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2019.06.26 04:13 connorsja2003 Bill Does Not Suck Pay Pay
The one and only subreddit dedicated to the Christian guy himself, Bill Jensen.
2020.12.31 17:20 Ivy_Holo petownersinneed
For pet owners in need and for those who can help. 🐾
2010.08.06 22:53 KenNdungu Ten Ways To Make Money on the Side.
2023.06.02 18:22 PutRevolutionary2294 Virgin f33t pics
Dm me for some sweet feet pics for sale
Got bills to pay mouths to feed
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2023.06.02 18:21 DarthKamen [United States] [H] Nintendo Switch/Accessories/Game Bundle, MGS HD Collection 360 [W] PayPal G&S
First time, sorry for any errors, please let me know if I need to change anything. Sudden bills.
Link to item picture: https://www.reddit.com/useDarthKamen/comments/13y5c7g/game_sales/
Nintendo Switch Red/Blue Console: Screen has some Scratches, and red JoyCon is janky and won't work sometimes. Console itself works fine though.
Pro Controller: Replacement charging cable but works perfectly.
Smash Bros. Ultimate: No box.
I'm asking $228 shipped for all of that, though I'm open to offers.
MGS HD Collection Xbox 360: Complete, first disc works, Xbox broke before I was ever able to test Peace Walker, but seller assured me it also worked. $33, or best offer.
PayPal Goods and Services only, prices include the fee. I want us both to have some protection.
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2023.06.02 18:21 HopeDry Do you think God would forgive me if I had to do something immoral to make ends meet?
I am currently in a situation where I cannot make ends meet and have not been able to for months. I work full time but am so behind on rent and bills that all of the late fees and fines are making it even more difficult to get ahead. I was laid off earlier this year and denied unemployment and was without work for two months so I am insanely behind and cannot catch up. I haven't been able to wash my clothes or buy real groceries in over a month now. I applied for food stamps but was denied because I make too much money. I have used up all of the charities on 211.org
to help me pay my utilities and I cannot ask for more help until next year.
I live in an apartment complex and do not have any friends who can help me. I have been trying to figure out how I can make money fast and one of the things that someone suggested to me was making an OnlyFans account. I feel awful that I am sitting here considering it, but if I can make extra money to help pull me out of this situation I am in, I think I should do it. But I am worried God will not forgive me or take me back once my situation is straightened out.
It would just be for a little while, not something I would do permanently. I am getting desperate. I NEED food, and I am scared everyday my lights will get cut off. I have been on the verge of getting evicted every month and I am trying so hard to pray and keep my faith and be positive but none of it seems to be helping. I figured I can ask God to turn away from me while I do what I have to do and once I am in a better financial situation I will repent and return to Him.
I feel awful inside but I don't know what else to do. I know no one here can read God's mind, but for anyone who has been in a similar situation, did God forgive you?
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2023.06.02 18:20 anaconda-squeeze I "bought" a car a couple years ago and still don't have the title in my name
Hi, so I'm in a weird situation.
A friend of a friend had a car he wanted to get rid of. Long story short it was in an accident and needs work. I paid for a tow and the '05 car was mine. The issue arises due to my negligence in obtaining ownership at that time. I had the owner sign what looked like the title where it says "seller sign here" or something. Turns out this was not the title. No bill of sale written up or signed.
I went to the DMV thinking they'd tell me what I did wrong and it'd be an easy fix but it turns out the car isn't even in that guys name. They won't tell me whose it is and I'm pretty sure the owner is in prison. Yeah. So now I'm paying monthly storage fees on a car that I don't own and I can't get the title for.
The kicker is the guy who sold it to me was diagnosed with alzheimer's when he sold it to me and doesn't remember who I am anymore and won't even talk to me. At this point I just want out, but I don't know what to do besides just have it towed and forget about it. Help.
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2023.06.02 18:18 scotch_please Not an account holder; getting nonpayment calls and texts to my number.
Someone used my phone number on their account that they haven't made a payment on for a month or two. I was first getting calls and now texts. I called the Xfinity account security line and a foreign rep promised me she had my number removed immediately from the account and was no help figuring out whether any of my other personal data was being used. I'm still getting texts telling me to pay my overdue bill. My number was never used to open a Comcast account in the past so this isn't a case of old info getting re-activated.
