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Large and small vessels in our body constantly circulate blood. From the heart to the feet it moves easily. On this route, gravity does not interfere with the movement of blood, but on the way back it becomes a problem. Blood circulation deteriorates not only due to gravity but also due to the inactivity of the muscles. When you sit or stand for a long time, the muscles do not work, and the blood flow slows down. It stagnates in the vessels, which is why they gradually expand. This is how varicose veins appear.
The problem with blood flow is one of the main problems with varicose veins. Types of massage that accelerate blood circulation, in theory, improve the condition of blood vessels. But in practice, it rarely works that way.
Massage for varicose veins of the lower limbs is not an option for all patients. If you have huge swollen vessels or trophic ulcers that have already appeared, then you will have to forget about going to the massage therapist. But the care of small veins that do not hurt when touched can be entrusted to an experienced specialist.
By itself, massage will not cure diseased vessels. This requires complex vein treatment that includes:

• Massage;
• Compression stockings;
• Special exercises;
• Medications.

If you come to a session with a massage therapist and the touches on your legs cause pain, then you need to go to a phlebologist and check the condition of the veins.
Properly chosen massage can slow down the development of the disease but inappropriate procedures accelerate the expansion of blood vessels and increase the affected area.

Anti-Cellulite Massage for Varicose Veins

With varicose veins, blood flow and metabolism are disordered and cellulite becomes more visible. It worsens the elasticity of the skin and changes the subcutaneous fat, aggravating the condition of the veins. Both phenomena reinforce each other. Therefore, anti-cellulite massage for varicose veins facilitates the condition of patients with diseased vessels. Its benefits are:

• Improved blood circulation and lymph outflow;
• Increased blood flow to the skin, making it smoother and more elastic;
• Breaking down fatty deposits that come out of the tissues with sweat and lymph;
• Increasing the speed of blood movement in the vessels;

The procedure should be carried out only in the initial stages of varicose veins. If you are concerned about swelling, heaviness in the legs, or spider veins, then anti-cellulite massage will help solve these problems.
There are some contraindications to this type of massage. Here they are:

• Pregnancy and lactation;
• Thrombophlebitis;
• Cancerous diseases;
• Acute inflammatory diseases.

If these restrictions do not concern you, then anti-cellulite massage will help stop the development of varicose veins and get rid of cellulite.

Lymphatic Drainage Massage

Lymphatic drainage for varicose veins is one of the most effective types of massage for vascular diseases. It is carried out with the help of special equipment, so self-treatment is excluded.
The patient puts on special overall or drainage boots that affect the problem area of the body.
Lymphatic drainage of the legs with varicose veins has such benefits:

• Removal of the swelling;
• Relieving the feeling of fatigue;
• Improving lymph outflow;
• Increasing the elasticity of the venous walls.

After the procedure, the vessels can better withstand blood pressure. Therefore, their expansion slows down or even completely stops.
To get an appointment for a massage, go through an examination with a doctor. In some diseases, such therapy does not help and even harms the vessels more. For example, hardware lymphatic drainage for varicose veins is dangerous with such conditions:

• Thrombosis;
• Bleeding;
• Purulent or inflammatory processes;
• Cancerous diseases.

Even if you do not have such problems, before such a massage consult with a phlebologist. They will assess the condition of the vessels and prescribe a safe complex treatment that may or may not include massage.

Hi, I just came on here to see if I’m being irrational about how I feel about all of this. I 16(m) have a younger brother that’s 2 and I completely resent him. We both have completely different dads. I’ve known my step dad 37(m) ever since I was 1. My bio dad wasn’t really there for me and to be completely honest was kind of a scum bag. Now just for reference I’m also a bisexual trans guy which is relevant to the story as well. My bio dad cheated on my mom and had my other brother 14(m). I love my little bro so much. He’s like my second best friend. Now we don’t live together at all and to be quiet frank I only get to see him about 2-4 times a year. But every time we do see each other it’s like we stay talking. Even though I have my brother I was still raised as an only child. Being the first born grandchild and great grand child. My bio dad died 4 years ago from a drug overdose so that’s were he is. As I was growing up I lived in between house mainly at my grandmas on my moms side and with my mom and stepdad. I won’t even deny that I was a spoiled child who almost always got what I wanted. I never even wanted siblings since I have my brother and that’s all I needed. Which is one thing I had always expressed. Now onto the issue at hand. The only people who know about me being trans is my mom at the moment. I came out when I was 13 about being bisexual and at that time I had a huge crush on a girl at school. So I called my mom and told her about it. I wasn’t aware that my step dad was able to hear me either. So about 2 weeks after I told her I felt so relieved. I was sitting in the living room watching Disney plus because it had just came around at the time and my mom and step dad wanted to talk to me. My step dad did all the talking he was basically doing the same rub down about how I’m going to go to hell if I don’t get myself situated and how I’m just confused and don’t understand what I’m talking about. It got to the point he even threatened to kick me out saying I’m not the same little girl he knew. I was hurt and the next day at school I was hysterical because he also said if I didn’t tell the girl I liked her I would get my ass whooped in front of everyone including her. It was a terrible scare tactic which he apologized for. But the damage had already been done. A few months after that incident it was a year after my bio dad’s death. Which was the first time I grieved about it. Like I stated my bio dad wasn’t the best but he did make his efforts and try he was just under the wrong influence which made him to far gone. Other than him my stepdad is the only other male role model I’ve ever had that I saw consistently. At that point I started ignoring my stepdad completely there were 2 more incidents prior that I’m not gonna talk about but that was the final straw for me. That’s when my mom suggested a family therapy session. I was upfront and honest with them about how I felt. Then the therapist asked if I was the only child within the home which I answered quickly to that and said yes. That’s when my stepdad butted in smiling saying that my mom was pregnant. I broke down crying even more…I ran out the room and cried to my grandma she was sitting outside to be my ride. I was sent back into the room and my step dad, mom, and therapist were talking and laughing at my reaction. I couldn’t hug my mom throughout her entire pregnancy. I wouldn’t even touch her. Ever since then people would as me about how I felt being a big sister. And I never lied all I would say was I’m not happy about it. Maybe this makes me sound entitled I’m not sure. But even now I understand I’m not gonna be the center of attention anymore and I’m ok with that. But there’s more to me than just my younger “brother.” He’s the favorite now and it’s blatantly obvious. I don’t even get asked to family events anymore. While yes it hurts I could honestly care less. My step dad’s side of the family never really cared about me anyways. I never saw my stepdad as a dad. The only reason I call him this is because I was forced too.. he raised me sure. But I never even called him dad up until he married my mom and even then it was because he told me too. I know I shouldn’t resent him and my moms kid. He didn’t ask to be born. But he was planned. I wasn’t my mom had me fairly you at the age of 19. Maybe I’m overreacting but I don’t love him. I can’t. All they think of me as is a built in babysitter. I stay away as much as possible. I’m not a big sister… I’m not a big brother to him. It’s getting so bad to the point that the little boy is getting involved with my bio dad’s side of the family. He can have anything else of mine I don’t even care anymore. But I don’t want to lose the only thing I have left family wise… he even started calling my brother his brother. I told my mom about how I didn’t like it. Which she understood. I’m debating about telling my mom I don’t like her husband. He makes her happy and they have a child. I don’t want to be in the way either. But I don’t know how much more of this I can take. I just needed to rant about this.. I’m sorry if it was all over the place. This is my first time using Reddit please don’t mind plus it’s 3:12 in the morning. Any kind of advice is appreciated. I just don’t want to feel this guilty anymore… so am I the asshole for it?

