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2023.05.30 07:13 cmwtw The misguided, state-sanctioned money grab that is Taiwan's Real Estate Market
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As I write this post sitting in my apartment in Dakeng, there are currently active construction sites working on three sides of my building with the fourth side abutting a river. There are two 15-story high-rises going up, and then a whole cluster of new “tou-tian" individual homes filling in every last plot of uninhabited space available.
A mere 5 years ago, Dakeng was often affectionately referred to by Taichunger's as "Taichung's Yangming Shan" or "Taichung's Garden District", now it just looks like most everywhere else in Taichung: an unending sprawl of high-rises, iron-sheet warehouses, storage facilities, and non-descript, gray, identical rowhouses.
How did we get here? The answer is simple: the Taichung government announced plans to build tram rails out to this area. As soon as that happened, it set off a rapid, inevitable process of the filling in of any green or open space in Dakeng with high-rise apartment buildings. The first area to go was a massive community garden, sold by the city to a real-estate developer. On that area now sits a complex of 10 high-rise apartment buildings.
Instead of building public transportation to connect areas of high residential population density to areas of commerce, or city centers, the Taichung government built their trams out into empty areas which then created new markets for real estate. What's the problem you say? The subsequent high-rises are basically all empty. Maybe investors have bought apartments in these buildings, but very few people live there. They are what the Taiwanese call "mosquito halls", because the only animate beings living there are mosquitoes.
We have seen similar issues occur all over the world. As a country transitions from an industrial nation to a post-industrial nation, investors are risk-averse and prefer to put their capital into real-estate, which, they believe, is more a stable and worthwhile investmet. However, this only works for so long, and ultimately, bubbles form as they did, first in Japan, then in China and now, inevitably in Taiwan.
I'm not talking out of my ass, this is a real problem that Taiwanese economists are well aware of. See this article from just last year: https://www.thenewslens.com/article/171823
Why am I writing this? Well mostly just to get it off my chest, because it's sad to see a beautiful place like dakeng become just another homogenous sub-city outside taichung just because the Taiwanese goverment fails to regulate the real-estate industry, and also likely makes a pretty penny off of kickbacks and taxes and everything else the construction generates.
Anyone else feel my pain? https://preview.redd.it/p2ftu97p1y2b1.jpg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0e1951c2f1b34803aa115891aef3043637ea3ce4
2023.05.30 07:12 nantuko1 The plague that is real estate investing
Watch these videos to fully understand how we got here. Look for the common themes:
- Not a single thought or care about whether what they're doing is good for society or anyone else
- Unlimited levels of selfishness and greed (100s/1000s of flips & rentals)
- No value created, yet money is being made and they think this makes them smart
- Recruit as many "investors" as possible to increase the chance of their own strategy being successful, to feel less alone, to justify their parasitic existence, to feed their ego
"How To Become A Millionaire Through Real Estate Investing (Newbies!)" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=naZAknwNgkY
- Brandon Turner
"Tony Robbins House Flipping Secret for Massive Results" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P0ikMeCUUaQ
- Bill Allen
"How I Became A Millionaire In 3 Years Through Real Estate" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qlTk12cpNQw
- Ryan Pineda
"This Is How You Can Buy Real Estate With Little or No Money" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lXcnJmBGAeU
- Robert Kiyosaki
A combined 7 million views for these videos but there are thousands more and countless websites and groups promoting these schemes. It's clear what must happen to restore any sort of livable country, this shit has to be banned. Even if half of these worthless parasites fail (and they will fail), IT IS STILL SCREWING EVERYONE ELSE. Every time one of these parasites buys a property the "market price" increases.. and they buy and re-sell / rent them all fucking day long. Any time you try to buy a property, they are there competing with you. They either steal it from you or make you pay more, either way everyone loses because housing continues to get less affordable. This is happening on a massive scale and is totally regressive to society and is the reason you will never own a home and will eventually be paying the majority of your income to your landlord to breath the air.
Contact your MP, contact your city counselor, tell them you want residential multi-property investing BANNED. Do not vote Liberal or Conservative ever because they are obviously in on it. Who should you vote for? Who fucking knows but maybe process of elimination will lead to something else. There has been zero integrity or accountability for these corrupt politicians for too long and until that changes nothing will get better.
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2023.05.30 07:01 yeahlexander Stuck at a crossroads: Real Estate vs. Manufacturing
I am a senior in college planning on taking the LSAT soon and going to Law School. My plan has been to get a degree in law and then become a Real Estate Attorney, and slowly over many years building up a real estate law firm while then also becoming a real estate investor. After a few decades, I would hope to have amassed a considerable amount of wealth from my investments in real estate.
However, my grandfather and uncle own a very successful manufacturing business out of state. I could move there, learn the skills of the trade, and take over the company within 10 or 15 years, because I know my uncle is preparing to retire soon and he has no one in the family to leave the business to.
Instead of building my own wealth from bottom up, I could take something that already exists and profit from it while growing it further.
What do you think is the wisest choice? My mind is better suited for legal thinking rather than cold hard stuff like manufacturing (I'm a political science major). However, the fact that my uncle owns a highly profitable manufacturing business that I could likely inherit if I put in the work is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity that I don't want to regret not taking when I had the chance.
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2023.05.30 06:02 whyEven_Try_676 Manifesto of the Communist party
The history of all hitherto existing society is the history of class struggles.
Freeman and slave, patrician and plebeian, lord and serf, guild-master and journeyman, in a word, oppressor and oppressed, stood in constant opposition to one another, carried on an uninterrupted, now hidden, now open fight, a fight that each time ended, either in a revolutionary reconstitution of society at large, or in the common ruin of the contending classes.
In the earlier epochs of history, we find almost everywhere a complicated arrangement of society into various orders, a manifold gradation of social rank. In ancient Rome we have patricians, knights, plebeians, slaves; in the Middle Ages, feudal lords, vassals, guild-masters, journeymen, apprentices, serfs; in almost all of these classes, again, subordinate gradations.
The modern bourgeois society that has sprouted from the ruins of feudal society has not done away with class antagonisms. It has but established new classes, new conditions of oppression, new forms of struggle in place of the old ones.
