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I relapsed hard on ff the last two weeks-taking 3-5 every day. Today is my first day without any and I’m going to say what I said before (check previous post about cbd), heavy cbd has taken away my withdrawal symptoms completely. I literally have none. The only symptom is a slight craving for one, but I can’t have just one, so no ff for me today. One day at a time for me.

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My fiancé (21M) and I(21F) have been together for two years and got engaged. I recently graduated from my undergrad and I work full time to support us both while he finishes his undergrad. He is currently in the military, and he joined after we had already been together for a year and I’m not going to lie I wasn’t the happiest with his decision but I’m not going to stop him from pursuing his career goals.
Now he is in ROTC to become an officer and later wants to do certain programs to help him advance in his civilian career with little to no debt from graduate schools. (We both payed/paying for undergraduate ourselves). Recently in conversation with his mother he was mentioning how he wants to stay in the military for 20 years before he goes to a civilian job. This was the second time he has mentioned wanting to serve for this long (the first time he seemed against it and chalked it up to conversations with military buds). However, this time he seemed more serious. We went on a walk and I told him all of my concerns and hesitation about him being in the military for 20 years. I told him that we can afford to take loans for graduate school and pay them off and I would much rather spend our twenties/thirties together and not apart because money always comes back but time doesn’t. I don’t want him to think his only option is to serve in order for him to be able to afford grad school. He calmed me down and we had a good conversation about our future and how excited we are to be there for each other. But I still can’t stop thinking about it. I don’t want to stop him from achieving what he wants to achieve in the military but I’m also not sure if I will be able to be a military wife that’s always moving/alone/away from my support system.
I really love him and I don’t see myself with anyone else but I have heard so many horror stories from prior service members and their families which just put me on edge. Both my parents served and his mothers entire family served but neither were too happy when he joined but we were all supportive and happy for him. I’m also concerned that he may get injured since there’s also a plethora of people who suffer from physical or mental injuries due to their service. Also some of his rotc buddies joke about cheating and do some shady stuff which makes me uncomfortable of how things go active duty side. (Fiancé has reassured me that it’s mainly all talk and the guy’s personality but it’s just weird for me)
I feel guilty having all of these concerns when he seems so confident about getting married. Is it normal for me to be this worried and concerned during a time that should be generally happy and exciting? Is it okay to have such different lifestyles and still be a good partnership? How can I better prepare for potentially having to move around the majority of my life, job, and later on family if he does want to be in the service for 20 years?
TLDR; my fiancé is in the military and I don’t know if I fit into that lifestyle and can potentially do it for 20 years.

