on the message 'I thought you should know that "John" died'. No further information, no details, just 'my husband died'.
This has been weighing on me because I could have done more to stop it. I knew she was abusing her husband and I didn't get him out of there. I'm not saying this so someone can give me a hug and tell me I tried, I say it because I genuinely don't know why I didn't do more. I don't like the psychological implications there. I'm terrified of becoming something like her. My mom killed her husband, but I feel like I let it happen. I feel an immense amount of guilt but I also recognize that my mother is a monster and is the one that perpetrated these acts. It's a lot of complicated feelings and they're all bad. I almost feel ashamed of how much I let the trauma I carry from a life lived with her control me, because she at least never successfully killed me. I don't know. I don't know what to do with this.
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2023.05.24 00:26 Small_Bet_9433 ACC Atlantic Programs That Have Played Teams They Have Never Beaten (as of the 2022 season)
We've seen the SEC, now its time to look at the current state of the ACC starting with the Atlantic division! Although they are doing away with divisions this upcoming season, I am still going to go with them for the sake of simplicity. Commentors on the previous post have pointed out a better way for me to find the dates for the really old games. My plan is to add the dates for this post and then I'll go back and add the rest of the dates for the previous two posts. As always, the year in parenthesis is the date of the most recent matchup between teams and if I missed any dates or matchups, please let me know!
- Clemson
Army (0-1) (1937)
Baylor (0-1) (1979)
California (0-1) (1992)
Marshall (0-1) (1999)
Minnesota (0-1) (1985)
Ole Miss (0-2) (1933)
Southern Cal (0-1) (1966)
Texas Tech (0-1) (2002)
USF (0-1) (2010)
Sewanee (TN) (0-1) (1904)
Pacific (CA) (0-1) (1951)
Oglethorpe (GA) (0-1) (1931)
Jacksonville NAS (FL) (0-1)
Georgia Navy Pre-Flight (0-1) (1943)
Centre (KY) (0-3) (1923)
Camp Hancock (GA) (0-1) (1918)
- FSU
Alabama (0-3-1) (2017)
Boise State (0-1) (2019)
Oregon (0-1) (2015)
San Diego State (0-2) (1977)
UTEP (0-1) (1955)
Wyoming (0-1) (1966)
- Wake Forest
Air Force (0-1) (1998)
Florida (0-4) (1957)
Houston (0-2) (1970)
LSU (0-3) (1979)
Michigan (0-2) (1988)
Michigan State (0-1) (2019)
Minnesota (0-1) (1968)
Mississippi State (0-1) (2011)
Nebraska (0-3) (2007)
Notre Dame (0-5) (2018)
Oklahoma (0-1) (1974)
Penn State (0-1) (1974)
Pitt (0-2) (2021)
SMU (0-3) (1975)
Texas (0-1) (1973)
TCU (0-1) (1952)
Texas Tech (0-2) (1941)
ULM (0-2) (2014)
WVU (0-2) (1957)
Wisconsin (0-1) (2020)
Virginia Medical College (0-1) (1912)
Quantico Marines (VA) (0-1) (1927)
Oglethorpe (GA) (0-1) (1931)
Norfolk Blues (VA) (0-1) (1910)
Greensboro AAB (NC) (0-1) (1943)
Emory & Henry (VA) (0-1) (1934)
Catholic (DC) (0-2) (1933)
- NC State
Akron (0-1) (2006)
Alabama (0-5) (1996)
Arizona (0-1) (1989)
Army (0-1) (1953)
Baylor (0-2) (1998)
Michigan (0-1) (1994)
Nebraska (0-2) (1973)
Ohio State (0-2) (2004)
Oklahoma (0-2) (1968)
Rutgers (0-1) (2008)
Texas A&M (0-1) (2018)
Tulane (0-1) (1970)
UCLA (0-2) (1960)
Wyoming (0-2) (1961)
North Carolina Pre-Flight (0-2) (1943)
Transylvania (0-1) (1903)
Holy Cross (MA) (0-1) (1942)
George Washington (DC) (0-2)
Detroit (MI) (0-2) (1939)
Catholic (DC) (0-3) (1936)
Carnegie Mellon (PA) (0-1) (1938)
Camp Davis (NC) (0-1) (1943)
- Syracuse
Bowling Green (0-2) (1976)
Middle Tennessee (0-1) (2017)
Mississippi State (0-2) (1986)
Oklahoma (0-4) (1997)
Princeton (NJ) (0-5) (1915)
SMU (0-1) (1932)
Southern Cal (0-4) (2012)
Tennessee (0-3) (2001)
TCU (0-1) (1957)
Yale (CT) (0-11) (1912)
West Virginia Wesleyan (0-1) (1924)
North Carolina Navy Pre-Flight (0-1) (1942)
John Carroll (OH) (0-1) (1950)
Bolling AFB (DC) (0-1) (1952)
Baldwin-Wallace (OH) (0-1) (1936)
- Louisville
Air Force (0-1) (2021)
Auburn (0-2) (2015)
Baylor (0-1) (1996)
Clemson (0-8) (2022)
Georgia (0-1) (2014)
Georgia Tech (0-2) (2020)
Indiana (0-2) (1986)
LSU (0-1) (2016)
Louisiana Tech (0-1) (1977)
Miami (OH) (0-1) (2003)
Missouri (0-1) (1981)
Ohio State (0-2) (1992)
Oklahoma (0-2) (1999)
Ole Miss (0-1) (2021)
Penn State (0-2) (1997)
SMU (0-2) (1984)
Tennessee (0-5) (1993)
Utah (0-4) (2009)
Vanderbilt (0-2-1) (1974)
Wabash (IN) (0-2) (1915)
Tennessee St. (0-2) (1984)
Saint Louis (MO) (0-1) (1928)
Saint Bonaventure (NY) (0-1) (1951)
Oakland City (IN) (0-1) (1932)
Long Island-Brooklyn (NY) (0-1) (1940)
King College (TN) (0-1) (1924)
Franklin (IN) (0-4) (1923)
Duquesne (PA) (0-1) (1950)
Detroit (MI) (0-1) (1928)
DePaul (IL) (0-2) (1931)