How do I get in contact with a US rep to fix this?
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2023.06.02 18:17 gopsikaaamm How long does it take for a du connection to restart after paying the bill ? (Partial suspension due to late payment )
How long does it take for a du connection to restart after paying the bill ? (Partial suspension due to late payment )
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2023.06.02 18:17 Available-Muffin3800 I need help, what is the best way I can enforce malicious compliance?
I have a tenant. She has lived at her house for 16 years, but I inherited the house last year. So I’ve only been her landlord for a year or so. Four months ago she stopped paying rent. She was in a month to month lease and at that point we sent her a notice to evict if she doesn’t pay. Well she didn’t pay and we cancelled her lease, gave her 30 day and asked her to leave on May 1st. Well she didn’t take this well, which was to be expected, but we didn’t expect her to retaliate in the way she did.
It is important to note that she has never allowed us in her apartment at all up until last week. She called the state health department and had them come do an inspection on her unit.
Here is just some of what they found: Broken windows Holes in walls Holes in doors Broken cabinets Broken countertops Persistent and severe mold growth from a failure to open a window or use ventilation in the bathroom. And many other things that has been stated as the occupants failure to maintain the unit.
We are now expected to pay at least 10 grand in damages caused by her. We can send her the bills, but it is unlikely she will actually pay. We could also take her to court, but most likely the case will end up being dismissed since we plan on evicting her if she doesn’t leave. (Which will most likely have to happen.)
She also continues to threaten us. Threatening us with damages to the apartment. With costs to get rid of her. With reporting us for any and all things that she can find fault in us for.
So I need help. I know legally I can’t do much but evict her to get her to leave. But I want to make her life a living hell. I want to get revenge, to give her malicious compliance. I want to make her life just as hard as she is making mine. I know I am not a good person for this and I know that I might have really bad karma for the next 10 years, but I am so mad. I am typically a type A, never breaks a rule type of person. So I don’t have the brain to think about how to get back at people. That’s where I need help. I need ideas.
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2023.06.02 18:13 No_Juggernaut7659 Splitting Mortgage Payments with a Partner?
I was wondering if you could help me with a discussion me and my partner are having.
She has recently moved in with me. I have owned the house for 9 years and have 40k equity.
Her full time job pays 40% of our combined monthly income after tax and my job pays 60%.
We had agreed to split all expenses 40/60 because of this - mortgage, utility bills, food, holidays etc.
She has recently questioned whether she should pay 40% of the monthly mortgage payments.
Her point of view is that she shouldn't contribute to the mortgage as it is in my name and if anything were to happen she'd have no claim.
My point of view is that if she lived elsewhere she would be paying much more for rent and that the contribution is fair.
Do you know of any solutions or where to find good advice on this subject?
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2023.06.02 18:11 PutRevolutionary2294 Virgin feet pics
Dm me for feet pics Got bills to pay Mouths to feed
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2023.06.02 18:09 _Hounds_ ULPT Request: Stuck on a phone contract with Verizon. How can I get out without buying out my phone?
A couple months ago I decided to start a phone plan with Verizon. I had a fully paid-off iPhone 13, but the salesman said I could get a free upgrade for switching (as a 3 year contract credited on my monthly bill).
I didn’t need a new phone, but I figured why not. My concern was that if I didn’t like the service, I wanted to be able to cancel the plan. The salesman assured me that if I did it within a month, I’d be able to trade in the new phone for my old phone (or equivalent, since they ship it off at trade-in). This was a lie.
I went in after 3 weeks to cancel the plan because the service in my area has been worse than before, but was told the only way to cancel was to buy out the rest of my phone.
This is really fucking sleezy and now my only option is to keep this shitty service for 3 years or pay 1000 dollars. What can I do to get out of this contract without paying out?
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2023.06.02 18:08 Cautious-Motor5767 I'm trying to leave My emotionally abusive family, but I'm not sure if it'll just get worse.
Im 24 and I live in a 6 person home. My dad though undiagnosed could be described as a narcissist.
I don't know about alcohol, but he has a gambling problem. He dosn’t have a job he spends most of his time on stocks. Which I wouldn't mind, except for the fact my older brother my aunt, whose staying with us, and my mom all have jobs.