Yesterday, my friend and I visited Cedar Point. We both have platinum passes, and we purchased fast lane plus and the all day dining plan for this visit.
Wild Mouse (credit #102) x1: Luckily, Wild Mouse was actually running today. We went straight to it when we got in for early entry. As far as ride experience goes, it's OK. We didn't love Wild Mouse, but then again, neither of us is a big fan of the wild mouse ride type in general. I acknowledge that I'm not really part of the target demographic for this ride, but I do think that there are much better options as far as family coasters go. (I would've loved for Cedar Point to get a GG family woodie or a modern family Vekoma.)
I'm at least glad I got to experience Wild Mouse and that I rode it first thing in the morning when its wait was 1/2 hour instead of later in the day when it was twice that. I'd probably rank CP's mouse around the middle of the list of all wild mice I've ridden. It's better than many standard mice but isn't as unique as something like Exterminator or Laff Track.
Cedar Point & Lake Erie Railroad x2: After Wild Mouse, the obvious plan was to head to Frontier Town. We rode the train to save us some walking. We also rerode it later in the day. On our first train ride, we were one of only a few groups of people on the train. On our second ride, there was a person in pretty much every seat to the extent that we had to share a row with a stranger. This is a decent train ride that provides views of Lake Erie and the backstage area around Millennium Force. It's a great way to relax for a few minutes.
Maverick x2: This is one of the few coasters I've been on many times where I don't have the layout essentially memorized. Maverick is relentless in the best way possible. You are constantly being whipped and thrown around, and it doesn't really stop until the final brakes. We rerode Maverick as our last ride of the night, and the darkness enhances everything, especially the tunnel. It feels like the launch is twice as fast at night.
Steel Vengeance x3: SteVe was running great. The airtime was so good that it hurt, and the ride seemed to have extra speed. The line was unusually short in the morning, so we rode it twice in a row. Then, we came back and made it our second to last ride of the night. Steel Vengeance truly is one of the greatest coasters on Earth. Even though it's not usually my absolute #1, I don't think that Steel Vengeance is overrated at all. It's one of the few coasters that truly feels "long enough", and none of that time is wasted.
Gemini x1: This classic ride is one of my favorite Arrows. There are a few great moments of janky Arrow airtime, and the racing aspect is pure fun.
Magnum XL-200 x0: We attempted to ride Magnum three different times throughout the day, the first of which was right after our Gemini ride. Unfortunately, Magnum was down all three times. I think there were mechanical issues the first two times, and the third time was due to high winds, which shut down much of the park. It sucked to miss out on Magnum, as it is usually my all-time favorite coaster, but at the same time, I can live with missing it on what is possibly our only Fast Lane Plus Cedar Point trip of the year. Magnum's line is usually quite manageable without Fast Lane.
Corkscrew x1: My friend insisted on riding this, as he wanted to ride every coaster in the park. I'm not a big fan of this ride (or most Arrow loopers), but honestly, Corkscrew was better than I remembered. The only part that I think is really awful is the eponymous corkscrews. The hills and vertical loop were actually enjoyable, and the trains weren't as terribly uncomfortable as in my memory.
Power Tower (drop side) x1: A drop tower is just about always worth riding. These S&S ones are the weakest ones in my opinion but still a good time. I simply prefer drop rides that feel like they're actually trying to kill me rather than the ones like this that gently bounce.
Valravn x1: It's a dive coaster. The first drop is one of the best in the park, but the ride kind of dies after that. The other best part is the drop off the midcourse. The rest of the ride is pretty bland and forgettable.
Blue Streak x1: I've always found this ride to be underrated. It has some pretty decent airtime, especially if you sit near the front, which we did this time. I do wish that it still had the original buzzbar restraints, as I consider that to be a big part of what makes a classic wooden coaster feel like a classic wooden coaster. Still, I'm glad they've kept this ride, and I would say that it is not to be overlooked.
Raptor, Gatekeeper each x0: I wish we would've ridden these rides right after Blue Streak, as they were still open then. We unfortunately missed out on both of them due to the high winds later in the day.
Millennium Force x1: This ride is a bit overhated. The first drop is my favorite first drop on any coaster, the sense of speed is awesome, and there are some good moments of positive and negative gs. Sure, there are a few too many tall turns, but Millie is still a great ride.
Rougarou x1: I've never been a big fan of Rougarou, and I think it might even be my least favorite coaster at Cedar Point now. The layout isn't all that great, and there's a lot of headbanging, particularly in the second half.
Iron Dragon x1: This ride isn't super thrilling, but I enjoy the aesthetics and nostalgia of it. I understand why some people dislike it or want it to be the next ride to be removed, but I disagree. I think Iron Dragon is actually Cedar Point's best family coaster. The Arrow jankiness isn't as pronounced as on Mine Ride, Corkscrew, or Gemini. Iron Dragon also doesn't have the somewhat intense airtime of Blue Streak, and it's less generic than Wild Mouse.
Thunder Canyon, Snake River Falls each x1: Even though I've been to Cedar Point many times, this was my first time riding both of these water rides. Thunder Canyon has a reasonably long course with rapids and waterfalls that will absolutely drench you. Snake River Falls has a drop that is tall and steep for a water ride, though it is trimmed. I also got soaked on it, but that didn't really matter because we rode it right after Thunder Canyon.
Cedar Creek Mine Ride x1: This one is just all right. I'm not a big mine train guy, and this is fairly unimpressive as far as mine trains go. It does have a nice setting, and there was some awesomely weird theming in the brake run that I definitely don't remember being there.
All in all, it was a good Cedar Point trip. I do wish we had gotten to ride Magnum, Raptor, and Gatekeeper, but we've both ridden all three before. The one day dining plan was definitely worth it, and I would recommend that to anyone who's considering it.

AITA for not wanting my boyfriend to go to his old friends wedding?
A little backstory, my boyfriend has been friends with this guy (i’ll call him F) since they were kids, they went to school together and hung out often in high school, but it’s been about 3 years since he graduated and we’ve seen F once, he travels a lot for work and most of the time when my boyfriend shoots him a message he doesn’t respond, so they don’t talk as much as they should.
Recently, we got an invitation to his wedding with his new girlfriend, neither me or my boyfriend have met her, or her family. i have only met F’s sister and mom. so i know absolutely no one there.
My boyfriend is now a part of the wedding, walking with her sister down the aisle to be one of F’s groomsmen. i don’t know these people, so of course i’m only invited out of politeness, but i’m going to have to sit in the seats beside complete strangers for hours while my boyfriend is a part of the wedding. i have anxiety and the thought of me being alone in the seats watching him be a part of everything already makes me want to cry out of fear i’m going to look like an idiot. because i am going to! i don’t know these people and they don’t know me! i really don’t want him to go as it’s out of state and he’ll be gone for a few days and my trust with him is damn near zero. i’ve talked to him about how i don’t want him to go if i’m going to be alone and he agreed and said that was fine, but then i saw a message from the bride asking what size shirt he wants and he said XL, so he lied to me which hurts even more. i need to know if i’m being dramatic.
TLDR: AITA for not wanting my boyfriend to be a part of a wedding while i’m by myself in the seats when he hasn’t spoken to the groom in years and we don’t know the bride