Hi, I just came on here to see if I’m being irrational about how I feel about all of this. I 16(m) have a younger brother that’s 2 and I completely resent him. We both have completely different dads. I’ve known my step dad 37(m) ever since I was 1. My bio dad wasn’t really there for me and to be completely honest was kind of a scum bag. Now just for reference I’m also a bisexual trans guy which is relevant to the story as well. My bio dad cheated on my mom and had my other brother 14(m). I love my little bro so much. He’s like my second best friend. Now we don’t live together at all and to be quiet frank I only get to see him about 2-4 times a year. But every time we do see each other it’s like we stay talking. Even though I have my brother I was still raised as an only child. Being the first born grandchild and great grand child. My bio dad died 4 years ago from a drug overdose so that’s were he is. As I was growing up I lived in between house mainly at my grandmas on my moms side and with my mom and stepdad. I won’t even deny that I was a spoiled child who almost always got what I wanted. I never even wanted siblings since I have my brother and that’s all I needed. Which is one thing I had always expressed. Now onto the issue at hand. The only people who know about me being trans is my mom at the moment. I came out when I was 13 about being bisexual and at that time I had a huge crush on a girl at school. So I called my mom and told her about it. I wasn’t aware that my step dad was able to hear me either. So about 2 weeks after I told her I felt so relieved. I was sitting in the living room watching Disney plus because it had just came around at the time and my mom and step dad wanted to talk to me. My step dad did all the talking he was basically doing the same rub down about how I’m going to go to hell if I don’t get myself situated and how I’m just confused and don’t understand what I’m talking about. It got to the point he even threatened to kick me out saying I’m not the same little girl he knew. I was hurt and the next day at school I was hysterical because he also said if I didn’t tell the girl I liked her I would get my ass whooped in front of everyone including her. It was a terrible scare tactic which he apologized for. But the damage had already been done. A few months after that incident it was a year after my bio dad’s death. Which was the first time I grieved about it. Like I stated my bio dad wasn’t the best but he did make his efforts and try he was just under the wrong influence which made him to far gone. Other than him my stepdad is the only other male role model I’ve ever had that I saw consistently. At that point I started ignoring my stepdad completely there were 2 more incidents prior that I’m not gonna talk about but that was the final straw for me. That’s when my mom suggested a family therapy session. I was upfront and honest with them about how I felt. Then the therapist asked if I was the only child within the home which I answered quickly to that and said yes. That’s when my stepdad butted in smiling saying that my mom was pregnant. I broke down crying even more…I ran out the room and cried to my grandma she was sitting outside to be my ride. I was sent back into the room and my step dad, mom, and therapist were talking and laughing at my reaction. I couldn’t hug my mom throughout her entire pregnancy. I wouldn’t even touch her. Ever since then people would as me about how I felt being a big sister. And I never lied all I would say was I’m not happy about it. Maybe this makes me sound entitled I’m not sure. But even now I understand I’m not gonna be the center of attention anymore and I’m ok with that. But there’s more to me than just my younger “brother.” He’s the favorite now and it’s blatantly obvious. I don’t even get asked to family events anymore. While yes it hurts I could honestly care less. My step dad’s side of the family never really cared about me anyways. I never saw my stepdad as a dad. The only reason I call him this is because I was forced too.. he raised me sure. But I never even called him dad up until he married my mom and even then it was because he told me too. I know I shouldn’t resent him and my moms kid. He didn’t ask to be born. But he was planned. I wasn’t my mom had me fairly you at the age of 19. Maybe I’m overreacting but I don’t love him. I can’t. All they think of me as is a built in babysitter. I stay away as much as possible. I’m not a big sister… I’m not a big brother to him. It’s getting so bad to the point that the little boy is getting involved with my bio dad’s side of the family. He can have anything else of mine I don’t even care anymore. But I don’t want to lose the only thing I have left family wise… he even started calling my brother his brother. I told my mom about how I didn’t like it. Which she understood. I’m debating about telling my mom I don’t like her husband. He makes her happy and they have a child. I don’t want to be in the way either. But I don’t know how much more of this I can take. I just needed to rant about this.. I’m sorry if it was all over the place. This is my first time using Reddit please don’t mind plus it’s 3:12 in the morning. Any kind of advice is appreciated. I just don’t want to feel this guilty anymore… so am I the asshole for it?