Davis & Elkins (WV) (0-1) (1927)
Cumberland (TN) (0-1) (1914)
Centenary (LA) (0-2) (1928)
Baldwin-Wallace (OH) (0-1) (1936)
- Boston College
Arizona (0-1) (2013)
Colorado (0-1) (1999)
Iowa (0-1) (2017)
LSU (0-2) (1953)
Michigan (0-4) (1996)
Nevada (0-1) (2011)
Ohio State (0-3) (1995)
Ohio (0-1) (1966)
Purdue (0-1) (2018)
SMU (0-1) (1986)
Cushing Academy (MA) (0-1) (1912)
Bates (ME) (0-2) (1902)
Harvard (MA) (0-3) (1944)
Saint Alphonsus College (CT) (0-1) (1909)
Newton HS (MA) (0-1) (1893)
Melville PT Boats (RI) (0-1) (1944)
MIT Freshmen (MA) (0-1) (1893)
Lafayette (PA) (0-1) (1922)
Geneva (PA) (0-1) (1927)
Dean Academy (MA) (0-4) (1912)
Colby (ME) (0-2) (1912)
Brown (RI) (0-5) (1945)
Brockton YMCA (MA) (0-1) (1892)
Bridgewater St. (MA) (0-1) (1908)
Bowdoin (ME) (0-2) (1915)
Boston College Alumni (0-1) (1908)
*A commentor on the SEC East post was correct in guessing that FSU would have the best odds of having the lowest total. They have beaten every P5 team they have played except for two!
* Minnesota has so far been the silent executioner of teams from the south.
*FSU has beaten Alabama however, the NCAA made them vacate their 2007 victory. So for now, FSU has no (recognized) wins.
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2023.05.22 22:07 Sweatycrack92 Complicated grief and how can I deal with it?
This is going to be a huge story to read but please continue. I need advice badly.
Growing up I never saw my dad. He was an absent father but always paid child support on time. He was just never there. My mom invited him to soccer games or anything I was associated with, but he never showed. When I was a freshman in high school, he randomly showed up at my house one day. I had to ask my mom who this man was that was standing in our living room because I couldn't tell.
He picked me up and we spent weeks together. It was around Easter so we did family things on his side of the family. After that, he decided to leave again. I called multiple times but never got an answer. I called on father's day and his birthday but still got nothing.
This crushed me being a teenager and all. Fast forward to 23 years old. I decided to go to our local court house (he lived in the same city) to see if I could find him. I got 2 P.O. boxes (he didn't have an actual address because he didn't like being around people I guess), one being in the same town I was in and one being 2 hours north of our town.
When I got to the house that was in the same town, I saw all these toys in the yard. I knew he had a gf/wife and I knew I was his only child so the only explanation I had was that maybe he had grandchildren. I walked up to the door and knocked but never got an answer. So I left all my information and said I was looking for my dad. I never heard from him. I then traveled to the second place I was given and it was a empty lot so it was a dead end.
Now 2 years ago, I got a letter in the mail that said my dad died. I didn't know how to feel. A person that I tried so hard to have a connection with was now gone. The worst part was that his funeral was 6 months prior to me getting the letter. So I wasn't able to attend.
I read his obituary and I was never mentioned. It never said he was a father or was lived on by me. I felt erased. I'm now in the estate process and found out that he did own a house that was 2 hours away in the same town I went to. I just had the wrong place. I am now inheriting hundreds of thousand of dollars from his estate and am struggling with change. If anyone could give me advice or even kind words, I'd really appreciate it.
Thank you for reading!
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2023.05.21 09:35 Justwonderinif Trial 1 & Trial 2
< Wednesday, December 8, 1999 / Trial 1 Thursday, December 9, 1999 / Trial 1 - Voire Dire of Witnesses Starts on Page 3
- Page 133: Prosecution’s opening, Mr. Urick
- Page 138: Defense’s opening, Ms. Guiterrez
- Cliffs Notes
Friday, December 10, 1999 / Trial 1 Monday, December 13, 1999 / Trial 1 - Prosecution Witnesses:
- Page: 156: Emmanuel Obot, Baltimore City Police Crime Lab
- Page: 160: Det Joseph O’Shea, Baltimore County PD, Missing Persons/Homicide Unit
- Page: 175: Inez Butler-Hendricks, Teacher and athletics trainer, WHS
- Page 195: Don, Hae’s new boyfriend
- Page 212: Lynette Woodley, WHS Principal
- Page 225: Sharon Watts, former WHS school nurse
- Page 250: Sharon Talmadge, Latent Prints Unit
- Page 284: Krista, Friend of Adnan and Hae
- Page 322: Debbie, Friend of Adnan and Hae
- Cliffs Notes
Tuesday, December 14, 1999 / Trial 1 Wednesday, December 15, 1999 / Trial 1 Thursday, December 16, 1999
- Adnan's defense team makes another application for bail.
