Be my lover by la bouche

For some context, a man messaged me yesterday with a GREAT opening message. It was basically him telling me how much he loved my profile and outlining what he wants/likes in a woman. He seemed very intelligent and straightforward, even a bit poetic.
I sent him a message back in some words telling him I’m flattered and that I’d love to get to know him. His response was ok; he just outlined more of what he wants and that he’s a people person who travels a lot.
He then sent another message saying, “By the way, I’m an alpha male who knows what he wants. I don’t write to many people in this site. But your profile truly caught me off caught guard, in an enlightened way.”
I was really liking him but the last message gave me a huge ick. Self proclaimed “alpha males” in my experience are usually men that try really, really hard to prove their masculinity. Could it be different in the sugar world?

Hey guys, 22F going aboard on my first vacation without family. I’m heading to Japan. Very,very excited but very scared to be away from home and surrounded by people of which you have no idea what they may be capable of. I understand his fear should exist in my home town. But now it’s been activated at the thought of a 40 million population city. How do I conquer this?

I'm a first year Apprentice that just completed his first year so I guess now I'm a second year Apprentice. My company just fired me but I was never late a day I was never absent a day. I got all A's on my tests for my classroom apprenticeship after work. I bought $1,000 worth of tools almost before I was reimbursed my tuition by my job. That was a kindness that was extended to other apprentices but not to me. I was due for a raise and I was due to be reimbursed about $2,500 for tuition and they took me in the office and fired me. I asked why. They said because you broke a customer's window screen. I offered to pay for it. And they said we just don't want you here anymore. Because I told the people who ran the classroom apprenticeship what they were doing to me in the company which was prevent me from talking about wages threatening to fire me. They want me to go up on 40 ft pitched residential roofs without fall protection. I only pay me $18 an hour for that dumb s*** well my senior technician is too scared to do it. Too scared to do the work you ask your Apprentice to do what a bunch of

To make myself rest from working on my actual project I built a different kind of project this weekend: https://climberrank.com!
It has national leaderboards that can be filtered by state for sport climbers and boulderers. In addition to ranking by redpoint/send grade, ClimberRank leaderboards can also be sorted by send-index.
You can look at the route and boulder lists to see average redpoint/send grade and average send-index among climbers who tick a given climb. Although there are many confounding factors, average redpoint/send grade and average send-index can signal whether a climb is on the harder or softer side for the grade. This follows the intuition that the 5.12 that is everyone's first (or only) 5.12 is likely soft.
I had a lot of fun building the website and diving into the send datasets. I hope you'll find it interesting (or even helpful in choosing your next project!), and let me know if there are features you'd like to see. The next one on my roadmap is suggested climbs ("climbers similar to you like these climbs")!

First of all, they are far from having the best rates anymore and their rate change depending their mood. They increased because of why not (that's basically what they said in their email, "because our competitors are increasing their rate, we will do the same" – quite a poor communication choice).
I have to relocate and asked if my account could be closed, they insisted to charge $50 termination fees (which sounds like exit fees right?), while they claim having no exit fees.
When trying to bring that up on the phone (after having waited for a while, but that's normal I guess) with them, the person just shut me down. That person even sort of threatened me by saying they would put a note in my profile to mention I've been made aware of their termination fees, in case I switch to someone else or transfer my account to the landlord, as in if I don't do it, I will be financially responsible for everything.
If that was the only issue, but in January I went to live overseas for a month so I made sure to switch off everything but my fridge, and when I came back the bill was even more expensive than the usual. I had to check the meter and call them to get an adjustment, which made it slightly cheaper but I'm still surprised I had to pay almost the same as when I actually live in the apartment.
Beware of them, they are far from being transparent.