Our epoch, the epoch of the bourgeoisie, possesses, however, this distinct feature: it has simplified class antagonisms. Society as a whole is more and more splitting up into two great hostile camps, into two great classes directly facing each other — Bourgeoisie and Proletariat.
From the serfs of the Middle Ages sprang the chartered burghers of the earliest towns. From these burgesses the first elements of the bourgeoisie were developed.
The discovery of America, the rounding of the Cape, opened up fresh ground for the rising bourgeoisie. The East-Indian and Chinese markets, the colonisation of America, trade with the colonies, the increase in the means of exchange and in commodities generally, gave to commerce, to navigation, to industry, an impulse never before known, and thereby, to the revolutionary element in the tottering feudal society, a rapid development.
The feudal system of industry, in which industrial production was monopolised by closed guilds, now no longer sufficed for the growing wants of the new markets. The manufacturing system took its place. The guild-masters were pushed on one side by the manufacturing middle class; division of labour between the different corporate guilds vanished in the face of division of labour in each single workshop.
Meantime the markets kept ever growing, the demand ever rising. Even manufacturer no longer sufficed. Thereupon, steam and machinery revolutionised industrial production. The place of manufacture was taken by the giant, Modern Industry; the place of the industrial middle class by industrial millionaires, the leaders of the whole industrial armies, the modern bourgeois.
Modern industry has established the world market, for which the discovery of America paved the way. This market has given an immense development to commerce, to navigation, to communication by land. This development has, in its turn, reacted on the extension of industry; and in proportion as industry, commerce, navigation, railways extended, in the same proportion the bourgeoisie developed, increased its capital, and pushed into the background every class handed down from the Middle Ages.
We see, therefore, how the modern bourgeoisie is itself the product of a long course of development, of a series of revolutions in the modes of production and of exchange.
Each step in the development of the bourgeoisie was accompanied by a corresponding political advance of that class. An oppressed class under the sway of the feudal nobility, an armed and self-governing association in the medieval commune(4): here independent urban republic (as in Italy and Germany); there taxable “third estate” of the monarchy (as in France); afterwards, in the period of manufacturing proper, serving either the semi-feudal or the absolute monarchy as a counterpoise against the nobility, and, in fact, cornerstone of the great monarchies in general, the bourgeoisie has at last, since the establishment of Modern Industry and of the world market, conquered for itself, in the modern representative State, exclusive political sway. The executive of the modern state is but a committee for managing the common affairs of the whole bourgeoisie.
The bourgeoisie, historically, has played a most revolutionary part.
The bourgeoisie, wherever it has got the upper hand, has put an end to all feudal, patriarchal, idyllic relations. It has pitilessly torn asunder the motley feudal ties that bound man to his “natural superiors”, and has left remaining no other nexus between man and man than naked self-interest, than callous “cash payment”. It has drowned the most heavenly ecstasies of religious fervour, of chivalrous enthusiasm, of philistine sentimentalism, in the icy water of egotistical calculation. It has resolved personal worth into exchange value, and in place of the numberless indefeasible chartered freedoms, has set up that single, unconscionable freedom — Free Trade. In one word, for exploitation, veiled by religious and political illusions, it has substituted naked, shameless, direct, brutal exploitation.
The bourgeoisie has stripped of its halo every occupation hitherto honoured and looked up to with reverent awe. It has converted the physician, the lawyer, the priest, the poet, the man of science, into its paid wage labourers.
The bourgeoisie has torn away from the family its sentimental veil, and has reduced the family relation to a mere money relation.
The bourgeoisie has disclosed how it came to pass that the brutal display of vigour in the Middle Ages, which reactionaries so much admire, found its fitting complement in the most slothful indolence. It has been the first to show what man’s activity can bring about. It has accomplished wonders far surpassing Egyptian pyramids, Roman aqueducts, and Gothic cathedrals; it has conducted expeditions that put in the shade all former Exoduses of nations and crusades.
The bourgeoisie cannot exist without constantly revolutionising the instruments of production, and thereby the relations of production, and with them the whole relations of society. Conservation of the old modes of production in unaltered form, was, on the contrary, the first condition of existence for all earlier industrial classes. Constant revolutionising of production, uninterrupted disturbance of all social conditions, everlasting uncertainty and agitation distinguish the bourgeois epoch from all earlier ones. All fixed, fast-frozen relations, with their train of ancient and venerable prejudices and opinions, are swept away, all new-formed ones become antiquated before they can ossify. All that is solid melts into air, all that is holy is profaned, and man is at last compelled to face with sober senses his real conditions of life, and his relations with his kind.
The need of a constantly expanding market for its products chases the bourgeoisie over the entire surface of the globe. It must nestle everywhere, settle everywhere, establish connexions everywhere.
The bourgeoisie has through its exploitation of the world market given a cosmopolitan character to production and consumption in every country. To the great chagrin of Reactionists, it has drawn from under the feet of industry the national ground on which it stood. All old-established national industries have been destroyed or are daily being destroyed. They are dislodged by new industries, whose introduction becomes a life and death question for all civilised nations, by industries that no longer work up indigenous raw material, but raw material drawn from the remotest zones; industries whose products are consumed, not only at home, but in every quarter of the globe. In place of the old wants, satisfied by the production of the country, we find new wants, requiring for their satisfaction the products of distant lands and climes. In place of the old local and national seclusion and self-sufficiency, we have intercourse in every direction, universal inter-dependence of nations. And as in material, so also in intellectual production. The intellectual creations of individual nations become common property. National one-sidedness and narrow-mindedness become more and more impossible, and from the numerous national and local literatures, there arises a world literature.
The bourgeoisie, by the rapid improvement of all instruments of production, by the immensely facilitated means of communication, draws all, even the most barbarian, nations into civilisation. The cheap prices of commodities are the heavy artillery with which it batters down all Chinese walls, with which it forces the barbarians’ intensely obstinate hatred of foreigners to capitulate. It compels all nations, on pain of extinction, to adopt the bourgeois mode of production; it compels them to introduce what it calls civilisation into their midst, i.e., to become bourgeois themselves. In one word, it creates a world after its own image.