December 23, 1999
- Bilal graduates from dental school
Thursday, December 30, 1999
- Amended State's Disclosure Not Missing Prosecution discloses that the two hairs that did not match the defendant, also did not match Hae Min Lee.
Saturday, January 1, 2000
Monday, January 3, 2000
Tuesday, January 4, 2000
- Adnan's parents make $5,000.00 payment to Christina Gutierrez
- Jay is scheduled to be sentenced on this day. The original date for Adnan's trial was October 13, and the state expected Adnan's trial to be concluded by January 4. Jay is told not to come to court for sentencing until Adnan's trial is concluded.
- Baltimore Circuit Judge Roger W. Brown dismisses charges against four men accused of killing Shawn L. Suggs, 21 -- on the grounds that the courts are overwhelmed. By law, defendants have to be tried within six months of their first court appearance, or the charges could be dropped. The case was postponed seven times after the speedy trial deadline had passed.
Thursday, January 6, 2000
Friday, January 7, 2000
Monday, January 10, 2000
- Gutierrez writes to witnesses re; subpoenas to testify:
Friday, January 14, 2000
Saturday, January 15, 2000
Monday, January 17, 2000
Tuesday, January 18, 2000
Thursday, January 20, 2000
- On Friday, January 21, Judge Heard says, "We've heard some preliminary motions..." This implies that we are missing a session from January 20 (or even 19), or, that the morning of January 21 is either missing, or unrecorded.
- Gutierrez's stipulation of the pages with Cell Sites indicated is a big issue for the IAC claim. Yet we don't seem to have a record of her stipulating to this.
Friday, January 21, 2000
- Almost all the pages are missing. Judge Heard says that motions were heard earlier. That could have been the previous day. (We do not have access to or a record of Gutierrez stipulating to cell phone evidence (or any evidence), in the second trial.)
- Judge Heard says they will hear additional motions at the end of the day, but they don't get to motions.
- Jury Voir Doire (almost all the pages are missing.)
- Defense clerk types notes on Ja'uan April 20 interview which was disclosed to the defense on January 18, 2000. These notes paraphrase Ja'uan's April 20, 1999 police interview.
Monday, January 24, 2000 / Trial 2
- Page 6: Jury Selection
- Page: 288: Judge's notes to jury
- Cliffs Notes
Tuesday, January 25, 2000
- Jury makes arrangements to be on jury duty - Court not in session. Snow storm in Baltimore.
Wednesday, January 26, 2000
- Judge Heard attends a funeral - Court not in session. Snow storm in Baltimore.
Thursday, January 27, 2000 / Trial 2
- Page 4: Preliminary motions. Gutierrez asks to bus the jury to the Best Buy and to the burial site in Leakin Park, and Judge Heard says she will decide that one later. Gutierrez also asks for permission to depose Detective Ritz as to the circumstances surrounding Jen's two interviews, and Judge Heard denies that.
- Even though Gutierrez's stipulation to cell site evidence is an ongoing issue, we do not have access to or a record of Gutierrez stipulating to cell phone evidence (or any evidence), in the second trial.
- Page 82: Jury enters, judge instructions
- Page 94: Prosecution’s opening, Mr. Urick
- Page 113: Defense’s opening, Ms. Guiterrez
- Prosecution Witnesses:
- Page 173: Emmanuel Obot, Mobile Unit, BC Police Crime Lab
- Page 200: Detective Kevin Forrester, Homicide Sergeant BCPD
- Page 219: Jury instructions, Judge warns families not to be emotional. Someone was smiling and the judge was not happy.
- Cliffs Notes
Friday, January 28, 2000 / Trial 2
- Prosecution Witnesses:
- Page 17: Young Lee, Hae's brother
- Page 81: Grant Graham, Chief of Forensic Trace Materials Analysis, Armed Forces Medical Examiner
- Page 130: 2PM, Hope Schab, French teacher, WHS
- Page 154: William C Rodriguez, Deputy Chief Medical Examiner
- Page 183: 2:35PM, Nisha, Adnan’s friend [Gutierrez's notes taken during Nisha's testimony]
- Page 206: Krista, Friend of Adnan and Hae
- Page 237: Aisha, Friend of Adnan and Hae (Aisha reads note from Hae to Adnan)
- Page 290: re: subpoenas for Ritz & McGillvary
- Cliffs Notes
Monday, January 31, 2000 / Trial 2
- Prosecution Witnesses:
- Page 4: First Responding Officer, Adcock
- Page 22: Missing Persons Detective O'Shea, Baltimore County
- Page 47: Romano Thomas, Crime Lab Technician, BCPD
- Cliffs Notes
Tuesday, February 1, 2000 / Trial 2
- Prosecution Witnesses:
- Page 4: Romano Thomas, Crime Lab Technician, BCPD
- Page 14: Sharon Talmadge, Latent Print Unit, BCPD
- Page 68: Don, Hae's new boyfriend
- Page 104: Salvatore Bianca, Trace Analysis Unit, BCPD
- Cliffs Notes
Wednesday, February 2, 2000 / Trial 2
Thursday, February 3, 2000 / Trial 2
- Prosecution Witnesses:
- Page 20: Voire Dire of Sharon Watts, School Nurse, WHS
- Page 70: Judge decides Sharon Watts cannot testify
- Page 78: Yaser Ali, Adnan's best friend before Adnan met Saad.
