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2023.05.30 06:27 kak2m4 Am I just destined to be unhappy?

I beg for kindness. I've been in a dark place for a long time.
TL;DR: Promotions at work over the years + being an individual contributor on the team has led to my 3rd (and worst) burnout at the same company over the course of about 11 years. I feel unhappy with every role change for different reasons. What can I do to accept being overwhelmed at work with the volume of work expected and stress with what I'm doing? Will I just always be unhappy no matter what?
If youre still here, this is super long, so please bear with me. It all leads to my question at the end. I have an MSW. I graduated back in 2012 and couldn't find a job since I didn't have post grad work experience. I took the first job I was interviewed for and offered - at a temp healthcare staffing company. I started in August 2012 as a Recruiter...then less than a year later, all within 2 months of each other, 3 of the 5 of the team members left. I took on more work willingly, but my role changed since I was promoted, etc. Additional duties included a phone sales kind of role which I hated, since I'm an introvert, plus I was managing people while being an individual contributor on the team with screening and hiring temps. We had a huge project May-August 2014 where I worked all the time and was on-call for the Temps I'd hired 24/7. I was burnt out by August 2014. I got an opportunity to switch roles at the same company as a Contracts administrator in August 2014. I switched and have been in the same department since, save for a brief hiatus at the end of 2021. In this role, I put together our company contract template for clients, reviewed and negotiated terms to Client agreements, etc. It was more analytical and not at all sales-y which was perfect for me. As time went on, my original Manager left, and she was replaced by the Assistant Manager at the time (who is now over me and a bunch of other people). She's still my boss to this day, and you cannot find a better boss. She's wonderful, supportive, fights for her team, she's easy to talk to, great to work for. She and I are very close. She is also my opposite - she's very extroverted, outspoken, and quick to think on her feet. She handles things being thrown on her plate with grace, although she may complain to me privately. 😉 COVID hit our company HARD - but in a good way. We grew exponentially due to helping staff soooo many nurses throughout the country. Things also changed drastically. 3 of the 4 of our executives - who I was close to and worked closely with - left, and they were replaced by baby VPs so that our executive team dynamic changed a lot. Now, the days of being able to review and negotiate contracts are gone (the goal is to sign sign sign so the salespeople can close their sales), as is the support we received at the exec level. Since COVID, we've been so much more busy, to the point that I have been overwhelmed at my job since sometime in 2020. I would regularly work 8a-9p, weekends, holidays. I would break down in tears regularly also. I crashed and burned in Oct and Nov 2021. I decided I wanted a complete career change, so I landed a job at an ABA clinic working with autistic kids and studied for and obtained an RBT certification. I resigned from my job in Contracts, although they begged me to stay. They offered me a promotion and more money, and they offered for me to take the last couple of months of the year off paid, but I was tired of always being super stressed and having no support from the execs, who we work very closely with. When I say no support, I mean nonresponsive to emails, requests for help, lack of knowledge and accountability, never being available etc. (When COVID hit all the executives were allowed to work completely remotely, and most of them moved out of state.) After I resigned, I started working at the ABA clinic, BUT - within 2 weeks I realized I hated it. I liked the kids, but the job was so monotonous and did not challenge my brain enough to keep me interested. I had to be over the top enthusiastic and extroverted with the kids which was draining to me. I also had no flexibility whatsoever- if my kid was sick, my husband had to be the one to work at home and I realized I'd never be able to get off work to attend any of her school functions, which is very important to me. I let the ABA clinic know that I was sorry, but the job was not the right fit. I also asked my old boss if I could possibly come back. She told me in confidence that the executives had a meeting and agreed they needed to be more supportive to our department and be available, so that made it more positive to go back. I'd also have occasional remote work flexibility, able to attend kid's school stuff, and I could use my brain. It just seemed like the grass was greener on that side. I was welcomed back with the promotion and pay raise offered when I'd resigned. Well...since I returned at the beginning of 2022, I've managed a team of 5. I remain an individual contributor on the team as well, so I do the same job as several others + Manager duties, tons of meetings, etc. If COVID seemed bad, how I feel now is no comparison. I need about 16 hours in each workday to get done everything I need to do in between meetings now. I have started having to work most nights from about 10pm-1am just to keep up with my day to day stuff. As a disclaimer, I don't like working outside of work hours when my kid is around. I get too focused and I'm only half focused on her, and I get grouchy due to stress. I still break down in tears regularly, but usually on the way home from work. When I walk up to the building each morning, I feel like a heavy weight settles on my chest and I have to mentally prepare myself for the crap I'm going to have to deal with that day. I work with a lot of salespeople now, and I hate being a prime factor in them closing their sale (because they promise the client they'll get a contract over to them same day). When I can sleep at night, I've started having nightmares about work, where I freak out because I forgot something and wake up panicked. There are days I just want to get up from my desk chair, walk out, and never return. I also had something personal happen in my family in December that has affected my mental health drastically. I did seek therapy for a while for it, but I just didn't have the time to spend a couple of hours in session each week or text with my became something else I fell behind on which made things worse for me, so I terminated the relationship. I did talk to my wonderful boss about how I feel overwhelmed all the time, and she wants to keep me, so we set a plan in motion to restructure duties in our department. It's been needed for a long time anyway. We'd talked about it in 2022 but didn't follow through with it. But now, I don't know if I'll be happy JUST managing people! OH MY GOODNESS....ALL of that to I just destined to be unhappy, no matter what my job is? What in the heck is wrong with me? Why do I let the work stress get to me so badly? I know everyone has stress about work, how do you not want to leave your jobs and find something different? How can I do better?
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2023.05.30 06:27 br0ken_light Music 🎶