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Waking up and processsing my life and those around me has been challenging. I’ve put off therapy thinking I can manage my anger and deep pain. Hours and hours deconstructing my thought processes, doctrines and my life I’ve hit rock bottom and I guess for my family and mental health I’m putting this in writing as the first step in ending a book I’m my life.
My child was 10 when covid hit and I woke up. She expressed her views on disbelief in God and I assured her I would never abandon her and promised to give her dignity to have her own beliefs. I never pushed anything on her. I still have my beliefs and faith in God. I pray, read my Bible but don’t include her in it or make her do anything. Over the past couple of years as she has gotten older we have realized if her lips are moving she’s lying. She’s a pathological liar. She’s been like that since she was little but I thought she would grow out of it. She’s getting into a world of trouble and upon search of her room I found that she has a Wiccan pagan manual and has most likely been practicing witchcraft. For the past two years I look at her and I don’t even see my daughter her eyes are glossed over she can’t look at me in the eyes she can’t even come near me or hug me. We used to be so close. Long story short she’s made really bad decisions and her anger with me has led to her lying about things that have irreversibly damaged everyone in the family.
Her anger with me lies in the fact that I don’t except her behavior, the way she treats people and her actions. She has become sadistic tendencies as well and has traits of enjoyment seeing other people suffer. She’s gotten lost in the shuffle of me dealing with being raised in a cult and how my life has been. I realized that the past two years of deconstruction has left me ill-equipped emotionally to be able to parent her in the way that she needs. Not only do I have intense anger and pain from the effects of the cult but I also have an immense amount of guilt for not being able to be the parent that she needs and deserves.
I’ve realized that my relationship with the organization has mirrored itself and that has become the relationship between me and my daughter. I felt the organization had abandoned rejected me judged me and so I lashed out on the organization and my daughter feels rejected and judged by me so she’s lashed out against me.
What I realized is that I can’t go on like this anymore I can’t keep checking Reddit I can’t be concerned anymore with witnesses do don’t do or what the organization does it’s destroying me. It’s destroying my family and getting out didn’t solve it. My father believes that the subpoenaed shepherd the flock book is a fake from apostate they believe Geoffrey Jackson’s testimony is a deep fake and it’s all lies by apostates. It’s literally driven me insane.
They’re never gonna change there’s nothing I can do. To the many activists out there that are fighting for changes in laws loopholes and exposing this cult for what it is you’re heroes cause it’s something I can’t do I can’t keep going like this.
I have to completely walk away and not allow any JW things in my life so that I can heal and be there for my daughter because I don’t wanna lose her and I’ve already lost so much.
Today is the day that I need to let go of everything and I have to write this out for closure.
I’m going to get Professional help because of what I’m realizing is the damage done from this cult is far greater and deeper then one can process on their own.
Peace and love be with you all

I admit I, I've had and been open to threesomes with a few people in the past. But they weren’t serious relationships, more like friends with benefits. They were also only with men.
My husband and I have been together for 5 years married for 18 months, and he keeps bringing up how he specifically wants to have a threesome with me and a woman. I’m not attracted to women, never have been and never will be, it’s not how I’m wired.
At first I told him that I’m just not interested in women and don’t want our relationship to be like that—both in terms of threesomes generally and this kind of threesome in particular—and he seemed to accept it. Later he told me it was “unfair” that my other partners got “the whole me” because I’d had threesomes with them but not him. I told him to shove it and he backed off.
Now he’s back on it and he’s saying I’m biphobic by refusing to have a threesome with him and a woman. I told him I’m not attracted to women and don’t want to have any threesomes with him at all, especially not when he’s acting like a demanding and entitled baby. He said it was “bi erasure” and wouldn’t lower his voice so I left and checked into a hotel.
I’m back at home now and he’s been silently fuming the whole time. I found one of my Pride shirts in the trash and he says it was an “accident” and we both know he’s lying. I’m thinking I might need to leave for good but I want to give him time to grow up and learn the word “no,” if only because of how expensive a divorce is.
No solutions, just venting.

I was in a bad place last year. Random depression and sick to my stomach feeling on top of generalized anxiety. It was horrible and weird. I dosed up from 5mg to 10mg and thank god I did because I feel so much better! But I am extremely lazy, tired, and groggy- with a lack of motivation (most of the time) I also gained weight and find it hard to lose. Although I love not feeling the way I used to, I also NEED my energy back. Im not even sure if this is LEXAPRO doing this to me or it’s just apart of my depression. But I guess you can’t know unless you dose down to see. I used to be a very happy outgoing person w 0 issues. My biggest issue in life is my mind … constantly running , constantly checking if I’m even content, constantly wondering why I feel so tired, constantly foreseeing and feeling depressed ( like thinking of myself at work tm ) when nothing is even bad about it!!!!! Im just not who I used to be- I want my normal level of life contentness back and a quiet mind. JUST NORMALCY! I know Evryone has their problems. I just wish mine were actually pertaining to my life and things in my life. This is all me vs my mind and it’s so annoying. Some days are great and I’m like wow no anxiety/ depression today. And I’m thankful for those days but some days I just hate that I’m on An antidepressant and I don’t even know if I need it or not! Or what if it’s helping me more than I can imagine! How do we know. Things are very much better than they were when I was on 5mg though. Thinking of going down to 7.5 and seeing if I feel more myself , more active, and such. Ugh to everyone struggling with anxiety/ depression it’s so real and frustrating… I just wanna live without this struggle…