- Cliffs Notes
Friday, February 4, 2000 / Trial 2
- Prosecution Witnesses:
- Page 5: Inez
- Page 108: Jay
- Cliffs Notes
Monday, February 7, 2000
- Judge Heard N/A - Court not in session
Tuesday, February 8, 2000 / Trial 2
Wednesday, February 9, 2000 / Trial 2
Thursday, February 10, 2000 / Trial 2
Friday, February 11, 2000 / Trial 2
Monday, February 14, 2000 / Trial 2
Tuesday, February 15, 2000 / Trial 2
- Prosecution Witnesses:
- Page 4: Jay
- Page 179: Jen
- (Unrelated: On this day the Department of Motor Vehicles sends Jay a letter notifying him that his license will be suspended for failing to appear on three traffic citations)
Wednesday, February 16, 2000 / Trial 2
- Prosecution Witnesses:
- Page 3: Jen
- Page 205: Kristi Vinson (aka "Cathy")
- Page 297: Debbie Warren
Thursday, February 17, 2000 / Trial 2
Friday, February 18, 2000 / Trial 2
- Prosecution Witness: Detective MacGillivary
- The State rests
Saturday, February 19, 2000 / Trial 2
Sunday, February 20, 2000 / Trial 2
Monday, February 21, 2000 / Trial 2
- President's Day - court not in session
Tuesday, February 22, 2000 / Trial 2
- Defense Witnesses:
- Page 78: Andrew Davis, Defense Private Investigator hired by Chris Flohr
- Page 93: Philip Buddemeyer, Surveyer
- Page 111: Mr. S (discovered the body in Leakin Park) -
- Jury Instruction by Judge Heard
Wednesday, February 23, 2000 / Trial 2
Thursday, February 24, 2000 / Trial 2
- Defense Witnesses:
- The Defense rests
Friday, February 25, 2000 / Trial 2
- Page 47: Closing Arguments
- 1:35PM: Jury deliberations begin. Verdict Sheet
- 4:25PM Verdict Read; Syed convicted of:
- First Degree Murder (Life)
- Kidnapping (30 years, consecutive to life)
- False imprisonment and robbery (10 years, concurrent with kidnapping)
- entire day of testimony courtesy of stop_saying_right
- Rabia remembers going down to see Adnan that same evening, and says that's when Adnan gave her Asia's letters, (according to Serial podcast.) Adnan remembers calling Rabia on the phone, telling her about the letters, and mailing them to her.
Saturday, February 26, 2000
Post Conviction Timeline>>
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2023.05.19 23:23 NarglesAreAmongUs Death in the family. No one knew.
Advice...family's drama ahead:
My cousin cut off his mother (my aunt) from contact months ago; she's an elderly woman and had sent numerous people in the family some monetary gifts. Cousin was VERY upset and he turned off her cell phone, home phone. He was expecting a hefty inheritance and didnt want anything leaving the house. He had recently got power of attorney over her.
She had in the past help pay for my degree and promised to help pay my kids college too... and I knew eventually he would change her will if he found out.
No one in the extended family could contact her either, even our family in Europe couldnt reach her. My dad (her brother) called the non-emergency police line to do a wellness check up, and then he got sent a letter from an attorney to never contact her son or her again.
Obviously everyone is concerned, my aunt was a busy-body and loved to chat with everyone for hours daily, before the cut off my cousin had even taken away Christmas and church, she wasn't allowed to decorate or celebrate. (She was a super-religious Catholic). Which she would complain about often to my mother. My mom had thoughts that the cousin would drop off the aunt in a nursing home and move on with his life. She calls around in the city in AZ (We're in FL)and the first nursing home answers with "We're not allowed to to let anyone speak with her on family's orders." So we assume she's there, my mom sends her flowers in April for her birthday.
My dad, worried about his only sister... calls her church today, whom she used to be VERY involved in. Church tells my dad she passed away May 2nd.
We're obviously heart broken to have found out like this. I've checked obituaries, the family funeral plot... and I can't find any information. I just want peace of mind, that she passed.
What do I do?
TLDR: cousin cuts off wealthy aunt from family, doesn't notify anyone she's passed.
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2023.05.17 14:13 BuyWonderful The week after your funeral.
The letter comes the week after your funeral. I only notice it because of the hand written description of The bereaved Wife.
The envelope contains no note of sympathy, instead a Polaroid and an article that looks like a newspaper clipping. Both the photo and article are aged, yellowing and curling at the edges, but the picture itself is clear, just are the words on the newspaper. “Husband and wife perish in house fire: Two bodies have been recovered from a house on Jingle street, where a fire broke out around 9pm last night. It is not confirmed yet, but the bodies are believed to be that of Charles and Debbie Fosher. Neighbour’s are helping police with their enquiries and at this stage the fire is not deemed as suspicious.”