I (18F) have a boyfriend (17M) and we were dating for no more than just one month. I am a calm person, who likes to do things calmly and not be startled by specific situations. I have never felt jealous, much less have I wanted to make my partner feel jealous, but I admit that I can become someone narcissistic and proud. my boyfriend is very active, too jealous and possessive, he hates narcissistic people (I try not to be to avoid arguments).
I recently told him about the dream I had, about an unknown man flirting with me in a bar (and me wanting to go with the man).I told him between laughs because it seemed stupid to me and that it was not a big Deal, and yes, he told me to go with that man and I replied with another joke "it's not CHRISTIAN BALE, it's not worth it" and he has gotten worse.
Now he has told me to apologize or that she is going to pamper another girl (which has made me feel quite insecure), I refuse to forgive since I did nothing wrong, on the contrary, I have told him with complete confidence and with a laugh so that he would laugh too.
So AITA?

I’m currently lying on the couch not able to sleep and I need to get this off my chest.
I (37F) have a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend (46M). We’ve been together for a year and a half, living together for six months. We’re both happy to finally experience a healthy and balanced relationship. Apart from a few things each of us need to work on (which we both respect, we support each other where we can) we’re doing great.
One of my issues is getting easily distracted and losing track of time. It has happened on several occasions that I’d go out for drinks after work and come home late without notifying him. Or letting him know very late. I tend to forget and I’m working through trauma from a previous relationship where I didn’t have that liberty nor could I communicate about it. I’m getting better at it, but it remains an issue.
Last night my boyfriend had a work event. He didn’t specifically invite me but since I’ve been feeling depressed lately I told him I’d see how I’d feel and let him know if I’d come. A while after he left a friend messaged me asking me to join her for a drink. I thought I’d use it as an opportunity to ease into the social thing while feeling depressed: a drink or two with her to get comfortable and confident, then on to my boyfriend’s work event. At this thing there’d be at least a hundred people and given his position at work I feel obligated to be sociable and nice so I have to make an effort.
I let him know what my plans were, he didn’t directly respond but sent me a few uplifting updates from his end. By the time I was ready to face things he messaged me he was on his way home already. I went home under the impression we could spend some time together before going to bed.
He was very upset with me to the point he didn’t want to talk with me. I spent all day feeling horribly depressed in bed, crying about how I effed this up again and how this might impact the beautiful relationship we have. This evening we talked a bit and I found it hard to express myself, I tried to apologise but he’s not having it.
He says he’s apparently not important to me, my apology means nothing anymore and when I couldn’t stop crying he told me I shouldn’t be so emotional. He basically feels like I stood him up because spending time with other people is more important than being there for him. I couldn’t explain myself and he’s not willing to listen.
After him saying I shouldn’t be so emotional I left the bedroom to sleep on the couch. It feels like he doesn’t want me near him at all. How do I come back from this? How do I show him my apologies are sincere? How do I keep messing this up to the point I’m afraid it might cost me my relationship? I feel even more depressed, horrible, and alone.

So I’m short on rent by 300 dollars. I’m literally desperate at this time . I work two jobs (just started my 2nd job) and I will be able to pay someone back , I’m just desperate at this time. I am willing to give a personal numbesocials out just for verification if need be. The loan will be for less than a week

