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2013.02.10 05:15 llieaay DogCare: a forum on caring for your dog.
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2012.06.24 20:10 rhfs Dogfree: We Don't Like Dogs
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2023.06.05 20:00 cooldowntime Undiagnosed, waiting on appt, seeking advice
Hey y’all it’s nice to meet you all :) I’m not diagnosed with Crohn’s disease, but recently I spoke with a relative’s spouse (he’s a doctor I don’t remember which kind, but he also said he wasn’t a gastroenterologist but gave me direction) who strongly believes I could have Crohn’s disease so he told me to set up an appointment with a gastroenterologist for better judgment/information etc. until then, because it’s at least 2 months away (again AT LEAST), I’m thinking about keeping a journal what all do you think I should keep track of? I know food, and maybe weight. But should there be anything else? My types of poop? I would say how often but I mean that’s like an almost every time I go to the restroom thing so I know how common that is for me. Hope y’all have good days!
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2023.06.05 19:59 b33tleman I “lied” on my resume
I had a job interview today and I got the job. But I “lied” on my job resume. I didn’t actually lie but I didn’t add these last 2 jobs I had because I both quit because; 1.) I kept getting sexually harassed by customers and management didn’t do anything 2.) my manager tried to fire me for having food poisoning even tho it was a restaurant and I was literally projectile vomiting. I hate quitting jobs and I do actually have a strong good work ethic (I fucking love working it’s like a drug to me, I am very much a workaholic to a unhealthy level), I’m just scared shitless that it’s gonna come up on my background check and they’re actually gonna go “sorry nevermind”. It’s a stable full time job but it’s no like some big office job or anything like that. Think like grocery store type of job here. My anxiety is gonna eat me away but my old teacher told me that I should leave them off because they reflect bad on me. Should I have explained it at the interview or was it good I didn’t mention it? Is something that if they have questions about they would ask me, if not it doesn’t matter? Any thoughts? Am I just psyching myself out?
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2023.06.05 19:59 0ppie Dog friendly swimming near Burlington/Raleigh/ Piedmont triad area?
Me and my partner go hiking a lot every summer usually to small local trails or Chimney Rock and bring our two small dogs
. This year we want to teach our poodle how to swim and we heard recommendations of Jordan Lake because they have a wash station that could be helpful. I'm looking for any other suggestions in the area since I've also heard bad things about Jordan Lake being very busy. I don't mind crowds but would prefer a calm area to do this sort of activity for the first time. The closer the better but I don't mind driving a few hours out for a really great view!
Any other advice for dog friendly trails in general would be great too. Preferably few gravel trails, easier on the paws, I enjoy the trails at Chimney Rock because most are straw/dirt or staircases. Seeing the little waterfall was quite a treat. I've been making a list of places to visit this year and I know it sounds crazy but I actually like the heat and summer is my favorite time to see nature. We've been building up more endurance and have a good idea of what to bring to last a whole day out with lots of picnic breaks.
Never tried camping before and want to get into that too any beginner advice would be appreciated! Don't have a camper, just a small car and an affinity for adventure. Never got to do this kind of thing growing up and it's been a dream of mine, backpacking especially. Any tips and tricks to get started? Thanks!
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2023.06.05 19:58 StopEcollarBans The Truth About Dog Training Methodologies
Part 1: Purely Positive Training (aka: Reinforcement Based Training)
Purely positive dog training, also known as positive reinforcement based training or force free training, focuses solely on rewarding desired behaviors while avoiding any form of punishment or correction. This approach relies heavily on treats, praise, and other rewards to motivate and shape a dog's behavior.
While positive reinforcement training can be effective in certain situations, it has faced criticism and decreased in popularity since the 1990s for several reasons.
Part 2: Balanced Training: The Most Modern Dog Training Methodology
- Ineffective in addressing all behaviors: Purely positive training techniques may struggle to effectively address certain behaviors, especially those that are driven by instinct or rooted in fear or aggression. While positive reinforcement can be successful in teaching basic obedience commands or tricks, it may not provide sufficient guidance or correction for behaviors that require more nuanced training approaches.
- Failure to establish boundaries and rules: Dogs thrive when they have clear boundaries and understand what is expected of them. Purely positive training may struggle to establish consistent rules and boundaries, as it primarily focuses on rewarding desired behaviors without providing clear consequences for unwanted behaviors. Without proper guidance, dogs may become confused about what is acceptable behavior, potentially leading to frustration, anxiety, or even aggression.
- Lack of control in emergency situations: In certain situations, such as when a dog's safety or the safety of others is at risk, purely positive training techniques may not provide the necessary control or immediate response. For instance, if a dog is charging towards a busy road, relying solely on positive reinforcement to redirect the behavior may not be effective or timely enough to prevent a potential disaster.
- Ignoring natural canine pack dynamics: Dogs are social animals with an inherent understanding of pack dynamics. Purely positive training may overlook the importance of establishing leadership and clear communication between the dog and its owner. Without providing consistent guidance and clear expectations, dogs may develop behavioral issues related to a lack of structure or a sense of insecurity.
- Potential reinforcement of unwanted behaviors: Over-reliance on positive reinforcement without adequate correction can inadvertently reinforce or reward unwanted behaviors. For example, if a dog jumps on people and receives attention or treats as a result, they may continue the behavior despite attempts to redirect or discourage it.
- Advancements in understanding canine behavior: Since the 1990s, there have been significant advancements in our understanding of canine behavior and learning theory. This has led to the development and popularity of more balanced training approaches that incorporate positive reinforcement along with appropriate and humane corrective measures. These approaches aim to address a wider range of behaviors and provide a more holistic and effective training experience for dogs.
Balanced training refers to a training approach for dogs that combines positive reinforcement techniques with appropriate and humane corrective measures. The aim of balanced training is to establish clear communication with the dog, reinforce desired behaviors, and discourage unwanted behaviors. This approach takes into account the individual needs and temperament of each dog. The effectiveness and suitability of different dog training approaches can vary depending on individual dogs, their temperaments, and the specific behaviors being addressed. While purely positive training has its merits, balanced training has gained popularity as a more comprehensive and effective approach in recent years.
Here's why balanced training is considered a newer and more modern form of dog training, and why it is often regarded as the best approach:
- Comprehensive approach: Balanced training incorporates a range of training techniques and methods, including positive reinforcement, appropriate corrections, and clear communication. It takes into account the dog's individual needs, behavior issues, and desired outcomes. By utilizing a variety of tools and strategies, balanced training offers a more comprehensive and flexible approach to address a wide range of behaviors effectively.
- Individualized training: Every dog is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Balanced training recognizes the importance of tailoring the training approach to the specific dog, considering their personality, temperament, and learning style. This individualized approach ensures that training methods are customized to address the specific needs and challenges of each dog, resulting in more successful outcomes.