My mom is way better then my dad, but she also has her issues. For starters, everything I try to communicate my feelings and talk to her she's turned it around and made it about her struggles of acused me of being selfish without letting me finnish. This has made it almost impossible to set healthy boundaries or get emotional suport. She's trying to be healthier too by focusing on herself which is good but it feels like I can't talk to her anymore.
I love her, she and I have spent so much time together, but she's shown time and time again when it comes to us or someone else. She'll choose them.
There's also some sort of drama involving my grandma and aunt right now. I hate our family drama so I stay out of it.
Me, my aunt, and my older brother are planing on moving out. I know I should. Not only because I'm an adult but because this isn't a healthy environment for me. I've had meltdowns, shut downs and full blown depression growing up like this.
My brother has always been one of the only safe people along with my aunt though they have problems too. My brother can get emotional. He supported me alot as a kid but now a days it's too much for him. He also has a habit of flying off the handle emotion wise. Which I've done to.
Yesterday morning after a fight with my mom I tried to ask if he was okay and open up some emotional suport for him. He yelled that he obviously wasn't and to leave him alone. My aunt assured me it's not my fault and just a result of the relationship we built. I don’t quite unhappy what that means or what I need to do to make him feel safe to talk to me again, but I know he cares about me. Which is why I was comfortable to move out with him in the first place.
I always knew it'd be hard to get out but it's like cutting a vein difficult. I had a close relationship and still do despite it all I'm worried about losing everyone in my family because my parents twist things or people think I'm leaving due to whatever going on with grandma.
Admittedly, I think its starting to show. I can't talk about moving out with them because my brother's scared if I do they'll stop us. So from their point of view I've just became a dick for no reason.
We went to the little shop of horror show last night. It was a fun show. We were talking about it on the way home.
Then mom decided to use the opettunity to talk about our grandma, again I have no idea what she did. My brother and aunt said she did somthing and it has to do with my uncle, but they said they'd tell me when I left because they don't want me to be heavily effected till we leave.
My mom went into a thing saying the situation was complicated. That she's not that person anymore and they think my brother and aunt are 'recruiting people.' They said my aunt had a past. I don’t know alot but I know she was homeless for a while. She also got arrested for a protest during tumps election against the wall. Both things that I personally have no issues with.
I told then I didn't know what they were talking about, which is true. Apparently my mom took me leaving the house during her visit to breath and manage my mental health as me being mad at my grandma.
She didn't even BOTHER to talk to me. Then she went into a thing about how we need to learn to communicate with eachother. This is nice to hear but I've tried for years to communicate with both of them and they often take what I say as an attack when I'm trying to bluntly communicate my thoughts.
For example, I tried to talk to her about how lonely I am. It's not anyone's fault it's just something I've been trying to cope with. I tried to talk to her about it to get some sort of conformation I'm not alone and confort it was going to be okay and she yelled at me and interpreted it as me saying we need to do more things while she's working a busy schedule. Then she ranted about her day. This conversation confirmed what I feared, I'm alone. It ended with me running into the bathroom to remove myself before I broke down crying.
So, yeah, I need to get out. Problem is, I've never left home before. My parents have been supporting me. I have ASD and they've been helping me get services like therapy for it. I chose my therapist so they can't influence her. They also paied for my choir which Im worried theiylk hold over my head when I leave. They also pay my phone bill, and I’m moving in with my aunt and brother.
I'm hopeing it'll mellow out but what if I wind up in a more toxic environment. That stuff about my grandma is getting to me and because I'm moving in with them I can't ignore it. They've put me in a situation where I have to choose them or my brother and aunt whice is what I was the most afraid. Of I don’t want to be in this situation. I haven't gotten a chance to talk to my aunt or brother about this yet.
What do you guys think I should do?
How would you deal with this? I'm already progreaving the move, I don’t think I can handle this too.
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2023.06.02 18:06 Correct-Pickle3513 How much should I be paying for rent?
I’m 16 and make close to 30k a year (just started 2 months ago) I am pretty much self sufficient minus at home food and our house I feel bad because (single parent home) my mom always try’s to only give me stuff while we scrape even after paying bills and sometimes negative I want to pay some money towards rent for it how much should I pay
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2023.06.02 18:06 Cat_sith_tildrum Considering Bankruptcy but have a handful of questions. (USA- Birmingham, Alabama)
I opened a business coming up on 4 years ago. Unfortunately the learning curve for taxes was a bit sharper than I realized. I opened when Covid hit and during the 3 months my shop was closed. I was still paying rent and other bills. Unfortunately the money I had set back had to go towards those things instead of paying taxes off in full. Unfortunately it really put me behind long term.