Maybe I am missing something obvious, and I did try Googling this answer but came up short - which usually makes me worried that the answer is super obvious, so apologies if this question seems annoying.
How do NPC/monster spell casters work? Let's use the Goblin Shaman as an example from the rule book. For the spell "Bug Brain", does the Goblin Shaman make a WIS check to cast the spell? And if successful, there is no player saving throw?
For Stink Bomb, again, the Goblin Shaman makes a WIS check and if it succeed then the PC takes 2d4 damage and makes a CON check DC 12 to avoid the DISADV?
This seems the most logical based on RAW, again unless I missed something. If this is correct, as the DM, do I also keep track of spell casting failures when the goblin shaman may "lose" a spell or even suffer a miscast?
Alternatively, are the rolls player-facing, where the PC makes a Wisdom saving throw DC 13? This would seem a little more exciting for the players then watching me roll. If that is the case, I guess the PC would make two "saving throws" with the StinkBomb spell?
· Bug Brain (WIS Spell). DC 13. Near range, one target. Target’s INT drops to 1 for 1d4 rounds.
· Stink Bomb (WIS Spell). DC 12. One target within far 2d4 damage and DC 12 CON or DISADV on next check/attack.

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Is the DPDR community aware of the possible link between DPDR & autism spectrum disorder?
I've looked at the psychology literature, and the academics are (somewhat) aware of this link.
However, it is not something I was made aware of while involved in the DPDR community. In fact, I don't recall autism being discussed at all.
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After experiencing chronic DPDR for nine years, I have recently been made aware that I have many behavioural/neurological traits that are diagnostic of autism.
Several of these traits I had previously attributed to DPDR.
Now that I realise these are personality traits associated with autism, and not symptoms of DPDR, I strangely find that I view them in a far more positive light.
Here are three examples:
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1) Processing speed.
I believed I was slower than average at processing information, or reacting to things, because of the fog (DPDR). I felt drunk, and my friends did not, which resulted in me being 'slower' than them. My intelligence is important to me, so when I perceived my intelligence as being hindered by DPDR, it really upset me, which worsened my mental state and DPDR symptoms.
I am now aware that this reduced processing speed is because I am autistic. Autistic individuals have a slower-than-average processing speed, but have a much higher-than-average capacity for deep, structured, and analytical thought (to name a few!). I now view this trait of mine, as a 'cognitive trade-off' rather than a 'debuff' of my intelligence.
When I believed this trait was DPDR, it greatly upset me, whereas now I realise it is autism, I am happy and proud to have this trait.
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2) Social skills & being funny.
Frequently, I enter social situations where I do the wrong thing. Again, I blamed this on DPDR. I believed that the brain fog was slowing me down, so I couldn't think of the right thing to do in time. As you can imagine, this made me embarrassed, frustrated, unnerved, and upset.
Now that I know this is autism, it makes complete sense why I don't think of the 'right thing' to do. It has nothing to do with my intelligence, processing speed, or DPDR. It is because autistic individuals generally lack social skills (it is one of our defining traits, and a necessary trade-off to allow for amazing skills which so many of us have).
I no longer view this trait of mine negatively. Instead, my friends, family, and myself, now aware of my autism, view this as a 'quirk' which is often quite funny.
Additionally -
I found that I was never 'witty' enough to crack smart jokes in social situations. I would blame this on DPDR. I believed my brain was 'too slow' to come up with witty jokes in the moment, because of the fog.
I now realise that I don't come up with witty jokes very often because I often take things very literally, which is characteristic of autism spectrum disorder.
That's okay. I don't need to be cracking witty jokes to make myself or others happy. Now that I know this is not a result of DPDR, it doesn't bother me like it used to.
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3) Emotional numbness.
I believed I was incapable of feeling emotion. I had convinced myself that this was a result of my DPDR state, and that nothing, no matter how consequential, would have an emotional effect on me.
I found that instead of feeling negative emotions, I would instead just think about the consequences. I would ruminate.
I now realise that I simply process emotions differently than others (neurotypicals) because I am on the autistic spectrum. Autistic brains are wired to process things logically rather than emotionally (in contrast with neurotypical brains).
It was never true that I was 'incapable' of feeling emotion. I had only convinced myself of this, because I noticed that there were occasions when people around me experienced negative emotions, whereas I did not.
BUT, there were also instances where I experience great joy and excitement from just talking about my interests, whereas others (neurotypicals) would not (to a similar degree).
It was my anxious mind (which all of us here unfortunately share) that ruminated on the instances where I felt nothing, and inflated their significance, forcing me to believe I never felt anything.
This, again, is a trade-off of being autistic, which I am very much content with.
Now, being able to understand why I often process emotions differently, gives me great peace of mind, and I no longer perceive myself as, or worry about, being emotionally numb.
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Discussion
'Autistic meltdown'
When overwhelmed with stress, people with autism spectrum disorder enter a (temporary) state called 'autistic meltdown'.
Autistic meltdown is often described as feeling: 'spaced-out; disconnected from reality; my brain is fried; robotic; controlling my body from a cockpit inside my head'. Sound familiar?
My suspicion is that many of us, if not all of us, who are experiencing symptoms of DPDR, are somewhere on the autistic spectrum. The stresses of reality have caused us to enter an autistic meltdown. This, coupled with the additional factor of having an anxious mind (not exclusive with autism), leads us to ruminate on our symptoms, and become stuck in the anxiety-symptom cycle.
That's not to say that neurotypicals can't experience these symptoms or get stuck in the cycle, but I'm tempted to say that autistic individuals have an increased susceptibility to DPDR because of our comparatively low stress tolerance.
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Sensory hypersensitivity
During an Unreal (UK-based DPDR charity) support meeting, I spoke to a man who had been suffering from DPDR for most of his life. He described how his DPDR symptoms would increase whenever he was exposed to a bright light.
This is a very common trait of autism. They call it 'sensory hypersensitivity'. Bright lights, loud noises, or even certain textures/materials can be extremely overwhelming to autistic people and cause a stress response, which for people already with DPDR, will cause it to increase. This suggests that this man was on the autism spectrum, and also supports my suspicion that traits of autism are frequently misinterpreted as symptoms of DPDR.
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Deep thought
Psychologists researching DPDR are aware that most DPDR sufferers very frequently wonder about the deep mysteries of the universe, such as - the origin of life; evolution; animal life; alien life; space and time; neurobiology; why things are the way they are; etc.
I'm sure many of you in this forum share this trait. I for one have wondered since a young age about human evolution and life on other planets.
This is true for autistic people too. We call it 'special interests', and it is an extremely common trait. This supports my suspicion that people with DPDR are on the autistic spectrum.
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Adolescent origin?
Still, one question remains. If DPDR is autism, then why, for so many of us, did DPDR start suddenly during adolescence or early adulthood (13-25)?
Autism is a developmental condition that begins before birth. It can't just 'start' at age 14 (for example).
I suspect that so many of us develop symptoms of brain fog (normally attributed to DPDR) during adolescence and early adulthood, because this is the age at which anxiety becomes most prevalent.
Anxiety is what causes us to ruminate on symptoms of brain fog, and become trapped in the cycle, which is described as 'DPDR'.
I suspect that autism spectrum disorder is a prerequisite to DPDR, which only becomes manifested once the brain becomes anxious during adolescence or early adulthood.
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Conclusion
I had DPDR for nearly a decade. I no longer consider myself to be suffering from DPDR. I also don't consider myself to have recovered from DPDR.
I never had DPDR.
I am autistic. Discovering this has drastically improved my quality of life.
I sincerely hope that this information will be of help to the people in this subreddit.

