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2023.06.05 19:40 ThrowRASomeonesEx My friend (24F) is seeing my ex (24M) who I'm (24F) still in love with.
I do not give permission for this to be posted on any other social media including TikTok, Instagram, or YouTube.
I don't quite know how to deal with this situation.
I've known Oliver (24M) since we were 13 when we became friends and shortly after started dating. I've known Amy (24F) for almost just as long.
Background on Oliver: Oliver and I dated for about 8 years. As we grew up together, our lives intertwined and most of our friend groups merged. We had plans to get married and have kids once we were financially independent. I saw myself spending the rest of my life with this man, we moved country together. But unfortunately our relationship wasn't perfect and we didn't make it to the financially independent stage. He broke up with me 2 years ago for very complicated reasons but to summarize: we both were in poor mental health and trying to prop each other up somewhat unsuccessfully, the sex life had died and no amount of therapy was fixing the relationship. I was hesitant to break up and figured we could work through it but knew deep down we both needed it and if we wanted a relationship in the future this break up had to happen. We said we'd stay friends but focus on ourselves. We also said that getting back together in the future was a possibility but not a guarantee. And we both did actually really need the break up. While it has been rocky, our mental health overall improved and we made progress towards our own careers. The first year of the breakup we took much needed space. I regrettably slept around a bit and when he found out he was hurt but we were able to maintain some sort of a friendship. Then sometime last year, we found ourselves in the same city again and tested the waters of getting back together. In January, after a lot of back a forth, a bit of a fwb situation, I called it quits because he had hesitations and I wanted full commitment and if he couldn't give me that I'd rather stay friends. I would consider him a close friend now.
Background on Amy: We met in school and while we've always had closer friends, we've stuck by each other and stayed really good friends over the years. There not much we don't talk about and while she doesn't know the intimate details of Oliver and I's relationship, she knows we were considering getting back together last year. Over the years, Oliver and Amy never seemed to be interested in each other as they were rarely enthusiastic about seeing each other. Nonetheless they were friendly but never really tried to get to know each other. I was actually fine with this because I felt I could freely rant to Amy about the breakup as I knew it wasn't going to affect their friendship since they had none. They 100% did not do anything behind my back during the relationship and all of our mutual friends agree with me on this point so don't bother going down that avenue.
2 weeks ago: Amy tells me that she and Oliver kissed on a night out and had been on a few dates since. I was a bit shocked as I was not expecting it at all. I knew Oliver was on dating sites and I would have to eventually accept the fact that he would find someone else but wasn't expecting it to be my friend. Oliver and Amy themselves were quite shocked by the pairing too and are still in the stages of figuring out their own feelings. Amy was worried by my reaction and I originally didn't feel too strongly about it so I assured her that I was cool with it. I did admit it was a little weird and would take getting used to but I said that ultimately, it's none of my business and they shouldn't worry about what I thought. I said similar things to Oliver too when he later asked me how I felt.
But since then, I've sat with it and a couple of feelings have arisen. I think I'm still in love with Oliver. I know I shouldn't be surprised by this, especially since I was actually very eager to get back together with him, it was my self respect that made me break off the fwb situation. (Not bad-mouthing people who do fwb, but I was in love and sleeping with a dude who didn't love me back, I deserved more respect for myself than that). And while I did try to get over him in the recent months, seeing him and Amy get together made me realise that I was not actually over him.
I don't know what do to with this though. They seem to like each other and I really want to be happy for them but I'm hurt by the reality that the guy I love isn't interested in me and no amount of "working on ourselves" is gonna be enough to get us back together. It's a reality I can no longer ignore or try to deny. There's not much I can actually do though, I care too much about Amy and Oliver as friends to push them away for this and they very much hope to stay friends with me too so I have to deal with these emotions myself. There is a possibility that they wont even get to a serious dating stage and I still might have a chance with Oliver but he might never like me back and anyways it's undeniably weird to date someone your close friend has been intimate with. It must be weird for Amy because I know absolutely everything about Oliver, his worse fears and anxieties, his hobbies, embarrassing childhood stories, his family history, how he likes his food, and more. She doesn't seem too weirded out by this but we also haven't talked too in depth about it so I could be wrong. I fear if we dive deep we will find something too awkward to talk about. It also feels wrong to even picture me and Oliver together because it's not fair on Amy.
Our mutual friends aren't too keen on them being together, many of them see it as bad friend behaviour which is fair but I can't really fault them. The heart wants what the heart wants and I don't really like setting restrictions on my friends. Neither Amy, Oliver, or any of our friends know that I'm still in love with Oliver, I've acted quite coolly about it around everyone because I don't want to cause drama. As far as anyone thinks, I'm totally over him and fine with them dating. That's why I'm here, in hopes I can get advice on how to deal with this quietly. My confession would reek havoc among our friends could ruin whatever Amy and Oliver have and I'll never forgive myself for that. I'd like to say I'd like advice on how to get over Oliver but I still really selfishly want him for myself and don't see how to overcome that. It would also be quite devastating for me to loose Oliver as a friend, even if more space between us is needed and I'm sure loads of you are going to suggest that, I would find it very difficult.
How to I get through this with my heart and friendships still intact?
TLDR; My ex and I broke up 2 years ago, considered getting back together last year but didn't. We stayed close friends though. Recently, he and my friend kissed and are going on a few dates with each other. I think I'm still in love with my ex and don't know how to deal with it.
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I don't quite know how to deal with this situation.
I've known Oliver (24M) since we were 13 when we became friends and shortly after started dating. I've known Amy (24F) for almost just as long.
Background on Oliver: Oliver and I dated for about 8 years. As we grew up together, our lives intertwined and most of our friend groups merged. We had plans to get married and have kids once we were financially independent. I saw myself spending the rest of my life with this man, we moved country together. But unfortunately our relationship wasn't perfect and we didn't make it to the financially independent stage. He broke up with me 2 years ago for very complicated reasons but to summarize: we both were in poor mental health and trying to prop each other up somewhat unsuccessfully, the sex life had died and no amount of therapy was fixing the relationship. I was hesitant to break up and figured we could work through it but knew deep down we both needed it and if we wanted a relationship in the future this break up had to happen. We said we'd stay friends but focus on ourselves. We also said that getting back together in the future was a possibility but not a guarantee. And we both did actually really need the break up. While it has been rocky, our mental health overall improved and we made progress towards our own careers. The first year of the breakup we took much needed space. I regrettably slept around a bit and when he found out he was hurt but we were able to maintain some sort of a friendship. Then sometime last year, we found ourselves in the same city again and tested the waters of getting back together. In January, after a lot of back a forth, a bit of a fwb situation, I called it quits because he had hesitations and I wanted full commitment and if he couldn't give me that I'd rather stay friends. I would consider him a close friend now.