With that being said the total tax debt would be as follows:
Federal: $14,000.00 State: $4,500.00
I also have a handful of medical debts I’ve incurred but nothing outrageous. Essentially a total of $550 for the medical debts.
The repayment was going well for everything until my wife lost her job & we had to move my mother-in-law in with us.
Current expenses are being covered by me, but by a thin margin until my wife is employed again.
I’ve got a credit score around 678 so I’m not too terribly worried about being dropped down to the 500’s or even 400’s. I’ve already begun working on a plan to rebuild my credit over time.
The main questions I have would be as follows:
- Will it impact my wife’s credit at all?
- Which should I file? Chapter 7 or 13?
- I don’t own many possessions, mainly my books and laptop. I am however still paying for my car. Is there a way to make sure my car isn’t taken or anything from our apartment to offset the debts?
- Will filing cause me to be evicted from my apartment? (We aren’t behind on payments or anything, more so worried about the drop in credit score causing an eviction.
I own a barbershop and file as a 1099 self employed worker. Now that I’ve owned the shop for a bit I’ve learned that I should have done a LLC & S-corp from the beginning. If I end up filing I will more than likely immediately LLC to prevent the same issue from occurring.
Just want to make sure if anyone is impacted it’s only me and not my family.
Thank you guys for having this group as well!
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2023.06.02 18:01 markofdestiny1111 Complete overwhelm
I'm not actively suicidal and I can recognize that I don't want to hurt myself.
I'm just really, really overwhelmed. I'm in grad school taking 4 summer classes (they end in 3 weeks and then I'll be taking 2 more 7-week classes). I also just got diagnosed with an autoimmune disease and missed a lot of work this year due to being ill.
I just started working a second job. I lost 1/3 of my income unexpectedly and I can't pay my bills. I am already late on rent and have to try to work in 20+ instacart orders this weekend while doing a 5-9pm class tonight and a 9-5pm class tomorrow.
Financially, I'm worse off than I've been in years. I don't know what to do. I already owe money to my family members who helped me pay rent last month.
I don't want to be a human anymore. I don't think I'm cut out for this. I have one year of grad school left and I'm trying to get done ASAP so I can be in my career and making good $$ but I don't know if I'll last that long.
Everyone just keeps telling me everything will be okay and that I can do this, but I also none of these people have been in grad school & they don't get it.
I am having thoughts of self-harm and I know it won't help, but... it's so tempting for a temporary release.
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2023.06.02 17:59 keferash ummmm ...I'm pretty sure it is not
2023.06.02 17:57 MrM4man I (29M) feel like my girlfriend (26F) has stoped trying to improve herself
We have been living together for about 3 years and her pot smoking has been getting out of control. Constantly hitting a pen, and is high the entire time she is awake. I don’t really mind that she smokes but she is having a hard time getting and holding down any decent job and getting any home chores done. She’s been through half a dozen minimum wage jobs in the last year and always ends up leaving them, often for something that ends up being worse. Her justification for leaving these jobs vary from inconvenient hours to rude coworkers and managers. She only works minimum wage part time jobs while I must work full time plus overtime to pay bills. We agreed we were going to split the rent bill when we moved in together, now I almost pay for it entirely.
I love her so much but I’m tired. Tired of working 45-55 hours on night shift just to come home and cook and clean for her while she relaxes on the couch. Our agreement when we moved in together we were gonna work our asses off, go back to school and build something together. I feel like I’m the only one working towards this. Is there any way to change things for the better?
TLDR: been working my butt off for money and to improve myself but my partner won’t do the same. Is there a way to motivate her to change?
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2023.06.02 17:57 Dense-Understanding7 Moving to Kildare to study
Is Newbridge in Kildare, an easy place to find a job that can pay the bills? I’m planning on trying to rent a room in the area whilst I study since I know the housing crisis will make finding a place to rent both expensive and difficult.