I was in what I thought was a good, long term, happy relationship. We had some issues but nothing relationship ending. But the one thing that had been bothering me for a while was his room mate (I'll refer to him as RM).
I had a bad feeling about the guy from day one. And I almost never get gut feelings. But the way he treated me, and any other woman in his vicinity just grossed me out.
My (now ex) bf told me a story at the time about how RM got drunk one night, and when one of the female room-mates left her door open, he just stood there and stared in at her until bf physically pulled him away. He told the story with a laugh like it was an uncomfortable but funny anecdote. I kept a very close eye on RM since that day.
A few weeks into the relationship, the whole house was having a party. Everyone was drinking and having a good time. I noticed that RM was being particularly touchy feely with all of the women at the party (only the women), including me. I also noticed that all of the women were visibly uncomfortable and told him multiple times to leave them alone. He did not.
One of the female room-mates (same one from the last story, incidentally) had a friend stay over, and she was sleeping on the couch. The party had wound down, no one was in the lounge room, and so RM took his opportunity to climb on top of a sleeping drunk girl. That's as far as it got, fortunately, before one of the other room-mates stepped in.
The whole house got together afterwards and had a serious intervention about RMs actions. I wasn't here for this but apparently he got a bit angry and defensive. Then later, he sent a long "apology" text. The text was all about him, and how he's struggled with alcohol for a long time and it got off into a bit of a sob story if I'm honest. Very little was about the girl he victimised or the other women in the house. He said he would stop "socially drinking" which didn't sit well with me. As someone who has struggled with addiction issues, I know that that is a cop out. My ex Bf told me that he meant that he wouldn't be drinking around the housemates. That did not make me more comfortable.
This man is still going out to bars, drinking alone or with other friends and then coming back to the house he shares with multiple women afterwards. There were multiple conversations I had with the girls in the house about it or where I heard about RM turning up at another female room-mate's bar where she worked so drunk that she couldn't serve him.
But at the time I let it go, it's not my house and not my position to say much about. I did make it very clear to my ex that I was extremely uncomfortable around RM. He made it into almost a joke. Whenever RM was away for a few days he would joke "oh you'll be happy he's not here". And if I said anything like "can he just stay away" he would give me what felt like a "play nice" response.
It bothered me. But what bothered me more was how friendly he was with him. Don't get me wrong, I know he was in a difficult position. He lives with the guy. He can't just cause tension and make everyone else's life miserable. I wasn't expecting just cold animosity. But he had dinner with him, joked around and talked like they were still good friends, sat and talked with him about career advice for 30 mins. There's a way to be civil and polite without being warm. It just rubbed me the wrong way. Ultimately though, I could accept that as long as he didn't try to diminish my feelings about him.
He brought up RM in casual conversation last week, mentioning that he crashed his car. I (admittedly, pettily) said "was he drunk?" Semi joking. Part of me wouldn't be surprised but also I knew it was a bit bitchy. He replied that he probably wasn't drunk, in a way that implied that he didn't have a drinking problem and that it's a terrible assumption to make. I was a bit bothered by him defending him and I just said something like "well he is an alcoholic". And he kept defending him, saying he wasn't. That conversation and thinking about the feelings I had been mostly repressing about RM essentially getting away with what he did triggered some really uncomfortable and difficult memories for me.
The next day I told my ex that I didn't want to come over anymore as long as RM was there and that was that. But I was still a bit bothered by something about the conversation, and the way ex treated me regarding RM throughout the relationship. It felt like he wasn't listening to my feelings and experiences. He discounted it all because "he's not evil, he hasn't done anything since, the other women in the house have forgiven him"
Every defence he gave hurt me so much bc he kept saying "I'm not trying to invalidate your experiences. But"
I ended up telling him I didn't want to be with him if he was going to keep taking RM's side over mine.
And he just kind of went, "ok."
So that was that.

I’ll start off by saying I have a decent criminal record, (no felonies) no training/certifications, and I am a recovering drug addict.
I went through my teens extremely depressed and suicidal, ended up using fentanyl and meth for years, and I literally did not think I would make it this far. I did not care about the future, maybe I was too stupid to even consider it. Now I’m in a position where I have 5 months sober, and have no idea what to do with my life. I want to be able to support myself and build a life and have a family someday.
I really am quite smart, my official IQ (tested by the state in juvy) was 138 at age 16, and I really just feel like I should be able to do more with myself. I live in Los Angeles in a sober living home, (rent is completely free) I have lots of time on my hands, but every job I’ve applied to has done a background check which has hindered me greatly. Given that info, even when I am able to work,it’s hard to see how making $18~ an hour will ever allow me to move out and start a family.
Is there any online courses I can take to get certified for something? Some sort of opportunity I’m missing? I know I fucked myself over hard and am now experiencing the consequences, but there’s gotta be something I can do to start the process. I’m grateful but tired of living in a room with 3 other guys. I want a family eventually.
(Yes I am aware of how stupid my actions were)