Background on Amy: We met in school and while we've always had closer friends, we've stuck by each other and stayed really good friends over the years. There not much we don't talk about and while she doesn't know the intimate details of Oliver and I's relationship, she knows we were considering getting back together last year. Over the years, Oliver and Amy never seemed to be interested in each other as they were rarely enthusiastic about seeing each other. Nonetheless they were friendly but never really tried to get to know each other. I was actually fine with this because I felt I could freely rant to Amy about the breakup as I knew it wasn't going to affect their friendship since they had none. They 100% did not do anything behind my back during the relationship and all of our mutual friends agree with me on this point so don't bother going down that avenue.
2 weeks ago: Amy tells me that she and Oliver kissed on a night out and had been on a few dates since. I was a bit shocked as I was not expecting it at all. I knew Oliver was on dating sites and I would have to eventually accept the fact that he would find someone else but wasn't expecting it to be my friend. Oliver and Amy themselves were quite shocked by the pairing too and are still in the stages of figuring out their own feelings. Amy was worried by my reaction and I originally didn't feel too strongly about it so I assured her that I was cool with it. I did admit it was a little weird and would take getting used to but I said that ultimately, it's none of my business and they shouldn't worry about what I thought. I said similar things to Oliver too when he later asked me how I felt.
But since then, I've sat with it and a couple of feelings have arisen. I think I'm still in love with Oliver. I know I shouldn't be surprised by this, especially since I was actually very eager to get back together with him, it was my self respect that made me break off the fwb situation. (Not bad-mouthing people who do fwb, but I was in love and sleeping with a dude who didn't love me back, I deserved more respect for myself than that). And while I did try to get over him in the recent months, seeing him and Amy get together made me realise that I was not actually over him.
I don't know what do to with this though. They seem to like each other and I really want to be happy for them but I'm hurt by the reality that the guy I love isn't interested in me and no amount of "working on ourselves" is gonna be enough to get us back together. It's a reality I can no longer ignore or try to deny. There's not much I can actually do though, I care too much about Amy and Oliver as friends to push them away for this and they very much hope to stay friends with me too so I have to deal with these emotions myself. There is a possibility that they wont even get to a serious dating stage and I still might have a chance with Oliver but he might never like me back and anyways it's undeniably weird to date someone your close friend has been intimate with. It must be weird for Amy because I know absolutely everything about Oliver, his worse fears and anxieties, his hobbies, embarrassing childhood stories, his family history, how he likes his food, and more. She doesn't seem too weirded out by this but we also haven't talked too in depth about it so I could be wrong. I fear if we dive deep we will find something too awkward to talk about. It also feels wrong to even picture me and Oliver together because it's not fair on Amy.
Our mutual friends aren't too keen on them being together, many of them see it as bad friend behaviour which is fair but I can't really fault them. The heart wants what the heart wants and I don't really like setting restrictions on my friends. Neither Amy, Oliver, or any of our friends know that I'm still in love with Oliver, I've acted quite coolly about it around everyone because I don't want to cause drama. As far as anyone thinks, I'm totally over him and fine with them dating. That's why I'm here, in hopes I can get advice on how to deal with this quietly. My confession would reek havoc among our friends could ruin whatever Amy and Oliver have and I'll never forgive myself for that. I'd like to say I'd like advice on how to get over Oliver but I still really selfishly want him for myself and don't see how to overcome that. It would also be quite devastating for me to loose Oliver as a friend, even if more space between us is needed and I'm sure loads of you are going to suggest that, I would find it very difficult.
How to I get through this with my heart and friendships still intact?
TLDR; My ex and I broke up 2 years ago, considered getting back together last year but didn't. We stayed close friends though. Recently, he and my friend kissed and are going on a few dates with each other. I think I'm still in love with my ex and don't know how to deal with it.
2023.06.05 19:40 Benjajinj Natasha David - Drink Lightly Book Index
Evening all, just finished digitising another book, this time Natasha David's Drink Lightly. This one only took a few days as it's smaller than the likes of Death & Co., and is presented here without any measurements so as to not serve as a total replacement for the book. Syrups and infusions from the book are also not included.
If there are any errors or issues please let me know. The filebin link will expire in 6 days.
If you have a copy of the book, and send me a photograph that includes the following, I can send you my version of the workbook that includes measurements and recipe comments from the book:
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If there are any errors or issues please let me know. The filebin link will expire in 6 days.
If you have a copy of the book, and send me a photograph that includes the following, I can send you my version of the workbook that includes measurements and recipe comments from the book:
- your copy of the book, open to the page of your favourite recipe
- your username, handwritten on a piece of paper
2023.06.05 19:40 OneiaMcune G2A Refund Method Free GiftCards n Games 2023 June
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Important
Make sure on the top right corner the Tampermonkey symbol got a little red 1 next to it also make sure you got the notification at the top and pressed ok otherwise it will not work. Bitbay will refund your expired order only if it’s above 0.003 BTC. Any lower amount is not prioritized by their refund system and will not work. Basically you have to add to your cart products that are worth at least 0.003 BTC in total, it could be one or multiple products.
Okay, let’s begin.
Here are the things you need:
- At least 0.003 BTC (80$) to pay for the order.
- Tampermonkey extension: https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/tampermonkey
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Okay if ready follow my steps:
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Need help? Info:
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We will use a Script which changes the timezone of our browser whenever we make a new order on G2A. As soon as we get redirected to the payment page, our timezone will change, which will result in our order getting market as “Expired” on G2A’s payment processor called “Bitbay”, but not on G2A’s side itself. So, if we pay for the products our order will get processed and delivered by G2A anyway, but money will get INSTANTLY refunded to our wallet by Bitbay.
Important
Make sure on the top right corner the Tampermonkey symbol got a little red 1 next to it also make sure you got the notification at the top and pressed ok otherwise it will not work. Bitbay will refund your expired order only if it’s above 0.003 BTC. Any lower amount is not prioritized by their refund system and will not work. Basically you have to add to your cart products that are worth at least 0.003 BTC in total, it could be one or multiple products.
Okay, let’s begin.