Ok so my boyfriend and I are very playful with each other when it comes to sex, and we spent the night together last night. I woke up before him this morning and he was facedown and I pulled the blanket off and decided to be playful. He’s a VERY heavy sleeper (like really, he needs like 20 different alarms to wake up) and I started kneading his ass, and he didn’t wake up. Then I started to massage the area around his asshole and started to kiss around it. Still asleep. Then I decided to go all the way and started to rim him for a minute or two…he still didn’t wake up. I didn’t want to try fingering him since that would NOT be a playful and/or pleasant way to wake up so I just kinda chuckled and threw the blanket back on him and snuggled back up next to him.
After he woke up I didn’t mention it, but it’s been on my mind all day…did I assault him? I was being playful and we’ve done buttplay like that before, but of course sleeping people can’t give consent. I don’t know how to feel about this and I’m worried I might’ve done something terrible.
Does anyone have any insight to offer?

Throwaway account for obvious reasons.
I’m having therapy mostly for attachment/avoidance issues. I’ve always thought my therapist was attractive but our therapeutic relationship mirrors some of my usual relationship anxiety. We’ve been trying graded exposure by having me go on dates with people but I can still never get past the first date or two so far, so I’ve not had chance to get advice on dealing with a lot of my anxiety issues.
Is it worth me opening up to her about how the therapy sessions make me feel/the anxiety I get sometimes? So I can get advice on how to deal with these emotions in real life?
For example I often get the idea that she wants to stop giving me therapy (“abandon me”) or I get worried she’s bored of hearing me talk (even though she’s never actually said anything like this and has actively encouraged me to continue with therapy when I’ve talked about giving up). These feelings definitely occur when I get in relationships, when I’m not running away from them. I also get avoidant before I get to this anxious stage (which I did with her, when I tried to push her away in the first few sessions).
Is it ok to tell her about these feelings? And how would I do it without making her uncomfortable? If she said she wasn’t comfortable working with me anymore then I’d be really disappointed and I think I’d struggle to restart the process with someone else. I think part of the reason I chose her as my therapist (on top of her excellent qualifications) was because I subconsciously wanted to practice with someone like this anyway.
Thanks!

I don't expect anyone to read this since it's so long, but I need to get some things off my chest.
She says I never try to explain to her why I do it (when I do try, but idk, it's just hard, and she doesn't accept "I don't know" as a good reason apparently), and that I have no reason to be suicidal at my age. She keeps telling me how lazy I am and that I do nothing all day after I told her multiple times that I have no motivation to live. I am not sure if this is true, and it might be just in my head, but it feels like she always makes things about her. I understand, dad was abusive, and she suffered a lot. We don't live with him anymore. I think she just wants to regain what was lost after her failed marriage, but it's a bit hurtful, and I hate to admit this, annoying.
I couldn't talk about anything important with any of my therapists because I simply couldn't open my mouth. I knew what I wanted to say, but I just couldn't. I decided to start journaling and ask mum to help me find another therapist, but before I could do that, she told me that she found a psychologist for my brother and I know that we couldn't afford to go to therapy at the same time. He needs it more than me (he's most likely autistic), so I won't suggest therapy for myself any time soon.
I don't really know why I can't open up to her. She told me to talk to her when I get urges to cut, but idk, I just....can't. I'm used to internalizing things. Maybe it's a need to be independent? I truly have no idea why I'm like this.
She knew that I was self-harming but didn't see my legs. I am wearing shorts, and I guess they lifted enough for her to notice. Yeah, I don't know, but every time when the topic of my self-harm came up, she's just handled everything so poorly. I did try to explain. I truly did, but it's a mess in my head, too. I tried comparing it to her smoking addiction, but apparently, you can't be addicted to cutting, and certainly not at my age. And when I tell her I'm suicidal, she just says I have to stop thinking and talking about that, that it's all nonsense. She's a teacher. She prides herself on how much psychology she knows, but it's clearly just base-level shit.
I told her I've been clean for over a month, but I "have no reason to be proud over something so small !" I'm gonna start journaling soon. Maybe that'll help. My plan is to show the notebook to a future therapist (if I live enough to get one) instead of trying to talk.
This was very long, I'm sorry, but I just need to tell someone about this. I have no one to talk to. I wish I could make friends easier. I've told my mum about my struggles with socializing and my anxiety, and all she tells me is that I really need to get over this. Like I haven't tried before. I guess I'll just be stuck in my head forever. It's my fault, too. After being unmotivated to live for a long time, I finally had a period when I thought I was doing better, and I was actually feeling ok, so I told her that I managed to get through all of my problems on my own. She always used to praise me for not being affected after we left my father and for being so strong and independent, while always complaining about my brother who suffered a lot after we moved. I think this might be a reason for always trying to handle things on my own. Anyway, I was clearly wrong, and now I'm doing worse than ever before. Now she tells me all the time when we talk about my self-harm: "Didn't you say you could get over everything on your own?" Maybe I'm just too proud to admit to her that I made a mistake, or maybe I'm simply waiting for myself to reach my next high. My mood changes a lot. I have more energy and am doing ok for a few days, then I'm back to rock bottom.
Again, I am so so so sorry for how long this post is.