Listen... I know Maris is meant to be (arguably) the most detestable character in the entire show, especially based on how she treats Niles. However, as someone finishing up their Neuroscience degree, and also hoping to go to grad school to become a psychologist, I really feel that I must say one thing:
Maris is not an inherently a bad human being, but rather the product of her upbringing and unresolved psychological issues.
We already know that she has a debilitating eating disorder, especially knowing that she was overweight as a child. She is overly self-conscious of her looks outside of her weight as well (hence, her plastic surgery exploits and wig vault). Hell, the woman spends her free time in a damn sensory deprivation tank for unwinding (trust me, for most of us, that would be freaky).
There's much about Maris that is left unsaid, and though we laugh at her expense about her eccentricities and insecurities (especially because it's difficult to sympathize with rich people), I feel like many of her actions come from a place of unresolved insecurity.
This is especially true during the part of the show where she goes through her divorce with Niles. Considering the kind of unapologetic, devoted, and unconditional lover that Niles is... losing that aspect of her life must have been traumatizing to her. The one person that, she thought, loved her unconditionally ended up moving on from her, despite her methods of bluffing, and that caused her to go into an unhealthy cycle of binge eating and self-loathing.
I'm not here to absolve Maris' sins, and she deserves enough criticism for sure... but I think putting her in the position of a villain (which is not done by all of the fanbase but by enough of them) is unfair. In fact, it pretty much is a sacrilege to the mentality that Frasier and Niles have taught us to have as mental health enthusiasts.
What's your favorite Maris moment? To Maris! 🥂

I didn't think I was that bothered by the emotional neglect and physical abuse my dad put me and my siblings through. I didn't think it was that severe. Watched a video by Daniel Mackler on how some people come to be stuck and not grow personally in life and he talks about unprocessed childhood trauma.
I realised I've never properly reflected on my early childhood. There's a memory when I was 9 of me playing with my sister that I can connect with the feeling of completely and the innocence. As soon as I connected with that I started non stop crying and haven't stopped for 2 hours and I don't know what I'm doing. Somewhere that child got destroyed and my memory is a haze right after that but just the idea that you could do something like that to an innocent fucking child. Destroy their safety and ability to express freely.
I think I'm still just that small kid inside. No less than 2 years later when I'm 11 I don't recognise that person. Just so dissociated.
I've been dissociated my whole adolescence and just been maladaptive daydreaming.
I don't know what to do or who to talk to

Im wondering if this is a decent deal. The dealer is saying that the 235k is mostly highway miles but eh, i never trust salesman of any kind. The car is being sold by a used car dealer and its listed on carfax with the carfax report. Im not seeing much of real note other than it was in 2 accidents, both very minor, from the pictures it doesnt look like anything really other than some dings. But admittedly im not super knowledable on cars, never really needed one. I got around perfectly fine riding my electric bike or walking everywhere and uber for really long distances but i plan on going back to school and ima need me a car this time around.
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Any thoughts? The car really doesnt look bad from the outside, i cant see any visible rust or even sun damage. on the inside the seats are a bit funky looking tho, they were white seats and im hoping the brown stains are just sun damage and not something else. I was also told that the only thing that doesnt work in the car is a Radio which the dealer guy said he is getting a after market radio to install in it instead. I made a offer for $3000 but im still willing to buy it for 4k in secret if they absolutely do not budge on that price.