Here are the things you need:
- At least 0.003 BTC (80$) to pay for the order.
- Tampermonkey extension: https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/tampermonkey
- Script that changes the Timezone. https://rentry.co/yahg6o/raw
Okay if ready follow my steps:
- Click on Tampermonkey’s icon and click “Create a new script.”
- Remove any preset code
- Paste it in the Editor from Step 2
- Go to “File” and click “Save”.
- Go to https://www.g2a.com and add products to your cart.
- Now choose BTC (Bitbay).
- Now pay for the products by sending BTC to the address displayed.
*New*The increased demand for Bitcoin's block space led to the corresponding rise in bitcoin transaction fees. So please check your fees before sending and for low fees send in the morning or late at night because less people use bitcoin there.
Need help? Info:
Discord: Xenom#1621Telegram: Xenom3Telegram Group: https://t.me/FreeXenom
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2023.06.05 19:39 royal_fish Why is everyone playing 1v1 Commander and not Modern?
I have 12 Modern decks, but I never get the chance to play them because every person I meet only has Commander decks, and they say that 1v1 Commander is more fun and they just use the same decks. My local area has 2 LGS and they only host Commander nights, both multiplayer and 1v1. If you want to play, you are playing Commander.
I'm having difficulty understanding this since there are a huge number of Commander cards that only work well in a 4 player game and are basically dead draws in 1v1; the way you build a 1v1 deck and a multiplayer deck is massively different. I suggested Duel Commander for 1v1, but nobody knew what it was or said it was dumb that Sol Ring is banned since it exists in every Commander precon and refused.
So, I built a fast 1v1 Commander deck with plenty of targeted removal and completely dominated without really feeling challenged, usually having a dominant board state before they could even cast their commander. Some people said, "Oh well I would have played X if I knew you were playing Y," or people asking before the game what my deck does and what cards are in my deck. All I could think was, this is a 1v1 tournament with prizes, play what you want, I assume we're trying to win.
I think Commander is inherently a bad format for 1v1, and I'm struggling to understand why 0 people are interested in any 60 card format, and all new players are initiated into Commander without even knowing 60 card exists. It seems like 60 card is just dead. But Magic to me is 1v1, with Commander being a side party game since it's simply not balanced to be a competitive format.
Things like eminence, Baral, Ragavan, that 0 cost menace partner dude, etc. are just extremely dominant in a 1v1 game to where you can't really brew and have any chance of winning. Commander is billed as this format that has so much variety and expression, but I find that in 1v1, the opposite is true. I want to play proper 1v1 Magic with a paper deck, but it just doesn't exist anymore I guess. 1v1 Commander, in 90% of games, just has one deck immediately dominating the other, even without a person getting their Sol Ring first turn or whatever.
Am I totally off here? Is Commander really the future of 1v1 Magic?
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I'm having difficulty understanding this since there are a huge number of Commander cards that only work well in a 4 player game and are basically dead draws in 1v1; the way you build a 1v1 deck and a multiplayer deck is massively different. I suggested Duel Commander for 1v1, but nobody knew what it was or said it was dumb that Sol Ring is banned since it exists in every Commander precon and refused.
So, I built a fast 1v1 Commander deck with plenty of targeted removal and completely dominated without really feeling challenged, usually having a dominant board state before they could even cast their commander. Some people said, "Oh well I would have played X if I knew you were playing Y," or people asking before the game what my deck does and what cards are in my deck. All I could think was, this is a 1v1 tournament with prizes, play what you want, I assume we're trying to win.
I think Commander is inherently a bad format for 1v1, and I'm struggling to understand why 0 people are interested in any 60 card format, and all new players are initiated into Commander without even knowing 60 card exists. It seems like 60 card is just dead. But Magic to me is 1v1, with Commander being a side party game since it's simply not balanced to be a competitive format.
Things like eminence, Baral, Ragavan, that 0 cost menace partner dude, etc. are just extremely dominant in a 1v1 game to where you can't really brew and have any chance of winning. Commander is billed as this format that has so much variety and expression, but I find that in 1v1, the opposite is true. I want to play proper 1v1 Magic with a paper deck, but it just doesn't exist anymore I guess. 1v1 Commander, in 90% of games, just has one deck immediately dominating the other, even without a person getting their Sol Ring first turn or whatever.
Am I totally off here? Is Commander really the future of 1v1 Magic?
2023.06.05 19:39 Hot_Ad5291 Im losing my bff and i cant do anything about it
So, my best friend and I (both 20f) have known eachother since 7th grade and became instantly inseperatable. I'm talking about spending 1 whole month at her summer house during almost every summer holiday and sleeping over at eachothers house surely once a week. In these 8 years of knowing and loving her I have seen both her and myself grow as people and have gone through an abundance of emotional situations. She has always been supportive of me when I was at my lowest points due to issues considering serious family/health problems and has treated me better than my relatives did at those rather dark times. Even her parents were there for me and made me feel extreamly loved and welcomed at moments where a lost and disoriented teenager needs a shoulder to cry on. Needless to say I love her tremendously and she is one of the very few people I can actually trust and rely on. I think I should give context at this point and say that I am a person struggling with my anxiety and low self esteem and that fact leads me to be able to open up to about 5 people total in my life even though I consider myself rather social and have plenty of people around me that i appreciate.
So let's fast forward to senior year in high school, where in the place of the world we live in the exams you have to sit in order to get accepted in some university are highly stressful and many kids get diagnosed with depression or anxiety disorder during that time. So, if one also has in mind that during that period of time a whole pandemic was happening around us and everyone was basically isolated in their own homes,both hers and my anxiety went through the roof. But again we were there for each other and did the best we could. So, we sit the exams and because we were both pretty good students we manage to collect a rather decent amount of points that could get us in the same city (the city that we had always lived that happens to be the capital of our country). She then decides she would like to go to another city to study, about a 6 hour drive from our home due to her wanting to get to see and experience new things, grow as a person, find herself and also live alone. I of course respected her decision and was happy she wanted to do such a step for herself even though it was pretty obvious it saddened me to have my best friend living so far away. But we knew our friendship was built on solid grounds and we have nothing but love for one another so there wasnt anything to worry about (spoiler alert: there was)
At this point I should mention that we are 3 best friends :me , the girl we have been talking about (lets call her Rachel) and Elle (also 20f, from the same school also). So, after the exams I talked about earlier (summer 2021) we had of course free time for summer holidays. We were supposed to all go to Elle's summer house in August and so we did. But Rachel was at her own summer house before that, and thats where she met her current boyfriend Matt 23M. They weren't in a relationship until the begining of 2023. She was head over heels for him, absolutely in love always wanted to talk about him and didnt want to leave his side not even for a single day. I was very happy for her and wanted to hear about him as much as possible because in our friendship what makes one happy makes all 3 of us. So, when August rolled around she was hesitant of coming to Elle's house as we had agreed upon and even told me she didn't want to be there. She wanted to be with him more and also said she had regrets over coming. At that point I was a bit saddened but I also have been in love and can understand that she was very very excited so I just left it at that.