- Focus on clear communication: Balanced training emphasizes the establishment of clear communication between the dog and the owner. It ensures that the dog understands the desired behaviors and expectations through consistent guidance, boundaries, and reinforcement. Clear communication builds trust, strengthens the bond between the dog and owner, and fosters a harmonious relationship based on understanding and respect.
- Addressing underlying issues: Many behavior problems in dogs have underlying causes, such as fear, anxiety, or lack of socialization. Balanced training focuses on identifying and addressing these root causes, going beyond simply managing symptoms. By providing desensitization, counterconditioning, or other appropriate techniques, balanced training helps dogs overcome their underlying issues, leading to long-term behavior improvement.
- Safety and control: Balanced training recognizes the importance of maintaining safety and control in various situations. While positive reinforcement is valuable for teaching desired behaviors, there may be instances where immediate intervention or redirection is necessary to ensure the safety of the dog and others. Balanced training incorporates appropriate corrective measures when needed to address and modify unwanted behaviors effectively.
- Advances in behavioral science: Over time, our understanding of canine behavior and learning theory has evolved. Balanced training incorporates these advances in behavioral science, incorporating evidence-based practices and modern techniques. It leverages scientific knowledge to provide a more effective and efficient training experience for dogs, resulting in faster and more reliable behavior modification.
- Practicality and real-world application: Balanced training focuses on preparing dogs for real-life situations and environments. It equips them with the skills and behaviors needed to navigate various scenarios, such as walking on a leash, interacting with other dogs or people, and handling distractions. By incorporating real-world training exercises, balanced training ensures that dogs are well-prepared to handle everyday situations and challenges.
- Clear boundaries and structure: Balanced training emphasizes the establishment of clear boundaries and structure within the dog's daily routine. Dogs thrive when they have consistent rules and expectations, as it provides them with a sense of security and reduces anxiety. By setting boundaries and enforcing them consistently, dogs learn what is expected of them and are less likely to resort to aggressive behavior out of confusion or frustration.
- Positive reinforcement for desirable behavior: Balanced training places a strong emphasis on positive reinforcement, which involves rewarding the dog for exhibiting desired behaviors. Dogs are more likely to repeat behaviors that lead to positive outcomes. By using treats, praise, or other rewards to reinforce non-aggressive behaviors, dogs learn alternative ways to respond to situations that would otherwise trigger aggression.
- Appropriate use of corrective measures: While positive reinforcement forms the foundation of balanced training, it also incorporates humane corrective measures when necessary. These corrective measures are used sparingly and with proper timing, and they aim to interrupt or redirect the dog's unwanted behavior without causing harm. For example, a corrective collar or leash correction may be used to redirect the dog's attention and discourage aggressive behaviors, teaching them that such behavior is not acceptable.
It is important to note that balanced training should always be carried out by experienced and knowledgeable trainers who prioritize the well-being of the dog. Training techniques should be tailored to the individual dog and implemented in a humane and compassionate manner. By providing structure, positive reinforcement, addressing underlying causes, and using appropriate corrective measures, balanced training can effectively decrease aggression in dogs and promote more harmonious and safe interactions with their environment and other individuals.
The best approach to dog training ultimately depends on the specific dog, the desired outcomes, and the trainer's expertise. By embracing a balanced training approach that combines positive reinforcement, clear communication, appropriate corrections, effective use of tools such as E-Collars and Prong Collars, and individualized techniques, dog owners and trainers can effectively address behavior issues, build a strong bond, and promote the overall well-being of their canine companions.
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2023.06.05 19:58 Minimum_Ad_2851 Dog hacked up about a shot glasses worth of sebum after having dental extractions- good or bad sign?
(Yes there’s a vet appt scheduled).
TLDR: Dog had six teeth removed; one of which had abscessed into his nasal cavity; causing all kinds of respiratory problems. Last night he hacked up what I believe to be an enormous clump of sebum. Is this a good or a bad thing?
So I recently adopted a dog (7 year old male Pomeranian, neutered); whose teeth were rotting out of his face. We had a professional cleaning done; and had six of the worst teeth removed (including one that had abscessed into his nasal cavity; which was causing tons of snotting, snorting, sneezing, reverse sneezing, coughing & hacking).
Well last night my buddy ate a too-big piece of jerky treat (that’d he’d stolen from his Lab sister); and proceeded to start hacking it up. While the jerky was coming up; so did a metric fuck-load of boogers & then a shot-glass sized amount of what I assume to be sebum (looked at it under a microscope; and it def wasn’t tissue). It was several different colors & textures; ranging from viscous to hardened; light yellow to dark gray; which leads me to believe it had been building up in his throat for some time.
My husband took this as a good sign; saying that it was prob the “contents of his abscess” and that now our buddy’s respiratory symptoms might finally abate. I wanted to hear other opinions tho; while I wait for the vet appt- is this a normal/ good thing; based on my dogs history? Or an abnormal/ bad thing? Is this (along w/ the other respiratory symptoms) likely related the abscessed nasal cavity/ dental extractions; or not? Should I expect my buddy to get better from here on, or worse?
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2023.06.05 19:56 mommy-of-the-year625 What do I do?!
So we recently got a dog.. he’s a pit bull with something mixed in him but I couldn’t tell what. His previous owner said he does really well with other dogs and we’ve so far had a good interaction with a little pup. We recently moved into our new home and the neighbors have two dogs. One is a short grey pit and the other is some kind of white and brown scruffy big dog.. (not sure of his breed) but we are sure that their white dog has jumped their fence of three separate occasions! He attacked a little dog twice and bit an elderly woman the third time. Needless to say we don’t trust that dog! Every time our pit has to use the restroom I take him outside in the back yard but the dogs come up to the fence and growl and bark at our dog. Which causes him to try to fight back and freak out. I’m pregnant.. so when this happens I get afraid that he will be too strong for me to handle. But he never does this with any other dogs.. their entire yard is fenced in. So we can’t go up to their door to ask them to contain their dogs.. but even if we did ask I have a feeling they won’t listen. As it’s impossible to really have a potty schedule with our dog he just comes up to us when he has to potty. I’m afraid their dog will try to hop the fence to attack my pit.. but I’m also afraid my dog will try to do the same? As he senses danger when the dogs both come up barking and growling.. so my question is.. am I the asshole for asking them to put their dogs away so mine can potty in peace?? And if so.. how can I go about it in a calm manner to make him stop wanting to go after these other dogs. It’s fight for fight and I’m not sure who would win if the circumstances were to engage.