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I’m 34M years old. I’ve had a successful career and adult life. I’ve been estranged from my mother for over 10 years. I grew up the youngest of three children raised by my single mother.
Needless to say, there were inappropriate boundaries growing up… seeing her naked, leaving her sex toys out and in plain view, walking in on her masterbating or having sex. As a teenager, I feel she began to place me into a partner role. Going out on dates, complimenting me, asking for massages or to sleep in bed with me, becoming jealous of my girlfriends…
As life moved on, I grew apart and needed space for my own growth and successful life. I haven’t had any contact with this woman for over 10 years but something strong still attracts me to her…
A desire, a need for physical intimacy with her.
I once spoke to a therapist about this and they felt that my sexual desire for her was a way for me to seek closeness or love from her in a way I never did as a child.
She’s 61F years old and lives in a nearby city.

Some backstory: I'm a software engineer, and I've been working in the tech industry for almost 4 years since graduation. After the 2nd year in a big corporation, I got food and a place to live, and my motivation to pursue a career just stopped. I felt like I had nothing to chase for. I enjoy playing video games and buying toys like Iron Man, Transformers, or Ultraman figures. That's pretty much it. So, life became tasteless and boring, and there was nothing that made me happy.
For the past year or so, I've been thinking about how I can help people and create value (so I can start to feel that I'm useful to the world) based on my skills. Around that time, my best friend (who also works in tech) experienced severe depression. So, I started creating things to help him combat it. We began by developing a mood tracker that allowed him to input his mood every day, and we used algorithms to find patterns, such as how workouts or the weather correlated with his mood swings. However, it wasn't helpful because it didn't offer solutions or solve the problem.
Later in the year, OpenAI's ChatGPT became popular, and we thought we could leverage this technology to assist people, as it could answer mental health-related questions and potentially help those in need of answers. So, we created an app called Quokka! (I apologize if this sounds like self-promotion, but you can search for it on the Apple App Store) and we had around 10 to 20 people using it. However, people only asked a couple of shallow questions and then never touch the app again, and that was about it. We wondered why talking to ChatGPT wasn't as "therapeutic" as talking to a real person.
We spoke to a few users and thought this through. In a nutshell, we believe ChatGPT isn't sentient enough or designed to relate or feel the actual pain of the user. Let me provide you with some examples:

1. It's slower and tends to provide people with walls of text, which can be very off-putting. Even if it's spitting out truths, people don't want to read a 400-word paragraph about how to be better.
2. If you ask ChatGPT about very personal issues like sex life or an abusive relationship, it will give you a "correct" response like having good communication with your partner, being honest, and trying new things. While these are correct answers, they lack a "personal" touch. It's like telling a homeless person to get a home, if you know what I mean. A real therapist (a good one who matches your background and personality) would guide you and help you discover issues in a more subtle and informative way, rather than simply telling you how you should behave.

(As an engineer, I understand why ChatGPT performs this way. It's designed to be an "AI assistant" and has been trained on data that convinces itself it's an "AI assistant." Therefore, it doesn't treat sensitive questions like a real person with feelings. Moreover, anything unethical is filtered out. If you ask it a sensitive question, it will respond by saying, "I'm an AI, so I don't have preferences," and it won't engage and blame your bf/gf with you in biased discussions.)
To address the shortcomings of ChatGPT, I spent the last month training and developing a model myself. This model focuses solely on performing therapy and helping people. If you ask it to solve a math question, it probably wouldn't know the answer. It's a small model, only 7/1000 the size of ChatGPT, so it's not that advanced (but it is super fast). However, it has knowledge of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) as I trained it using two books and common sense. I've tested it with some examples, and I think it's working. I'm allowing everyone to try it out on a server that I'm renting out of my pocket. I'll try to keep the server running for as long as possible so that everyone has a chance to try it. https://a93b26bbd1ae.ngrok.app/
some example conversations I had with it:

Human: how can therapy help people, like how does it work? AI: Therapy helps individuals understand their thoughts and feelings better, develop coping strategies for dealing with difficult situations, and improve communication skills. It also provides a safe space where clients can explore their emotions without fear of judgment or criticism. The goal is to create a positive change in behavior and attitude towards life. Human: ok but the underlying issue is still there right? it doesnt really solve the problem. so the client will probably continue to be sad AI: That's correct. However, therapy can provide tools and techniques that can help individuals manage their emotions more effectively and cope with stressors in a healthier way. Additionally, therapy can help individuals identify unhelpful thought patterns and replace them with more realistic ones. This can lead to a reduction in negative emotions and an increase in overall well-being. Human: what about people suffer from like, money problem? or suffer from something thats out of their hands AI: In some cases, therapy may not be able to completely eliminate the source of distress. However, it can provide individuals with the necessary tools to cope with difficult situations and improve their quality of life. For example, if someone is struggling financially, therapy can help them develop a budget and prioritize their expenses. If someone has a chronic illness, therapy can help them learn to accept their limitations and find ways to live a fulfilling life despite their condition. Human: Ok thanks, I understand it better now. AI: You're welcome! ... ... 