Anyway, all 3 of us have a great time at Elles house and I had almost forgotten about her rather careless comment of not wanting to come. Summer goes by and she has to leave to the city that she studies whereas both me and Elle stayed at home and started uni here. Our first year of uni was pretty great,we all got to meet new people, start new hobbies go out more, party more etc. Me and Elle went to Rachels city 5 times in the span of 2 semesters and always had a blast when we did. We would regularly text and talk about ecerything going on in our lives so it was as if she hadnt moved at all. Our friendship wasnt impacted at all, which is what we feared, especially in the first year of uni, where everything is new and trying to get used to the new stuff you can be carried away. At one point I thought to myself that it maybe wasnt so cool of Rachel not to come visit us at all (except for the holidays where she practically had to come back and see her family), since she knew I was rather tight with money and even though I wanted to go as much as possible it wasnt always easy.
I'm skiping some parts here because this would go on for too long but lets just say that the things that she was doing for our friendship were little to none at this point and I was seeing her giving more energy to other of her friendships(not new, also from our hometown). I tried to say that I was starting to feel neglected but she basically told me that she will always consider me and Elle her closest people despite what happens or who she does more stuff with. Time goes by and even though she said she was pretty sad about me feeling this way and she would try to change the stuf she does nothing changes. At this point I want to say that Elle agreed with me that Rachel was neglecting us but she is much more of a chill person so she didnt want to cause trouble out of things that then seemed small.
At this point it's Christmas 2022 and Rachel and Matt (who is living in the same city as me and Elle) are official. Up until this moment the distance made it hard for them to do so and also the fact that Matt was not feeling ready for a relationship, let alone a long distance one so they would just talk or hang out when Rachel was back for Christmas time or Easter. So, the extream love I talked about earlier came back, she would always want to be with him and he would too. She would come home only for him (she never did that for any of us, not even her family), they would go on trips almost every weekend and wouldnt make time time for us in the 5 days she would be home. Matt is also kind of a prick, he used to treat Rachel badly and talk to her in a bad manner, but he has since changed and now treats her really nice. He has continued though to talk very rudely to all of Rachels friends, including fat shaming me in front of Rachel and her telling him nothing about it. I am really insecure about my body (even though now that I am working on my self i see that that shouldnt be the case because I am subjectively normal looking, for reference about 70kg to 1.75m) so that kind of a comment took a toll on me, a fact she understood and talked to me about, that I shouldnt care what anyone has to say etc.
The day after he made that rude comment on me being fat, Rachel came with heart eyes telling me how much in love she is and how perfectly he now treats her. I didnt want to ruin this for her so I didn't complain that she hadn't told him anything about that. I can't blame her for everyhting though, I know how it is to be completely lost in your feelings for somebody and that fact sometimes changes your prespective and your ability to tell right from wrong. Matt was and still is the most perfect human in her eyes and she can't bring herself to change that idea. Fine until now
Our texting would get drier and drier, we wouldnt talk on the phone at all and on top of everything, I started working so I havent been able to go to the city she studies during this academic year. She would tell us how she talks on the phone with Matt for about 6-8 hours a day on the phone and how they are planning to go there and there together, but whatever plans me and Elle wanted to make she always said she was out of money or time. So we decided to talk to her about it. Me and Elle told her we felt neglected and that the only thing that we have changed was the fact that we couldn't go to her place as often or as spontaneously as last year. The things she had changed on the other hand were a lot. She didnt make any time for us, any effort, nothing.Even when I would call her to check up on her she would find a very obvious lie to hang up and never called back. Everything was and still is all about Matt.
When talking to her about it she first said that she is feeling many things and doesnt know how to deal with that abundance of emotions and that's why her priorities may appear shifted but she tried to ensure us that that's not the case. We were still her favourite people and she felt sorry we felt that way but all she wanted to do is experience her lust about Matt. She even told us she felt guilty because what she was doing was making her so happy but at the same time it was something that made us angry or sad, maybe both. Rachel slighlty accused Elle and I of ruining the dream for her because she was split between her love for Matt and the love for her friends and this whole situation put her in a really uncomfortable place. She said she couldnt talk to her best friends about a very happy time in her life because we were bitter about it. I was and still am not bitter about her being in a relationship. i love that for her and want to listen about her feelings as much as possible. its not matt or their relationship that i have a problem with, its that she doesnt care enough for everybody else in this enamored state she is sunk in.Yes, it pains me to see that the person who has always been my no1 priority and vice versa now can go weeks without asking me how i have been
All I could say was that I had no problem with him, as long as she is happy, I am too. I just couldn't accept that I was losing her and that we would go days and days without talking to eachother. She told me that it's normal for friends to not talk at all times, and yes that is the case, I too have some friends to which i talk once a month or once in two weeks, but it was never like that with her. We had been for 7,5 years suuuper close and talked about everything all the time ,she even knew when I went peeing and now she is unaware of my struggles and I am of hers. I really tried to bridge the gap she had created and call or text more but i quickly found out that that isnt possible to do on my own.
So, after having talked to her and her saying that she will try to make things better all Elle and I were able to do was just wait to see things changing. but that isnt happening and now i am feeling like this is the new norm and i am completely hurt by it. Rachel says that we remain family to her and she cries for hours when we seem distant to her but i dont know what else to do. I am not seeing any type of effort, on the other hand more and more time spent on her relationship as if i am some random person.
What should i do? let go or try?