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2023.06.02 17:56 RyanAgz Accounting or HS science Teaher (Massachusetts)
I'm struggling to choose between the 2. I took a few accounting classes and am not passionate about but it doesn't seem painful to do. From my research, it seems like you can find a good paying job with relative ease, given a few years of experience. Possibility of remote or hybrid work is a huge plus and would want to lean towards that if possible. Also, I have a lot of extra credits already so if I got my Bachelors I'd also meet the 150 credit requirement for CPA.
As far as the HS teacher thing goes, I feel I would enjoy the career more. I was in the navy overseas for 3 years, spending my last year teaching 18 year old's how to build bombs. I enjoyed the teaching and also the mentoring aspect as it was a stressful job in addition to being a long ways from home in a foreign country. I've always enjoyed science and feel I'd be a slightly better than average teacher given my military experience and working with a bunch of young adults who are stressed/don't care/don't listen and successfully getting them to work. Yes, the pay won't be as good as accounting/CPA, but given the potential job satisfaction and holidays and summers off is a plus. (I have kids and really want to spend summers with them). also I'm struggling to find out how much HS teachers in mass make as when I look up jobs online they don't post salary.
College debt is a non issue as I have a Gi bill from the military that pays for it. Thanks in advance for any advice.
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2023.06.02 17:53 Unfair_Implement_361 I’m fed up of my housemates - Genuinely in need of an advice
I need advice on tackling a situation I’m facing with other tenants I’m living with. Because a lot has happened, this is going to be a long post. I understand that everyone is busy and it’s almost weekend, I will try my best to keep my story simple and short. I appreciate everyone in the community for taking out some time to read the post and provide all the right advice i can get. Thank you in advance!
I came to Canada during peak COVID as an International student to complete my 2 year diploma program back in 2020. I was living with really great folks in North York during that period. The whole program was pretty intense and both mentally and physically draining and so was the process of searching a job for about 6 months after completion of the program.
The job was Mississauga based and hybrid. Because the opportunity was good and I was desperate, so, I just grabbed it as anyone would in my situation. Fast forward 5 months into the job, travelling from North York to Mississauga 3 times a week using transit was too much. so I decided to move to Mississauga.
Though a connection of a connection of a connection, I was able to get in touch with a relative who was looking for a new place to move in Mississauga and she had been living in Mississauga itself for about 4 years now. After meeting and having a discussion we decided to rent a whole house with 4 rooms l together, but in order to find something within our budget and affordability, we decided to have 2 more people to join us and started for both a 4 bed house and 2 more occupants.
This is were the main part of the situation starts. Since, my relative was connected to various online social groups, she got in touch with a guy from waterloo who was desperately looking for a place in Mississauga because he got a job in Vaughan. I also found it weird but had to let the thought go. He also had a friend who he met in the college. My relative was told that since his friend was living alone for a while before meeting him, she had to bought a dog with knowing nothing about how to train that puppy, no potty train or pee train. We were made sure by the guy he and his girl-friend are working on it and will make sure that the puppy is trained timely and will do all that outside the house within one month of moving to the new place if I and my relative decides to move forward with these folks to move in. Eventually we did. Why you ask - because they were helpless and we thought we could trust them.
I, my relative and the guy we met online were added to the tenant contract except his girl-friend because she was un-employed and had no work permit. So in order to make our case strong, the agent through we got the house had to add just 3 of us. But it was decided from the beginning that the rent will be distributed between all four of us and whoever is taking the master room will have to pay more than the other rooms which the guy we met through online group insisted on taking.
Everything was smooth until first 2 months but last 3 month have been hell. We are having fights on the utensils, not cleaning the house and all which I understand such things to occasionally happens but unnecessary use of gas and heating - leading to excessive gas bills. Most importantly that poor dog. He is 11 months now shits all over the floor, he does not have any habit of peeing or pooping outside. These guys just stay in the room usually or most of the time stay out of the house for work and are left the dog a pad for him to do all the stuff over there. I mean the whole house stinks and makes me and my relative sick whenever we return back home from work. He’s chewing the shoes, slippers and its a complete mess. Recently we had a huge fight over this were I was assaulted by the girl-friend and I could not do anything except being standing there in a shock and processing what happened. That girl works in PSW sector and definitely has anger issues. Also, our landlord doesn’t know about the dog at all.
I have also tried talking to these folks individually and clear things out to maintain some level of peace, but they are acting immature to understand and are being stubborn.