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Human: How can I improve communication with Sam about our sexual needs and expectations? AI: It's important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your sexual needs and expectations. You could try using a technique called "I-messages" when communicating with Sam. This involves stating how you feel and what you need in a clear and direct way. For example, "When we have sex, I would like for us to use protection." Human: I understand, the problem is that we love our sex life, but I feel we've fallen into a routine and often feel lazy to engage in it. AI: It's great that you're aware of this issue and want to address it. One way to approach it is by setting up a date night where you can focus on each other and enjoy intimacy without any distractions. Another option is to create a list of activities or positions that you both enjoy and make sure to incorporate them into your routine. ... ... 

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Human: Ok I feel like you are kind of helping more like an assistent, not a therapist. how would you handle my case if you use CBT technique? AI: As a therapist, I would work collaboratively with you to identify your values and goals and develop a plan to achieve them. We would also explore any underlying beliefs or assumptions that may be contributing to your feelings of frustration and uncertainty. By using CBT techniques such as cognitive restructuring and problem-solving strategies, we could work together to overcome these obstacles and move forward towards a more fulfilling life. Human: Ok yes thats what I'm talking about. please lead the conversation. AI: Great! Let's start by exploring your values and goals in greater detail. What do you want out of life, and what steps can we take to help you achieve those things? Human: surprisingly I dont vable money that much even tho I just mentioned them. I genuienly just want to help people. my motivition is kind of driven by that. actually my start up is about helpping people. I'm building an virtual therapist using LLM AI: That's great to hear! Your motivation is clearly rooted in a desire to make a positive impact on others. Let's work together to develop a plan to achieve your goals and overcome any challenges that arise along the way. Human: Ok looks like you understand, what kind of plan we talking here? AI: Yes, we can work together to create a personalized plan that takes into account your unique strengths, weaknesses, and goals. This might involve developing new coping mechanisms for dealing with stress, identifying areas where you need additional support, or exploring alternative career paths that align with your values and interests. Human: My strength is I'm a dedicated person, meaning I dont easily give up. my weakness would be ... I have too much ego so sometimes I feel it makes me arrogant and ignorant. my goal is to help other people in any way to unleash their true potential. by creating a AI therapist is one of my way trying to achieve that. AI: It sounds like you have a strong sense of dedication and a clear understanding of your values and goals. We can work together to identify any blind spots or areas where you may need additional support. Remember, therapy is not just about fixing problems but also about exploring your strengths and finding ways to build upon them. Human: Ok interesting, so what could be my blind spots? could you give me some examples AI: Sure, blind spots can include things like unconscious biases or assumptions that may be holding you back from achieving your full potential. For example, if you believe that certain types of people are inherently less intelligent than others, this belief may limit your ability to see their true potential. By working together, we can explore these blind spots and develop strategies for overcoming them. Human: I see, so what could possible be mine blind spot that I'm not awared? AI: It's important to remember that everyone has blind spots, and they can be difficult to identify without outside perspective. However, once identified, we can work together to develop strategies for overcoming them. Human: I was kind of expacting you to find it out for me. thats what you do isn't it ? AI: While it's important to work collaboratively with clients to identify blind spots, it's also important to remember that ultimately, the client is responsible for their own growth and development. As a therapist, my role is to provide guidance and support, but ultimately, the client must take ownership of their own progress. Human: ok could at least give me some direction? like how do I find the blind spots tho? AI: Finding blind spots requires a willingness to be open and honest about one's own limitations. This can be challenging, as many of us have been conditioned to view ourselves in a positive light. However, by being vulnerable and seeking feedback from trusted sources, we can begin to gain insight into our own blind spots. Human: so you mean asking people around me? AI: Yes, seeking feedback from those who know us well can be an effective way to identify blind spots. Additionally, reflective practices such as journaling or meditation can help us become more aware of our own thoughts and behaviors. Human: what's reflective practices AI: Reflective practices involve taking time to reflect on one's experiences and behaviors. This can include activities such as journaling, meditation, or talking with a trusted friend or family member. The goal of these practices is to increase self-awareness and improve decision-making abilities. Human: could you be more specific? like I should do journaling everyday? like I want you to explain like in theory how would that help. writing daily journal and then read them after? AI: Reflective practices can take many forms, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach. Some people find that journaling regularly helps them identify patterns in their behavior and emotions. Others prefer to engage in mindfulness exercises or talk with a therapist about their experiences. Ultimately, the key is to find an approach that works best for you and stick with it over time. ... ... 

As you can tell it is not that smart so I have to ask a lot of questions to remind the AI to take the lead and guide me. So start the conversation with "I would like to work on xxx issue, could you help me with cbt technique." and ask questions for the next step or guidance.
I want to emphasize that this is a small model, so if it works well for all of you, please let me know, and I'll continue to upgrade it. For example, I can make a larger model and feed it with more therapy techniques, or even give it a voice, so eventually, you can have a phone call with it like a teletherapy session (that's the goal).
I apologize for the lengthy text. To get to the point, we haven't stopped developing this project. We still want to create things that can help people who want access to therapy but can't afford it due to financial situations or lack of access. We're trying out everything we can, anything that can make you happier.

Please leave a comment and let me know how I can use my skill set to make you happy and provide assistance. I'm open to trying anything and everything that can help you out.