The bourgeoisie has subjected the country to the rule of the towns. It has created enormous cities, has greatly increased the urban population as compared with the rural, and has thus rescued a considerable part of the population from the idiocy of rural life. Just as it has made the country dependent on the towns, so it has made barbarian and semi-barbarian countries dependent on the civilised ones, nations of peasants on nations of bourgeois, the East on the West.
The bourgeoisie keeps more and more doing away with the scattered state of the population, of the means of production, and of property. It has agglomerated population, centralised the means of production, and has concentrated property in a few hands. The necessary consequence of this was political centralisation. Independent, or but loosely connected provinces, with separate interests, laws, governments, and systems of taxation, became lumped together into one nation, with one government, one code of laws, one national class-interest, one frontier, and one customs-tariff.
The bourgeoisie, during its rule of scarce one hundred years, has created more massive and more colossal productive forces than have all preceding generations together. Subjection of Nature’s forces to man, machinery, application of chemistry to industry and agriculture, steam-navigation, railways, electric telegraphs, clearing of whole continents for cultivation, canalisation of rivers, whole populations conjured out of the ground — what earlier century had even a presentiment that such productive forces slumbered in the lap of social labour?
We see then: the means of production and of exchange, on whose foundation the bourgeoisie built itself up, were generated in feudal society. At a certain stage in the development of these means of production and of exchange, the conditions under which feudal society produced and exchanged, the feudal organisation of agriculture and manufacturing industry, in one word, the feudal relations of property became no longer compatible with the already developed productive forces; they became so many fetters. They had to be burst asunder; they were burst asunder.
Into their place stepped free competition, accompanied by a social and political constitution adapted in it, and the economic and political sway of the bourgeois class.
A similar movement is going on before our own eyes. Modern bourgeois society, with its relations of production, of exchange and of property, a society that has conjured up such gigantic means of production and of exchange, is like the sorcerer who is no longer able to control the powers of the nether world whom he has called up by his spells. For many a decade past the history of industry and commerce is but the history of the revolt of modern productive forces against modern conditions of production, against the property relations that are the conditions for the existence of the bourgeois and of its rule. It is enough to mention the commercial crises that by their periodical return put the existence of the entire bourgeois society on its trial, each time more threateningly. In these crises, a great part not only of the existing products, but also of the previously created productive forces, are periodically destroyed. In these crises, there breaks out an epidemic that, in all earlier epochs, would have seemed an absurdity — the epidemic of over-production. Society suddenly finds itself put back into a state of momentary barbarism; it appears as if a famine, a universal war of devastation, had cut off the supply of every means of subsistence; industry and commerce seem to be destroyed; and why? Because there is too much civilisation, too much means of subsistence, too much industry, too much commerce. The productive forces at the disposal of society no longer tend to further the development of the conditions of bourgeois property; on the contrary, they have become too powerful for these conditions, by which they are fettered, and so soon as they overcome these fetters, they bring disorder into the whole of bourgeois society, endanger the existence of bourgeois property. The conditions of bourgeois society are too narrow to comprise the wealth created by them. And how does the bourgeoisie get over these crises? On the one hand by enforced destruction of a mass of productive forces; on the other, by the conquest of new markets, and by the more thorough exploitation of the old ones. That is to say, by paving the way for more extensive and more destructive crises, and by diminishing the means whereby crises are prevented.
The weapons with which the bourgeoisie felled feudalism to the ground are now turned against the bourgeoisie itself.
But not only has the bourgeoisie forged the weapons that bring death to itself; it has also called into existence the men who are to wield those weapons — the modern working class — the proletarians.
In proportion as the bourgeoisie, i.e., capital, is developed, in the same proportion is the proletariat, the modern working class, developed — a class of labourers, who live only so long as they find work, and who find work only so long as their labour increases capital. These labourers, who must sell themselves piecemeal, are a commodity, like every other article of commerce, and are consequently exposed to all the vicissitudes of competition, to all the fluctuations of the market.
Owing to the extensive use of machinery, and to the division of labour, the work of the proletarians has lost all individual character, and, consequently, all charm for the workman. He becomes an appendage of the machine, and it is only the most simple, most monotonous, and most easily acquired knack, that is required of him. Hence, the cost of production of a workman is restricted, almost entirely, to the means of subsistence that he requires for maintenance, and for the propagation of his race. But the price of a commodity, and therefore also of labour, is equal to its cost of production. In proportion, therefore, as the repulsiveness of the work increases, the wage decreases. Nay more, in proportion as the use of machinery and division of labour increases, in the same proportion the burden of toil also increases, whether by prolongation of the working hours, by the increase of the work exacted in a given time or by increased speed of machinery, etc.
Modern Industry has converted the little workshop of the patriarchal master into the great factory of the industrial capitalist. Masses of labourers, crowded into the factory, are organised like soldiers. As privates of the industrial army they are placed under the command of a perfect hierarchy of officers and sergeants. Not only are they slaves of the bourgeois class, and of the bourgeois State; they are daily and hourly enslaved by the machine, by the overlooker, and, above all, by the individual bourgeois manufacturer himself. The more openly this despotism proclaims gain to be its end and aim, the more petty, the more hateful and the more embittering it is.
The less the skill and exertion of strength implied in manual labour, in other words, the more modern industry becomes developed, the more is the labour of men superseded by that of women. Differences of age and sex have no longer any distinctive social validity for the working class. All are instruments of labour, more or less expensive to use, according to their age and sex.
No sooner is the exploitation of the labourer by the manufacturer, so far, at an end, that he receives his wages in cash, than he is set upon by the other portions of the bourgeoisie, the landlord, the shopkeeper, the pawnbroker, etc.
The lower strata of the middle class — the small tradespeople, shopkeepers, and retired tradesmen generally, the handicraftsmen and peasants — all these sink gradually into the proletariat, partly because their diminutive capital does not suffice for the scale on which Modern Industry is carried on, and is swamped in the competition with the large capitalists, partly because their specialised skill is rendered worthless by new methods of production. Thus the proletariat is recruited from all classes of the population.