I’ve been avoiding triggers that will automatically make me start thinking of them; I still can’t listen to the same playlist I’d put on in the car when we’d be driving. I started to explore outside my usual genre, and although I can’t necessarily say I’ve ever really been a Taylor Swift fan, she does have some pretty great breakup songs and lyrics. Right now it’s I Forgot That You Existed.
I forgot that you existed It isn't love, it isn't hate It's just indifference
Would love to hear what is on everyones playlist that may be helping you on your healing journey.
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2023.05.30 06:26 ImperialNorway Questions about raiding and viking nations

So, ive almost never played a raiding nation. A viking nation. Mainly because they look really hard to play. But i really want to try. Is it true that if its too peaceful, your vassals start to dislike you? Can raids fix that? Also, do raids happen on their own if you choose automatic on army control? This happened when i played iceland. If so, that would be very helpful.
Final question, how do i run a norse asatru realm effectively?
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2023.05.30 06:24 mialg How Long to Jelq? 1 Penis Enlargement Technique to Grow a 9-Inch Monster!

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2023.05.30 06:24 Express_Gazelle_5264 I’m sorry

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2023.05.30 06:23 zaddar1 noh theatre is addictive

the thought of mao se tung which xi jin ping is so keen to emulate
i wouldn’t say its all rubbish, but it has the lethality of some-one who is sure he is right and will brook no compromise
“ the correct handling of contradictions among the people ”
interestingly, there is no theoretical basis for the forcible conscription of taiwan into mainland china
russia is what happens after a 35 year period of selectively killing its best people (1920 to 1955 ?)
if you read about the mongol invasions, they were horrific, but there was a rationality to their slaughter which certainly was on a scale equivalent to the holocaust and WW2 losses in general, however what is unique about the holocaust is its stupidity, how could germany ever win a war preoccupied as it was with annihilating the most productive portion of its middle class ?
the jews made a huge contribution to the stamina of germany in WW1 which hitler knew of course because he served under a jewish officer whom he respected
its always interesting to see unconnected dots, something internal politics and international "relations" have in abundance, though its encouraging to see the positive effect modern communications have had in creating a united front from the west in terms of russia and china, the war is being anticipated, it doesn’t have to occur before everyone wakes up like in WW1 and 2
noh theater , unique if you have not experienced it before and the stories give a great insight into pre-meiji japan and its off the wall level of superstition
curiously addictive
reason fails
until reason fails
what is yours only
you can see
others have trouble
handling this
the past is past
whatever opinions one has
doesn’t change it one bit
the "hunting of the snark" has similarities to farid ud-din attar’s "the conference of the birds" , so much so i am suspicious that somehow lewis carroll read it or at least knew an outline of the plot
for the snark was a simorg you see
simply stunning shots of around and above everest with the MAVIC 3 drone
the source long looked for
isn’t there
what is there ?
that’s for you to work out !
its not there in the words of others
its a private knowledge that cannot be conveyed
“ the world is wide and spacious ”
a key concept of translations of historical literary and religious works is in fact they are "interpretations", often heavily biased to how the interpreter views things and with problematic philology, and maybe never can be translated accurately
taoism is actually a religion with their own temples in china, or at least historically that was the case
in the west, like zen, its really just taken as a philosophy, even more heavily nonsensicated than zen !
when looking at zen or any religion the word hagiography goes along way to understanding what you read
what you look for
in childhood
we are packed with so much nonsense
we never live long enough to unpack it
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2023.05.30 06:23 ImperialNorway Question about raiding and viking nations