My best friend from childhood and I were always extremely close — like sisters — so we stayed in weekly contact over the years even after we went away to college, lived an airplane-ride away from each other, and started our own lives in different states. So, I wasn’t surprised when she asked me to be a maid of honor at her wedding.
But, she asked me to share this role with her other best friend, a girl that she went to college with, lived with for years out of college, and neighbors where she lives now. At first I was so excited for that — being a MOH is a lot of work, and what better way to make our best friend have the best lead-up to her wedding by teaming up? But I soon learned that making two people your maid of honors is awful and something I hope no one does in the future.
I’m sure that there are people who would work well together — and the thought behind it is nice — but working with her other best friend has given me complete imposter syndrome. In addition to just simply being bossy, cocky, and bad at sharing the responsibilities we BOTH were given, she has made me question myself and my friendship with who I call my best friend.
I now feel like I’m a worthless piece of shit because my ideas aren’t good enough, I’m not as close with my friend as the co-MOH is, and I’m not capable of talking with her in person often to get details on what else she wants. The co MOH keeps shutting down EVERYTHING I say, and saying, “well I know (friend name) SO well and I KNOW she won’t like that…” and “I really don’t like those decorations, I like these better, because the bride told me she wanted it” etc etc
I assume that the bride has no clue this is going on, but has mentioned to me a few times about how the co MOH is “so good at weddings since she’s been a MOH before” and “she’s is so good at writing speeches I can’t wait for it” and is honestly making me feel even worse about myself and question my identity in our friendship.
For an example, I’m a writer and so she asked me to write her and her fiancés love story for their wedding website. So, because I wanted to give her something special and because I wanted to contribute something that was JUST from me and not shared with the CO MOH, I went above and beyond and spent a few days crafting a beautiful story. Then she texted me today telling me it’s not what she expected, and that she’s just going to do bullet points herself. (Which I’m okay with — I kind of wish she told me more specifically what she and her fiancé wanted before, but totally understand what I wrote is not what they wanted.)
But because of another rejection to another thing I tried to contribute, I feel like even more shit about myself. I feel like I’m constantly comparing myself to the co MOH now and questioning my friendship with the bride; I feel like I can’t do anything right, and feel like I’m not contributing anything important because the co-MOH keeps shutting me down and doing things without listening to my opinion.
I have done everything I can to stand up for myself while also trying to keep the peace with the co-MOH. And I don’t want to involve the bride at all because this is supposed to be about her special time, but I’m just beside myself and don’t even want to be a maid of honor anymore. I would much rather have just been asked to be a bridesmaid so I could avoid feeling like this.
So basically, I’m writing this post to A. vent because I don’t know who else to talk to about this since I usually would talk to my BFF but I can’t… and B. also writing it to let people know that —as nice as it is to ask two people you love to be Co maid of honors — not to do it because there’s nothing worse than feeling like you’re not as close or not as good of a friend as someone else.

I'm really new to coding in general and having issues on my MacBook that I didn't have with my previous Macs.

1. Visual Studio Code isn't recognizing that I installed the updated Monobehavior and SDK per the links provided by the program.
2. After reinstalling I'm getting the same issue with Monobehavior but also now C# having issues with Omnisharp. Both issues seem to be a path issue which I'm having trouble understanding how to fix.
3. After installing/reinstalling Visual Studio Code I think the two things have been resolved (probably not) but IntelliSense doesn't seem to be working. Everything is checked that needs to be checked and I'm logged into Github, but I'm only showing a small list of autocomplete suggestions when I am typing.

How do I fix this? If you can answer how to fix the above too that would be great because I'm sure the issue will come back again. The next step I was seeing was to get into the code of the C# extension for the Omnisharp issue, but I'm not seeing how to access that.
TLDR: How do I get more autocomplete suggestions?