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So let's fast forward to senior year in high school, where in the place of the world we live in the exams you have to sit in order to get accepted in some university are highly stressful and many kids get diagnosed with depression or anxiety disorder during that time. So, if one also has in mind that during that period of time a whole pandemic was happening around us and everyone was basically isolated in their own homes,both hers and my anxiety went through the roof. But again we were there for each other and did the best we could. So, we sit the exams and because we were both pretty good students we manage to collect a rather decent amount of points that could get us in the same city (the city that we had always lived that happens to be the capital of our country). She then decides she would like to go to another city to study, about a 6 hour drive from our home due to her wanting to get to see and experience new things, grow as a person, find herself and also live alone. I of course respected her decision and was happy she wanted to do such a step for herself even though it was pretty obvious it saddened me to have my best friend living so far away. But we knew our friendship was built on solid grounds and we have nothing but love for one another so there wasnt anything to worry about (spoiler alert: there was)
At this point I should mention that we are 3 best friends :me , the girl we have been talking about (lets call her Rachel) and Elle (also 20f, from the same school also). So, after the exams I talked about earlier (summer 2021) we had of course free time for summer holidays. We were supposed to all go to Elle's summer house in August and so we did. But Rachel was at her own summer house before that, and thats where she met her current boyfriend Matt 23M. They weren't in a relationship until the begining of 2023. She was head over heels for him, absolutely in love always wanted to talk about him and didnt want to leave his side not even for a single day. I was very happy for her and wanted to hear about him as much as possible because in our friendship what makes one happy makes all 3 of us. So, when August rolled around she was hesitant of coming to Elle's house as we had agreed upon and even told me she didn't want to be there. She wanted to be with him more and also said she had regrets over coming. At that point I was a bit saddened but I also have been in love and can understand that she was very very excited so I just left it at that.
Anyway, all 3 of us have a great time at Elles house and I had almost forgotten about her rather careless comment of not wanting to come. Summer goes by and she has to leave to the city that she studies whereas both me and Elle stayed at home and started uni here. Our first year of uni was pretty great,we all got to meet new people, start new hobbies go out more, party more etc. Me and Elle went to Rachels city 5 times in the span of 2 semesters and always had a blast when we did. We would regularly text and talk about ecerything going on in our lives so it was as if she hadnt moved at all. Our friendship wasnt impacted at all, which is what we feared, especially in the first year of uni, where everything is new and trying to get used to the new stuff you can be carried away. At one point I thought to myself that it maybe wasnt so cool of Rachel not to come visit us at all (except for the holidays where she practically had to come back and see her family), since she knew I was rather tight with money and even though I wanted to go as much as possible it wasnt always easy.
I'm skiping some parts here because this would go on for too long but lets just say that the things that she was doing for our friendship were little to none at this point and I was seeing her giving more energy to other of her friendships(not new, also from our hometown). I tried to say that I was starting to feel neglected but she basically told me that she will always consider me and Elle her closest people despite what happens or who she does more stuff with. Time goes by and even though she said she was pretty sad about me feeling this way and she would try to change the stuf she does nothing changes. At this point I want to say that Elle agreed with me that Rachel was neglecting us but she is much more of a chill person so she didnt want to cause trouble out of things that then seemed small.
At this point it's Christmas 2022 and Rachel and Matt (who is living in the same city as me and Elle) are official. Up until this moment the distance made it hard for them to do so and also the fact that Matt was not feeling ready for a relationship, let alone a long distance one so they would just talk or hang out when Rachel was back for Christmas time or Easter. So, the extream love I talked about earlier came back, she would always want to be with him and he would too. She would come home only for him (she never did that for any of us, not even her family), they would go on trips almost every weekend and wouldnt make time time for us in the 5 days she would be home. Matt is also kind of a prick, he used to treat Rachel badly and talk to her in a bad manner, but he has since changed and now treats her really nice. He has continued though to talk very rudely to all of Rachels friends, including fat shaming me in front of Rachel and her telling him nothing about it. I am really insecure about my body (even though now that I am working on my self i see that that shouldnt be the case because I am subjectively normal looking, for reference about 70kg to 1.75m) so that kind of a comment took a toll on me, a fact she understood and talked to me about, that I shouldnt care what anyone has to say etc.
The day after he made that rude comment on me being fat, Rachel came with heart eyes telling me how much in love she is and how perfectly he now treats her. I didnt want to ruin this for her so I didn't complain that she hadn't told him anything about that. I can't blame her for everyhting though, I know how it is to be completely lost in your feelings for somebody and that fact sometimes changes your prespective and your ability to tell right from wrong. Matt was and still is the most perfect human in her eyes and she can't bring herself to change that idea. Fine until now
Our texting would get drier and drier, we wouldnt talk on the phone at all and on top of everything, I started working so I havent been able to go to the city she studies during this academic year. She would tell us how she talks on the phone with Matt for about 6-8 hours a day on the phone and how they are planning to go there and there together, but whatever plans me and Elle wanted to make she always said she was out of money or time. So we decided to talk to her about it. Me and Elle told her we felt neglected and that the only thing that we have changed was the fact that we couldn't go to her place as often or as spontaneously as last year. The things she had changed on the other hand were a lot. She didnt make any time for us, any effort, nothing.Even when I would call her to check up on her she would find a very obvious lie to hang up and never called back. Everything was and still is all about Matt.
When talking to her about it she first said that she is feeling many things and doesnt know how to deal with that abundance of emotions and that's why her priorities may appear shifted but she tried to ensure us that that's not the case. We were still her favourite people and she felt sorry we felt that way but all she wanted to do is experience her lust about Matt. She even told us she felt guilty because what she was doing was making her so happy but at the same time it was something that made us angry or sad, maybe both. Rachel slighlty accused Elle and I of ruining the dream for her because she was split between her love for Matt and the love for her friends and this whole situation put her in a really uncomfortable place. She said she couldnt talk to her best friends about a very happy time in her life because we were bitter about it. I was and still am not bitter about her being in a relationship. i love that for her and want to listen about her feelings as much as possible. its not matt or their relationship that i have a problem with, its that she doesnt care enough for everybody else in this enamored state she is sunk in.Yes, it pains me to see that the person who has always been my no1 priority and vice versa now can go weeks without asking me how i have been
All I could say was that I had no problem with him, as long as she is happy, I am too. I just couldn't accept that I was losing her and that we would go days and days without talking to eachother. She told me that it's normal for friends to not talk at all times, and yes that is the case, I too have some friends to which i talk once a month or once in two weeks, but it was never like that with her. We had been for 7,5 years suuuper close and talked about everything all the time ,she even knew when I went peeing and now she is unaware of my struggles and I am of hers. I really tried to bridge the gap she had created and call or text more but i quickly found out that that isnt possible to do on my own.