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2023.06.05 19:56 Unlikely-Coffee-3077 a bug's life the deleted scene the creepypasta
has anyone heard of pixar movie a bug's life it's the movie ant named flik team of circus insects an evil grasshopper who wants some food from the ants however in 2007 i found a DVD on the ground i was walking home it said Do Not Watch i popped it in Xbox 360
then the menu came 1st was Play 2nd was Bonus Features and 3rd is Set Up and so click play button the DVD started with static for 5 minutes the scene climax of the movie forg chooking the flik with flik coughing the fly sees the forg he was shocked fly roared at him but the roar was Godzilla roar and it was extremely loud i turned down the volume at 14% but the fly caught it him as forg going to the die but the fly dropped her maggots carries with the forg the screen cuts to black and i could hear of the screams an image of forg appeared
forg was dead his left eye and other eye was dangling his mouth leaking blood and his legs were ripped out the dramatic music was playing Eddie from cat dog i tried to turn volume down to 14% but the Xbox controller has no batteries but i was alone the screen turned black and then message appeared saying 1995 Pixar Animation Studios it went it back to the main menu of the Xbox 360 and put it back in the case i uploaded the footage of YouTube and ended up selling the DVD on big w it is out now buy this disturbing DVD
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2023.06.05 19:55 Old_Gymnast Depression profile markedly changed?
The TLDR: Has anyone experienced their depression take on a markedly different feel after a lifetime of it being a fairly reliable set of symptoms? ———————- The short summary: depression used to be classic “sad, lonely, self critical, hopeless, worthless, suicidal” with sides of “fatigue and difficulty focusing and accomplishing basic tasks of daily living”. Was that way for 15ish years. In the last year it’s been cognitive decline to the point of early dementia, bone weary exhaustion, can’t think, can’t remember, can’t problem solve, can’t plan, and anhedonia that picks up around 10am12pm (but not when I first wake up) (also, this was never previously an issue for me when young, new thing for the last few years). Dr is pushing “depression” as the cause and I think it’s bullshit - I think something is wrong in my body and they just haven’t found the real cause yet. I’m not sad. I’m not lonely. My emotions have never been more stable or more reflective of my life circumstances.
What’s else changed: Dec 2021 I got an adorable companion dog who has become a therapy dog. I was in a deep familiar sad depression episode at the time (having come off low dose antipsychotic and life events that would depress anyone) and that puppy single handedly pulled me out of depression. It was amazing. I did well/normal for 6 months. Then my energy tanked over the summer. I had severe nutritional deficiencies and an abusive manager and sudden money problems. I had a massive meltdown and I learned I am probably autistic and always have been. I had several colds I couldn’t shake for months. I thought I might have long Covid. It’s been a year since and I am excessively tired, excessively sleepy, executive functioning is orders of magnitude worse than it’s ever been, and most interventions help for a bit and then slowly stop helping.
————— Background extra dx info: about 20 years ago, while 15 y/o, I was evaluated under DSM 4 and dx’d ADD. They told me I also closely fit the Asperger profile but “couldn’t be both per DSM rules”. Cue a bunch of different med trials, including Wellbutrin and stimulants and non typical antidepressants, most of which would work well for a few months and then stop working. Each time it stopped working I got lower and more hopeless. It was also a pretty abusive home life and that was never addressed. I was dx’d bipolar 2 around 17 not based on any symptoms or any hypomania (my psych’s phrasing, and which has held true, I still don’t experience it) but based on my same day response/improvement to most of the antidepressants we tried. They were sure that the antidepressants shouldn’t beneficially affect me until weeks 2-4, and I always experienced a same day as first dose benefit or no benefit. So I was bipolar by brain chemistry 🤷🏻♀️ eventually I stabilized on mood stabilizer plus low dose ssri, and by moving out of my parents house and gaining independence. The Add/ADHD symptoms never got better (and were significantly worse on mood stabilization +ssri) and I quit everything toward the end of collage. My grades jumped up a whole letter grade that year. The next half decade I went without meds and learned a lot about how to healthily manage my symptoms, but it became exhausting and I needed support. I was again diagnosed with ADHD (now under DSM5 criteria) and have had trouble finding a good balance between the lability my bp2 brings, the deep depression I spend half my life in, and stimulant use so that I can function just often enough and well enough in public that I can bluff everyone and myself about how disabled I actually am. I’ve been on various meds over the last decade, and in the last year I’ve hit a new and different kind of breaking point. I’m fairly certain I am autistic and adhd (it’s in the family) and my previously gifted brain could qualify for disability payments. I’m about to have a sleep study, narcolepsy is going to be considered (my sleep went to shit before my depression did) I’ve been beefed up on all vitamins and testing isn’t finding a cause if my physical meltdown.
I just want to be smart and happy and fit. I was all those things at a few points.
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2023.06.05 19:55 byelection Anyone else listen to Radio Gunk? What do you think?
For those who don’t know, this is a YouTube/Twitch show that dunks on the HSS. They broadcast every evening that Howard is on air and do occasional deep dives of specific topics during a hiatus.
I randomly stumbled across them about 9 months ago and now put their show on in the background in the morning when I work from home.
When not bragging about all the New York bigwigs that she knows or has met, Monique is a decent host but the men are varying degrees of irritating (Dennis being the best of a bad bunch). I also prefer their prerecorded deep dive content where there is a specific focus over the livestreams with the random viewer comments and tangents (eg the prerecorded “Quivers: A Lie” breakdown videos Mo did with one other co-host were very good).
One YouTube comment pointed out that they dunk on Jon Hein for providing boring and unlistenable content about fast food but then spend ages talking about fast food themselves, as if that’s somehow more entertaining.
I like their content but it’d be one hundred times better if it was Monique plus one other cohost following a rigid list of what they want to talk about each day.
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2023.06.05 19:53 Interesting-Sink-538 Living with in laws is destroying my sanity
Last year, I (31 f) met my now fiance (27 m). Previously, i was sharing an apartment with roommates. We were splitting a two bedroom apartment between 3 people, and even then I was struggling with rent. Last fall, they decided not to renew the lease, since one of them was moving away. A month before the lease ended, i lost my job. My fiance let me move in with him.
Me and my fiance (Bob - name changed for privacy), are living in the garage at his grandmother's house. I grew up really privileged, so it took me a while to get used to the state of things here - fleas, roaches, mice and rats, and really really loud neighbors. There's also one bathroom for 8 people (sometimes nine when other relatives stay over) I know I'm lucky to even have a place to stay at all, especially after losing my job.
My fiance was raised by his grandparents. His grandpa died of covid, and after that, he became the "man of the house." The most frustrating part of this situation, is how he is expected to take care of everything. His relatives frequently interrupt him for rides, help with tech and fixing broken appliances. He even started working in middle school (off the books), and in high school, his grandma suggested he drop out because "someone needed to help take care of the family".
My grandmother in law is very demanding. My fiance takes her to the doctor, the store, restaurants, and to pay the bills. What makes me mad is how she just expects him to be available whenever she needs something. Right now, he is working full time, sometimes overtime, and taking classes to get his diploma.
Despite my fiance being the only one who truly takes care of his grandma, she dotes on and CODDLES his older brother.