The proletariat goes through various stages of development. With its birth begins its struggle with the bourgeoisie. At first the contest is carried on by individual labourers, then by the workpeople of a factory, then by the operative of one trade, in one locality, against the individual bourgeois who directly exploits them. They direct their attacks not against the bourgeois conditions of production, but against the instruments of production themselves; they destroy imported wares that compete with their labour, they smash to pieces machinery, they set factories ablaze, they seek to restore by force the vanished status of the workman of the Middle Ages.
At this stage, the labourers still form an incoherent mass scattered over the whole country, and broken up by their mutual competition. If anywhere they unite to form more compact bodies, this is not yet the consequence of their own active union, but of the union of the bourgeoisie, which class, in order to attain its own political ends, is compelled to set the whole proletariat in motion, and is moreover yet, for a time, able to do so. At this stage, therefore, the proletarians do not fight their enemies, but the enemies of their enemies, the remnants of absolute monarchy, the landowners, the non-industrial bourgeois, the petty bourgeois. Thus, the whole historical movement is concentrated in the hands of the bourgeoisie; every victory so obtained is a victory for the bourgeoisie.
But with the development of industry, the proletariat not only increases in number; it becomes concentrated in greater masses, its strength grows, and it feels that strength more. The various interests and conditions of life within the ranks of the proletariat are more and more equalised, in proportion as machinery obliterates all distinctions of labour, and nearly everywhere reduces wages to the same low level. The growing competition among the bourgeois, and the resulting commercial crises, make the wages of the workers ever more fluctuating. The increasing improvement of machinery, ever more rapidly developing, makes their livelihood more and more precarious; the collisions between individual workmen and individual bourgeois take more and more the character of collisions between two classes. Thereupon, the workers begin to form combinations (Trades’ Unions) against the bourgeois; they club together in order to keep up the rate of wages; they found permanent associations in order to make provision beforehand for these occasional revolts. Here and there, the contest breaks out into riots.
Now and then the workers are victorious, but only for a time. The real fruit of their battles lies, not in the immediate result, but in the ever expanding union of the workers. This union is helped on by the improved means of communication that are created by modern industry, and that place the workers of different localities in contact with one another. It was just this contact that was needed to centralise the numerous local struggles, all of the same character, into one national struggle between classes. But every class struggle is a political struggle. And that union, to attain which the burghers of the Middle Ages, with their miserable highways, required centuries, the modern proletarian, thanks to railways, achieve in a few years.
This organisation of the proletarians into a class, and, consequently into a political party, is continually being upset again by the competition between the workers themselves. But it ever rises up again, stronger, firmer, mightier. It compels legislative recognition of particular interests of the workers, by taking advantage of the divisions among the bourgeoisie itself. Thus, the ten-hours’ bill in England was carried.
Altogether collisions between the classes of the old society further, in many ways, the course of development of the proletariat. The bourgeoisie finds itself involved in a constant battle. At first with the aristocracy; later on, with those portions of the bourgeoisie itself, whose interests have become antagonistic to the progress of industry; at all time with the bourgeoisie of foreign countries. In all these battles, it sees itself compelled to appeal to the proletariat, to ask for help, and thus, to drag it into the political arena. The bourgeoisie itself, therefore, supplies the proletariat with its own elements of political and general education, in other words, it furnishes the proletariat with weapons for fighting the bourgeoisie.
Further, as we have already seen, entire sections of the ruling class are, by the advance of industry, precipitated into the proletariat, or are at least threatened in their conditions of existence. These also supply the proletariat with fresh elements of enlightenment and progress.
Finally, in times when the class struggle nears the decisive hour, the progress of dissolution going on within the ruling class, in fact within the whole range of old society, assumes such a violent, glaring character, that a small section of the ruling class cuts itself adrift, and joins the revolutionary class, the class that holds the future in its hands. Just as, therefore, at an earlier period, a section of the nobility went over to the bourgeoisie, so now a portion of the bourgeoisie goes over to the proletariat, and in particular, a portion of the bourgeois ideologists, who have raised themselves to the level of comprehending theoretically the historical movement as a whole.
Of all the classes that stand face to face with the bourgeoisie today, the proletariat alone is a really revolutionary class. The other classes decay and finally disappear in the face of Modern Industry; the proletariat is its special and essential product.
The lower middle class, the small manufacturer, the shopkeeper, the artisan, the peasant, all these fight against the bourgeoisie, to save from extinction their existence as fractions of the middle class. They are therefore not revolutionary, but conservative. Nay more, they are reactionary, for they try to roll back the wheel of history. If by chance, they are revolutionary, they are only so in view of their impending transfer into the proletariat; they thus defend not their present, but their future interests, they desert their own standpoint to place themselves at that of the proletariat.
The “dangerous class”, [lumpenproletariat] the social scum, that passively rotting mass thrown off by the lowest layers of the old society, may, here and there, be swept into the movement by a proletarian revolution; its conditions of life, however, prepare it far more for the part of a bribed tool of reactionary intrigue.
In the condition of the proletariat, those of old society at large are already virtually swamped. The proletarian is without property; his relation to his wife and children has no longer anything in common with the bourgeois family relations; modern industry labour, modern subjection to capital, the same in England as in France, in America as in Germany, has stripped him of every trace of national character. Law, morality, religion, are to him so many bourgeois prejudices, behind which lurk in ambush just as many bourgeois interests.
All the preceding classes that got the upper hand sought to fortify their already acquired status by subjecting society at large to their conditions of appropriation. The proletarians cannot become masters of the productive forces of society, except by abolishing their own previous mode of appropriation, and thereby also every other previous mode of appropriation. They have nothing of their own to secure and to fortify; their mission is to destroy all previous securities for, and insurances of, individual property.
All previous historical movements were movements of minorities, or in the interest of minorities. The proletarian movement is the self-conscious, independent movement of the immense majority, in the interest of the immense majority. The proletariat, the lowest stratum of our present society, cannot stir, cannot raise itself up, without the whole superincumbent strata of official society being sprung into the air.
Though not in substance, yet in form, the struggle of the proletariat with the bourgeoisie is at first a national struggle. The proletariat of each country must, of course, first of all settle matters with its own bourgeoisie.