So, after having talked to her and her saying that she will try to make things better all Elle and I were able to do was just wait to see things changing. but that isnt happening and now i am feeling like this is the new norm and i am completely hurt by it. Rachel says that we remain family to her and she cries for hours when we seem distant to her but i dont know what else to do. I am not seeing any type of effort, on the other hand more and more time spent on her relationship as if i am some random person.
What should i do? let go or try?
2023.06.05 19:39 Goopybr My fave minirooms!!
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2023.06.05 19:39 jake_spitty Purchase ‘Player Three Prime’, CPU 99% bottleneck on mw2??
Is that normal? Benchmarking in the game shows I’m 99% bottlenecked and my GPU temp seems like it’s super low like it isn’t taking on anything. I know I have all the graphics settings turned low and only on 1080p because I want to achieve the highest fps I can but would that be why my CPU is doing all the work..? The NZXT website boasts 270fps at 1080p.. I’ve been searching all over the internet trying to configure the settings or optimize but I’m stuck. I feel like I’m missing something. Anyone have any idea why this might be? Or if this is normal? I have a 13900kf. Also a side note.. when I got the PC, ‘nzxt cam’ app would open some sort of ‘Java script error occurred in the main process’ and had to completely remove it from my computelocal files. And, first time I opened mw2 the game completely froze and shut down my PC. Also I have a XB273U GX monitor (240hz and can supposedly overclock to 270hz). PLEASE HELP!!!
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2023.06.05 19:38 TrustMeImARealDoctor is it sketchy to leave my bike on car roof rack?
How sketchy is it to leave a bike locked up my car roof rack for ~1-2hr while running errands around town? I’m sure the area makes a huge difference, but in general is this a total no-no? is this an obviously dumb thing that would just be giving a bike to bike thieves?
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2023.06.05 19:38 fiftyoneshades Going to try to groom my dog today! Any tips?
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2023.06.05 19:38 elstar_the_bard Lost book: TPK vol 2??
Once upon a time before the sudden death of a hard drive, I had a 5e book of encounters. I had completely forgotten pretty much everything about the book except that it had maybe 10-20 encounters ranging from party levels 1-20. The only thing I have written down is that one adventure I ran years ago was "adapted from the TPK vol. 2 Mobius Loop encounter".
I've tried looking it up, but all I can find is Total Party Kill Games and none of their books seem to be the one I'm looking for! It may be a long shot, but does anyone know which book this is and where I can find it?
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I've tried looking it up, but all I can find is Total Party Kill Games and none of their books seem to be the one I'm looking for! It may be a long shot, but does anyone know which book this is and where I can find it?
2023.06.05 19:38 AlchemyStash I was accused of something that I didn’t do about 10 years ago. It wasn’t criminal, so there was no “proving right or wrong” about it, but it had a massive impact on my life that continues to affect me, and one of the results from it is that I anxiously am concerned about others’ opinions.
I'd strongly prefer not to get into details about it because honestly any detail about it could reveal who I am, so I'm going to talk about this in vague terms. I'm not famous but if anyone were to figure out who I am then it's possible that this could end up further negatively affecting me.
I really wish there was a place to talk about false accusations and how damaging they can be both to the person who gets falsely accused but also for how much a false accusation hurts the group of people being used as a weapon by the person doing the false accusation. In this case, a breakup resulted in my now ex-girlfriend weaponizing the fact that she was a woman and I'm a man in such a way to try to ruin me, and she did so somewhat successfully. She was smart and didn't claim violence, but she did claim what I guess you could call invisible abuse, such as emotional damage. We were together for a very short period of time, which is one of the reasons her reaction shocked me so much. I'd been through more mature breakups with girlfriends that I was with for much longer or similar amounts of time before I had been with her, and she was older than me by a few years, so I thought we'd just go our separate ways. We weren't miserable with each other, and it wasn't an abusive relationship by any means; sometimes two people just aren't good for each other and I didn't want to continue to be unhappy or to continue making her unhappy, so I said we should break up and thought it was going to be a good thing, as breakups had historically been for me up to that time.
This is where I need to start talking in more vague terms. She freaked out and became furious with me and told me to get out, which I did. Then she came back and called me wondering why I had left. I told her that she had asked me to so I did. Days of angry phone calls from her followed that, and honestly I should have probably just blocked her number but I kinda just figured she was taking it hard and felt rejected, so I would let her vent and eventually the whole situation would cool off. Then I found out that she was telling people things that weren't true about our relationship. If this was high school then it wouldn't really have bugged me that much, but we were both in our late 20s and she was telling my supervisors, other co-workers, friends and family. Most of them didn't believe her but they were understandably frustrated by the fact that she kept doing it. I ended up having to leave my job and get a different one, which sucked because it was something I really thought I had a future in. I have a great job now and I'm very happy with it but the path I'm on now is totally different from what I thought I was going to do, which is fine.
All of this ended up fading eventually, but I lost some friends and I had to have some uncomfortable conversations with my family that has sometimes affected the way they look at and talk to me, and I don't blame them. I hope none of you ever have to have a conversation with your mom where you say "She's lying about the emotional abuse but she isn't lying about what we did sexually. We were both into that." As far as the friends go, I'm kind of glad there are some of them that don't talk to me anymore; I'd never call myself a perfect friend but I do actively try to be a good friend to the best of my ability, and the fact that this is what it took for them to want to throw away 10+ years of friendship tells me that they didn't care about me as much as I cared about them. I'd rather not have friends that are keeping track of every indiscretion, waiting for a moment to end it. That isn't how I do friendship. As far as changing careers go, I feel like I've found my people in the business world and I love what I do. And regarding love, I got married and have a beautiful daughter now.
What I think hurts the most about the fact that it happened is that I've always been a proponent for female empowerment and I've been in environments, be them family, work or friendships and romantic partners, that could probably have been seen as abusive, though they didn't necessarily feel that way to me. They just felt shitty, and because they felt shitty I've never wanted to make anyone else feel that way. It's a shitty thing to have your good nature weaponized against you. I can understand why men who support women would go through what I did and end up being anti-feminist, or misogynist, or just in general not wanting to support women. That isn't what I ended up doing, but I get it. It's like, if supporting someone means getting my hand bit for doing so, then I could justify not supporting that person anymore. I'm just more careful now. I have a little more anxiety (or maybe paranoia) about what I say and how I say it, to the point that I started therapy last year because I developed a stammer, which I've never had before. Now I'm past the stammer and I'm back to talking normally enough, but the guy I was in my youth that was all "fuck other people's opinions" is not as loud as he once was. I liked that guy, and I enjoyed being that guy for 25 years. Today I'm being honest with myself in hopes that putting it out there will help me maybe take the next step past this experience: I do care what people think, but not about things like what they think of my body or my personality or anything like that, rather that I care about being falsely accused of something that I didn't do and having no solid evidence to prove that I didn't do it.