The photo in the newspaper article is the same photo as the Polaroid, it shows a young man in a suit and tie, standing tall and proud next to a raven haired young bride. They are smiling at the camera, and I can imagine them saying cheese! In union, as the photographer clicked the camera and captured the image. The man is my husband, but the wife is not me.
I have never seen the raven haired girl before and my husband had never mentioned being married before, let alone being dead and coming back to life under a different name. I log onto your computer and search for your obituary notice, but not the one I wrote for you, the one for Charles, who you were before me.
Until now, despite it all, I believed this was all wrong, but I began to truly remember the beginning. It was so early on in our relationship, you were living with your roommate and I was in the city. We spent weekends together at my place, your preference as you told me your room mate was dodgy. I didn’t mind, I liked having you to myself.
On valentines day you told me you were interning overseas for three months, it meant your dream job. We celebrated with sizzling bottles of cheap champagne. You came home at the start of April, you had been hurt in a mugging and were scratched up. I remember seeing the gouges that ran deep on your arms, the nasty bump on your forehead and that was when I realized I loved you. I’d felt sick at the thought of loosing you.
Your camera, which held all of your travel photographs, and your backpack with your ID had been stolen, so you had to get everything new. You’d dropped out of the internship, moving in with me to my small city apartment, after your room mate had gone missing with your share of the rent and not so much as a note.
Three weeks ago you died in a car crash.
You were unrecognizable because of the impact, only identifiable by your wedding ring. I hear a floorboard squeak behind me.
I’m not alone.
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2023.05.16 13:14 calicocatface Trident A-Range: Tracking the recording history and movement of all 13 consoles
I'm assembling a history of all 13 Trident A-Range consoles, their studios and albums recorded on them. I believe there's a lot of misinformation that's been put out there -- by Trident, Malcolm Toft, MTA, PMI Audio, and even UA and Softube. I feel bad for Sound Techniques, who had their "A Range" console name stolen and usurped by Trident, and now the trademark for it is owned by PMI Audio.
Index
I - Sound Techniques, Trident Studios II - Cherokee, Quad Sound, Smart Studios III - Le Studio, Bennett House, New Monkey IV - Sweet Silence, Avast!, Bomb Factory and more V - The Barn, American Recording/Emblem Studio
Unlucky 13 There were 13 original Trident Studios A-Ranges. Allegedly
only 5 or
6 survive.
According to
this comment there were 2 production runs. The first 6 and second 7. This is in line with the 2 different schematics for the Trident A-Range. A 1038 channel strip from 1973 (
gutshot,
schematic, and a 2038 channel strip from 1975 (
gutshot,
schematic).
- #1 40 input/. Trident Studios, London, UK '71 > Matrix Studios -'76/77-? > Cherokee '83-? > Long View Farm Studios, North Brookfield, MA '00-'09 > Studio 3, EastWest, Hollywood, CA '09-present (Source, Source)
Gwyn Mathias says the original desk went to Matrix Studios, London. Ken Scott said it ended up in pieces in Vermont. See bottom of post for more info.
- #2, 1st production Trident A-Range - Crown Records, Tokyo - current fate unknown Source
The first "Production" A Range was built for Crown Records in Tokio, and I believe the EQs were tweaked for that, and then the design stayed. I think the Crown desk may also have had the old-fashioned telephone-style (STC ?) illuminated mute switches (Source)
The mute switch is an STC/Plessey standard telephone-type switch. These were used in the first couple of B Ranges, too, and just might have been used in the first production A Range for Crown Records, Tokyo (Source)
- #3, 2nd production Trident A-Range - 28 input/8 bus. Le Studio, Quebec '74 > Bennet House, TN > Elliott Smith's New Monkey, Van Nuys, CA ~00/02-present (Source)
- 20 input. 24 out. Sweet Silence Studios, Denmark Spring '76-'23 (Source) > Kungsten Studios, Gothenberg, Sweden '23-present (Source: email from Flemming Rasmussen)
- 30 x 24 Trident A-Range mixer. 2038 channel strip. Chipping Norton ~75/77-80 > Henry Hirsch @ Waterfront Studios (It's been referred to as the Lenny Kravitz's A-Range, but he never actually owned it) ~'93-98 (Source) > Takeshi Kobayashi in Tokyo, Japan ~'02 > AES Pro Audio ~08 > Paul Stacey ~09 > 5db Studio, West London '21-present (Source)
- Richie Goldberg (Johannesburg - can't remember the name of the company/studio) - it's possible that this is the very one Cherokee bought through a broker, currently unconfirmed
- 48 monitor. Trident Remix room console/Trident Studio A > Image Recorders, Santa Monica Blvd ~'00/01 (Source) > Formula One Studios, Phoenix, AZ (Source) ~'00/01-04 > sold to a friend ~'04 (Source)
- 32 input (Source) 1975 Studio Rosenberg in Denmark (Source) > Bomb Factory, LA, CA (Source) > Control Room A, Studio Bell, National Music Center in Calgary, Canada (Source)
- Cherokee ( the first Cherokee console). (Source)
- 48 input/24 bus. Cherokee's 1st A-Range - Studio 3, still at Cherokee Studios, LA. (Source, Source)
In the Produce Like a Pro Cherokee Studio tour
Bruce Robb says he believes their modified 48 channel console is the first Trident they bought, whoever
this comment says the South African broker sold Trident A-Range was the one that was modified and expanded.