Here's the "best part". His OLDER brother, (my future brother-in-law) is a capable but entitled jerkface. Where my fiance is kind and selfless, his older brother is the most selfish person to ever grace the planet. His brother doesn't have a bedroom, so he frequently treats the bathroom as his "second home". BIL works out in the bathroom, listens to podcasts in the bathroom, takes long showers, and does his hair. He spends an average of 2-4 hours in the bathroom every single day. Remember how I said there's only one bathroom? His relatives, even his grandma, have to poop and pee in bags because they can't hold it. I have ibs d, and am not willing to sh*t in a bag. I usually drive to a fast food restaurant down the street. Despite all this, his grandmother is somehow okay with it. She always makes excuses for him, citing how much pressure he is under. (Note that he only works part-time, and mostly plays video games, he pays absolutely nothing even though he owes all relatives. He even lies to his grandmother, promising to pay her and making excuses that he doesn't have money - but somehow he manages to come home with bags of designer clothing, and orders LOTS of delivery food.
There are also fights over parking. We live in a low-income area, so that means we're not the only ones with a multi-generational family crammed into one house. That means street parking is insane. We have 2 cars. Grandmother-in-law lets us park in the driveway because my fiance is the only one who consistently paid rent and took care of the family.
Brother-in-law likes to park blocking the driveway. He parks at night, blocking us in, and then in the morning begins his 2-4 hour long getting ready routine. Since there is only one bathroom, we have to hold it, and since i have ibs it's hard to hold it. And being blocked in means we can't leave to drive down the road to go to the bathroom at a restaurant. And yes, I have had bladder accidents.
Our temporary solution is to park the second car in front of the driveway, so we can get out if we need to. But everyday Grandma in law comes, saying where is "poor" brother-in-law supposed to park? What if the neighbors steal his parking again? I have explained the situation, that I can't hold it and we need to be able to leave, but she assures me that this won't be a problem. she could always "just ask him for the keys".
Granted, my last two bladder accidents were a result of waiting for brother in law to "feel like" lending his grandma the keys so we could move his car. He's petty, so when she says me or my fiance are waiting to use the bathroom, he'll take even longer i.e. 5 hours instead of 4. (he really doesnt get along with my fiance). He frequently shouts at her saying, "it's not my fault." or "stop rushing me"
Here's another example of his brother's "awesome" personality. Last winter, grandma-in-law got sick. My fiance and I both came home from work. His cousin said he was worried about grandma. We checked on her, and she looked very very sick, so we rushed her to the hospital. Even though my fiance had work the next day. We waited 6 hours at the hospital before they told us she had covid and was very sick. Keep in mind, grandpa in law died of covid, making it all the more serious.
Where was her "favorito" (brother in law)? In the living room, taking a nap. It turns out he had the whole day off, and his car was working, meaning he had no excuse not to take her. She was literally in the next room over crying in pain and he. did. nothing. A real piece of work. It makes me mad, because my fiance, is the one spoiling his grandma. Brother-in-law has shown time and time again, he doesn't care for her, but she still goes out of her way to coddle him.
After all this, she lets it slide though. She told me, "I can't rely on him (brother in law), he won't help me, so Bob (my fiance) will have to do it"
Bob's not the only one with a car! He IS the only one who consistently paid her rent. He IS the only one who consistently takes care of her. and he is the only one working full-time and going to school.
I have tried to kindly explain that Bob is busy. We took him to the doctor recently, and his blood pressure was so high, the doctor was surprised because he is only 27. He said if it continues to go up, he will be at risk for a stroke. At 27 years old! I have told his grandma this, I have explained that he has homework, that he's tired from work. But she doesn't care. Immediately aftewards she'll say something like, "yeah, but the one im worried about is his older brother" She'll also say things like, "oh, i cant get checked up by the doctor because Bob won't take me" or "bob has to fix his brothers car".
She also consistently interrupts. He'll be taking an exam for his online classes and she'll keep calling and banging on the door until he answers. And for what? To complain about the state of the house, to add to his stress levels, to ask for a ride.
She even mentioned she wants to leave him the house when she passes away (his grandpa wanted him to inherit), but said, "he just needs to promise that he'll make sure everyone is clothed and fed.
This pissed me off. Clothed and fed? The house is full of able bodied ADULTs who are older then him and she wants him to dedicate his life to taking care of him?
Here's the list of people she wants him to cloth and feed:
His older aunt
His older brother
His great aunt and her boyfriend
His teenage cousin, who he practically raised himself because "someone had to" and his mom (the aunt who lives there, didnt feel like it)
Everything his grandma wants comes at the cost of my fiances happiness. She doesnt even want us to move. She'll cry saying things like, "i know you probably want to leave me and start a family but what about MY kids? They'll be homeless." Like lady, you're "kids" are adults who have been given the free ride to have fun while my fiance had to give up his childhood to take care of them! I mean, she literally makes the bed for his older brother every day. She also loves to bring teenage cousin into the mix. "Well, Bob was like a father to him. He needs a dad."
My fiance is not his dad! He is his cousin! He's 27!! Meanwhile his cousins biological mother is here, but she chooses to smoke meth and leave everything up to my fiance.
GIL is very manipulative she loves to bring up. "I'm so stressed," or "If Bob leaves, everyone will be homeless and I'll die of sadness" or "doesn't he care about me?" But I have little sympathy for her crocodile tears. I could easily turn around and say, "What about Bob?" "Bob's at risk of a heart attack from all the stress"
It'd also be one thing if she too had to care for an aging parent - but nope, she was well cared for by her husband, and got to enjoy her life to the fullest. Till the moment he died, grandpa in law (and my fiance) took care of EVERYTHING.
Honestly, I am this close to calling his grandmother out. She sacrificed his happiness for everyone else. And even now, when he's finally working to get a diploma and get out of the cycle of poverty, she doesn't respect his time. When I tell her "he has homework to do, sorry, now's not a good time" she'll say, "Why did he want to take those classes?" or "I don't know how he's gonna do it, going to school and working at the same time" My fiance is a sweetheart, and tries to see the good in everyone. He reminds me that she's older and that we have to be patient with her.
In their defense, my in-laws are very nice to ME. Especially, grandmother-in-law. She cooks good food, she gives me little knick-knacks of hers, and she let me into her home when I didn't have a job. I know I should be grateful. And I feel bad for even writing this because she probably doesn't know how much I resent her.
But her being nice to ME is not enough. I love my fiance. He is caring and kind and the most selfless person I ever met, and seeing him get taken advantage of by an entire family just makes me so mad. It's very frustrating. And as a result, I've been crying over this. I am depressed and irritable and I end up taking it out by withdrawing from him. That's the worse part. Like "Sorry I'm so irritable and take it out on you, im just mad seeing how other people treat you badly" I feel awful. At a time when I'm supposed to be comforting him when he has high blood pressure, he ends up comforting me. Sometimes he even has to calm me down, because I get very angry, and living in the same household, means I cannot always hide and calm down on my own. Sometimes GIL invites herself into the garage blocking the doorway, and the bathroom is occupied by brother in law, so I cannot even step out to calm down.