You all reading this have no reason to believe that I'm not an abuser. I guess I'd hope that the fact that I'm here anonymously means that I have no reason to lie, but people still do lie on here just to get attention. So, take this how you wish, but it is the truth, and I do wish it wasn't so stigmatized to talk about the negative effects of false accusations.
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I really wish there was a place to talk about false accusations and how damaging they can be both to the person who gets falsely accused but also for how much a false accusation hurts the group of people being used as a weapon by the person doing the false accusation. In this case, a breakup resulted in my now ex-girlfriend weaponizing the fact that she was a woman and I'm a man in such a way to try to ruin me, and she did so somewhat successfully. She was smart and didn't claim violence, but she did claim what I guess you could call invisible abuse, such as emotional damage. We were together for a very short period of time, which is one of the reasons her reaction shocked me so much. I'd been through more mature breakups with girlfriends that I was with for much longer or similar amounts of time before I had been with her, and she was older than me by a few years, so I thought we'd just go our separate ways. We weren't miserable with each other, and it wasn't an abusive relationship by any means; sometimes two people just aren't good for each other and I didn't want to continue to be unhappy or to continue making her unhappy, so I said we should break up and thought it was going to be a good thing, as breakups had historically been for me up to that time.
This is where I need to start talking in more vague terms. She freaked out and became furious with me and told me to get out, which I did. Then she came back and called me wondering why I had left. I told her that she had asked me to so I did. Days of angry phone calls from her followed that, and honestly I should have probably just blocked her number but I kinda just figured she was taking it hard and felt rejected, so I would let her vent and eventually the whole situation would cool off. Then I found out that she was telling people things that weren't true about our relationship. If this was high school then it wouldn't really have bugged me that much, but we were both in our late 20s and she was telling my supervisors, other co-workers, friends and family. Most of them didn't believe her but they were understandably frustrated by the fact that she kept doing it. I ended up having to leave my job and get a different one, which sucked because it was something I really thought I had a future in. I have a great job now and I'm very happy with it but the path I'm on now is totally different from what I thought I was going to do, which is fine.
All of this ended up fading eventually, but I lost some friends and I had to have some uncomfortable conversations with my family that has sometimes affected the way they look at and talk to me, and I don't blame them. I hope none of you ever have to have a conversation with your mom where you say "She's lying about the emotional abuse but she isn't lying about what we did sexually. We were both into that." As far as the friends go, I'm kind of glad there are some of them that don't talk to me anymore; I'd never call myself a perfect friend but I do actively try to be a good friend to the best of my ability, and the fact that this is what it took for them to want to throw away 10+ years of friendship tells me that they didn't care about me as much as I cared about them. I'd rather not have friends that are keeping track of every indiscretion, waiting for a moment to end it. That isn't how I do friendship. As far as changing careers go, I feel like I've found my people in the business world and I love what I do. And regarding love, I got married and have a beautiful daughter now.
What I think hurts the most about the fact that it happened is that I've always been a proponent for female empowerment and I've been in environments, be them family, work or friendships and romantic partners, that could probably have been seen as abusive, though they didn't necessarily feel that way to me. They just felt shitty, and because they felt shitty I've never wanted to make anyone else feel that way. It's a shitty thing to have your good nature weaponized against you. I can understand why men who support women would go through what I did and end up being anti-feminist, or misogynist, or just in general not wanting to support women. That isn't what I ended up doing, but I get it. It's like, if supporting someone means getting my hand bit for doing so, then I could justify not supporting that person anymore. I'm just more careful now. I have a little more anxiety (or maybe paranoia) about what I say and how I say it, to the point that I started therapy last year because I developed a stammer, which I've never had before. Now I'm past the stammer and I'm back to talking normally enough, but the guy I was in my youth that was all "fuck other people's opinions" is not as loud as he once was. I liked that guy, and I enjoyed being that guy for 25 years. Today I'm being honest with myself in hopes that putting it out there will help me maybe take the next step past this experience: I do care what people think, but not about things like what they think of my body or my personality or anything like that, rather that I care about being falsely accused of something that I didn't do and having no solid evidence to prove that I didn't do it.
You all reading this have no reason to believe that I'm not an abuser. I guess I'd hope that the fact that I'm here anonymously means that I have no reason to lie, but people still do lie on here just to get attention. So, take this how you wish, but it is the truth, and I do wish it wasn't so stigmatized to talk about the negative effects of false accusations.
2023.06.05 19:38 Enough-Narwhal7972 Windows Tablets Stuck on waiting to connect
Since Friday all of our windows tablets(30 total) are stuck on this screen.
https://www.reddit.com/alohapos/comments/12s2nz9/ral_waiting_for_network_connectivity_after_ral/
https://preview.redd.it/d7i258rfj84b1.png?width=1263&format=png&auto=webp&s=320e5ba29e3657fc77d104937dddba6a7bdaa4c4
What we've tried so far...Uninstall and reinstall Aloha on individual tablets, reset the Aloha server and services, renewed share permissions, modified and added host file in Windows, matched up timezone.ini files, adjusted network share settings in every possible way.
Any recommendations?
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https://www.reddit.com/alohapos/comments/12s2nz9/ral_waiting_for_network_connectivity_after_ral/
https://preview.redd.it/d7i258rfj84b1.png?width=1263&format=png&auto=webp&s=320e5ba29e3657fc77d104937dddba6a7bdaa4c4
What we've tried so far...Uninstall and reinstall Aloha on individual tablets, reset the Aloha server and services, renewed share permissions, modified and added host file in Windows, matched up timezone.ini files, adjusted network share settings in every possible way.
Any recommendations?
2023.06.05 19:38 utxc Okay just hear me out
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2023.06.05 19:38 acydsoepic Repetitive Map Changes?
I’m desperately hoping for like actual variety in this chapters map (aside from yellow grass blue grass green grass and snow) and seeing the teasers for next season be somewhat jungle themed is a little discouraging seeing that we have already had 3 separate iterations of a jungle biome on each of the 3 maps.