So, ive almost never played a raiding nation. A viking nation. Mainly because they look really hard to play. But i really want to try. Is it true that if its too peaceful, your vassals start to dislike you? Can raids fix that? Also, do raids happen on their own if you choose automatic on army control? This happened when i played iceland. If so, that would be very helpful.
Final question, how do i run a norse asatru realm effectively?
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2023.05.30 06:23 DaSqueedily I need insight

I need your insight.
My biological father, who split from my mom years ago and caused so much drama between the two of them, wants to talk to me. I don't want him trying to drag me into anymore drama and nonsense and I just want to live my life without the headache that is my biological family. But I miss the good old days before every thing fell apart, so I'm very torn. I was in therapy for 6 years because of everything they did and I don't know if I'm ready to communicate with them at all. (I will spare you the traumatic details. Let's just say mom is a manipulative pick me, and dad is a narcissistic drug user who is claiming to be clean but I honestly don't believe him).
I wish they weren't my parents and I wish my family had been normal. I never wanted to cut contact but had to due to their destructive nature. They ruin people's lives and I separated myself from them as a last ditch effort to preserve my own life and succession.
How should I proceed?
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2023.05.30 06:23 SonOfSuperTimor1993 30[M4F] ATL/Worldwide - I used to be with it, but then they changed what “it” was, And now what I’m with isn’t it. And what’s “it” seems weird and scary to me.

Loneliness and cheeseburgers are a dangerous mix
Well hi, I’m back like I never left. After months of trying my best with numerous dating apps and failing miserable, I’m learning to never try. I’m your friendly neighborhood 30 year old. Between working a lot and being introverted. I’m a massive movie guy. Horror is my favorite genre, but I’m slowly branching out. The Simpsons is my feel good show (kudos if you’ve picked up all my references.) But on the rare occasion I’m not watching the show or some new movie. I’m getting outdoors and trying to do hike or ride my bike or do something active. I just bought a camera so I’ve been branching out in that field as well.
Even though I work in a field that everyone seems to hate dealing with, I really find my passion to be helping people. I love the feeling of giving someone a hand at the last possible second when they really need it. I’m also a huge music guy (show me your playlist, and I’ll show you mine).
I’ll attach my picture too. Don’t really care if you send yours or not. Hope to hear from you soon. And remember if you don’t like your job, you don’t strike. You go in everyday and do it really half assed. That’s the American way.
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2023.05.30 06:23 pallaviyadav New South Indian Movies On OTT In May 2023

New South Indian Movies On OTT In May 2023
Bollywood and Hollywood have carried out their share to make our may merrier than ever and it’s now time for the South Indian film enterprise to give their entertainment quota for this month.
The nice aspect about South Indian movies is the flexibility it offers; not simply in regard to the genres however additionally in regard to the one of a kind languages and cultures it homes.
we are able to pick out from an array of Tamil, Telugu, Malayalam and Kannada films with a variety of genres, plots and additionally actors.
permit’s look at what this especially preferred and numerous industry has in save for us this month with this listing of upcoming South Indian films on OTT in can also 2023.

1. Meter
A Telugu motion comedy, Meter stars Kiran Abbavaram and Athulya Ravi as the primary leads. Written and directed by Ramesh Kaduri, the film is a complete action fest.
The film become broadly liked for the male lead’s stunning appears and stellar performance. The movie is now to be had to watch on Netflix.

2. Corona papers
This crime movement film takes on a completely new plot to keep the visitors engaged in the course of.
The pandemic is a fairly new subject matter to make a film on but Priyadarshan arrived on time to the scene with a clean and gripping motion thriller.
The movie depicts the chase between the police and some notorious thieves who delve into extreme robbery during the pandemic.
The thriller and the remarkable motion will maintain you on the threshold of your seats. Watch Corona Papers best on Disney+ to recognize extra.