My fiance tells me that he knows things will get better, that it'll be okay. He tells me he is grateful for our relationship, and that he needs me, but I just feel guilty. I hate that I'm letting all this get to me, that I'm letting myself get depressed and that im such a pessimist and angry. I have so much anger, especially towards his Grandmother in law. I have seen myself change, growing less and less empathetic and more short-tempered.
I want to take him away from here. I want to protect him and rescue him because I love him and cant stand the way they treat him. I want him to have a good life. But I feel so helpless.
This spring, we were supposed to move. I had another job at the time (part time retail). I quit because we were about to move and then plans fell through and we ended up having to stay. I have a degree and years of experience in different jobs. Im trying to get a government job, but getting frustrated by the slow process. I'm in the job market getting ghosted by hiring managers. I had an interview lined up with a good job, that I was qualified for and that would have paid enough to help us move, but they "decided not to go forward with the interviews at this time". I got extremely depressed after that.
We were both in debt before we met, especially me. So every paycheck just goes to creditors, and it's hard to save up money to move. We are on food stamps, and rarely leave the house, because gas is so expensive. On top of that, our dog is sick. I took her to the vet because I saw a lump. The vet said it was most likely cancer and wanted 600 dollars just for the blood work and x-ray. We don't have 600 dollars. We don't even have much gas money.
I should also explain that a lot of the things I do for stress relief are not available here. I love to bake, but the kitchen is full of roaches and fleas, and the family uses the oven to store pots and pans. My old apartment had a pool, but here there is nothing. It's in a bad neighborhood, and not safe to walk outside, even during the day. We don't have a lot of space. We use the garage for storage, so it's not like my old apartment where I could use a table to do my arts and crafts projects. Even going places like the park or museums is hard, because we don't have much gas money.
I know I'm lucky to have a place to live. And more than that I'm lucky to have a good guy. But right now I'm just so upset by this situation. It's also putting a strain on our relationship. The last time i broke down crying he said, "i know you're not happy here, so if you have to leave I'll understand." I don't want to leave him, I want him to go with me. But we just can't afford to go anywhere right now.
Also, my parents don't really know the whole situation. My mom is very kind and has helped us financially when we could not make payments. I'm very grateful, but I also don't want her to know the extent of the situation because I don't want her to worry. I don't like having to borrow money. And honestly, my biggest fear is that I'll turn out like his brother (not the selfish part), playing video games all day and becoming a leech. and a hypocrite. I hate myself for being unemployed. But I get discouraged very easily and am very bad at handling rejection.
Anyways, thanks for letting me rant. I will probably look for a therapist again. But in the meantime, writing this out did help.
TLDR: We live in the ghetto with in laws. My fiance was forced to sacrifice his youth and happiness and future to take care of spoiled lazy older selfish relatives.
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2023.06.05 19:52 dodofeather LGTB (Let's Get This Bread) - Frodo x Sam Food Token Deck Help
i'm working on a food token deck featuring the new partner commanders from the LotR set.
here is the list: https://www.moxfield.com/decks/VMeaF455RUSSaQcDMbiEcg
i think the deck is in a good place, right now i'm concerned that the deck might be spread a bit too thin and perhaps a bit unfocused. in play testing it get's off the ground no problem but i find that i have turns where i do nothing. maybe it needs more creatures/pay offs and less removal? i'm not sure.
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2023.06.05 19:51 K9PackLeaderCLE Sous vide dog food
Looking for any sous vide dog food recipes. want to start making my husky his own food and figured sous vide would be a good way to cook it.
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2023.06.05 19:51 wholesomebreads Tough walk today - how to deal with setbacks?
Have been making really good progress with my dog. He's leash reactive towards dogs (very very occasionally people) and have been working on distraction techniques with food to get him to focus off of his triggers. He's been quite good lately and actually hasn't reacted to dogs he normally would have and has been friendly, just saying hi (usually when an owner doesn't liisten to me saying he isn't friendly).
Today I was walking through a wooded path -enclosed either side by bushes and a dog was approaching - big black lab, his least favourite type of dog. I tell the owner he is reactive and he kindly puts his dog on the lead but walks him quite close by mine, without too much warning and my dog absolutely loses it, worse than he has in a while , barking lunging, growling - quite a task to keep him under control, completely over threshold, not listening.
I know the other owner didn't really do anything wrong and it's not his problem that my dog is reactive, I'm just so frustrated and feels like a lot of progress down the drain. I feel bad that my dog felt so stressed he had to do that. Now I know the next few walks are gonna be difficult while he calms down.
How do you guys deal with set backs and keep the motivation up?
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2023.06.05 19:49 obsidian1mgtow I've never had a "successful relationship."
I'm okay with being single, but if the right woman came along I wouldn't mind having a relationship with her. I never saw the need to get married if I wasn't interested in having kids, it did not seem to me to be worth the risk to do that. A lot of marriages end in divorce even if you didn't plan on it, even good marriages seemed to fail one way or another.
As a short man, I also feel like I have to compete with men who are taller than me for attention and it's usually a losing proposition when I do meet someone, it always seems like there's back up options and that people aren't really wanting to be exclusive today either. That could just be my observation, but I'm not into hooking up randomly and I'm not into FWB type of relationships either. It seems like relationships today are very temporary and that people are replaceable
Maybe I'm just thinking about what could have been. I make decent money, I have a decent physique (I'm not fat, but I don't have a six-pack abs either, workout 3x a week). I think I'm interesting enough with a few unique hobbies.
I don't know how many people out there have had successful relationships because it does seem like on the outside more people have successful relationships, or maybe they're showing off more than what they actually have in terms of having a partner that cares about them.
I'm okay with being single, but it would be nice to have a partner that actually cares about you for you without having to always be trying to "sell yourself." Today people buy things to impress people who don't really care about you. People try to always make more money in an effort to attract the right partner. People today seem very superficial and purely base a relationship on looks or status. I'm not saying this is all people but from what I can tell most people are like this today.
Anyways, I hope I'm not the only one who is observing this. I've been single most of my life and I'm used to being on my own but it would be nice to have a partner at least for a period of time who cares about you who you can actually trust and let your guard down around.
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2023.06.05 19:48 John_Hinde Update after 1.20
So, I am honestly curious as to what the community thinks could be after 1.20 and I thought that I might throw a few ideas around to see how popular they are.
The first thing that comes to mind would be a desert update. It seems like worst case scenario; in every other biome you spawn in you can survive relatively easily. There is easy access to wood, food, and other materials, but in a desert, you almost have to get lucky and spawn next to a structure of some kind or you just move on. So, I think revamping the desert could be a good way to go.