25F here with 18K CC debt, 14K of student loans and 27K on car note. I have a great job and live in a fairly affordable city (Fort Worth, TX). My loan payments for Student Loan and Car amount to just under $900 a month, and may take home pay is about $4K. I do get a quarterly bonus of $2,500 before tax and this year plan to put all that money toward CC debt. About a year ago is when I had to get the car and since then my CC debt has gotten out of control even though my income went up significantly during that time. With loan payments and CC minimums getting taken out monthly, along with rent and utilities of about $1250 I just feel like I’m completely drowning. I feel like no matter what I do, that CC amount is just going to slowly creep higher and higher.
I’ve come to the realization that the reason I am in this hell hole of credit card debt is simple—I’m addicted to shopping. Little trips to stores like Home Goods, Target, Ulta/Sephora and local antique stores have left me in a position where I just feel completely hopeless. I hate that I’ve wasted all this money, time and energy on STUFF. Even when I push myself to do no buy for a week, I end up ordering something on Amazon or pick up something from Target and justify it as necessary to maintain our house (I rent a 2 story apt with my boyfriend, it takes SO MUCH to keep the place clean).
I grew up with divorced parents who were always one upping each other. I just saw my parents spend and spend on things, buying new instead of replacing, and I just assumed as an adult I could do the same. My parents definitely used buying as a way of showing affection. I never felt like I needed to budget because in the past I always had savings and was able to pay off my cards. Something switched this last year though and I am treading water.
My plan of action is to go completely no buy on clothes and beauty products through the end of this year (I have sooo much unused makeup) and try to attack the CC’s. I already have my $1,000 emergency fund but will keep adding $50 each week there. I want to have $5k in case of job loss or other emergencies. For my CC’s I am trying to pay $500 a month and throw all of my quarterly bonuses at it. I also do catering events on the side on weekends and can bring in an extra $600 a month at most to help.
It’s crazy to me that I’m in this situation so young, but I know I can get out of it. Realistically I think I can pay off the credit cards in 18 months while continuing to pay my loan amounts. I just need some encouragement as I work through the realization of my situation. Right now my net worth is -$9K, but if I can hit all my financial goals in 13. months I’d be looking at a net worth of about $20K. I look at my financial year from when promotions happen at my job (April 31st 2023-April 31st 2024). I expect my yearly salary to increase by $5-8K at that time next year and hope to only have $5K of the CC debt left at that time.
This group is amazing and we are in this together!

I (28f) and my husband (28m) have been married for 6 years. A month ago while away for work in another country he texted me saying he wanted a divorce completely blindsiding me. He claims that he had fallen out of love with me for years and that he didn’t want to keep lying to himself to keep the marriage going. As much as I fought for him to change his mind and work things out he wouldn’t budge so I had no choice but to accept it.
Fast forward to the past couple of weeks since he’s returned home(we currently live apart) I’ve noticed he’s been sending money from our joint bank account overseas weekly using Remitly and has also planned a trip later this year to the same country. It’s killing me not having full confirmation from him if another woman was the reason for him wanting the divorce. Is it worth confronting him and finding out the truth?