3. Sopanna Sundari
initially launched in theatres on 14th April of this yr, Sopanna Sundari is a dark comedy movie dealing with the complexities of human nature and social interactions.
The movie revolves around a car and the numerous intended proprietors it has. however that’s no longer all.
What makes the movie a superb snicker rebellion is the surprising twists and turns the plot takes at some point of the film.
each person has its personal quirks that upload to the amusement of the movie.
in case you overlooked watching this masterpiece in theatres, worry no longer due to the fact the film is ready to release on Disney+ on may additionally 12.

4. Thiruvin Kural
A thriller, Thiruvin Kural is an emotionally stirring movie with moments of intensity that would go away each person baffled.
Starring Arulnithi, Aathmkia and Bharathiraja as the principle leads, this Tamil film is some thing that you would want to watch.
It deals with the struggles of a younger guy with a disability facing infamous goons and shielding his loved ones in opposition to them. it is set to release on Netflix on might also 12.

5. Enthada Saji
Enthada Saji is a Malayalam fable comedy film starring Nivetha Thomas and Kunchacko Boban. It tells the sad but funny story of a girl who is made amusing of for no longer being able to marry until a saint involves her rescue and solves her woes.
The movie became preferred for its depiction of the highs and lows a person studies in a single’s existence and the presence of God through all of it. it's far scheduled for its OTT release on top Video on may 6.

6. August sixteen 1947
Produced via AR Murugadoss, Om Prakash Bhatt, Narsiram Choudhary and Vakil Khan, August 16, 1947, is a Tamil period drama with a completely unique and thrilling plot.
it is a fictional tale however it portrays the true behaviour of the British officials closer to Indians- particularly villagers.
The narration of the movie is ideal and both the directors and the actors have accomplished a great task, justifying the jobs that they have been playing.
It was nicely received by means of the target audience on its theatrical release. it will likely be released on Amazon prime on may also 5.

7. Phalana Abbayi Phalana Ammayi
Pahalan Abbayi Phalana Ammayi or PAPA is a Telugu romantic film that covers the connection of excessive faculty buddies for over 10 years.
The bond among them is special and the depiction of any such stunning bond is carried out brilliantly at some stage in the film.
at the same time as the couple appears to have numerous rifts among them, one thing is apparent, their love never fades away.
It suggests the power love holds and the way time performs an critical role in strengthening the bond between two people. PAPA is ready to launch on sun NXT in the first week of may additionally.
This become our listing of South Indian movies on OTT in may also 2023.
With this type of wide variety of options, it’s most effective obvious which can be watchlists are going to be greater exciting than ever.
here’s to hoping that the coming months are bigger and higher!
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2023.05.30 06:22 MessidorLC My descriptions of SP 5 and SP 9:

So, I've been writing a lot of these, and they're designed to outline the basic preoccupation of each instinct without a ton of extra fluff. The traits described are specifically chosen to outline the differences of the instinctual variants within the core type, for instance, to draw distinctions between SP 9 and SX 9. Therefore, this may not serve very well as a "VS" or "misidentification" post, as that was not the primary intention. However, I think it may come in handy for some people, the descriptions have very different feels and you can get a sense of that inherent coldness in 5 vs the warmth of 9.
As always, I'd appreciate your thoughts, particularly constructive improvement-oriented suggestions.

In self-preservation 5 we see a preoccupation with avarice in the survival realm: maintaining tight control of what one possesses so as not to have it squandered. Everything is kept close to the breast. This leads to an extremely private and detached individual who prefers not to invite unnecessary wastes of time and limits their interactions as comprehensively as possible. There is a great thirst for knowledge as a buffer, to minimize the chances of surprises, and to give oneself a sense of security in an environment perceived as aggressive and demanding.
In self-preservation 9 we see a preoccupation with harmonious congruency in the survival realm: fulfillment of basic needs in a way that makes one feel comforted, soothed. Of course, from this stems a propensity for relaxation, physical comforts such as food and sleep, and habits / routines which give a sense of peace and space. These are used to numb out an existential hollowness which all nines experience at an unconscious level, a result of their resignation and inertia.
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2023.05.30 06:22 Cheesecake6844 Anyone else have PTSD from being raised Catholic/Christian/[insert whatever other messed up religion]?