Another option that I might like to see, however unlikely it is, is a change to the prebuilt structures. Specifically, villages, desert temples, and jungle temples. With things like the ancient cities, villages look rather... small. I know it's a village versus a city, but maybe make the houses a little larger? Very minimum I would like to see is a bit of improvement to the layout. You find a village but it's cut up with some houses completely out of reach by the villagers, or there are death traps where the villagers can get stuck and drown or get stuck and attacked by zombies. Maybe make it a bit cleaner? The temples just need an overhaul. They seem so small in comparison to almost every other structure now. Bastions, ruins, even outposts seem so much larger in comparison now.
Lastly, and probably most popular, an update to the End. Need I say more? Give us something more to do with the end than getting shulker shells or getting elytra. It is almost like the desert. Just endless nothing, occasionally dotted by a structure or a plant people can easily farm in places not native to the environment.
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2023.06.05 19:47 Necessary-Ad-971 You are making me racist
For all my life I have wanted peace between Israel, its neighbouring countries, and a free Palestine. I do not know anymore. After being on this sub for a while and seeing all of your horrible takes, I can't be sure if the majority of Arab people are actually like this. I hope that most of the arabian people are not actually like this and are actually decent people.
But after seeing a post about the recent terrorist attack, and people praising the awful act and the murderer I can't be sure anymore.
I hope that some of you can change my mind, I want to believe that there is good on both sides and of course there is, but you can hardly see it in this sub. I don't know if this is something in the culture or education, but something is not OK on the other side (I am a big fan of Muslim and arabian culture respectively, maybe not all the violence that it has caused [what hasn't] but from the food to the history and the people themselves).
I know that Islam is technically a younger religion. While Christianity is 2000 years old, Islam is only 1300 years old. I know that 700 years ago christians were very violent. I know that it took Christianity 1900 years, World War 2 and the Holocaust to chill out, but I don't think Islam can wait another 600 years. The world is moving forward after all.
Some of the stuff I've seen on this sub are the most insane takes. I still can't believe how you support terrorism. Think about the story you have been told by your media for 3 minutes at least before you start hating please, try to see the other side please. Tell yourself what is more likely and use critical thinking.
I hope I am wrong and there is still hope.
Ps. Sorry about the rant but I don't know what to do anymore, I know this is long and written badly. I do like to think that I am an open minded person and accepting of others.
Ps.2 do not read if you only like an echo chamber. I do not get denying Israels existence. It does exist. I do not know how you can say it doesn't. You can say Israel doesn't have the right to exist and maybe you are right, but that is an argument for another time.
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2023.06.05 19:46 Comprehensive-Yam528 Working on a Space Marine Chapter. Here is some lore I have been working on.
Sons of Ignotum
The sons believe that there are two parts to each battle brother in the company, the physical manifestation of their father, and the spiritual one. It is unknown where the gene-seed of the SoI comes from, but the inquisition has been at their side since before the founding was announced, with a permanent office on their chosen home world of Sallistor Minoris. The Inquisition has throne agents throughout the chapter, with at least one known throne agent in each company, an agent within the Clemen Munditia, and Inquisitor Kadmiel Darkscream within the command structure of the chapter itself.
The physical manifestation is the will of the Father, to spread out across the stars to bring his word, his purpose to every creature in the cosmos. They are his harbingers of doom to his enemies and the angels that protect the innocent. The Sons of Ignotum do not see themselves above the citizens of the empire but feel they are blessed to have been given a chance to acquire such strength and ability, that each day as a space marine must be paid back to their father, through acts of great honor, including putting their own life at risk to save an innocent.
The spiritual part of the battle brothers is a manifestation of their physical qualities into a spiritual world, where their spiritual forms spend their entire lives marching on a path of light in a plane of pure evil. They believe there are seven gates that they must pass through, each one testing their mind and spirit, for it is not good enough to live honorably, they must embrace their father's love and gifts within their mind as well.
If a brother can pass through all seven gates, then he has earned the right to walk by his father's side, becoming a small piece to the emperor’s Astronomican once he falls in combat. So to ensure they have the time to complete their march across the path, they must be furious in combat, but tactically sound within their mind, it is not enough to die for their father, they must embrace his teachings, his wisdom, his spirit and the ultimate price he paid to the service of his people. It has been nearly 900 years since the founding, and no battle brother has completed the trails of the gates.
The gates are:
- Sacrifice: It can be easy to charge into battle while wearing the armor of a space marine, the thick layers of protecting ceramite wrapped around a warrior of muscle, but the sacrifice of the spiritual is taking the time to remember their father, to remember his gifts and guidance and remembering that they are just men, given a great gift.
Sacrifice is the first gate and one that every aspirant must walk through before they are allowed to be a battle brother. The Sacrifice gate is one of two gates that have a physical mutation on the body of the space marine and can be easily identified by a space marine’s eyes changing color to a light purple and dark blue.
- Fear: There is a saying in almost every chapter of the space marines, and that is They Shall Know No Fear, the SoI don't believe it was their father's intention for his sons to operate as if fear was not a component of fighting the most ruthless, foulest, and ugliest creatures of the universe; but to control fear and not let it take hold of a space marines actions. This gate can be walked through when a brother confronts his fear, embraces his fear, overcomes his fear, and then remembers his fear.
- Purity: Chaos is the ultimate evil of the universe, and it can be a drug that many brothers turn to when in doubt, when in fear, when alone, or when weak. The Purity gate can be opened by a brother who has been tempted by Chaos but chose his father over the temptations of power. The SoI have an abnormally high connection to the psychic abilities of the telepath, but almost all lack the power or will to push their dominance on others.
This connection allows them to see their spiritual projection, the path, and the gates they walk through, and allows for the chaos powers a more accessible path that corrupts the brothers of the chapter.
Walking through this gate fortifies a brother's mind against chaos, and once passed through, chaos can never claim a brother for themselves. The Chapters Librarians are crucial to keeping their brothers on the path, focusing their psychic abilities and helping stave off the forces of chaos, every company has a Videntis (Librarians) known as Custos Incessu or Guardians of the Marches, with the chapter having a Perfectus Custos Incessu or Perfect Guardian of the March (Cheif Librarian).
- Meaning: To pass through meaning, is to remember and understand the purpose of the Space Marines. Created to unite all of Terra, to build a bond of human unity, and to face the stars as a race, not just those picked to wage endless war.
For a brother to walk through this gate, they must understand, accept and teach the meaning of a Space Marine; they are the guardians of mankind, Shepards to a flock that is always in danger, without the flock they lack meaning, and the flock without it's guardians would soon be ravaged by the enemies of mankind.
- Love: Not every brother can meet the expectations that are placed on them, many give in to corruption and lies and step away from their father's light. It is easy to hate the fallen brothers of Chaos, but the SoI must strengthen themselves against this hate; they must remember what their brother used to be.