In depicting the most general phases of the development of the proletariat, we traced the more or less veiled civil war, raging within existing society, up to the point where that war breaks out into open revolution, and where the violent overthrow of the bourgeoisie lays the foundation for the sway of the proletariat.
Hitherto, every form of society has been based, as we have already seen, on the antagonism of oppressing and oppressed classes. But in order to oppress a class, certain conditions must be assured to it under which it can, at least, continue its slavish existence. The serf, in the period of serfdom, raised himself to membership in the commune, just as the petty bourgeois, under the yoke of the feudal absolutism, managed to develop into a bourgeois. The modern labourer, on the contrary, instead of rising with the process of industry, sinks deeper and deeper below the conditions of existence of his own class. He becomes a pauper, and pauperism develops more rapidly than population and wealth. And here it becomes evident, that the bourgeoisie is unfit any longer to be the ruling class in society, and to impose its conditions of existence upon society as an over-riding law. It is unfit to rule because it is incompetent to assure an existence to its slave within his slavery, because it cannot help letting him sink into such a state, that it has to feed him, instead of being fed by him. Society can no longer live under this bourgeoisie, in other words, its existence is no longer compatible with society.
The essential conditions for the existence and for the sway of the bourgeois class is the formation and augmentation of capital; the condition for capital is wage-labour. Wage-labour rests exclusively on competition between the labourers. The advance of industry, whose involuntary promoter is the bourgeoisie, replaces the isolation of the labourers, due to competition, by the revolutionary combination, due to association. The development of Modern Industry, therefore, cuts from under its feet the very foundation on which the bourgeoisie produces and appropriates products. What the bourgeoisie therefore produces, above all, are its own grave-diggers. Its fall and the victory of the proletariat are equally inevitable.
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2023.05.30 05:36 ecesllc Tiny Village Project
MODESTO COMMUNITY ACTION ASSOCIATION has announced that they are moving forward in development for the community wide effort at batting the escalating issue of unhoused and under housed folks in the area.
Since 2014, the Modesto Community Action Association has worked with various agencies and advocacy groups to build better, more accountable programs that provide real results to this problem. The group consists of both clients and providers of these services, which we feel often need to be given perspectives more often of those who actually use these programs and services.
Our goals include a drop in center and this project, Tiny Home Village.
Our outreach is done with many people who are involved in the daily struggle to survive. We are in touch with people who are dying to be active and involved, yet have no clue where to start. We seek to unite these people in the effort to make real and lasting changes in the waya service is provided and the responsibly we have to fellow human kind to give a hand up, not out, if we have those means.
This is a three phase plan that will identify and attempt to develop a plot of land we can have through either a partnership with a landowner or real estate agent, or with the city or county, using the resources of locally based doners to build a small community of affordable tiny houses and provide the homes as long term solutions for housing.
Each would be equipped with appliances and the community would be secure, with 24/7 on site security and manager who would be also living on site. The units would require the eventual occupants to provide in kind labor and solict financial assistance, to contribute to the effort. Residents will have a case manager and a plan towards self sufficiency, with check in required to be able to stay. There would be no restriction on length of tenancy, and rent would be adjusted to the work hours they contribute to the ongoing effort to keep the community solid.
Tenants meeting every week. On site manager On site security Fully equipped 200-300 square feet units for individual or family. Phase one - demo units (4), community outbuildings, and garden, and staff units.
Family units are larger, up to 340 sq feet. Individuals can be placed in one of three 150-300 sq feet units prr initial design and budget estimate.
The current goal is to raise the funds to raise funds. A funding campaign will be available online soon. We will seek the backing of both government grants and private donations. The committee is going to start meeting on Zoom (see schedule). We are going to be expecting to appoint the replacement of our founding Board member, Lola Kennedy, who passed away after a long illness last month.
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2023.05.30 04:10 slimshady713 Getting rent but don’t own a house?
2023.05.30 03:38 SBrookbank Moving to Virginia Beach?
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2023.05.30 01:39 FrostingStock4494 28 living with my Dad, feeling Stuck
I recently just moved back home from Denver, CO. I am have trying to get my real estate career moving from somewhere I am from. Recently, I have been wanting to up and move and start over. I feel stuck almost. I cant tell if I am running from my problems or I genuinely am not happy here. I have lived in 3 different cities since graduating college back in 2018 and have grown in each but still feel empty on the inside. What advice do yall have? I am sure I am not the only one! Thanks
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2023.05.30 01:17 Good-Half9818 Is there a way to create a cities search filter based on country pages?
I'm quite new to Notion and ran into following problem:
I created a master database where I list real estate brokers and added a property for the countries they cover. The countries property is a Relation to a separate database that only lists countries.
I want to create a search matrix based on cities + real estate type (residential / commercial) to populate a table(view) that lists a city in each row and the respective real estate brokers that cover this city based on selected real estate type filter.
Since the cities are their own pages within each country page, I am lost to how to create such a search matrix. Perhaps a formula could work or maybe I have to restructure the whole setup.
Any ideas and suggestions are welcome :)
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2023.05.30 00:11 RedClayNme 6k loan ASAP plz
It's for an HOA foreclosure auction. All that's needed to get the title is satisfying the judgement against the possibly soon to be former owners of the property. Their judgement for past due HOA fees is about 1% of the homes market value! Should I win, that same day I'd have to pay the fees associated with winning. I only have a loose idea of what that number could be. I have a little room in my pockets for surprise costs that could pop up though. A little...
My true concern is that the next day when the remaining funds are due (deposit has been made), I may run short. Running short will forfeit my bid and I lose the fees paid AND the deposit (Hypothetically speaking of course). The 6k is to cover that gap should I actually win. I am no real estate investor. I don't flip homes. I stumbled onto an auction site while looking for a 1bdrm apt. Rent in my city is getting out of hand and I was not okay with the thought of 18k, being the grand total spent at the end of a year's lease. And then to not be any closer to owning it? I couldn't do it ya'll. I had to make the cents make sense. Somehow I ended up looking at foreclosures on county websites till the wee hours of the morning. I fell asleep and woke up to this gem of a deal.