From Treasury of the Eye of True Teaching #520

National Teacher Wuye said to some disciples, "The essence of your perception and cognition is the same age as space, unborn and undying. All objects are fundamentally empty and quiescent; there is not a single thing that can be grasped.
"The deluded do not understand, so they are confused by objects; once they are confused by objects, they go around in circles endlessly. You should know that the essence of mind is originally there of itself, not based on constructs. Like diamond, it cannot be broken down.
"All phenomena are like reflections, like echoes; none have real substance. Therefore scripture says, 'Only this one thing is true; any other is not real.' If you understand all is empty, there isn't a single thing affecting you. This is where the Buddhas apply their minds; you should practice it diligently."

Realizing emptiness (shunyata) lies at the heart of our tradition. But how does that happen? What instructions are there to follow that make the realization of emptiness an authentic experience rather than just intellectual understanding or imagined blankness?
There's no one right way. For me, it has been a mixture of things. In my 20s and 30s I spent hours staring at the wall, observing thoughts and emotions coming and going, experiencing their fleeting nature. This taught me how to observe. What it means to be aware. I don't sit much anymore, but appreciate what it showed me.
Off the cushion, I watch my life shift and change endlessly. Friends, family, money, home, health. Ebbing and flowing.
Our best friends just had another baby. His blue eyes shine. He's embraced with so much love. The compassionate action of emptiness.

Someone asked Yunmen, "What is 'Form is nothing other than emptiness'?"
The Master said, "The staff is hitting your nose."

It's easy to think we grock this, to pretend there's nothing to do since we are whole and complete from the start, but it's essential for that staff to smash our nose, to experience it directly.

Xuedou said, "The question being the same, the answers too are alike. Therein is helping others and self-help, fooling others and fooling oneself. If you check clearly, you'll find understanding emptiness is foremost."

This understanding is foremost. Zen is in action. Our true nature is a verb, not a noun.
How do we do understand emptiness? What do we do? Tell me about your experiences.

I know you guys will refuse to believe it but trust me cause I have only you guys as a jee fam.
Today while I went to give my advanced. There was this girl from my centre who was goddamn hot. Looked literally like meenal from kota factory(search sinurvi on ig for actual pic, she actually looks very pretty) .
Considering me, I had become an absolute brahmachari during my prep(didn't jerk off or porn). So seeing that this girl made my sam go tokyo tower but my jeans saved me. My centre was 100km away from my city. RIP social distancing the bus driver was literally giving 0 f's to social distancing. People still were occupying sits by sitting one in one 2seater.
This girl caught the bus at the very next station and cause mostly people were old men or kids. She sat beside me. Around 2 hours of journey was remaining. She was wearing a shirt and jeans. Her clothes were giving good justice to her figure .
I started talking to her and she also reciprocated. It looked like she had a void in her brain by her expressions. Jee aspirants, so luckily we got the same centre. She was an awesome person. Her voice was soft and it kinda had a soothing effect on me(idk why).We had a deep talk on some topics and I cracked some jee jokes(thanks to you guys I knew some good ones) .
Then she started to tear up all of a sudden and said how its a do or die for her. She literally said she only watched books for her entire upper high school and was emo blackmailed for jee. She said talking to me gave her some mental peace. That tear drop that rolled down her eye, damn that felt so painful.
I calmed her. Gave gatorade to her(I bought cause 100 km will fatigue me). She maybe felt better and atlast she smilled, which was one of the prettiest scenes I had ever scene.
We reached our centres. We gave our paper and met outside our centre. My paper was good and she said she rocked it!! Bc apne liye chodo uske liye khushi hone lagi.
She asked me whether I was free for sometime. I said yes. We then started strolling near my centre (It had a huge campus and no one(weirdly) never said anything) .
She thanked me cause of the support I gave her during her breakdown. She said I was a gentleman. I just had a huge smile on my face cause getting complimented was like finding an oasis in a desert for me.
There no one around us except for building and trees. We came closer and kissed ❤. Her warm, sweet and soft lips were literal heaven guys. Her breath became deeper, her natural body smell was enchanting. Those were the shortest few minutes of my life. Her waist felt so good to touch that I felt I was in heavens.Considering we both never kissed before, it was magical(its probably human instinct to kiss good).Pure passionate kissing.
We shared numbers and will be in touch. Kissing a girl IRL, is godly guys no porn can even come near it.
Thanks for reading guys, love you bhailog. Hope your exams went well.
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I made a previous post on her about my mother in law, but ive ran into a new situation. My mother in law and i are no contact due to her verbal abuse and behavior toward my children and i, she recently cut me off because i asked to go to her home with my babies to visit and said no to her picking them up. My brother in law and future sister in law are getting married in less than a week and for the past few weeks she has come to my sil and attacked her for befriending me, told her i was not welcome in her home, that she could not speak to me and we could not be friends because ill put shit in her head and yesterday sent her a lengthy message while she was at work to tell her that she doesn’t want me and my children to be invited to the wedding because i ruined her first sons wedding day for her (because she was not invited to our wedding almost 4 years ago during the height of covid, also no one was) she said i will ruin the second sons wedding for her by my presence and me simply being apart of the wedding. My sil is really upset and wants my children and i to attend and feels that she will be unhappy on her wedding day because it will mean that she won’t be able to have the day she wanted which included me. My brother in law has been on the fence about me going because his mother said no and continuously brings up her hatred for me. I plan on not attending because i don’t want their day to be ruined and i don’t want them to look back and have any regrets. Any advice?