To pass through this gate a brother must face a fallen chaos space marine and strike them down without hate or malice, for using love that only battle brothers could understand, they end the suffering of a tortured soul, save them from the grasp of chaos and not feed the demons in the shadows.
There is a squad within the chapter called the Clemen Munditia or the Forgiving Purity. Consisting of Thirteen veteran brothers that have walked through the gates of sacrifice, love, purity, and meaning. Their mission is to guard the chapter from SoI who have fallen to chaos, led by a lieutenant they keep their chapter's heritage alive by being champions of accountability.
This squad also serves as the experts against the enemies of chaos, and the last line of defense against the Inquisition. Without a dedicated squad of brothers facing the incursions of chaos within their own chapter, the Inquisition would have more power and sway over the dealings of the chapter. The Clemen Munditia serves as the answer to the question if the chapter is loyal. Since the squad's inception, over 270 brothers have been rescued from Chaos, with Lieutenant Lulis Falux serving the past 450 years as squad commander and the last 200 years as Vicarii to the chapters Magna Incessu Capella. (Chapter Chaplin)
- Power of Will: One of the hardest gates to pass through, every battle brother must pass through this gate before they may become a Custos Inessu.
To pass through this gate, a brother must focus their psych abilities on the gate, forcing it to open. This is not an easy task, a brother can train for decades and not move the gate an inch. Only those who possess can control their robust psychic ability, and understand the responsibility such power commands may pass through.
This gate represents security and protection for the brothers of the chapter, for Custos Inessu are the spiritual chaplains and apothecaries and help fortify their brothers' minds from chaos. Just like their father uses his mind to provide security and protection for the millions of souls who use the warp to traverse the universe.
- Leadership: The second gate that manifests a physical mutation upon a battle brother once passed through. To be placed in charge of their brothers, a space marine must pass through the leadership gate, the only gate that requires both physical expertise and mental discipline. A brother must show the physical ability to wield their weapons with such expertise that they have gained the title of Peritum, and the intelligence to understand how best to use these weapons effectively.
To walk through the gate means that a space marine has the dependability to be trusted by his leaders and the marines who follow them, the decisiveness when to execute decisions when necessary, and unselfishness. Many marines consider honor on the battlefield as the highest commendation possible, but a leader must forgo their own personal glory for the glory as a whole.
Once passed through, a brother will take five days to fully mutate, losing all hair on their body except for a bright red mane that forms from the top of their chest to the mid of the back and overlaps their shoulders. Their armor covers most of this extra growth, with a portion of it sticking out from underneath the helmet and above the chest piece.
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2023.06.05 19:46 elcrabo7 We need a game like Mount and blade but in the world of fantasy battle
i was thinking about it lately but Mount and blade is a really good game and it's overall it has potential and a good player base (around 20k player all the time since it came out of the beta) .It's gameplay is really unique it mix strategy and action with the possibility of living the battle live with our character rather than being outside the battle as a total war would be . This gameplay would in my opinion totally work for a warhammer fantasy battle
Moreover a huge part of the work is kinda done , we already have really detailed map of the old world with it's cities , fortress , castle ,town ,..... there is already nearly all possible location that we need .Moreover each faction in warhammer are unique and would totaly work well with a similar gameplay as mount and blade in which every faction has it's own unit and specificity just like how the empire , bretonia , kislev ,estalia , tilea ,...... have their own army list .
The best thing to do would be to use a similar map size as total war warhammer 1 with only the old world . Like this plenty of faction and kingdoms but not all of them (faction that live don't live at all in the old world would make ne sense to be present such as lizard men) but maybe faction like dark elves/skavens that would be complicated to add can still be present as raiding armies/event armies after all both are know to regulary attack the old world faction for slaves .Nothing for exemple prevent to make an event where a big army of skaven spawn on the map and start destroying everything until someone stops them or they disappears . Like this even if some faction are not playable in the sandbox because their army still exist and can be faced they would be playable in multiplayer battle .
Moreover this game would provide a lot of possible gameplay just like in mount and blade BUT EVEN MORE.
For exemple playing a beastman it's totally different than playing a human that want to create to climb in the social ladder owning land ,.... .Beastmen would be basicly just like total war warhammer a horde faction with their own campement. Each army is a clan that seek only to plague and destroy the civilisations of Men . But maybe they could create hideout in Forest , mountain well location that make them difficult for humans to find them . The empire (and basicly most part of the old world) are in fact closer to be somekind of giant sea of dark forest and wilderness with some islands of civilization more or less large . With the day and night cycle and all those possibility to hide somewhere Beastmen would be super interesting . Moreover in Mount and blade there is a system to rally different army to join their force for a certain time under your command . This would totally fit with how beastmen are sometime gathering to some sacred location to feast and sometime to unit under the command of a single beastlord . You would have to send envoy to clans to invite them for the gathering (with a possible tournament between all challenger for the beastlord title) Then huge army and real threat for organised faction such as the empires are possible from faction like beastmen rather than just being bandit roaming around. Being able to gather a huge amount of beastmen and rampage the empire like Gorthor did would be insane . But to balance this just like in mount and blade you can't stay inactive . You must pillage to gather food , alcool , equipement , whatever your army need to keep going and spend prestige (or more likely infamy point ) sign of weakness or defeat big defeat can fracture the horde and each remaining clans can leave and go back to their occupation . I'm sure i forget plenty of interesting stuff but the point is that just for a single faction like the beastmen there is already so much to do . Imagine what if you play a dwarf , a Norse , an ork ,a vampire , and let's not forget the possibility to worship chaos gods in secret and potentially be able to create a cult . (This post already quite huge so i don't want to make it even bigger i just gave 1 exemple with the beastmen but just think about all that could be done)
There is insane possibility for a mount and blade like game but in the warhammer world . And the world of warhammer is really rich and detailed so there is not everything to create from scratch . Just take a period like the age of the Three emperors and there wont be that much named personnality and so you can do whatever you want . Or maybe just like crusader kings there could be different selectable time period which would change the appearance of the map .
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2023.06.05 19:46 DiableRouge More Kenmore 158 series questions
So! I was able to remove the spool pins I asked about in my last post
I'm on to the next struggles, which are, in rough order of concern:
- the motor seems to occasionally cut out. This seemed to start after I gave the machine a good oiling (and brushed on a touch of WD40 on some places where previous oil had gotten too sticky, before I followed up with real oil.) It seems that moving the balance wheel a bit allows it to get going again (I'm wondering if there's a particular position where the motor can't start but when it's moved out of that position it starts up fine.) This is most concerning to me because bad electrical could shock me or cause a fire.
- when holding down the reverse lever, the feed dogs move up and down, but not back and forth. I took off the top plate and the balance wheel and side plate to get more access and see how the linkage worked. I got lots of things loosened up, but the symptom still appears. I have seen the feed dogs move in reverse with a special stitch that the machine has, so I know that they can, but the reverse lever doesn't engage it.