I feel like we need something genuinely new and not more re-hashed and already done before things to hype us up as this map is becoming legitimately boring to play on.
Like for example, we’ve already had a blue grass biome with the mushroom stuff from last chapter, and on top of that last chapter started OFF with jungle, desert, snow, plains, mountain and beach biomes with plenty of variety in the games landscapes, and this chapter just seems to have different color grass variations with the teased new additions to the map being things we’ve already seen in prior chapters that really should’ve been on this map since launch.
I feel like we should be getting more than just recycled content with (an albeit cool) collab slapped on there for a cash grab at this point in the games life cycle
Does anyone else feel as if the new map changes are getting really stale or repetitive?
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I feel like we need something genuinely new and not more re-hashed and already done before things to hype us up as this map is becoming legitimately boring to play on.
Like for example, we’ve already had a blue grass biome with the mushroom stuff from last chapter, and on top of that last chapter started OFF with jungle, desert, snow, plains, mountain and beach biomes with plenty of variety in the games landscapes, and this chapter just seems to have different color grass variations with the teased new additions to the map being things we’ve already seen in prior chapters that really should’ve been on this map since launch.
I feel like we should be getting more than just recycled content with (an albeit cool) collab slapped on there for a cash grab at this point in the games life cycle
Does anyone else feel as if the new map changes are getting really stale or repetitive?
2023.06.05 19:37 eternityofmoonlight Trading multiple accs for bigger acc 40x5 in total
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2023.06.05 19:37 Brave_Strike4065 Anthropology shipping
Has anyone ever ordered from Anthropology and shipped to Canada? The website is giving me two options - one to pay duty upfront total to 15% of my order amount. The second is to pay duty upon arrivals. I’m just buying a bridesmaid dress for around $200. I researched online and many people say that Canada Post rarely collects duty. I obviously don’t want to be slapped with a fee more than paying upfront (around $40), but paying nothing is preferred! Would love any insights from people who have done this recently… TIA!
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2023.06.05 19:37 ____JustBrowsing Foot fracture or something muscular?
36 Female. 167cm/82kg Non smoker. On Venlafaxine and Elleste solo 1mg. I had total hysterectomy with ovaries and tubes 6 months ago and was on Zoladex implant for a year before that. Dexa scan 3 months ago showed Osteopenia which is why I started HRT.
Last week Monday I went for a walk. Wearing decent trainers. No considerable incline and on stable ground. When I got home my foot was very sore. Sore to bear weight, walk and go up and down stairs. No swelling or bruise. Have done rest, ice, compression and elevation and it’s not better at all. I am worried it might be a fracture. I had one a few years ago and it feels the same (minus the swelling) A few mo this ago I sprained my ankle and don’t remember doing it. (I don’t drink so wasn’t a drunken mistake I forgot about)
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Pointing to sore area.
Thank you.
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Last week Monday I went for a walk. Wearing decent trainers. No considerable incline and on stable ground. When I got home my foot was very sore. Sore to bear weight, walk and go up and down stairs. No swelling or bruise. Have done rest, ice, compression and elevation and it’s not better at all. I am worried it might be a fracture. I had one a few years ago and it feels the same (minus the swelling) A few mo this ago I sprained my ankle and don’t remember doing it. (I don’t drink so wasn’t a drunken mistake I forgot about)
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Pointing to sore area.
Thank you.
2023.06.05 19:37 Unfair-Economist6109 My Boyfriend (20m) called a prayer line to make fun of the person who picked up and I’m feeing really torn about it
to start the post off, im not religious of any kind, but i think this was VERY mean. I also feel kind of silly because he called her in a hank hill voice and asked her to pray for his “cousin who broke his leg” and she did, but i just feel SO BAD. he was doing it in public too and his friends were filming him and it just felt so gross. the entire time i was trying to get him to hang up and i ended up just staring at my phone and ignoring it because they weren’t listening. It was late at night tho and there were lots of people downtown trying to catch the late bus like us. he was also being SOO loud and i just felt like a total public nuisance. not to mention we’re both adults! im 19 and hes 20. Ive never done stuff like this before and im a pretty emotional person so i cant really tell if im being over the top or not.
I tried talking to him about it last night but i was very drunk and high and just ended up crying alot because i felt super gross being apart of that, and he kept on saying i was being goofy and that “the cooperation is an awful cooperation that takes advantage of people” but i feel like that makes it worse because shes probably being taken advantage of. then he said that they were asking for donations but i dont feel like it makes it any different.
UUUGH i just dont know how to feel:
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I tried talking to him about it last night but i was very drunk and high and just ended up crying alot because i felt super gross being apart of that, and he kept on saying i was being goofy and that “the cooperation is an awful cooperation that takes advantage of people” but i feel like that makes it worse because shes probably being taken advantage of. then he said that they were asking for donations but i dont feel like it makes it any different.
UUUGH i just dont know how to feel:
2023.06.05 19:37 Ghipag Is there any downside to this: new car through company's salary sacrifice?
I own my current car outright. It's not great, it's a 2009 1.6l automatic, have owned it for just over a year, low mileage, worth about £2k. I pay £190.50 per month for insurance, plus £28.90 per month for tax, plus all associated maintenance/MOT/servicing costs, which amounted to (average) £24.66 per month over the last twelve months.
In total, £244.06 per month for me to run and keep my car.
I have joined a new company recently, and once my probation is up (August), I can use salary sacrifice to get a brand new car.
I've seen the list, and there are some really nice ones on there that I would like to own. The lower end of the monthly cost is £180, and it goes all the way up to £800+. The ones I'm interested in are around £210 per month.
Included in this price is the car, comprehensive insurance, annual services, MOTs after 3 years, and 'wear and year' maintenance, which it specifically states includes tyres.
On paper it looks like a no-brainer, and that yes of course I should opt into the scheme.
Is there something I'm missing?
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In total, £244.06 per month for me to run and keep my car.
I have joined a new company recently, and once my probation is up (August), I can use salary sacrifice to get a brand new car.
I've seen the list, and there are some really nice ones on there that I would like to own. The lower end of the monthly cost is £180, and it goes all the way up to £800+. The ones I'm interested in are around £210 per month.
Included in this price is the car, comprehensive insurance, annual services, MOTs after 3 years, and 'wear and year' maintenance, which it specifically states includes tyres.
On paper it looks like a no-brainer, and that yes of course I should opt into the scheme.
Is there something I'm missing?