I currently own a LG GN850-B and i'm pretty happy with it overall. Today i saw a deal with an Alienware AW2721D which would have me put up my own monitor + 100 bucks. Would the upgrade to 240hz, a g-sync module and better contrast ratio be worth it?
The monitor in question doesn't have a warranty and it doesn't have its original stand but the guy would give me a proper vesa mount? It will be checked out irl so i have no doubt it'll be totally fine in use. I'm just concerned if i should even upgrade and will the upgrade really feel worth the hastle of doing it.

Good evening everyone,
Before I ask my actual question, I need to provide some background information so that the answer is not simply a "yes" or "no," as the situation is somewhat complicated.
When I was young, my mother experienced domestic violence through my father. She divorced from him. At that time, my father was unemployed, and my mother had a poor lawyer who only focused on the divorce. The lawyer did not suggest legally securing that my father would have to pay child support once he had money in the future. It didn't occur to my mother either, as she was understandably emotionally distraught due to the situation and just wanted to put the whole thing behind her as quickly as possible.
As a result, my father hasn't really contributed much financially over the years. Of course, he would give me gifts, such as my electronic piano, electric guitar, or laptop. Meanwhile, my five-year-younger brother had his ice hockey hobby financed (around 100,000 CHF over the years, if not more).
Both parents received social welfare assistance over the years. My father simply lived off of it and never worked. My mother worked as a hospital cleaner during the day and as a waitress in the evening for a while. Now she is "only" working as a cleaner. Financially, she barely makes ends meet for us.
My paternal grandmother earned a good income during her life. She owned a beautiful apartment in the center of a Swiss city. However, she was very old and had Alzheimer's. Since she lived on the other side of Switzerland, it was not possible for us to take care of her. She was placed in a nursing home, where she lived for a few years. My father had to finance it because her money was essentially "frozen" due to her Alzheimer's, and he couldn't access it. Unable to continue financing the nursing home, he was forced to sell the centrally located apartment. He sold it for at least 800,000 CHF.
A few months later, my grandmother passed away. My brother and I inherited 20,000 CHF each. My father inherited much more, but he wouldn't tell us how much. I estimate it was over 100,000 CHF. That was 2 years ago. Today, he told me that he now has "only" 80,000 CHF left. He didn't say where all the money went. Although he bought a car, a caravan, and a motorcycle, the sum of the disappeared money doesn't add up. Additionally, he doesn't have to pay rent as he owns a two-story house with a large garden.
Now he plans to move to Colombia this year because the cost of living is cheaper there, he speaks the language, and he has a daughter there. The latter was completely new information to us. If he moves to Colombia, he also won't have to repay his debts to social welfare, for some reason. Before moving to Colombia, he will sell his house. He should get at least 1,000,000 CHF for it.
Now, here's the problem. I want to go to university next year. My mother is unable to financially support me. My father doesn't want to support me financially because he doesn't have to - he's not obligated to pay child support. My question is: Can I take legal action against him to make him contribute to my university expenses? I will need around 1,000 CHF per month. Of course, I could wait until his death, but I would still need to find a way to finance myself until then. I'm also afraid that I won't inherit much because he favors my brother, and he not only has a daughter in Colombia but also one in Canada. I don't know if my two unknown half-sisters also have a claim to the inheritance. There is also a risk that he will squander all the money before his death.
So, the two questions are:

1. Can I take legal action against my father and ensure that he supports me financially during my studies? I live in Switzerland and parents are usually required to support their children until they are done with their studies.
2. Do my two half-sisters have a claim to the inheritance? They had very rare contact with our father throughout their lives.