I grew up in a Christian household that was pretty loose about the whole thing but I was forced to go to church every Sunday, attend Sunday school, and then attend Catholic middle and high school. I sometimes have nightmares that I'm back in those places and I'm trying to get away.
I grew up being taught that I should meet a man, get married and be a good wife and mother. My own mother never taught me to be independent or to stand up for myself (taught myself honestly.)
Not to mention all the "you're gonna burn in hell" stuff that plagued my mind as a child. I used to cry at night because I thought Satan was under my bed.
I stopped it all in my teen years when I wised up to the hypocrisy and BS. Anyone else still have fleeting episodes of flashbacks or nightmares?
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2023.05.30 06:22 GeneralUri10 my "for you" feed is trying to induce schizophrenia on me, how do I reset it?

I got bored today and figured I'd scroll through tiktok. I never, ever go on tiktok so this was my first "real" session I guess. my FY feed was the typical stuff that I found interesting, such as water and thalassophobia (fear of water), eventually somehow the more I scrolled, the more my feed just turned into more and more sinister and horrifying things full of gore and death
it started from the "you have this phobia" videos and then moved to creepy signs, followed by weird disturbing psychological horror such as the maria face incident (just an example of the random stuff it pulled) and moved onto conspiracy theories about the earth being flat, Denver Airport, illuminati, 9/11, then straight up gore and "schizo" stuff.
every other post is some bizarre shock picture of some creature or demon saying I'm not alone and that I'm currently going to die or that I'm in a coma and nothing is real. after scrolling through random feeds of serial killer victims I went to one that seemed innocent and it was a joke of a cartoon mouse making a cat saying "under where?" and the next picture was genuine just mouse gore with a cat eating mouse guts.. the next tiktok after that was just straight up more "I know where you live and I'm in your walls" type stuff, what the hell man what the hell happened to my feed man, I'm genuinely starting to see shadows in my peripheral vision at the moment what the hell
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2023.05.30 06:21 squidthesponge Go in non-vegan zone or stay at home?

Hello, hope you're all doing well :) I need to vent a little, I'm just really anxious Thank you for you time and I would love some advice if u feel inspired 🌻
Basically my boyfriend has lots of friends and like to go on weekends with them. We've been together since 2018 and I still dont want to go with him because I'm stressed out about food.
They are not vegan and I'm an hardcore one who refuses to eat if there's animal products on the table. My bff is vegan too but doesn't mind seeing animal products. Every time he comes back from one of those weekends, he tells me he only ate boiled potatoes and bread, while everyone else was having all sorts of meats and cheeses "delicacies"☠. He's always a bit disappointed about the lack of effort and nutrition, and reaaaally hungry when he comes back home 👀. To me, that's just not how I want to live, even for 3 days.
My bff is really sad that I never come so I agreed to come but I told him that the food situation was stressful for me. I've been meal planning all week, thinking about how to cook, store, transport, and reheat the food. He thinks I'm too much and sees all of my efforts as stupid...
To me, it's important that the food is abundant, healthy and delicious, because I'm staying 3 days with strangers in a stranger's house. It takes a lot of my energy to match their vibe, they all are childhood friends, i have nothing in common with them, for me it's not a fun & relaxing weekend and he knows that.
Since the beginning of our relationship, he knows my rule about animal products (and he had no problem forcing his parents to match my rule😂). But we dont want to force 15 people to eat vegan for 3 days (yeah I dont want them to hate me), but I also want a bit of comfort and safety and nourishment during a weekend of "walking on eggshells". But my bff doesn't get it. Every time he sees me prepare he's like "why are you doing that? It would be much simpler to go there without any preparation "... so we get frustrated with each other and fight and I'm exhausted. I dont want to go anymore. I was prepping for him too but the temptation of being petty and let him eat boiled potatoes with his friends while I would eat my vegan feast alone is there, not gonna lie. But it would make me look really bad and I would be the one suffering from this scenario so that's not an option😭.
Should I ignore him , meal prep for us, go and hope for the best or should I stay at home and relax?
Thank you ❤
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2023.05.30 06:21 Anyitagg I (19f) love my boyfriend (21m) of 8 months, and it's frightening to think of my life without him