I'm okay with high interest as it's a short term loan. This is last minute,sorry. I found listing Friday. I don't have the app so no chat. But DM away! Thanks in advance! Plz don't waste your breath suggesting alternatives (i.e. tribal lenders,lines of credit,cash advances,pawn shops etc..) because I spent the weekend combing through them all.
Thank You for reading :) I only need the $6,000 should my bid win. Auction is at 10am (EST.) Tuesday,5/30/23. Even if I lose I'm willing to pay something for the consideration!!
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2023.05.29 23:50 Jolly-Leo-948 We're 30, does it make sense for us to buy now or wait?
My husband and I are both have an opportunity to move to Dallas for career growth. We're originally from Houston, but have been living in Phoenix for 2 years. When we first got to Phoenix we tried buying a small starter home or condo but the market was ROUGH. We could not compete against the cash offers and high bidding on houses in our price range ($250-350k). We gave up and have been renting. Now we have the opportunity to move to Dallas, TX and the market seems a little bit more feasible to get into. Also, I received a much higher salary offer in Dallas (combined income of $200k) in comparison to Phoenix. Now here's my dilemma, I don't see Texas as our forever home. I prefer Arizona over Texas because of the outdoorsy/active lifestyle it offers which is really important to me. I'm thinking Dallas would be great for career growth for another 3-5 years or so, but I'd ideally like to eventually plant roots in an outdoorsy state. We aren't quite in the position to buy a home right away in Dallas (we have zero savings/ I just finished school), we would have to save for a year or so to buy, unless we buy a small condo.
If we're not planning to stay for more than a few years should we just hold off on buying? It doesn't feel right to buy in a city we don't love, but also sucks throwing money away at rent..
What real estate advice do you have for first time home buyers in our age and situation?
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2023.05.29 23:03 Serious_Escape8685 Opinions on Boulder City?
Looking to move to Vegas from the south as we're looking for a slightly more liberal place to live and I keep getting drawn to a property in Boulder city. Of course the real estate people will tell you whatever you want to hear but I wanna hear it from people who live here and aren't making anything off of me. How is Boulder City to live in for a mid 30s something?
What about gun ranges for locals? Any good indoor spots that aren't tourist traps? I enjoy shooting and want to keep doing that if I move if possible but I'm not married at the hip to guns. We also like hiking and outdoorsy type activities and I hear good things about Nevada for all of that.
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2023.05.29 22:47 jackbillings Top Reasons to Hire a Notary Public in Mississauga
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Are you in need of professional legal assistance for your documents and transactions in Mississauga? Look no further than a reliable and experienced notary public. A notary public is a licensed legal professional authorized to perform various legal acts, including verifying and certifying documents, administering oaths, and providing legal advice. What is a notary public, and what services do they provide?
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Absolutely! Notary publics play a crucial role in real estate transactions by certifying important documents, such as mortgage agreements, land transfers, and property purchase contracts. They help ensure that all parties involved are informed and protected throughout the process.
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So, if you find yourself in need of a reliable notary public in Mississauga, look no further than The Notary Guy. With their commitment to professionalism, attention to detail, and dedication to client satisfaction, The Notary Guy is ready to assist you with all your notary public needs.
2023.05.29 22:18 Individual-Age7728 Why Season 1 Had Barely any Charges
Using a throwaway account for this. I hate that people are mad at CT cops when this wasn't their fault. UU had buy-in with the stamford police and a bunch of other police. We were all ready to do arrests.
The real issue is the state attorneys office. They just kept pushing back. My friend handles ICAC for one city, and he had been working on a case that UU gave him, and then suddenly he was told he couldnt move forward with it.
Now I dont know this for sure, but Roo was a part of another case that was going to trial, and apparently the prosecutor was pissed that she was working on other cases. Anyway there were some arrests but the prosecutors just wouldn't do anything.
And forget about arrests in ny. They do less then Connecticut. But we were all behind them and the detective who was driving around with her is really well respected and is a good guy. He was pissed about how all this happened.
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2023.05.29 22:00 Ajayu Last Week in Bolivia ep5: mysterious deaths, politicians turned TikTok stars, a WWE-style Royal Rumble in congress and more!
From Bolivia with Love
Not since the days of the dictatorships into the early 1980s have we seen government opponents (internal and external) die in mysterious circumstances with such frequency. Four decades have since those dark days, and in the last 6 months we have not 1, not 2, but 3 strange deaths
, that rival the demise of Putin's contrarians in Russia
. If true, who knows how long this apparent purge of government enemies (internal and external) might last.
The latest victim is Carlos Colodro, who had been charged distributing the assets of Bank Fassil
. Fassil went bankrupt recently, Colodro was charged with taking its assets to return the bank’s customers their money, transfer their accounts to other banks, pay back the salaries of Fassil employees and so on. Saturday night he turned up death after allegedly falling down from the 14th floor of a building. As per his family the corpse shows strange bruises not explained by a suicide, and he was missing an eye and a testicle
. Unconfirmed reports say the government actors had money in Fassil of unknown and potentially illegal origins
, and Colodro was perhaps getting too close to this information. As per his family’s lawyer Colodro had been receiving threats recently. Curiously the next day the Minister of Government Eduardo Del Castillo had a press release with an apparent suicide letter. This came as a surprise to the family as a search with the police at 11pm Saturday night did not find this letter. According to Del Castillo the letter was found (conveniently) during a second search at 2am Sunday morning. However neither the handwriting or writing style fit Colodro’s
. Take that as what you will.
Colodro’s death is eerily similar to the recent death “by suicide” of Christopher Balcázar
, who happens to be the defense lawyer for political prisoner and opposition leader Luis Fernando Camacho. On the night of May 1 Balcazar “jumped” to his dead from his 11th floor apartment
. At the time the police said they were collecting footage from the building’s security cameras, but almost a month later these haven’t been released to the public yet. Why?