- Cherokee's South African broker bought w/ additional inputs added, Cherokee's 3rd Trident Studio 1, still at Cherokee Studios, LA
- 36 input Cherokee's 2nd Trident > unused for 10 years > Olympic (Source) > Studio A, Avast!, Seattle, WA (Source)
- [#13] 40 input/24 bus. "Old Blue" Cherokee's 4th Trident @ Studio 2 '75-83 > Quad Sound Studio, Nashville, TN '83-99 > Smart Studios, WI from '99-10 (Source) > private buyer in LA as of ~'12/13 (Source)
- 40 input. Randy Bachman's 'The Barn' Studio, Bellingham, WA > '85-'12 American Recording, Calabasas CA '85 > Emblem '06-'12 > renamed American Recording '12 (Source)
What is in a name? A brief history Sound Techniques started as a recording studio in Chelsea, London in 1965. The Sound Techniques' A-Range was built by Geoff Frost and John Wood from 1964-1971, only 14 were ever made. (
Source)
The original Sound Techniques A-Range at Trident Studios was used to record "Hey Jude, 3 tracks off of the White Album, all the early Elton John stuff, all the early Bowie stuff, all the early Queen stuff, Rolling Stones Carly Simon, America"
from Ken Scott himself.
Trident Studios Trident Studios started in 1967 in St Anne's Court, Soho, London.
Their Sound Techniques' A-Range - the
5th A-Range console made by Sound Techniques. It was built in late 1967. Installed at Trident in early 1968.
According to Ken Scott it lived in the recording room for around 18 months before being moved to the mix room, being replaced by another Sound Techniques A-Range.
Everything at Trident Studio from 1968 to 1971 was also recorded
AND mixed on this desk. Afterwards and until late 1976, everything was mixed on this particular Sound Techniques desk. (
Source)
In 1971 "the [Trident] engineering team at the venerable studio facility decided to create their very own console" (
Source,
Source)
All original Trident produced Trident A-Range consoles featured an aubergine colour (
Source%20color)) and a Belclere (not Bellclaire) Zutt012a input transformer. (
Source,
Source)
The original Trident A-Range desk "had 24-way McMurdo Red Range connectors on the channels." (
Source)
"the Trident studio board - really the prototype and with 24 -way McMurdo Red Range connectors on the channels instead of the later 32-way ones on the production boards )
I prototype-wired the first "proper" A-Range channel, physically designed and made the Loom board for the manufacture of the input channel looms, moved on to wiring the console frames, and ended up responsible for the manufacturing wiring shop at the North Road factory..." (
Source)
"From memory it had Seidel (sp?) faders... Subsequent A Range boards all had P & Gs."
(Source) "I asked Malcolm about when the A and B Range consoles came out and he said... "the first A Range was in fact manufactured at the end of 1971." (
Source)
"Malcolm has helped me as well with some good input on this, but more details change the date a bit. There were once claims saying 1970, but I have been digging very deep into A-Range history. While they may have completed some circuits/modules for the desk in 1971, the finished console seems to have been completed later in 1972, and was installed mid/late 1972 at St Anne's Court, to replace the Sound Techniques console. There is a December 1971 photo of the chassis being wired, so some circuits were complete, but not the whole console. In summer of 1972, they had done press about the "just completed" desk with new photos before the install. It seems quite unlikely to wait 8-10 months to install something like that. Bowie's
Aladdin Sane was one of the first records done on the new console, October 1972." (
Source)
"Trident installed the first A-Range in the main studio in 1972 and moved the Sound Techniques A-Range console that was in that room into the mix room." (
Source)
Albums and timeline 1968 - The Beatles - Hey Jude - recorded at Trident Studios on the Sound Techniques' A-Range.
1971 - America - Self titled album
1971 - Harry Nilsson - Nilsson Schmilsson
1972 - Harry Nilsson - Son of Schmilsson
"There is an announcement of the new console in May of 72 at APRS Convention in London"
1972 - David Bowie - The Rise and Fall of Ziggy Stardust and the Spiders from Mars
- In a MIX Magazine article from 2009 (I believe the March issue) Ken Scott said Ziggy was recorded on Trident's A-Range and mixed on the ST A-Range. (Source)
1972 Savoy Brown - Lion's Share (
Source)
1972 - Elton John - Honky Chateau
- We did a few more overdubs at Trident after we finished in France. For the overdubs, we would have used a Sound Techniques board (Source)
Actually tracked on the Trident A-Range: 1972, October - David Bowie - Aladdin Sane (
Source,
Source)
"By October 73 the Trident console is already installed at Trident"
1973 - Elton John's Goodbye Yellow Brick Road
- Overdubs. Tambourine on "All The Girls Love Alice", orchestral parts on 6 songs and the first 1m40s of Funeral for a Friend recorded at Trident possibly on the Trident A-Range, but certainly mixed on Sound Techniques' A-Range (Source, Source)
1973 - Chris Darrow - Self titled
1973 - Home - Alchemist
1974 - Jimmy Webb - Land's End
1974 - Mick Ronson - Slaughter on 10th Avenue
1974 - Peter Hammill - The Silent Corner and the Empty Stage (
Source)
1974 - Supertramp - Crime of the Century
1974 Trident visited AES in New York
- "Malcolm further added to the allure surrounding the A-Range desk in 1974 by attending the AES convention in New York City." (Source)
- "The first of the "Production" A Range modules to be exhibited at a show with 32-way connectors on the channels was actually a mock-up, wired any and every which way - as the AES was literally in a day or two and Barry Porter had no time to make any sort of draft wiring documentation out for it . Hence although switches had the correct number of wires on them etc., and all the circuit board pins had wires soldered to them, the wires went nowhere in particular...