Sorry for the long post. there's a lot of info to cover here.
About 4 years ago I reconnected with an old friend from my past. At the time I had been single and living along for a LONG time. She started hanging out at my place and being flirty, so on, so forth. We end up sleeping together one night and a relationship formed after that. At first everything was amazing. We were travelling, I was making new friends and for the first time in my life I feel like I found true happiness. Fast forward 8 months later, we decide to move in together. I thought it was rushed at first, but with my newfound happiness, I figured "hey, this can only work out well". Because of geographical reasons, I move into her house.
For the next year and a half things were going pretty well. we were travelling, having the time of our lives and had spoken more than once about marriage and kids, and the whole future. We were both on the same page. We had problems, there were little arguments, but never any fights. So when the housing market was great, I sold my house. Planning to buy myself a car that I've wanted for a while, and propose. I shouldn't have told her the last part as she now had it in her head that the day I sold that house I was going to buy a ring.
At this point were 2ish years into the relationship (\~16 months of us living together) I noticed she didn't seem to be as happy as she used to be. The smiles and laughs we used to share just didn't seem to be there anymore. She was constantly stressed out by work. It was around this time I noticed there was a drinking problem. She would get loaded and come home late, make excuses for where she had been, treat me like I was "putting her in a box" and then pass out. Next morning, she never seemed to understand why I was upset with her, she didn't remember a thing. If I questioned where she was or what she was doing, she said I was just being jealous. One night, it escalated. She was supposed to be the designated driver for a few of her friends. She ended up being brought home in a uber that night by herself because she got completely hammered and high. To the point she was laying sideways across a toilet with vomit running down her. When I went in to check on her, I found a bag of coke on the floor. This isn't something I'm OK with and I made that extremely clear. that night I snapped a picture of what I saw when I opened the bathroom door. I showed it to her the next morning, she didn't recall any of it. And seemed to be mortified by how she acted when she was drunk and on coke.
She swore she wouldn't do coke again, and the blackout drinking would never happen again.
For the next few weeks she started getting better. The drinking was tapering off and she started to seem happy again. One night, she seemed upset. so I asked her about it. She admitted to me that she had run up a LOT of debt and because she was ashamed of it, she didn't tell me, just went out and got a debt consolidation loan to pay it all off. Of course I was less than pleased that she didn't come to me with this problem, and instead went to her sister. Her rational being that this wouldn't impact my finances so what does it matter. Ok, I said, I can understand the sentiment there and let it go. She was handling the issue. Fun fact, it 100% impacted my finances as I now had to pay for essentially everything except for her half of the mortgage.
Eventually she decided to get a new job, and she bounced around a few of them. Finally landing at the company she worked for when we first started dating. Problem is, she wasn't prepared for the amount of work, which over the next few months started to wear on her more. She would come home complaining and angry, which would kill any good mood I was in. Pretty soon after that, the sex started to go downhill as she was always mad. But I thought "ok, she's in a rut. I've been there before, what can I do to help". I got to the point where I was doing EVERYTHING around the house. I'm doing the cooking, cleaning, taking care of the outside of house, the dogs, the cars. Everything. I figured she'd be less stressed if she didn't have to come home and deal with any of this shit, maybe it would get us back on track. But after a while, I started feeling like she was taking advantage of me. When I would bring these feelings to her attention, she would say it's my "demons", and that I had voices in my head making me think things that aren't real. To the point she wanted me to see a therapist...so I did. after Covid lifted, he couldn't be my therapist anymore (out of state thing) and said "I can refer you to someone else if you want to talk, but you seem to be fine".
I was willing to deal with the issues and the therapy because I truly thought I was going to marry this women, I did and still do love her with my entire heart. That said, I didn't want to marry someone that doesn't have their shit together, so I put my proposal plans on hold and basically spent the next 2 years trying to get her to do the things she was constantly saying she would do. But she never did, so I never proposed.
Fast forward to a month ago, she decides she isn't happy (Thanks, in part, to the neighbor next door who's divorcing her husband for the same reason). She wants to break up. Even her friends tell her it's a mistake and she'd regret it. Not to make rash decisions, but she had already decided she fell out of love with me. She wanted to do a separation. I was willing to try, but in all honesty, I didn't want to. But again, I love her and was willing to do what it takes. we had decided I'd leave that weekend and be gone for a month. But during the week, we changed things to I would be leaving on a Thursday (may as well start now and get this shit over with). So Wednesday night, she goes out to a bar with her cousin and gets drunk, comes home 2-3 hours after she said she would (this has been a HUGE issue for us in the past), and got mad at me for being upset that on our last night together before the separation, she wanted to go get drunk with her cousin. She said that I never told her I was leaving Thursday, but I did. Then she saw that I was looking at houses in the area. While that may seem quick, she hadn't given me any idea of how long of a separation this was actually going to be, and it kept changing.
That Friday I took off work and packed all of my stuff, everything I owned into trucks and moved it out of her house with the exception of a piece of furniture that I simply cannot lift and will have to hire someone to get out. I told her I'd get it out when I could. she was fine with that. I moved into my mothers basement. Still thinking this could be salvaged, I stopped looking at houses. We went out to dinner one night that week and I thought we were going to work things out. She kept saying she just needed time to "work on herself", she could offer me nothing in the way of hope as far as how this relationship would work out. So I kinda looked at it as "if she's taking care of herself, I need to do the same"...So I started looking for houses again. I found one, bought it, and in 1 week, I take possession of it.
We spent 2 weeks not talking at the behest of her sister and mother that said we need a clean break. After that we started talking again, I went over to her house to collect some mail. She kind of randomly said during this separation that sex didn't need to stop as "we both have needs". I talked to a few friends (coincidentally that I met through her, that all seem to be thinking she's in the wrong here), and almost every one of them said NOT to take her up on the sex offer. With the exception of 1 friend that said "hey, it's familiar, may as well take it while it's being offered". So when I went to get some mail from her house later that week (I was in the neighborhood visiting some friends) she offered to cuddle. I'm a big cuddler, and I've had a rough month since she essentially threw me out of her house. Even knowing it was a bad idea, I went along with it because I was desperate for the normalcy and affection that I used to get from her. As you can probably imagine, cuddling didn't last long and admittedly, we had some of the best sex that night we've ever had. Here's the issue. As I suspected (and lied to myself about) I can't separate sex from intimacy's. They are essentially one in the same for me. I've never been a casual sex person. BUT, It was fun, she enjoyed it. Neither of us regret it.
A few days later (last friday) we're at a "celebration of life" of sorts for a friends dog. This is the first time she and I have interacted in front of ALL of our friends. I was alright, till she pulled up in her car. I broke. The glass shards holding me together all fell apart and she could tell I was having a panic attack. She and I walked around the other side of my car for a good 35-40 minutes and talked while I kind of composed myself. She assured me she was in the same boat, just not showing it. It bugs me she can simultaneously be the cause of and solution to my panic attacks. We ended up parting ways as she was going out with her cousins for the evening. I stayed with the friends and managed to wake up at a different friends house the next morning. I'm still not sure how that happened, I guess I had a little too much to drink (Don't worry, I left my car)
Over the past few weeks she's been sending me pictures of things she's doing around the house. All the things I've been asking her to do for years. All the things that, had she done them in a reasonable amount of time, I 100% would have proposed and married her. But she waited until I was gone.
So here I am now. We haven't really talked since that night (Friday), I've been short with her when she does message and I know she can tell. The truth is, as much as I hate it, whenever we talk, I break down. When I see her, it physically hurts. And it's not just in the moment, it takes days to recover. Tonight I was at a friends house (who lives down the street). She drives by and rolls down the window. She asked if it would be alright if she came down for a beer. It's not my house, I'm not saying no. And I told her I'd be leaving in a few minutes anyway. As soon as she pulled away, this friend's wife said that she absolutely still wants to sleep with me, but wants no attachments.
On the way home (I left before she got there), I was pissed. Angry as hell that after 4 years of my life, After destroying every semblance of happiness that I had, she had the audacity to think that I'd just stick around for her pleasure. As if my feelings don't matter at all. Part of me wants nothing more than to take her up on the offer, sleep with her and feel normal again. But I know if I do that, it's going to cause nothing but pain for me as she obviously just wants the benefits of a relationship, without the work involved. The other side of me is just saying to blow her off completely. But how do you write someone off that meant the world to you for the past 4 years?
So to the original question...Am I out of line with any of this? or knowing that if this is going to hurt me, I shouldn't do it? I'm tired of feeling worthless and doubting myself. but more than that, it kills me that she doesn't even seem phased by the fact that she just destroyed my self worth and everything I thought was true.
Sorry for the long post, This has been building for weeks and I'm legitimately lost.
Any help appreciated.