- the buttonholer attachment I ordered has a template wheel with a thumbscrew that doesn't fit my machine. It looks like this. The thumbscrew that attaches it to the machine is too small. Did I just order the wrong thing? Is there some way I can kludge a fix for this, or did I just waste like $30 (well I also got the geared base plate, which does fit and seems to work properly.) The buttonholer seems to work if I hold the thumbscrew down to the machine, but then I can't let go to hold the fabric (and if there is a lot of fabric it could get in the way.)
The sewing machine shop is 2 weeks out and $120 for a full service (and they might not be able to reproduce or fix the motor problem.)
Are there any good resources on fixing this type of reverse issue? I'm planning on extracting the motor and taking it apart to look over the innards (I'm hoping some oil or something got in and I can just clean it up.)
P.S. does anyone know where I can find a manual for the 158.14100? Everywhere online seems to be charging for it
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2023.06.05 19:43 OmadThrow Takeaways and Advice from an OMAD Veteran
I started OMAD in Sept of 2019. At the time I was about 255 lbs at 5'8. This is very obese and my life was in a tough spot overall. I did not struggle with being obese my entire life and it was something that culminated from 3-4 years of horrible eating and choices. Ultimately I had never truly tried to diet up-until that point and the idea of OMAD really fascinated me.
I had managed to lose all the weight and reach my goal weight of 150 lbs. Since then, I've picked up various healthy living choices and became an avid weight-lifter. I am currently 165 lbs and in the best shape of my life. I had a few ups and downs where I would cave a little towards my goal and ended up in a cycle between 150 lbs - 170 lbs often reverting to old habits.
Here is what worked for me:
- Eatting caloricly dense foods (often keto) helped greatly in satiating my hunger.
- Cheat days are no good. Anytime I would cheat and have a second meal, it would make it excruciatingly more difficult to get back into my OMAD diet afterwards. I'm guessing this has something to do with expanding your stomach by eating more than what you are used to. I'm not sure if others have the same experience but in the short-term in feels great but the following days are so much harder to manage.
- What you eat is very important. If you OMAD and eat a low protein diet and dont touch weights you will be losing a LOT of muscle. I ended up becoming a stick and losing all my muscle gains. Starting the gym once more as a complete noob. This was largely impart by my choice of eating and lack of weight-lifting and strength training.
- I experimented a lot (often not by choice) by eating a lot of greasy fastfood meals as my OMAD (takeout burritos, burgers, meat platters). I firmly believe this had a long-lasting effect on the way my body metabolized foods and it took a while to fix.
If anyone has any questions about my journey. I'd be happy to answer, look through my post history for some old graphs and comments I made many years ago.
I wish you guys all the best of luck and I have continued a pseudo OMAD diet since then. Thanks for reading.
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2023.06.05 19:43 Greedy_Moose9726 Chance for me for USC, UCSD
Demographics Korean international student Moved from CA to Korea in Junior year, so not domestic Junior, Male, high income, first generation
Intended major Biochemistry Entomology Biology
Academics ACT: 33 SAT: Planning this summer. What score should I be satisfied with? GPA: 3.91 our school use only UWGPA
Coursework: APHUG, APBIO, APWORLD - SCORE 4 APCHEM, APSTATS, APUSH - SCORE TBD
Senior year course: Korean language and history(mandatory), senior capstone, Spanish 2, english 12, APCALC BC, maybe physics
Awards: Sports - 3rd place in 202a Ayala Golf Tournament JV team match - 2021, 2022 scholar athlete award from school - 2023 Spring KISAC golf individual champion - 2023 varsity golf MVP medal Others - Certificate of congressional recognition - community volunteer award - 3rd place in Orange County Young Writing Contest - House of Representatives certificate of special recognition - Award for excellent achievement in 2022 Orange county young writing and art contest - Certificate of achievement from city of Stanton, CA - 2022 community clinic math competition perfect score - Award for excellent achievement in 2022 community clinic science competitions
Extracurriculars - Livingstone community clinic SVO vice president - Westview multicultural program art/physical/speech therapy assistant for disabled people - La Jolla Indian Reservation lead volunteer - Rainbow family daycare, fundamental subject tutor, and fundraising - Habitat for humanity - underprivileged home management - Orange tech pros - programmesoftware engineer for local sport competition software - Zero carbon emission club at school - planning for entomology club next year - Varsity Golf team captain - Drum tutoring at dormitory
Internships - shadowed doctor in stem cell research center - Internship at Pharmicell, Korean stem cell treatment/research company - participated in case report for stem cell application for multiple sclerosis patients. - Planning for participation at 2023 Annual Meeting of Korean Society for stem research for experiment result report
Independent study - Collected and bred 10 Korean species of beetles in family Lucanidae - Collected variety of insects, made specimens, and donated them so local island national park - Small business on internet selling rare beetle collections in Korea - Working on experiment using the Rhino beetle larvae that I bred, to utilize them as a potential future food source and pet
Common Application essay would probably be about my early interest on insects, or life as boy in a small island who transitioned to international student to CA preparing universities in United States.
LORs - processing AP Chemistry Teacher Environmental Science teacher Golf team coach Pharmicell internship doctor
I transferred from CA to Korea during Junior year, due to parents divorcing. My cumulative GPA dropped from 3.94 to 3.91 The divorce lawsuit is still processing, not going to end before admission results comes out
My realistic dream schools are any top UC schools or USC I am trying to ED cornell for Entomology, but I think I am not likely to get in. First of all, my stats dont look that good. Also, few years ago, our former student had problems with cornell university, and since then our school never had Ivy league acceptances, but only top 10-20s. My counselors blames him, but I am not sure.
I want to get recommendations for schools. Also, any improvement advice would be very appreciated. Thank you, and I hope you enjoy your day.
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2023.06.05 19:42 Ok_Dragonfruit_3452 heart is breaking
I am wondering if anybody has advice for this situation...I fell in love with my sister's lab. he's the sweetest and has a personality. He is 10 months currently. She got him from a breeder, which now I understand why is an unethical act. We visited his house/area where he keeps his dogs..which isn't horrible but they are in a garage in penned off areas. He claims he takes them hunting and exercises them but I don't know what the truth is. They seem to just be in their penned off area all day ...I have been really affected by this and want to rescue all of these dogs and put them in loving homes. i know that is unrealistic and they are his dogs and it's not like they look totally malnourished or abused. It's just sad they don't have a good life to me :-( They're also the fox red color, which I'm sure is part of the 'rare' factor and the dogs he keeps specifically for breeding to sell them off. I am not sure if there is anything to do about this but I have to put it out there. I know there are much worse situations and puppy mills but it's breaking me. These sweet labs deserve a better life. :( :(
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