- I know this because I did an allnighter and wired that channel myself, with Jeff King the #2 in R & D staying and feeding me coffee.... This wasn't an easy job at all, because wire colours had to be chosen to make it look credible, and it had to be able to pass muster against inspection by pros. I had to hand-lace the loom in situ with waxed lacing twine - the later looms were all made on the loom-boards with nails, which I made after the wiring had been finalized.
- The dummy channel was then taken more or less the next day for its first outing at the AES in LA." (Source)
- "I sat up all night first with Barry Porter , and then with Jeff King ( #2 in R & D) faking-up the wiring of the very first A Range channel taken to the AES in LA. It was a total dummy - switches had to have the appropriate numbers of wires in the appropriate places, but were going via the Loom to random destinations. This was a really hard task to make visually credible actually - necessitated by the fact there was no time to get a functional channel sorted before the AES date as the parts were delivered at the last moment." (Source)
Production started - Crown Records, Tokyo "this was the first "production" A Range board built at the North Rd factory after the original first A Range had been built at Trident Studios and installed there" (Source)
- 1974 (Source) Le Studio. Morin Heights Quebec, Canada. The "second of the production consoles" (Source)
- 1976 Spring (Source) Sweet Silence Studios, Denmark
- Either 1975 (Source) or 1977 (Source) Chipping Norton. 30 x 24 Trident A-Range mixer
- Richie Goldberg (Johannesburg - can't remember the name of the company/studio)
- Trident Remix room console ( this has to have been the one referred to in an earlier post as being in " Trident Studio A" - after the Sheffield brothers had sold the studio I went there and did some overdubs and mixes on it for The Ruts, which would have been probably 1981-82, and the board was still upstairs in the remix room at St Annes Court then).
- Cherokee (the first Cherokee console). (Source)
1976/77 Trident Studios remodeled, original tracking Trident A-Range desk sold to Matrix Studios (
Source) and replaced it "with a TSM, and also the Sound Techniques in the mix room with a bigger TSM"
- On a funny note, as we were ripping out the mix room (this was the first time it had ever been re-equipped) we discovered that the ST desk was plugged into a 13amp wall socket with the fuse replaced by a sawn off 6 inch nail. Talk about potential fire hazard, but it obviously got the job done, right? (Source)
1981 closed as of November (
Source)
1983 Trident opened under new ownership (
Source)
1985 - The Cure - Close to Me
1986 - Blow Monkeys - Digging Your Scene
- "Those were the two records that shaped my career, so the A-Range is always special to me" - Adam Moseley (Source)
Fate of Trident's original two Sound Techniques A-Range consoles "One of them (I didn't know there were two) was in pieces in cardboard boxes in a corner of the production area of the Trident North Road factory for years." - Gwyn Mathias, former module wireman @ Trident Studios (
Source)
Fate of the original Trident A-Range "I am positive that dealer Don Larking had the prototype from St Anne's Court at one point and sold it. I think that original A range was the one in Matrix in Little Russell St near the British museum. I recorded on it several times at Matrix, and can remember having to swap out a monitor module as the bass end was non-existent on it, but I can't remember how many pins the connector had. I will ask Don Larking and see if he remembers anything about it!" (
Source)
"The original, and I do mean ORIGINAL, the one from Trident, is in pieces in Vermont." -
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2023.05.11 17:46 Dry_Throwaway2125 AITA for leaving my half brother out of my dad's obituary?
When my dad was terminally ill, I stayed at my parents' house for several weeks to help coordinate his care, take him to medical appointments, arrange for hospice, etc. My mom and dad didn't have a particularly warm relationship and my mom wasn't grieving, it was more that she was overwhelmed by the caretaking involved in my dad's rapid decline. They also had separate finances and she was adamant that she wasn't going to spend any money on his care, which meant I needed to pay the caregiver bills out of his money that I had access to through a power of attorney. I'm my mom and dad's only child, although my mom has a son Eric by her previous marriage. He's 20 years older than I am and has lived in a different state for many years and only come back to visit twice since he moved away.
Part of what I took care of was prearranging things with the funeral home, including writing a draft of my dad's obituary. It wasn't anything complicated, just a few lines about how John Smith was born on this date in this place, honorably served his country in the war, died on that date in that place and was survived by his wife, and by me, my spouse, and our kids. I printed out a copy of the draft for my mom to read, and asked her if she thought it needed any changes or anything, and she either didn't say anything or suggested changing a comma or something like that, I don't remember.