I finished my re-watch and I'm finding how Marty forgave everything Wendy had done in the last couple of episodes even more bizarre the second time around - do you guys think they stayed together after the finale?
I Just think of everything she's done between S1 and S4 and I'm baffled at how Marty can talk about loving her unconditionally all things considered.
I think she's a great character, super interesting and complicated but she's done nothing but show repeatedly that she had no ability to empathise and is willing to manipulate any situation to get what she wants.
Marty is not perfect by any stretch but the conversation they have in the hotel after Ruth killed Javi really brings home that he cares, he has a conscious about all the people they are hurting and all the lives they've destroyed.
Perhaps he can look past the things she's done and said to other people but the way she's acted with them also seems insane:
- In season 2 she literally went out of her way to undermine Marty which in turn made him look more and more irrelevant to Navarro (which could have ended with him being killed for being a blocker based on how Helen was asking Ruth if she could take over etc)
- She ignored every concern he every raised about not wanting to get even deeper with the cartel because she wanted to go ahead with a plan where they came out at the top rather than just get out
- Threatening Charlotte's lawyer when she was trying to get emancipation
- Getting Jonah's accounts flagged in the hopes he'll be arrested to scare him into coming back home
- How willing she was to tell Javi about Ruth before they even knew how it was going to play out but knowing full well that Javi wouldn't have hesitated to kill her
- Lying to Marty about how her conversation with Navarro went and Marty only finding out that he'd threatened to kill them all when he was being picked up to go to Mexico
- Getting herself committed to manipulate/guilt the kids into staying
I honestly think the conversation right at the end where she thinks Ruth's death might be too much to bare and that she'll lose Marty is realistic because I don't think he would have gotten over it as if it was nothing.
His ability to just go home at the end of the night and tell her that he loves her just baffles me and I don't know I'm missing something or too upset about Ruth's death to see it rationally

I (27F) am a pansexual woman living in London. I have a bunch of friends, and a lovely life. But I don’t feel held by the people in my life regarding my queerness. I just want to meet and spend more time with people in the lgbtq+ community, talk to sex positive people and go to some queer parties and have a good time. Although a lot of my life is fab and fulfilling there is this part of me that is dormant because I can’t engage with it with the people I’m around (through no fault of their own) I feel like if I could just find one event I could go to let that part of me exist the relief would be exponential. Halp. I go to a lot of festivals, but don’t have time to spend meeting new people as I’m always working or with my Co-workers.

I just don’t get it. I’m reading One Piece and it’s a great series. But nothing grinds my gears more than a beautiful drawing, or big moment, being ruined by a shitty 2 page spread. From text being lost because it’s buried in the gutter, to otherwise amazing drawings being indecipherable due to 15% of the drawing being lost, I just don’t understand the point. Maybe in Japanese volumes or digests, the spines are less rigid and it’s not as scary to bend them like crazy? But my god. Imagine if you just chopped like 10% of the Mona Lisa out right down the middle. SHIT DOESNT LOOK SO GOOD ANYMORE. So idk why publishers just slap those in without portioning them correctly on either side. Or at least give a generous amount of blank room between pg 1 and 2 so we can kind of position it in a way that it looks like one FULL drawing.

Title: AITA for Deceiving the Guardians in Destiny 2?
As the Witch Queen, I have always been driven by my desire to break the cycle of the universe and prevent its destruction. I have done everything in my power to achieve this goal, even if it means betraying the trust of those around me. But lately, I have been questioning whether I have gone too far.
Recently, I deceived the Guardians in order to obtain a powerful weapon that I believe will help me achieve my ultimate goal. I know that they trusted me and relied on me to help them, but I could not let that stand in the way of my mission. I had to act for the greater good, even if it meant deceiving those who had put their faith in me.
But now, as I look back on what I have done, I cannot help but wonder if I have become the villain in this story. Was it truly necessary to deceive the Guardians? Could I have found another way to obtain the weapon without betraying their trust?
I know that my actions have caused pain and suffering to those who trusted me, and for that, I am truly sorry. But I also believe that my ultimate goal is worth the sacrifice. If I can prevent the destruction of the universe, then the pain and suffering caused by my actions will be worth it in the end.
So, am I the asshole for deceiving the Guardians in Destiny 2? I still do not know the answer to that question. All I know is that I am willing to do whatever it takes to achieve my ultimate goal, even if it means betraying the trust of those around me.