This text is only for single man without kids, who searchs for wife. You can be Christian (practicing or not) or atheist.
Important, CHAT DOESN'T WORK CORRECTLY. I can't see and reply to chat requests, can't fix it. Text to letter section. How to do that? Open my profile > More options > Send message. Not chat but message.
I'm a single female from Ukraine (can meet with you in another country, more safe for you). I search for a single childless man older than 35 (older- better) for a serious relationship, first without physical aspects. Your age and appearance are not important. I wish you are self-employed, your own master and boss or digital nomad who is not bended strongly with certain place of living or office shedual but that is not a strict demand.
Sometimes men expect physical aspects very fast and leave fast if not get it soon. In my opinion, this means the first interest was not in the relationship itself but in these aspects. That's why I want to find a relationship first without it. So I can be sure that a man stays near me because he really likes me, not for physical satisfaction itself. That means not only one sphere of relationship. People divide into 2 groups. Those who give more than take and opposite. Wishing to gain satisfaction fast leads to frustration and disappointment.
I have got few marriage offers in the past, but felt that they were not serious because the men were too young, not well settled and made these offers trying to gain something. Being not a young girl, I still wait for a right person—a man who will be happy staying with me and will do everything for me by his own wish. Sounds too vanilla? Yes, I am a dreamer.
If things work, I can relocate to you or to invite you to live in Ukraine after the war ends. If you are able to set up app called telegram for chat and meet in real life before autumn, then please text me. I prefer well written letter that was sent in inbox letters, not in chat requests.
Now more detaily about me. Never been married, no kids (will not have in the nearest time and probably a childfree), no pets . Was raised in small village at farmer's house (the nature was great but didn't like the hard working lifestyle) and prefer city life. I don't smoke, don't drink alcohol . You will not have to suffer dealing with numerous people around me because I don't have friends (people disappear when interests and lifestyles become different) and my family is very small. I don't visit bars, clubs or parties and not addicted to social networks. As an introvert, I can't open to someone fast because have been cheated by those whom trusted. Life teaches, only real actions show the true person's intentions, not just his words.
About two negative moments. The first is my passivity. I was raised in a culture where it was considered vulgar if a woman is too active in the path of creating a relationship. Yes, it is obvious that active women will get success sooner than passive one but I can't change myself and prefer the one who will take initiative and will be just classic old-fashioned gentleman.
The second negative moment is that being introverted, I totally dislike situation when I have to contact with unknown people, especially with men, especially in field of relationship. That sounds not logical because how can someone know anyone if he/she doesn't like starting this contact? There is only one solution for me. I can start contact only if I have already got very detailed information about person so this makes illusion that he is already not a stranger. Most of men send short message, expecting that I will ask many questions trying to find out his personality. The truth is that I will not do it. Yes, you can call me bad for that, but I will reply only to well written detailed letter from someone who will not make me to ask many questions but will write proper letter with basic information by himself. Man's appearance means nothing for me, but what he says and what is more important, what he does - that's important.
That were negative moments. Obviously, there are much more of them but I'll let you discover size of all iceberg by yourself. Thanks for reading.
P.S. Please, be patient and don't expect fast replies, sometimes it is not easy to do due to many reasons. That one who puts efforts in his first letter will get reply faster.
P.S.S. Chat doesn't work correctly and doesn't show messages and requests there. Text only in letters section.

This text is only for single man without kids, who searchs for wife. You can be Christian (practicing or not) or atheist.
Important, CHAT DOESN'T WORK CORRECTLY. I can't see and reply to chat requests, can't fix it. Text to letter section. How to do that? Open my profile > More options > Send message. Not chat but message.
I'm a single female from Ukraine (can meet with you in another country, more safe for you). I search for a single childless man older than 35 (older- better) for a serious relationship, first without physical aspects. Your age and appearance are not important. I wish you are self-employed, your own master and boss or digital nomad who is not bended strongly with certain place of living or office shedual but that is not a strict demand.
Sometimes men expect physical aspects very fast and leave fast if not get it soon. In my opinion, this means the first interest was not in the relationship itself but in these aspects. That's why I want to find a relationship first without it. So I can be sure that a man stays near me because he really likes me, not for physical satisfaction itself. That means not only one sphere of relationship. People divide into 2 groups. Those who give more than take and opposite. Wishing to gain satisfaction fast leads to frustration and disappointment.
I have got few marriage offers in the past, but felt that they were not serious because the men were too young, not well settled and made these offers trying to gain something. Being not a young girl, I still wait for a right person—a man who will be happy staying with me and will do everything for me by his own wish. Sounds too vanilla? Yes, I am a dreamer.
If things work, I can relocate to you or to invite you to live in Ukraine after the war ends. If you are able to set up app called telegram for chat and meet in real life before autumn, then please text me. I prefer well written letter that was sent in inbox letters, not in chat requests.
Now more detaily about me. Never been married, no kids (will not have in the nearest time and probably a childfree), no pets . Was raised in small village at farmer's house (the nature was great but didn't like the hard working lifestyle) and prefer city life. I don't smoke, don't drink alcohol . You will not have to suffer dealing with numerous people around me because I don't have friends (people disappear when interests and lifestyles become different) and my family is very small. I don't visit bars, clubs or parties and not addicted to social networks. As an introvert, I can't open to someone fast because have been cheated by those whom trusted. Life teaches, only real actions show the true person's intentions, not just his words.
About two negative moments. The first is my passivity. I was raised in a culture where it was considered vulgar if a woman is too active in the path of creating a relationship. Yes, it is obvious that active women will get success sooner than passive one but I can't change myself and prefer the one who will take initiative and will be just classic old-fashioned gentleman.
The second negative moment is that being introverted, I totally dislike situation when I have to contact with unknown people, especially with men, especially in field of relationship. That sounds not logical because how can someone know anyone if he/she doesn't like starting this contact? There is only one solution for me. I can start contact only if I have already got very detailed information about person so this makes illusion that he is already not a stranger. Most of men send short message, expecting that I will ask many questions trying to find out his personality. The truth is that I will not do it. Yes, you can call me bad for that, but I will reply only to well written detailed letter from someone who will not make me to ask many questions but will write proper letter with basic information by himself. Man's appearance means nothing for me, but what he says and what is more important, what he does - that's important.
That were negative moments. Obviously, there are much more of them but I'll let you discover size of all iceberg by yourself. Thanks for reading.
P.S. Please, be patient and don't expect fast replies, sometimes it is not easy to do due to many reasons. That one who puts efforts in his first letter will get reply faster.
P.S.S. Chat doesn't work correctly and doesn't show messages and requests there. Text only in letters section.