My dad passed away about three months after my visit. I went back to my parents' city for a week to attend the funeral and help my mom in the immediate aftermath of his death; she mainly wanted help getting the hospital bed, wheelchair ramp, and other medical equipment taken away. My first stop was to drop off a check at the funeral home since my mom hadn't paid for any of the things I had prearranged. I didn't expect her to, exactly, but it was a little weird that everything had to be on hold while I spent the day traveling when she could have just written the check herself and asked me for reimbursement. Or, you know, pay for her own husband's funeral, which I think would have been the normal thing to do.
Anyway, I was back in town a few months later and my mom told me that she had sent a copy of the obituary to Eric and he said, "Well, I guess I know for sure where I stand with
u/Dry_Throwaway2125, not even mentioning me or my children in the obituary." I tried to tell my mom it was an honest oversight, and hey, she read the draft and didn't say anything, but she just shrugged and said it was none of her business. If someone had pointed out my oversight at the time I would absolutely have added Eric, but I was thinking of the family I grew up in, and not thinking of my dad as my half brother's stepdad since he was already an adult by the time my mom and dad got married.
FWIW, Eric has never mentioned the situation to me directly. How big an asshole am I?
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2023.04.27 20:08 Thanksih8it PGH —> Washington, D.C. in 4.5 Days - Great Allegheny Pass and C&O Towpath
A good friend of mine has been trying his hardest to get folks to do this ride with him. I knew it would be fun but really didn’t think it was 100% my style but decided to give it a go. So bummed I waited so long to do it. Had a phenomenal time. We drove up from TN through West Virginia (stunningly beautiful through the New River Gorge NP) on Friday and cranked out a quick bit of miles and really started pedaling on Saturday. Spent an afternoon/night in DC before renting a van to go back to get our car in Pitt.
This might technically be a biketouring trip but we packed a lot of shit on our bikes so hopefully it still applies to this sub. Working on planning my trip back from DC —> Pitt and I will absolutely be camping it. The flexibility that offers is too great to pass up - plus hanging out in camp chairs around a fire is neat.
I packed too many clothes.
Pics Basic Itinerary (with rough rounding + beer and lunch stop mileage)
Day 1: PGH — > West Newton 39 miles / 63km Highlights:
- THICK Bikes - super cool bikepacking/touring centric shop in Pitt. Little off route but definitely worth stopping in.
- Voodoo Brewing in Pitt. Across a ped bridge from the Wharf. Food/beer with outside seating to keep eye on bikes.
- Outpost River’s Edge Smash Burger w/ Banana Shaved Ice in West Newton. It hit just right.
Day 2: West Newton —> Meyersdale 86 miles / 138km Highlights:
- Weather! We expected to get drenched for the entire 80+ mile day but just got a misting for around 30 mins off the start. Apparently the rain stayed an hour or so ahead of us according to the stops we made.
- Coal Processing / Train Loading ruins w/ neat graffiti. This might not even be wildly talented graffiti but it’s cool looking to me and better than anything I can do. There were lots of middle school “S” signs though so maybe I’m underestimating my artistic talent...
Day 3: Meyersdale —> Hancock 101 miles / 163km Highlights:
- Rolling up to / through / away from Big Savage was something else.
- Corner Pub and Cafe in Cumberland. Got a club wrap, beer, and americano. Updated floaty hat.
- Tri-Angle Bar in Hancock. This was a long day. We planned on dinner at the spot right off the trail but they shut the lights off as we rolled in so we headed to the Tri-Angle. Was a scene out of a movie when we walked all the regulars synchronized their turning to look at us and hear me ask “y’all have food, right?” Best fried bar food I’ve ever had and the folks here were so incredibly friendly and fun to hang out with and drink some beers and learn about their town. The super nice bartender learned how to make an old fashioned for my buddy who hasn’t learned to drink beer. Beer makes life easier.
This day had all the different terrains the trail had to offer. First part of the C&O wasn’t hard but wasn’t what the GAP was or what the C&O later turned into. Pawpaw push was steep but had some nice views. Rode around a couple of miles to tick friends century box.
Day 4: Hancock —> Harper’s Ferry 67 miles / 107km Highlights:
- Harper’s Ferry. Walking around the town was a blast. So much history here (and the trail in general - stopped at nearly every sign) and it was nice to walk around a bit off bike.
- Rabbit Hole. Lots of diff beer options and the loaded fries were good.
Day 5: Harper’s Ferry —> D.C. 62 miles / 100km Highlights:
- White’s Ferry breakfast bagel. Was timed just right. Had it with a DFH 90 minute at 9am.
- Pedaling into and around D.C. I’ve ridden a good bit in non bike friendly cities. I had an absolute BLAST being a tourist on a bike in D.C. The food/beer scene is awesome but the bike lanes and infrastructure are FUN. Gotta explore more cities on a bike.
- Red Light Pizza. Love Detroit Pizza.
- The Pepperbox @ Mclellan’s Retreat. From their menu: DEL MAGUEY VIDA MEZCAL, LUCANO CAFFÉ, CACAO SYRUP, REGAN'S ORANGE BITTERS. SERVED ON A HABANERO ROCK. 10/10
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