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Ever since i got discharged from inpatient ive been doing ok with my anxiety. Today though it went back high again to the point where i cant even complete a full day. I started to derealize around 6 and then the whole day was shot. Its like its affecting my days again. I get anxiety anytime my body relaxes or im too happy or too sad, or when im sleepy. The problem is i get tired fast and then the anxiety is high. I just dont know what to do. I take my meds everyday as instructed. Im not really stress or depressed. I sleep enough too more than enough. I felt fine this morning but as i got tired the anxiety got worse. I cant talk to a therapist because i havent been assigned a therapist. Im sleeping fine but i get tired way to fast now. Sometimes i just want to cry, im frustrated. I feel like my depression is getting worse but im like why?! Im happy i have a family, i have stuff, i have an education, i can go to college, its like im not stressed?!! I keep getting stuck in my head too, and i try not to, i dont know what to do. Im not stress, i dont feel sad i feel genuine happiness, so why doesnt the anxiety just go away!!?? The only way it goes away is if i sleep, but i get tired easily and i dont want to take naps because i wont sleep at night.

I had one appointment with a therapist and it was a little bit awkward. She seemed a little nervous and mentioned that my case might be out of her scope (C-ptsd). I appreciate that self-awareness and honesty. She sent me a couple YouTube videos after our session and mentioned scheduling again. I’ve reached out to her multiple times in the last week and nothing i’m OK if she doesn’t want to see me again but it seems a little immature and unprofessional to not have a termination session and give references.

I just went for a massage today to Deal with tension I've had for 3 years due to debilitating anxiety throughout covid. My main trigger was conspiracy theories and all that stuff... well a year on meds later I'm recovered and feeling pretty good, no anxiety, I was able to get off meds.. Then at my massage today, my massage therapist started talking about how in 5 to 10 years there's going to be no internet electricity or money, a social credit score, most of the people I know are going to be dead, people are going to start dying of starvation due to planned famines, and our city is going to be abandoned and overgrown and collapsed. This really set off my anxiety and I'm feeling sick now. Just looking for some tips to help forget this cause it's been a while since I had to deal with this or anxiety really.

They are the best fit personality wise and use ERP but aren't specialists in OCD specifically.