In 2022 attorney Felipe Sandy Rivero
came out as a whistleblower exposing corruption within the ABC government agency (Administradora Boliviana de Carreteras – Bolivian Administration of Roads) with Chinse company CHEC. At the time of the allegations this was seen as the latest battle of the MAS civil war (Evo Vs. Arce) as Sandy Rivero was receiving help from a hardcore member of the “Evista” wing of the party, and the accusations were against the “Arcista” wing as allegedly President Arce has his people and family member working in the ABC. Sandy Rivero ended up receiving death threats and fearing for his life escaped to Miami. In March 2023 the Minister of Justice Ivan Lima (an “Arcista”) disclosed that Sandy Rivero had died the previous January in a car accident. The press was able to independently obtain a list of transit deaths in Miami and Sandy Rivero’s name was nowhere to be found
. The press then produced US forensic results indicating that Sandy Rivero “had assaulted his own body” and he had “attempted against his life”
, some convoluted language to describe an apparent suicide, there was nothing about a car accident in the document. The Evistas then pointed the finger to Lima as responsible for Sandy Rivero’s death
. Before dying Sandy Rivero made a video
in which he stated that he feared for his life from Bolivian and Chinese actors and wanted to explain the corruption details (fake documents, money laundering, front documents, etc). Here Comes Johnny
State congressman Federico Moron recently went to the police to make corruption allegations against Santa Cruz Mayor Johnny Fernandez. During his term Hernandez has been reluctant to construct new roads in his city, but has decided to make an exception by ordering the construction of an avenue linking Tundi with Las Peñas. Moron alleges that Hernandez conveniently bought all the land around the road
(currently under construction), once the road is complete the value of this land will increase and Fernandez will make a killing by selling it. Now Moron is under arrest
. You read that right, immediately after hearing his testimony the police arrested Moron on charges of his own corruption. The details are not clear to me yet, but are these charges true? Or is this a way to silence Moron
? Or a bit of both? Your guess is as good as mines. In the meantime Johnny keeps creating content for his REAL TikTok account “UncleJohnnyFernandez”
. His most common content revolves around him just giving money away while his own theme song “Johnny Cash
” plays in the background. Selected lyrics:
Jhonny Cash, with Uncle Jhonny Cash
The Land Cruiser waiting in the garage
I am Johnny, pure money
I am boss, I am Fernandez
MVP with only Mansions grandes [big]
I am Jhonny, they call me Don Dinero [money]
In the yellow Ferrari I arrived primero [first] The Congressional Battle Royale: A Fight for Signs and Glory
This week congress came together to debate on whether to censure or not Minister of Government Eduado Del Castillo, who is a member of the MAS party. As part of the process Del Castillo had to answer 11 questions regarding the violent “arrest” of opposition leader Luis Fernando Camacho last year. A kidnapping might be a better way to describe it
. Rather than answering them Del Castillo instead made a long partisan speech. Congresswoman Maria Renee Alvarez tried to voice her protest with a sign, but MAS congresswoman Tania Paniagua had other plans
, grabbing and tearing signs from opposition congresswomen. More opposition congresswomen then brought their own signs, which Paniagua also proceeded to grab and tear. Not happy with that Paniagua then proceeded to assault her fellow congresswomen and a battle royal ensued
. The fun also takes place outside of Congress
The Guarayo Province in Santa Cruz is home to the indigenous Guarayo people. A large part of the province is protected and Guarayo hold collective title for it. However for over a decade the central government created an “intercultural” program in which government supporters from the highlands are allowed to use the land of the Guarayo (and others) for their own. This has resulted in mass deforestation and has severely weakened the Guarayo way of life.
The “interculturals” simply take their land and do whatever they want with it. Finally a local district attorney was taking steps to remove these squatters, in return a mob of them went into his office an assaulted him
. The police were able to rescue him fortunately. This is not the first time the squatting interculturals have resorted to violence
. It seems the interculturals have taken the term "culture clash" to a whole new level.
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2023.05.29 21:49 Simian_Stacker US cities where house values are falling - and one where prices dropped $220k in a year (trillions in fictitious Yellen Bux value is evaporating from commercial & residential real estate in Democrat-malgoverned socialist utopias)
2023.05.29 21:10 3rdIQ Possibly Selling Home Without Realtor Marketing - Have Attorney and Other Questions
My last two home purchases were from: 1) a friend that was selling their home ahead of getting married, and 2) through a family trust fund, and I was a friend of the family. Neither property was listed with a realtor, and each seller arranged for all the closings. Seller #1 ran everything through their bank and the title company. And Seller #2 was the bank that managed the trust, and they ran everything through a Realtor who charged 1% to handle all the standard closing paperwork. For each sale, I submitted a generic written 'offer' and gave them $500 in escrow money, and in a few days had a signing appointment at a title company.
Now, I'm in the sellers shoes for one home sale, and through word of mouth, I have been contacted by two interested buyers. The Realtor in Sale #2 above still manages and coordinates all of the services to transfer the title for 1%. And I've just learned that one of the local title companies will take care of all aspects of real estate closings for a flat rate. I've had four friends buy and sell homes in this same manner in the last two years.
I'm not interested in doing the full blown FSBO deal (handling my own marketing, showing, etc.,) but I just might be fortunate enough to find a buyer that makes an official offer. I'm curious if I'm missing something because in this sub-Reddit and also reading online articles.... I've seen several people recommend an attorney when doing person-to-person sales like I've described. Under what kind of circumstances would an attorney be a benefit? And for anyone that has retained one, what kind of fees are typical?
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2023.05.29 20:16 sporkland Consequences of real estate and commercial real estate collapse?
I feel somewhat hopeful for the first time for SF. Prices were way too high for the density that the city is at. It was impossible for restaurants and non rich people to live and work here which lowered the dynamism and energy in the city. I'm hoping the collapse will create opportunities for restaurants, artists and small business owners of all stripes to start things again and thrive.
I'm curious though what the impact of the massive drops in asset prices will be. Presumably home owners will hold on and increase rentals. The commercial real estate companies will all collapse and hand the properties to the banks thereby collapsing the banks and requiring a govt bail out in which all the debt is wiped out? Are we in danger of having poorly maintained or dilapidated buildings in the core?
Curious what other folks thoughts are.
Full disclosure, I bought a place at the peak and got a great interest rate but the asset price is down significantly.