So I'm in college, new and have no friends and met this guy. We immediately become close friends and openly discuss how much we care for each other, share music, talk about our emotions, hug... anyways we're dating now. We've been daying for a soon to be 8 months, and we've been a perfect lil couple.
We have a similar sense of humor, both of us have been to therapy and we communicate well, I engage with his clubs/work (he's an engineer), we make a point to make time for each other and it's all so nice. We had one shakey moment and it was before we started to really schedule "go to your house and cuddle and be lame little nerds." That was 3 months ago, but this man has made me so incredibly happy and I never thought it'd be this good with anyone
Point is, he feels too good to be true, and we both are terrified by how much we like and love each other. His mom cracked a joke about me and his brother's girlfriend being daughter in laws. They want me to go with them to their family cabin. We had a long talk about how important we are to each other, and he has told me directly that he wants to live with me one day and struggles to see what his future would look like without me in it. It makes me feel happy, but also so incredibly spooked over how much we just work. We've both had other relationships but this one in all stages has felt so incredibly different.
This all started because his mom was showing me his baby photos. We were cuddling, and since I did not want to fall asleep I asked him to tell me all the sappy shit he thinks about us. It was a lot. I know it takes 18 to 24 months to have the rose tinted glasses fade away. I know he's a workaholic, busy most of the time, and snores. I know he's the type to bottle his anger, but I also know that he'll talk to me about it before it gets bad. We've already done that. He knows I'm snarky, quicker to anger as well as a mean angry girl when I hit that point. He knows I'm forgetful, but also knows I work to overcome most of my flaws.
I love him so much. We tell each other that often and with meaning. I write poetry. He makes me little things. He knows me, and more importantly he's one of my best friends I've ever had. And that scares me.
TL;DR! My boyfriend is my best friend and the thought of him not being in my life frightens me. We're comfortable in silence, we are active in each other's work, my parents like him and it feels too good. How can I get over this?
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2023.05.30 06:21 sadrevenge55 White washing of Delhi crime has started.

So I notice after yesterday's Delhi murder there are multiple comments and posts on why the people around didn't do anything to help. Now some might be genuine comments but many I found trying to white wash the crime and shift the blame.
Everytime there are such henious crimes there is always an attempt to shift the blame on victim, oh she must be wrong, maybe she hit him first, what was she doing there etc. This time the incident was caught on cam so there is no scope to blame her. Now the blame has shifted to bystanders it seems.
"More shockingly about 15 people passed her while she was dying, and none of them saved her!! Those men are the most repulsive of all. What a shame... WhatsApp and Twitter Tak hi shimit hain ye community??"
Look at the above comment. In the entire scene op finds those passerby 'most repulsive' and not the criminal stabbing the victim multiple times.
Here is another comment
"Om Shanti to the sister!! I wish her brothers had been more brave so she could still be alive rn!! But sadly they always fight among themselves and have no sense of community."
The sarcastic tone here op tries to sympathise with the girl but blames the community for her death.
There are many more such comments or like a post asking what is wrong with Indian society, why are we afraid to intervene? Entire society is questioned because some people didn't intervene.
Bystander effect is not something restricted to India but seen all over the world. In cases of such heinous acts people freeze. Especially when a lethal weapon is involved a common man won't intervene. Yet somehow all these comments and posts blame passerby, the community and society but not the real criminal involved, his actions, or his community.
Do you see how smartly the narrative has been shifted from the criminal or his actions to victim community?
Then i noticed a tweet from a so called fact checker zoo bear who is known to dogwhistle and white wash crimes of terrorists and gangsters from particular community. Here he gives more credit to a dog than the people around.
"None even tried to save her. So many were casually walking as if nothing has happened, Except for the Dog behind."
This is the same guy who pushed NS in front of hungry rabid dogs. Now trying to dogwhistle and white wash a crime. You will never see him calling out the criminal or his community.
Do you see a pattern here? What are your thoughts?
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2023.05.30 06:20 Justpetting_mydog Reactive Bernese puppy or just an excited puppy?

I have a 13 week old Bernese - he was the biggest of the litter, and was bitey from the second I saw him at 4 weeks (and continued to be bitey when we took him home at 8 weeks).
Our puppy has broken my skin SO many times, and it’s almost constant. I’m trying to teach bite inhibition/getting him to stop the hard biting (leaving the room, saying no, ignoring him, giving him a toy, etc.).
I rescued an adult bernese before, and never had any issues. Every Bernese I’ve ever met or known has always been the sweetest, gentlest giant, and I can see my puppy wanting to be that way, but he cannot stop biting. He bites when he’s happy, he bites when he’s frustrated, he bites when we’re playing, he bites when he’s tired, and he bites when he’s not tired! I’m getting worried that I have the only aggressive bernese alive :/.
At what point does the “land shark” phase become an aggressive/reactive puppy?
Fellow BMD parents, did you experience this with your puppy?
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2023.05.30 06:20 Dt12121 Why do i want to ruin my life ? help