I have two boys, the youngest has autism, both have ADHD. As for myself I have ADHD and have begun to suspect that I have ASD as well. I observe my youngest obsessively pursue highly specific repetitve activities, like myself. Also like myself he has a penchant to get overstimmed and when things dont go 100% as planned then he can become extremely rage filled. When he goes into rage he will get violent and destructive, and while this is NOT what I do, I will however yell and feel tremendous irrational injustice as if in that moment I feel a compelling need to defend myself. I have never physically acted out or laid my hands on my wife or the kids, probably because I was raised by boomers that glorified the use of physical punishment until eventual quiet and inevitable exhausted submission.
My wife is a very cut and dry, unapolegetic and black and white person. I love her deeply but feel incredibly unsettled by her repeated insistence that I can "control" myself when overstimulated and that I am just not trying hard enough or something. I have done decades of talk therapy, have tried countless psychiatric medications, with only modest success or improvement. After covid my current talk therapist retired and I have been unable to get an appt with a new therapist or psych office as the waiting lists in my area are years out, but my wife said she is done trying to "do everything for me" and doesnt believe I am trying hard enough and that when I promise her I will call tomorrow to make an appt and forget because I work 2 jobs and a side hustle, then get the kids from school and play with them or ride them to practices and appts because she is always in pain and has chronic illnesses.
Trying to tell her my feelings using the non accusatory strategies I have learned from years of near useless talk therapy just doesnt work because either she will get mad and feel attacked or she will somehow make me feel like I am absolutely crazy and talk circles around me until I am confused. Then I start thinking I am just completely out of my mind for feeling like something is terribly wrong or that I am being manipulated.
I told her that I am beyond damaged and that I feel like I am never going to change. I am not going to be a person that is not going to get temporarily irrational and that I will probably never find a magic medication that help me have complete executive functioning when overstimulated, much like my son. She rightly says that she refuses to let her sons grow up in a house where they think its ok for people to yell at each other, and that when she yells back it is justified because she is setting an example for them that when someone yells at you, then you are justified to defend yourself and not put up with it because "Autism".
I agree that I want my kids to defend themselves and not be bullied to the point of suicidal ideation like myself when I was a teen. Its hard to argue with that. I came to the conclusion that maybe we should separate. Probably 90% of the time I have an overstim moment its usually because of her energy (Maybe two or three times a month). Her response to that was absolutely not what I expected. She menacingly told me that I either keep trying or she will fight me for every single asset we own, and will fight with every fiber of her being for full custody of the children because she would never feel safe leaving me with the kids alone if she thinks I am going to yell at them.
Maybe she is right that It would be foolish to trust me? I apologized to her and told her I would keep searching for mental help again and we have since reconciled and apologized for yelling at each other. I just get this dark menacing feeling like I am being gaslit, but I suppose if my 6yr ASD son thinks its my fault he messed up trying to draw Sonic the Hedgehog then maybe I really dont have a good handle on whom is being trustworthy or machiavellian? I just dont know what to do.

Hello. This is a ThrowRA account because he does look through my phone. I feel like my boyfriend has been mistreating me… but recently I’m starting to wonder if it’s just me that can’t accept my own ways. I can be emotional, I get attitudes and I can be stubborn.
2 weeks ago, I took a couple days off work to grieve the loss of a best friend who committed suicide. I stood home, slept, got a massage, and did nothing else. My boyfriend was upset with me (but didn’t mention it until last week. I work from home on Mondays and Tuesdays. I’m in finance so the end of the month is insanely busy for me. I know he has long days too at work. He got home and was upset with me over something but didn’t want to say what it was. I asked him multiple times. He was just treating my cold and distant and even slept in the living room. The next day he ended up confessing that he was mad I had the time to do my makeup but not have food ready for him and his teenaged son. This turned into a huge argument. He was yelling and cussing at me, so eventually I blew up and did the same. He was punching the air towards me. I told him to leave because I was afraid he’d hit me. He responded “if that’s how you felt maybe you should act right”! I was not innocent after this. I yelled back. End of the day the blame fell on me for this one.
A couple days ago, we went to the gym together. I got ready… did a little hair and makeup because I like to feel confident. Nothing extreme…. Just a little mascara and eyeliner. I had an obligation that evening so I only had a half hour to work out. I suggested we took separate cars so that he didn’t feel like he had to leave earlier than me and we would meet at our house in like an hour. His mood changed. He didn’t say anything. Then 30 minutes later I got a text from him saying something along the lines of “I thought it was weird you grabbed your phone off the table and made sure you were extra ready and suggested we take separate cars” I apologized and explained my reasoning to him. When I got home, he was upset. I asked him if he was ok and he expressed how insecure I made him feel. I tried to reassure him but his mood didn’t change. We went to Walmart together and I had a sudden burst of energy. (I have adhd) I was feeling goofy, hyper and in a good mood. I was trying to sing and be silly and make him laugh. It was obvious it bothered him. He said “are you planning on taking your aderrall??” And acted bothered by me the whole time. I asked him what was wrong twice but he denied anything was wrong. I told him he made me feel like I was bothering him because I know when he’s upset. Trust me… I wasn’t imagining it. He was still upset from earlier. He blew up on me for “having a terrible mood swing”.
Today, we were driving back from spending the night on a camping trip with his parents. I noticed he wasn’t stopping at our house but driving to his parents so I asked him “we aren’t going home first?” He raised his voice “no remember I’m the only one who helps my parents”. I said “ok I thought we would just stop at home first to empty the truck” My dog was home, and I felt dirty. I never said I didn’t want to go to his parents… just wanted to stop at home. He lost it. Started yelling at me. Asked me why I can’t just follow him like his cousins wife follows her husband… told me my attitude is a huge problem and he can’t stand me. Slammed on his breaks all stupid on the highway. I told him he snapped on my for no reason and he screamed “can’t you ever be quiet?!” I told him I have been. He kept asking why I didn’t talk to him on the camping trip and I told him it’s because he’s always mad at me.
I don’t know why he hates me so much but I’m starting to feel like I’m just a miserable person to be around. What I’m looking for on this post is some honest opinions. I would like to know if there is any way I could have handled these situations differently and been better on my side? I feel so lost and I’m blaming myself.