Now the guy is trying to play a sympathy card that the rent is too much for him to afford and soon he will have to eventually leave the place, where on the other hand he just bought a new $45k car - good for him, but planting an idea to leave the place soon. Also, his mother will be arriving from another country and planing to live with us but in his Master bed room. Both the guy and his girl-friend are kinda using us to get some decent space until the guy’s mother is done living with them for about a month. I’m certain that’s gonna happen for sure.
I have neither no-one to guide me on this nor I have anyone else to share with since it’s like me vs 3 of them in the house right now. Trying to stay strong but having no legal knowledge or any support, I would like to learn what my options are and how I can take control of this whole situation discreetly or indiscreetly legally.
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2023.06.02 17:51 CroninChris David's Bridal Closing List as of Friday, June 2nd, 2023
Link to article: https://www.dropbox.com/s/7a3jg85eroufam5/AG%20-%20David%27s%20Bridal%20-%20Flyer%20-%2005-24-23%20v2.pdf?dl=0
Link to the video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qZywAaAjNcU&feature=youtu.be
David's Bridal Closing List:
Los Angeles, CA
Colorado Springs, CO
Port Orange, FL
West Melbourne, FL
Pearl City, HI
Sioux City, IA
Vernon Hills, IL
Bossier City, LA
North Dartmouth, MA
St. Petres, MO
Mayfield Heights, OH
West Chester, OH
Rapid City, SD
College Station, TX
Corpus Christi, TX
South Burlington, VT
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2023.06.02 17:51 Trashaccountto Husband is angry at me for not sending him my whole paycheck.
A big issue in our marriage is that i never help with bills. I was only working 3 days a month and have credit card debt that i could never pay down because interest ect. So i never helped with bills and also never got my cards paid down so my husband feels like I’m just using him as a human ATM. I finally left my toxic marriage and got my own apartment. Husband begged me to come back and i did. He finally agreed to letting me work two days a week instead of one (i stay home with my 4 kids the rest of the week) and said i can use my money to pay off my credit cards. I use my first four day paycheck to help pay for my lease break (my mom paid $1900 while i paid $600). My second check that i got paid today was $500. I was negative $30 in my account so total of $470. I instantly woke up and sent $350 to my husband (we decided to let my cards go into collections instead of making payments so i can help with bills), but he woke up PISSED to find out that i didn’t send him EVERYTHING. After him going over the fact that I’ve never helped with bills and I’m selfish or whatever, i sent him another $50. So that leaves me $70 to my name for the next two weeks. I don’t feel like i even needed to send the extra $50 but whatever. My thing is is he’s going over every penny that i need to pay him back for. I’m going to pay him 80% of every check i make from now on.. we’re starting “fresh” and I’ve made the choice to move back in, so why can’t we move forward? I’m frustrated that he feels ok to leave me with nothing. I don’t want to have to ask him for money.
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2023.06.02 17:51 ifhopediestoday My fiancé (33f) is on the verge of leaving me (36m) for someone else.
So short backstory. We've been together for 12 years, have 3 children together and have built a decent life for ourselves. We both work full time and when we're not working, we're spending time with our kids.
We've been at our breaking point due to my actions in the past (not being there emotionally or physically, verbally abusive, didn't show her any support). I was sick with a horrible disease for a few years and I know it's not an excuse, but I was trying to take care of myself during that time while still working to pay the bills.
Things have gotten to the point of being damn near perfect in the last few months and we've been the happiest we've been in years. I started a new career and we're both doing well except for my mental health. Mentally I'm insecure, jealous and basically self conscious due to a surgery I had.
So recently, this guy at her work has been flirting with her (I heard a conversation they had while I was on the phone) and I asked her if he knew she was in a relationship and she said she doesn't know. She tells me when she talks to him and trys to go into detail about their brief conversations but I feel like stuff is intentionally left out.
They leave work and drive down the road and he rides a motorcycle and goes out of his way to ride up next to her car and talk to her. It makes me jealous because he doesn't even know she's in a relationship! She told me that she is starting to get feelings for him and that if things were better between us years ago, she wouldn't even entertain him now.
I'm so lost and heartbroken. We've got couples counseling set up and I think she wants to try and work through this together but I don't know if that's even true. I don't know what to do with myself. She is everything to me.
Where do I go from here?
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