ive been on reddit for years connecting through others questions and now I need yall help
im 30 And I have it all, beautiful wife(fit and pretty) and daughter , i make good money , we live in a nice spot with a nice car and she stays home with our daughter. for many people we have "the" lifestyle". im an entrepreneur so my schedule is flexible.
BUT...i have this feeling that this cant be my life forever...i have this weird fascination for squeezing the most out of life. i still want to have one night stands, date around, be ALONE. i love being alone. I want to learn and see the world and essentially do whatever the fuck i feel like doing. i will ALWAYS be in my daughters life and will be the best dad but truthfully something my wife and i both are aware of is the fact that she damn near forced us in to having a kid this young when had known ive never been a kid person im struggling to choose between "doing the right thing" vs " picking your happiness first".
let me add that ive been with my girl for 10 plus years. we essentially got together right after highschool so therefore i never really got to date around. trust me I love her alot and still find her super hot but this feeling doesnt go away.
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2023.05.30 06:20 ThrowRA_bluetomato I (24f) am sad that I can't hang out with my bfs (28m) friends

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now and we've lived together for one and a half.
Recently he's made new friends in a discord server that he speaks to everyday. They play games and have a good time together. I asked if I could join them since I also have similar interests to them. My bf however says he just wants his own friends there.
He's gotten very close to this one girl and they talk daily. She has many similar interests to me and likes the same games. My bf know I've been trying to make a girl friend since most if the games and things I like are usually more male dominant and it's hard for me to find ppl I get along with. She's really nice but since I can't join any of their friend servers, so I feel blocked out of making the friendship.
I tried talking to my bf over it multiple times and all he says "am I not allowed to have my own friends?" And everytime I say no ofc you can have your own friends, I'm just sad. He doesn't acknowledge how I feel and just gets upset that I want to befriend them.
I don't understand why he's so defensive of me being there. I asked for a compromise of me just joining their bot server where they don't talk often, but he said that it's only for very close friends so I can't join that either.
I'm just sad I can't meet any of his online friends that are there. I have major fomo on their big group game nights.
I want to clarify I do not think my bf is cheating. I know he would never lock me out to hide something like that. I also want to state him and this girl are 100% friends so please don't assume anything bad because that's not the case. This is just about me wanting to meet his friends and not being allowed to
Yes I do my own things yes I have my own friend group (but he's in the server just doesn't talk he does read it tho) Yes I'm trying to make friends in other ways.
Tldr: bf made new friend group that he wants to keep to himself but I want to join because I have similar interests and it makes me sad
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2023.05.30 06:20 Cmason006 Hermit Coven is a brand new server to welcome those who are looking for friends and to hangout! If you're bored, never leave the house or really don’t have a social life, this is the right place for you! We chat and chill so don’t be afraid to check us out!

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2023.05.30 06:19 TaxNerd3407 An Analysis of Canadian Taxation of Amazon Vine

This post outlines my research regarding whether my participation in the Amazon Vine Program (where one receives free product in exchange for reviews) might be subject to Canadian income tax. I joined the Amazon Vine Program in May 2023. I'm posting this so that other people don't have to start their research from scratch like I did.
Research Sources
Existence (or Not) of Profit & Intention to Profit
Sufficient Commerciality
Personal Component
In conclusion, I would argue that there is insufficient commerciality, no intention of profit (and potentially no real profit, regardless) and a very significant personal component to my involvement with Amazon Vine. I would argue that this makes it a hobby, and not a business, and thus not subject to tax under the Income Tax Act. Individuals who engage with Amazon Vine on a more involved basis (i.e. crazy Gold Tier) may have a different result.
Should Canada Revenue Agency disagree, I leave it to them to try to value the damn income that would result, because the gods know Amazon doesn’t actually provide enough information to determine it. I wash my hands of this nonsense. I wish CRA had published guidance on this so I didn’t have to spend hours on this kind of research.
TL;DR: It can likely be argued that Amazon Vine involvement is a hobby for Canadian tax purposes, and thus not taxable (provided the Vine Voice in question isn't doing crazy business-like activity and pumping out massive amounts of reviews for Gold Tier). CRA needs to publish better guidance, because the interpretation is unclear.
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