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2023.05.29 19:46 timothythefirst What careers are similar to real estate appraisal, or should I even keep looking in this field?
I’m 28 years old and live in Michigan. I would be open to moving pretty much anywhere. I have a bachelors degree for communications and professional writing, and I’m a state certified residential appraiser. I really only got that degree because I already had a bunch of credits that went towards it when I went back to school and I just needed any bachelors degree to get certified. And at the time being an appraiser was a really stable and good job.
I went to college straight after high school, dropped out and worked in warehouses and distribution centers for a few years to pay bills, decided that really wasn’t a long term career and I couldn’t keep breaking my back throwing heavy stuff around for companies that didn’t care about me at all forever. So I went back to school and got my degree. My dad is also a real estate appraiser and I trained under him for a few years and got fully certified to do it on my own a few months ago. The problem is he’s about to retire and I think the real estate appraisal industry is pretty much dead. Like, I could be wrong, but I don’t even think it will be a job that exists in a few years. And none of us saw this coming so soon. If I had made the decision to go back to school and did everything a year or two earlier, I would’ve been getting at least a few orders from appraisal management companies every week and doing great while the real estate market was hot during the pandemic. Now, I’ve been fully certified for 2 months, I’ve signed up to get orders from all of the major companies and dozens of smaller ones, and I haven’t gotten a single order. I’ve gotten 2 quote requests and offered to do them for the bare minimum amount I could do without losing money myself and they still gave the orders to someone else.
I think because of the fed interest rate hikes and Fannie Mae changing lending policies to phase us out this just isn’t a career anymore and I don’t know what to do. I feel like I wasted about 6 years of my life to get to the position I’m in now and the powers that be essentially eliminated my job overnight.
Right now I’m trying to become a tax assessor for a city or township, and I’ve had a few interviews that honestly seemed like they went really well, but I haven’t heard back from them. I had an interview to become an underwriter for a large mortgage company, and they offered me the job, but they said I would have to give up my appraisal license because it would be a conflict of interest, and the pay is so little I wouldn’t be able to support myself without doing appraisal work on the side. So I really don’t want to take that job but they said I could think it over for a few days and call them back if I wanted it.
My only other work experience outside of cashier jobs/pizza delivery while I was in school is at warehouses and distribution centers. Those pay decent enough to make ends meet but unless you end up in upper management they don’t pay enough to really build a good life for yourself and support a family long term. So I really don’t want to just accept that I wasted most of my 20s and start applying to warehouses again either. Does anybody have any advice about where to look for another appraisal job or how to find some kind of work in real estate?
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2023.05.29 19:16 earlymorningsingsong 29F ENFP and 31M ENTP — what is going on here? Why am I so sad?
I have been dating/texting this guy for the last 2 months. I think he’s fascinating and I want to know him better. We went on a few dates and it was like electric. But then he was gone on vacation for like a week, and then started a new job and then 3 weeks went by. We just met again on Friday and it was kind of awkward.
During the time we spent apart we texted every day for like hours. I put a lot of time into responding to his texts, thinking about some of his takes on things, coming up with thoughtful answers. I don’t like texting too much at the beginning of a relationship. I think it’s really easy to misinterpret things, in my case I’ll get too attached, and so this really pushed my limits. However we talked about some really interesting stuff!
I am new to dating. I only started like a few years ago, for personal reasons. I don’t know what’s normal in this situation other than that dating him makes me feel like I’m on a rollercoaster.
- I think he is incredibly smart—great critical thinker, not afraid to challenge preconceived ideas of things. I really like that he makes me reconsider what I feel to be true.
- he’s interested in cool things. The parts of history he likes are interesting to me and he takes the time to explain them.
- he sends me great articles. He has great taste in restaurants.
- He’s very physically affectionate and we align on a lot of the fun creative stuff in the bedroom, but have yet to do anything.
- he’s pretty open, if I ask him things he will talk about them.
- we have similar family situations and it’s nice to talk about the similarities and differences.
- When we text or speak, I feel like he’s not interested in me. I’ll shift conversation to something I’m interested in, and he disengages almost immediately. Sometimes he will have even asked me the question, like “what are you doing today” and I’ll respond, and he’ll just go “nice”. One word answers. He mentioned he has ADD, so this might be the cause, but I have known a few people with ADD who I don’t feel this way when I speak with them. I asked him about this like a month ago, but I think he has forgotten.
- he uses slurs sometimes. He thinks it’s anti-elitist to use them…what? Is this true? I told him I don’t like using them because it alienates people and makes them feel bad. He will correct himself now, but still says them when I’m not around probably?
- he keeps saying shit like “I’m seriously considering moving to another city. Im seeing a real estate agent this week.” When I asked him like “how do you want me to feel about this” he’s like “move with me” I don’t think he will go through with it. Each time I wonder if he’s trying to end it with me? I just try to be supportive.
- I spend a lot of time thinking about him, trying to understand the type of person that he is, and I can’t tell if he does that at all for me. There are some patterns of my own thinking that remind me of those 90s rom coms.
- he is kind of inconsiderate of my feelings. If I over-analyze something he will call me out on it and be like “no I didn’t mean it in any particular way,” but at the same time, Why is my brain over-analyzing everything he says??
- He talks about his previous girlfriends a lot, never says anything mean, more like observations. I genuinely wonder what they were like because he seems emotionally unavailable…how did he date people for a year or more??
- he seems to not be emotional at all. Sometimes I’ll check in with him after he says something concerning, for example today he was like “I am going to move” and I’ll ask like “are you doing ok?” and he will be like “no I don’t really react to the world that way” And it makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong.
- there is something about his life that makes it seem like we have to rush through things? Like he’s really busy with sports and stuff. I want his time.
- during the time when I have dated, I have tried to listen to the rules of dating conventions, for protecting my heart but also my safety. The way he operates seems like he has never heard of any of these.
How much of this is toxic behavior? How much of this is men? How much of this is ENTP? How much of this is texting too much and over analyzing? How much of this is friction from being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t think like me? How much of this is me not knowing how to date someone? How much is me overreacting?
Is it worth trying to push forward? How would I do it? Or is it just too much trouble?
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